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I'm sitting here trying to study for an exam that, if I pass, could feasibly launch an extremely lucrative career for me. I say trying, because I can't stop thinking about her, and I find myself having to reread the same information over and over again because of these intrusive thoughts.
I don't get it. I've been working out, putting time into my hobbies, going out with friends, and talking to other girls. I've run the entire “get over her” playbook, and I still can't seem to make it happen. So now I'm sitting here on 4chan out...
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>>16863393
I am in the same boat I am trying to forget but every time I see her in college I start thinking about her for the whole day it's starting to affect my life
Meditate
Adderal and cigarettes
My grandma got diagnosed with cancer, but I didn't really care. I'm taking a week-long vacation to New Orleans soon. I don't care. I have no enthusiasm. I would kill myself, but I don't have the courage. I constantly contemplate my existence, and every session tells me life isn't worth it. I have no fucking clue what to do.
a sliver of you believes life is worth it. otherwise courage wouldnt be an issue.
>>16863391
It's a small fraction of me. I'm very much leaning towards killing myself, but I've never been able to make a decision.
>>16863409
>its so small
>like my cock
>tiniest fraciton
>leaning towards killing myself
>but lul i dont for some reason
uh huh. that sounds real.
to see a therapist then
Hey /adv/
I've got a bit of an average question.
I'm the emotional equivalent of a 3 year old, but actually 21. I have a hard time being around people because I feel the need to be grandiose too, because I look at others achievements and don't see my own as anything of worth. So due to this, I turn on myself pretty easily. Obviously, I don't think of myself as being worth anything. Education really helped fuel this, though I hate to blame it. Everyone else in any class got an A and did well, even though they all bragged about being lazy and...
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Well gee. thanks /adv/ I'm glad I got some response from you all.
Time to do some soul searching dude, only you can answer these questions for yourself. Go see a therapist and they will guide you to those answers.
>>16863564
The therapist brought me to this point. Honestly, I give him tons of props for getting me to a mindset that something is wrong with me rather than me being the problem. I'd like to get further, but he doesn't get passed the point of "you need to fix yourself" which is the problem I have the most. I can barely play a goddamn vidja without looking up references, how am I supposed to roadmap my life if I can't get through half an hour of FFXIII [I used the most linear one because that's...
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I'm married. My wife and I are poor and living temporarily with parents until we can find a new place. When we are gone to work, my parents go into our room and intrude in our personal space. They go on my computer and mess with things.. like cancelled my Fallout 4 download, they try to clean our room.. in the process throwing away important documents and personal items. Then, when my wife is gone and i'm at home.. they talk shit about my wife constantly! Pisses me off... At this point i'd rather be homeless than deal with their crap.. I need some advice about...
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I totally feel for you dude, my parents are crazy, too. Just be glad that you are moving out soon. I wouldn't rock the boat too much until then, but you should at least tell them not to clean and throw shit away. That's just weird...
Now that you are married, it is not only acceptable to white-knight your wife, it's outright expected under most circumstances. Obviously there are things you don't want to say to your own parents if you can avoid it, but the next time they start talking shit about her in front of you, flat-out defend her. Their attempts to undermine your marriage are Not OK.
>>16863377
What do they say about her anyway?!
Christians of /adv/, if there are any, I've been a lapsed Catholic/atheist for about a decade or so, and have been through some very difficult times in the last few years.
Religion wasn't important to me at all, in that I wasn't a zealot either way, and slid towards agnosticism.
Lately, however, I've been feeling a bit more drawn to Christianity again, and last night I prayed for the first time in so long. I can already feel it giving me a little bit more strength, but I'm still struggling with having faith.
Basically, can anyone...
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>>16863371
by not surrendering yourself to what people tell you to believe.
whether or not something exist or not, you cannot deny your feelings. you have feelings, religious ones. you pray. it gives you strength. even after years of agnosticism. compare this to every other experience of the world, and its still its own thing. people in your position feel nothing. people in different positions in different religions feel the same thing.
so what is there? whatever you felt is real. follow that feeling. continue to pray. kneel. meditate. spirit walk. whatever you need to do to feel connected. surrender yourself to that feeling and where it leads you.
but that doesnt mean you have to believe every word in the book. most christians dont actually believe like 90% of the bible, or are even aware of what it says. most christians are actually comfortable with religion. some will simply rationalize that 'a day to a god could be a billion years in our time'. some will simply rationalize that like all things, they are the accounts of humans, but the idea behind faith is in there somewhere. others will say its only abotu the faith, and the bible is just a tool to help your develop your personal relationship with god.
whatever you believe, this is a modern world. believe what you want to, and adhere to that. everyone else does, even when its only convenient to them. so why not?
