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Ok guys, there is this girl I met and she's really into me and I think I like her too but she's trying really hard, like just now she wants that we exchange pics and use them as wallpapers and this whole thing is really cringy and makes me nervous and confused and I have no fucking idea what to do.
We hug alot and occasionaly kiss but it feels really weird and I feel like my friend dont really approve of us.
It all happened in a few weeks but I feel like shit.
>>16861845
Is she 15? She sounds 15
>>16861852
Fuck
How did you guess ?
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My husband wants to have sex with other men. Before we got married he wanted to try it and I gave him the freedom to do so, I thought it was important for him to find himself and figure himself out. He says he doesn't want to kiss or date guys but like to be a bottom. Months later I had his phone and somebody texted him asking "Have you gotten somebody to suck your prick yet?" I immediately confronted him and he swears he never went behind my back but he was still talking to the guy he experimented with. Now were married (we have a pretty good sex life or so I...
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Buy a strap on and peg him.
>>16861769
This sounds suspiciously like my cousin and his wife. You aren't from Britain are you?
OP here, I have but he knows im not into it and doesn't like me to do it. I act like im into it but he knows better.
Met a girl yesterday; got a date set up for later this week. We were going to do coffee, but our schedules didnt line up, so now we're going out in the evening (not coffee) . Problem is, I'm very new to town, and I don't know what any of the local attractions. What sorts of in-town venues should I suggest for a first date?
> pic semi-related
>>16861765
chicks dig skylounges
>>16861772
Unfortunately my new town doesn't have many buildings higher than 4 stories. It's large in a flat way, not a dense way.
Dinner?
Former pothead here, after finishing school in 2012 I wanted chemistry and biology to get a teaching position wich didn't work out because my grades where too bad for bio.
So I went to University and started to study economics. In that time I was stoned 24/7 and regarded weed as some kind of medicine for agression and depression.
I don't really know what brought me into economics, I was kinda interested, thought there would be a lot of money to be made without hard work, and somehow wanted to change the world for something better and thought there would be plenty job opportunities. I don't want to blame weed for my own stupidity, but I kinda do since everything else would lead to an hero.
After studying 2,5 years I had only finished half of the courses and furthermore that I really don't want to work in this field. So I dropped out in mid 2015 developed an depression, stopped smoking weed and since I allways loved and originally wanted to study chemistry I'm looking for an apprenticeship as a lab assistant now.
The question is: How do you "sell" the fact that I wasted 6 semester smoking pot, without any intention or plan what's coming after and without really wanting to be there? The truth is life was comfortable, living on my parents money and I didn't want to change anything.
How can I convince a personell manager that these times are over and I actually want to become a productive member of society without telling the truth, that I was an allways stoned loser in his dream world?
inb4
>kill yourself
>suck cock
>your parents should've drowned yo
Just say you weren't sure what you wanted to go to school for??
>>16861752
>i blame weed
>cuz without it i would have suicided
>wanted an easy job with lots of money and change the world xD
>how do i convince someone that me being stoned 24/7 was a good thing
dude, wtf? seriously? there is no escaping this. unless you want to lie and say that your mother died 6 times over the course of 3 years, you dont really have an excuse, and nothing you say is...
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>>16861752
go back and finish school would be my main suggestion.
Other than that i usually say i "had a family crisis that needed my immediate attention and resulting in me needing to leave school and i am just looking to get my own life back on track and be productive again."
Usually that is all they need to believe you are a good guy and is private enough to keep them from prying any deeper.
Hey adv
I have a gf but I want to flirt and 'date' another girl. I don't want to have sex but I just feel a need to experiene things. I love my gf though.
Two things.
Just because you're not having sex with her doesn't mean it's not cheating and a betrayal of trust.
Second, when that girl you've been going out for coffee with finally gets you into a situation where you're overstepping the boundaries of your relationship, you're not going to be able to resist temptation very well.
Either obtain informed consent from your girlfriend, don't do it at all, or break up with her first. Cheating isn't an acceptable option.
>>16861767
I'm in a lease in a new city I have no friends or anything, but She is my first girlfriend and I really feel she doesn't have genuine interest in me she has no idea what I like or makes an effort. I want to experience it.
It's only cheating if you get caught!
I meant to send them to my girlfriend but I accidentally sent them to my dad instead. My girlfriend's name starts with the letters D and A so usually I just type in the first two letters then tap her name when my phone suggests it.
But today I accidentally tapped "Dad" instead of my girlfriend's name. I didn't realize it until it was too late.
Now my dad has a video of me swinging my dick like a helicopter.
How do I explain this too him? He's super religious and thinks I'm still a kissless virgin.
>>16861727
Maybe you should be working on that kiss instead of helidick.
Say nothing about it. If he jokes about it laugh. If he says nothing about it keep quiet about it. resist the urge to spaz out about it. Because he is probably wonder if WTF he should do about this.
This is why guys shouldn't send nudes.
>>16861745
As if it was any better if op was a girl.
Sup /adv/ Im 24 years old, I live in a small village 8 miles from the nearest town, I moved here 2 years ago with my nan and my younger sister, I gave up my entire life as I knew it job/girlfriend/friends to be with them.
And you know what? it doesn't feel worth it, I have no friends or social life here, I even went back to my home town a few months back and Everyone had moved on as if 22 years of me there never even happened. the town had a population of about 45k people My village has a population of perhaps 15 and the town closest to me around 8 miles away has...
