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>mfw a girl approached me today
>sperg out
how the heck do I learn how to do the whole "talk to girls" thing?? I just want to be a fun person around them.
Motherfuckers answer!
Today changed my outlook on everything and I know what I want!
I'm fucking tired of being beta! Tell me what to do!
I want to be alpha! I want it! I'll do whatever it takes!
>>16862832
Talk to a girl like you would talk to a guy. It's not difficult.
Take da Pussy of the Pedestal. Its just a person. Be yourself, never stop being yourself (unless your a racist asshole or something). Problem solved
I lied about still being employed on the interview and now they're giving me a job offer subject to a background check.
If I tell them not to contact my previous employer can they still find out I'm lying? The new employer does not seem particularly thorough so I'm hoping I'm not fucked. I worked at my last job through November last year but then quit because they replaced my manager with a 23 year old blonde girl who was fucking retarded and abused everyone.
Maybe the guy in bluffing. You won't know unless u see what happens. But what's the worst that would happen
how do i stop cumming so quickly?
try cumming slower next time
Start edging
kegels
So this girl wants me to be her fake boyfriend so creepy guys won't talk to her (it sounds like a romantic comedy, I know).
is this beta?
Only if you don't have fake sex
>>16862786
Fuck thats funny and sad.
It's only beta if you actually want to relationship with her, even then it's not really that beta honestly.
whenever i have to think hard about stuff like maths, i become an autist who is unable to communicate with others, but after i force myself to socialize i become a retard and have trouble reasoning and using logic
These two states of mind are very difficult for me to switch between (can take up to several days)
Anyone else experience this?
How the fuck do i have to deal with this?
I basically need to choose between doing well in college but becoming lonely, or becoming more sociable and failing college.
Meditate, fampai
Your brain doesn't switch modes or significantly curb processes for something else. This is all in your head and will end when you stop believing that bullshit
>>16862784
I don't think it has to do with switching modes of thought necessarily, but more like not having enough ''space'' for both social skills and logical reasoning.
I have had both periods in my life where was the one with the highest grades in class and an isolated autist, and periods where i was very outgoing but had to take special needs classes
Any tips/ideas how to deal with loss of confidence when talking with attractive girls that seem to be liking me back? I mean, I got no problem talking with 9/10s and I do it on daily basis at work(working in a restaurant, alot of waitresses ) but whenever one of them shows smallest sign of interest in me im going dumb. Ive always been rather awkward with girls but since i broke through, started living on my own with decent job it improoved, not enought tho. My housemate keeps chatting, she wants to go out together, to the gym or w/e, some waitress chicks come to goof around...
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Bump for interest
>mfw fell for the self improvement meme
I was a straight A student and two sport varsity athlete in HS. I graduated uni a year early with honors. Now I'm 23 and make 60k year (over the median family income in my area). I've traveled the world and have friends on every continent. I like to do all kinds of things in my spare time with my friends.
And I still do not know literally any girls. Online dating is a bust.
Considering suicide after my parents die desu. Anyone else know this feel?
>And I still don't know literally any girls.
Nothing is possible untill you like the person you see in the mirror.
I can elaborate
I'm 29, a virgin, don't make as much money as you and have never been overseas...and yet I fucking love life and wouldn't give it up for anything.
Re-evaluate yourself, what makes you happiness and what you consider success.
>>16862785
What are your hobbies? How's your social life? Have you ever been depressed or suicidal?
I'm 21 and although my life isn't horrible, it's really not how I wanted it to turn out. Dealing with suicidal thoughts is such a struggle.
What do you do in a marriage or LTR when the love is there but the passion feels gone?
Background: my bf was an immature idiot guy type when we met 5 years later he is sweet and caring but I don't feel like he really loves me how he used to treat me and I don't enjoy having sex anymore. I am trying to get more wet and stuff but the whole sex act just feels so fake I cannot get into it.
bdsm
We have sort of tried that but come on at this point we cant pretend to enjy normal sex let alone something new
He says he loves me all the time and calls me from work and does sweet things but I just don't feel the powerful attraction towards me I got from all the men I slept with in the past.
And it makes me depressed and I feel like a constant failure and I can't get wet.
I didn't know where else to put this.
How the HELL am I supposed to use a Walmart gift card on their website?
I had a $25 walmart gift card my friend gave to me for christmas, and I still haven't used it. I heard Pokemon Red/Blue/Yellow came out on the eShop, so I decided to use my gift card on an eShop gift card. I go to check out and I look everywhere for an option to use a gift card, but it's nowhere! I look it up on Google, and the answer it gives me doesn't exist. Please help, I've been trying shit for like a half an hour.
>>16862754
From what ive been told, you cant use a gift card to buy another gift card. i had a similar issue on amazon.