Why would you want to surrender yourself with any belief including religion? Are you asking us how you can deprogram your mind into rejecting any other belief other than Christianity?
Read Kierkegaard's Fear and Trembling and Sickness unto Death. They're what brought me from a "spiritual but not religious" pseudo-Catholic to the devout practicing Catholic I am now.
If you're big into reading I'd also suggest The Brothers Karamazov. Great book that's very strongly based in the author's orthodox faith.
Another thing that really helped to bring me back to it was going to a Byzantine Catholic/Eastern Rite church instead of the Roman Catholic ones that I'd gone to as a kid. The difference between the two environments...
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After much stalling I finally asked this girl out on a date. The date was the day before Valentine's Day and I think it went pretty well. But attempts at a follow-up have not gone anywhere.
The next weekend I asked her if she wanted to see a movie, she said she couldn't because she was swamped with work.
Next weekend I was preoccupied but I asked if she wanted to do something this week. Again she said she was caught up with a project and midterms.
She might just be that busy, she is a double-major and both majors are cumbersome and it is midterms...
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I should also mention that next week is Spring Break so should I just cut my losses and wait till then? (Like talk to her over break and then ask to do something when we both get back).
Sorry bro, sounds like she lost interest to me
>>16863374
Agreed. If she offered alternative times or said "once I get through with this project" then there's hope.
I'm afraid there's no home. She done everything except say she'll be spending the semester rearranging her sock drawer. Sad but move on.
Consider a game in which there is a prize worth $30. There are three contestants, A, B, and C. Each can buy a ticket worth $15 or $30 or not buy a ticket at all. They make these choices simultaneously and independently. Then, knowing the ticket-purchase decisions, the game organizer awards the prize. If no one has bought a ticket, the prize is not awarded. Otherwise, the prize is awarded to the buyer of the highest-cost ticket if there is only one such player or is split equally between two or three if there are ties among the highest-cost ticket buyers.
Am i right or wrong?
What's the question, you just need to break down the possible results?
Consider a game in which there is a prize worth $30. There are three contestants, A, B, and C. Each can buy a ticket worth $15 or $30 or not buy a ticket at all. They make these choices simultaneously and independently. Then, knowing the ticket-purchase decisions, the game organizer awards the prize. If no one has bought a ticket, the prize is not awarded. Otherwise, the prize is awarded to the buyer of the highest-cost ticket if there is only one such player or is split equally between two or three if there are ties among the highest-cost ticket buyers.
The question is...
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1. Show this game in matrix form.
2. What are three playersíbest responses?
3. Find all pure-strategy Nash equilibria.
Sorry Here are the questions
i have all these weird fetishes that nobody is into and it makes me sad
>>16863347
Such as?
>>16863347
Elaborate. I'm into some weird shit too, like hentai, bondage, painal, etc.
Some dude on /v/ was into tiles, surely you can't beat that
Is wanting friends who are interested in doing stuff other than getting drunk too much to ask for?
>>16863334
Bump. I think it's really annoying when all my friends ever want to do is drink. Sometimes, I wonder if we'd have anything to do without alcohol. It's a sad thought.
Do a sport, sport. Or get involved in a hobby and meet some kindred spirits!
>>16863334
its not that hard. im on accutane so cant drink. my friends and i play board games together. sometimes video games. laser tag. etc.
Been having unprotected sex with my girlfriend for a year now.
Last night, the soldier was itching a bit, so I unsheathed the uncut warrior to find my glans covered in tiny red bumps.
No symptoms other than that and my foreskin is red.
So, is this the clap, HIV? How long do I have to live?
>>16863304
regardless of what we say you are goign to have to see a doctor, so why not just do that?
that being siad, i had a similar issue. was sure i had herpes. the doctor was sure i had herpes. then the tests came back negative. no herpes for me
what was it? HPV. an entirely harmless strand of genital warts. the bumps itched only when i felt them being 'created' and rising to the surface. once there i felt fine.
they gave me a liquid to put on it that burns them off in 3 days (not painful...
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>>16863331
Thanks for some peace of mind. I am going to the clinic after work today. Just wondering what I should be prepared for.
Damn penis.