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>>16861666
Move.
I was in your exact same boat except my parent live in an area where each house is a mile apart from each other. make money somehow. You have internet so sell shit and move.
I know how toxic it can be stewing alone for a long time is. Get to a city, get a poopy job, and grind the life rail again.
>>16861683
the money isnt really a problem, its the location and social boundaries caused by location, I spent 8 months after I got here never even speaking or meeting someone the same age as me, its not as if Im socially awkward or anxious Ill happily talk to anyone.
Annoyed at my phone for eating the long thread I wrote out.
Anyway it was about depression and therapy and no insurance and suicidal feelings.
>>16861651
Talk to your doctor if its clinical.
otherwise, wait for the sun to come out, we all get cloudy days.
>>16861658
Doctors are expensive without insurance. Wrote a lot about that before.
>>16861668
So its clinical that requires medical intervention?
Take a loan out. Wouldn't matter if you end killing yourself.
The cheapest and probably the hardest alternative is self medication but that requires a lot of patience and self-analysis.
There's a girl I'm more or less decent friends with, who attends the same school and has the same circle of friends. I'll greentext her general bio for context:
>she's 20
>never had a boyfriend
>introverted and shy, but not aspie status
>family type chick, as in; regular sunday mass attendance and what have you
>bookworm
We went out on a coffee date, went much better than I hoped. I...
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If she doesn't want to date, she doesn't want to date. You can't make her. If you don't want to get hurt, ask her out and get a yes or no from her before you become more invested in her.
Sounds like things are fine. I wouldn't worry about being busy on the weekend. sometime it just means they are busy this weekend.
If you have not made a move (kiss, hand holding) then its time to make a move.
Better to make a move or ask her out and get turned down. Than never make a move, she moves on and you regret it forever.
How do I talk to grills. I'm a student at uni, I'm in shape, average attractiveness. I usually get rated between 7-8 on threads where I post pics. So I'm not terrible, but certainly nothing special. But I'm totally autistic socially and pretty goofy. People I've known a while think I'm really funny and love hearing what I say but people when I try to talk to women they always seem really interested at first but I can tell I quickly chase them away when I try to speak. Can anyone help? I need help with all aspects, where to meet, how to approach,...
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Cuck fag
>>16861629
Go outside every day to something other than work/school/supplies.
Pursue your interests outside the internet and you will meet people/girls and already have a basis for connection.
Also small talk with people more. Force it. that way when you need to talk you are not a spaz.
>>16861640
I'm a computer science/ electric engineering major so its kinds hard to find social things related to school that girls would be around. Aldo my only hobbies are reading, fishing, and backpacking. I go to the gym on campus a lot, but there's no way to hit on women at a gym without looking like and ass.
I definately agree that I need to get out there more and make small talk, and thank you for the help. But what I really need is how? Like I know to get out more I kinda need to start making small...
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I've drank two bottles of wine a day for the last two weeks.
How fucked am I?
>>16861616
You're ok if you stop drinking alcohol for a while, your liver needs to repair itself.
>>16861616
Depends. If you drink them both in 2-4 hours you are likely doing harm.
See doc. check liver, kidneys.
>>16861616
if you stop now the probability of liver failure sinks exponentially every day.
Okay so,
I have hpv.
I understand hpv can be dormant in your body but I have only had unprotected sex with a limited number of people a LOOOOOOONG time ago, one of whom was a virgin. So yes there is a chance it was someone else and I am presenting symptoms years later...
however my ex and I had unprotected sex, I had a full check up and work up before him and a month after being with him. All negative other than getting BV (which is just a thing you can get from soap just as easily as sex).
Then my boyfriend cheated on me with another girl, unprotected...
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>>16861590
Tell him.
If you guys can't get your shit together and tell each other what you have you will never get better..
Sorry my ex and my boyfriend are the same person in this scenario.
enjoy your cervical cancer
>not getting vaccinated
How can I cope with the feeling of failing at everything? I'm struggling with it since high school (now im 22). Everyday, I tell myself im just a normal person and don't fail at everything but it doesn't work.
I've been told that im a perfectionist which I also struggle with.
>>16861564
It is normal in your 20's to feel that way.
Ignore labels, Do what makes you happy while keep yourself afloat.
>>16861564
let's make a support group
I wanted to be a millionaire by the time I was 22
now I'm 23 and I still haven't even finished undergrad while my girlfriend's almost done with her master's.
>>16861631
The thing is nothing makes me happy since the beginning of the new year. I'm sleepy all the time. Just passing time while I listen lessons, come back to home, sleep &repeat that.
How do I reconnect with my ex?
Tell her you love her and when she says please leave me alone tell her you are going to kill yourself if you cant be with her.
>>16861542
You don't. Move on, grow up and live.
>>16861542
Dont
Need to turn in first draft of essay today, but its really like sharing with 3-4 other people to get feedback or something. Not sure if it will be graded, but it is "due".
Tomorrow, have big test for a class which involves memorizing tons of stuff.
Have been working on the memorizing. Haven't gotten enough done on first draft for this class today. Panicking and tight chest. Part of me wants to just not even go to the class ,blow it off, concentrate on getting a good test score in tomorrow's class, and work up the essay draft tomorrow after classes.
What...
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Shit out the draft, who cares if it's good. Get off 4 Chan and get to work
>>16861512
Ok currently shitting. calmed down some and just trying to do. I fucking hate this class...