So whenever me and my friend get in a car he always feels me up and asks if I have been working out. He squeezes me and tells us to cuddle for warmth, tries to sleep on me and wants to spoon all the time when we are sleeping over at the same place (only agreed to this twice so far). He's very persistent and makes a lot of gay jokes. He also likes to talk about our other friends and says how he thinks they might be gay. (i think he is just trying to get my response from this.) but it's literally every time he sees me he just feels my arms and chest and tries to flirt....
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>>16862743
he is gay op
>>16862743
He is gay.
>>16862743
hes a little gay. male bonding has been a bit stunted and sometimes its hard to draw a line. sometimes all a guy needs is cuddling. i thought i was gay, but the sex doesnt do much. i become like a lesbian: all affection, no sex. but im not that way with girls.
but now im in this weird place where ive been 'gay' for so long that i dont know how to go back to banging chicks, so i just have a long line of relationships iwth men that i enjoy, but they eventually leave me cuz i wont fuck
dont...
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so i have insecurities about my dong
i measure it multiple times per month because of these insecurities, every time i measure it i get between 6.75 and 7.25 length (dollar bill test covered everything but ~.6 inches of the head, rulers pressed into bone gives me 7+ inches)
i also always get between 5 and 5.5 inches circumference
based on facts, i should be happy. not ecstatic, but happy with my size
however the biggest thing that bothers me is that it looks small in my hands
i'm a relatively tall guy (6'2) and my palms are ~3.5 inches...
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Ridiculously smaller.
You ever wonder why most girls think what they're getting is an inch or two bigger than what it really is?
One, they're getting a much different angle
Two, they have tiny fucking hands
>>16862742
true
i just can't shake the fact that it looks so small on my body even though, even by the lowest measurements i've gotten (i.e. 6.5-ish) it's not something to be worried about
>>16862742
Three, most guys lie their asses off (including on here) and most girls are gullible enough to believe them. I say that with no disrespect meant. Girls can't estimate dick size for shit.
Hey. Senior in high school. Theres this girl that I talk to over skype, shes quite nice to me. Laughs at my joke. Catch her staring at me occasionally. Hadn't talked to her in person, but recently we were doing a project together and started talking more. We hit it off pretty good. At that point I thought "ayy she might actually be interested in me." Then I sorta started observing and she didn't act too differently around me than she did with other guys. Other than the staring at me I'm not sure if shes interested. Im gonna ask her out soon, but I just...
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Staring seems pretty assuring, go for it c:
I'm getting married in a year and a half, already set the date and we are working the details.
The thing is I'm getting stationed in Washington state and I'm leaving out tomorrow. Any tips I can use for being a good husband for the future and introducing her into the military lifestyle?
How's the relationship? Is she high maintenance?
>>16862812
No not really now I'm not gonna lie she is spoiled and her family is pretty well off. Father is a Nam vet. However they have had some lows and she is very humble.
>>16862825
Recently been flirting with a female coworker of mine and she seems interested in me, one day she takes off her long sleeved shirt and I see a fuck ton wrist cuts.
some look well healed or dated, others still have scabs. I was talking to another coworker about her and it seems she's had issues with rejection before and hasn't ever had a BF
I'm at the point where I'm confident she'd say yes if I asked her out.
But I've got a few questions before going into this.
>Will her past set our relationship back?
>How and when should I talk about the cuts?
>any anon's with experience dating emotionally unstable grills before? if so how'd it play out
>>16862727
>yes
>dont
>its awful and she will probably cheat on you once the honeymoon phase is over
>>16862727
don't bring up the cuts. she knows you can see them, let her navigate the subject on her own
1. In this instance, yes
2. Don't. Depending on person she will spill her guts or never speak about it
3. Do not and I repeat DO NOT form any sort of relationship outside of fucking. These type of women always end up bad.
So I'm most likely going to move to a university dorm next year - the kind where everyone on the floor has their own separate room, but shares a kitchen.
While there, I want to leave a good impression about myself and not be an outcast. How can I do that, if I have diagnosed autism?
What I was thinking of was organizing cooking events and such (where I would do almost everything) and cook delicious quality food like pizza, cakes, and shit with others.
Is this a retarded idea? What could I do to compensate for my lack of social skills?
>>16862726
socialization won't have to be forced when you're in a living situation like that. odds are you're going to interact plenty. get acquainted with your dormmates and don't do anything to be a dick and you should be fine.
in my mind it seems like you could just be chill and make a ton of good food for yourself, but if people want some give them some
it's casual, it makes people like you, and it doesn't interfere with comfort zones
You just gotta do you, Anon. I'm a freshman in college this year. Honestly I'm not a very social person, at least I wasn't until college. In high school, I had a few friends. Come senior year I started dating this girl from another school and I basically only hung out with her and a select few others. By the time college rolled around I hardly had any close friends. Some of my coworkers that I was friends with for a few years ended up going to the same college that I did. So i hung out with them since I was no longer with my GF. Through them, I met their roommates,...
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