>>16863348
it sucks to suck, but hopefully not herpes. if it is, you at least have your gf and can deal with that together as she likely has it too (though you might have had it in hiding and she may be safe).
it certainly makes casual sex a LOT harder, but from what I've heard from herpes community (re: not online) it hasnt effected DATING. by the time they tell their partner they are too invested. women tend to think once they have feeligns, tahts it they have to see it through.
but you know, no casual...
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Are there any parents on here? If so I have a question for you; what is the most non creepy way for a young guy to who is a complete stranger to play with your kids at the playground of park?
There is no way. Why do you want to play with strangers kids? Are you an honest to goodness-- literally mentally handicapped--retard? If not then the assumption is you are a pedophile.
>>16863314
What if I hide my boner and say children just warm my heart ( which they actually do ).
>>16863302
>Are there any parents on here? If so I have a question for you; what is the most non creepy way for a young guy to who is a complete stranger to play with your kids at the playground of park?
Dad with two grown children here.
"most non creepy way" would be not at all, especially if a complete stranger. It might depend on the ages of your kids. I'm assuming that if your kids are very young, you're there with them. And by "young guy" what kind...
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I got a new job and there's a lot of expectations. I'm making a lot more money than I ever have but I'm also a very young employee coming into a veteran group. I'm aware of the generation differences and how people might perceive someone my age, since people don't like millenials very much.
Ultimately in previous jobs I've been a hard worker and I usually succeed but it can take a couple of months to be useful and I want to look good now. I feel like my best option is to shut the fuck up, take notes, ask questions, and to ask to take on tasks...
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Sounds good to me.
I recently started a job that was completely new at the organization I worked at and it's been pretty stressful so I somewhat understand what you're feeling. Mostly I just try to make sure I'm using my time well and ask questions as much as possible.
>>16863297
>since people dont like millenials
this isnt a thing. there are always the assholes who will complain about the differences in generation, but no one just 'hates millenials'. thats not a thing.
all that being said, you can use this as a chance to kick up some mentorship. your plan isnt bad but try not to become the bitch. remember that asking questions may seem like you're really invested, it could also make it seem like you dont know what you're...
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Guys...I don't know how much more I can take of it anymore....It's....Every day is just a god damn battle...Every day my will to comprehend and live shrinks...That feeling of almost breaking, but you don't make a fool of yourself to the world.
Well....here I am. High school. Grades are starting to drop. Along with my self-esteem. Every day is a god damn war between work and peers. Psychopathic girls and guys, racists, SJW's, Tumblr-Fags, pot heads and rednecks. All rolled up into one tight package.
Every day I wake up, and life just takes a...
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>>16863282
Note: Try to be a little less emo, you're on the neckbeard capital of the Internet. But aside from that, bump, because I'm in the same position.
Ever since I started smoking weed I have stopped liking being on technology so much. Now I go outside pretty much as often as I can. Maybe that could help you
>>16863337
>Neckbeard capital of the internet
So /adv/ first time here but I'm beside myself with anxiety.. My girlfriend of 3 years recently left me, just didn't feel the spark any more. Still wants to hang out and shit since im really fun but basically just no more sex. Ok fine, maybe a chance in future again whatever. Now after agreeing to sit and talk about her decision the next day, she tells me the day of that she's too busy and that she won't be ab;e to have me over anymore or give me rides since she still lives in her moms house and she shut me out because no relationship anymore. Now this sucked...
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Just don't fuck with her anymore.
So I'm just to suppose to take that she thinks I'm the one behind it? No ideas like "wait and maybe message her" Just cut and run?
>>16863480
Its over.
>wanting to stick around after she does this shit
That should have been your indicator.
how do i even compete with others? and stop being such a boring loser
>be me
>zero friends
>unattractive loser
>shy and socially awkward
>late 20's kissless virgin
i have many coworkers, i work with many people in their 20's
>most are very attractive
>lots of friends and outgoing
>active lives, sports,...
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Peoples lives are not as action packed as they seem to be. See facebook
Don't focus on competing with others, focus on improving yourself.
Start going to meetups and at least attempt to socialize or do a hobby that involves being outside of your room. There are entire websites out there for this.
I used to go to a boardgame group, it was totally free and hosted at someone's house so it didn't cost anything. Having the game to focus on made it so that you didn't have to make small talk if you didn't want to. Just find an event or activity that interests you and get out there.
>>16863276
even if I only compare the highlights, other people's are still more interesting than mine, many times over
i've worked with some of these guys as they are coworkers, the really popular (and who also happen to be more attractive) guys go to bars/parties multiple times a week
