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Okay this must just be so vanilla for you guys
A girl lied about being on the pill to me and lied about taking the ECP.
I didn't cum, but im freaking out about pre-cum
She seems like an idiot from what I gather from our facebook conversation, but probably doesnt want a kid cause shes in university, although i dont know what she'd be like if push came to shove with the possibility of an abortion.
What to do team?
pls buimp
>>17370864
Nothing. Now you play the waiting game. If she suspects herself preggo, one would assume she'd go get a pregnancy test.
If she diesn't believe herself to be pregnant, one of two things happen; she's either not pregnant, or she is, and finds out about it later.
Either way, until it's know what the deal is, you just wait.
>or throw the bitch down a flight of stairs, whichever.
>>17370873
we're early days now, like 3-4 days after. Is it rude to ask when her period is due?
Is it really true that everyone has something that they are good at or that gives them value? I have a lot of trouble taking steps to stop hating myself, mostly because whenever I read about peoples suggestions I identify the suggestions as being feel-good advice with no real substance.
Some examples:
-you should love yourself because you are unique (my immediate thoughts on that are that just because you are one-of-a-kind does not mean that you are valuable)
-everyone is good at something (I just don't actually believe it's absolutely true, more like almost everyone is good at something, except me)
-don't compare yourselves to others, it's a fruitless endeavor since you can't be anyone except yourself (while I agree that you can only be yourself, literally everyone else will always be comparing you against your peers so you're only hurting and deluding yourself by being unaware of how you stack up)
-love yourself because nobody owes you love, so you may be the only person who loves yourself (I agree with this too, but it's pitiful and also sort of deluding yourself. If nobody else cares for you is there something wrong with everyone else, or is there something wrong with you?)
I obviously don't want to hate myself so much but I have trouble accepting (as in don't accept) advice that sounds like pandering.
You are not important. No one is special. Life has no value. You will most likely lead a hedonistic life with little value. Get over it or kill yourself
>>17370723
Tried and failed. Literally can't even do that right. Next piece of advice?
>>17370723
You know what you're right. If my self-loathing ass ever becomes successful by some fluke I'm going to fuck everyone in the ass like Martin Shkreli and extort you all for all the money you've got.
How do I get a hoarder to clean or atleast organize?
You dont. Its like asking you to get rid of your most valuable possession for no reason.
Hoarding is a mental issue. Only way ythis person will get rid of or tidy someshit is if they want to... and reven then they need phsycological help.
>>17370695
She refuses to seek physiological help. I've offered to help her sort it out too and she says she's gonna do it.
>>17370925
Set a date to sort everything. Ask her when she's free within the next month, and say when you're going to fix everything up. She can't back down then.
Hey lads
>Fat Loner
>Have a week at a beachhouse 3 weeks from now
>No matter what time I go to the beach, there will be groups of fit, young, attractive people there
How do I stop normies from ruining my week at a beach?
>>17370683
start talking to them about our lord and savior Jesus Christ
Get shitfaced and wear sunglasses
Bring a gun
maybe this can be a write a letter to someone who will never read it thread.
I don't know if this is the right board for this but I need somewhere to "vent" I guess
I miss you so much
I just fixed my old phone and found countless photos of you
I completely forgot your username and # to anything and I feel like a fucking idiot
we used to talk everyday and we shared so much.
exif data on your photos shows me your exact home address. coordinates. the date time weather at the time.
but doesn't even fucking tell me anything useful like your # or your username.
i wish there was a way to search user photos on Instagram or Twitter because then I would have found you already.
I hope you're okay, I hope you escaped what you were going through. thank you for being there for me too. I hope I can one day find your # or something because I really do need you.
if anyone knows how to, I'd really appreciate it.
thanks for reading.
-anon
Take this sorry ass shit to /b/ also you sound like a complete stalker ready to wear her face on yours........seek some therapy bud.
>>17370664
i don't see why you're so mad
I don't get it? How can a human being do that to each other?
She was one of my friends. She lied to me about She was single,led me to the point where i introduced one of my male-friends to her so they could dated for (awhile without me knowing about it,i only helped them to other's numbers)
Today i met het at one of my favorite restaurant and she was with her (old) boyfriend. I immediately text my male friend to tell him stop having any delusional about her.
I'm feeling so bad. I thought we were friends. I helped her to cheating on her boyfriend.
What can i do now????
>>17370591
Tell her boyfriend asap. Don't let cheaters get away with cheating, ever.
>>17370597
I don't know anything about her boyfriend orther than his Facebook. I don't even friends with him on FB I only know it by some of their posts on Fb. I really don't know if I should tell him about this or not. And if i do should do,what should i tell him in the first place when we don't even know each other?
>>17370614
Tell him. He deserves to know. Cheaters are scum.
So, I've had a crush on my cousin since we were kids. It gets to the point where I couldn't take it anymore. I figure my cousin is a reasonable person, and would understand if I told her I had a crush on her. I tell her, she freaks out, and for a few months things were awkward between us.
Things are better now. I thought I could get over it though, but I haven't. I still have feelings for her. Now, I'm getting ideas like sneaking into her room when I visit and stealing panties or socks and I really want to have sex with her.
What do I do? I obviously can't vent this to her, and therapy isn't an option for me right now, so I'm kinda sitting on this for the unforeseen future.
>pic unrelated
>Will not share pics of her, so don't ask.
Remember that one time you thought she'd be cool with it, and it turned out to be a bad idea?
This is another one of those bad ideas.
>>17370470
I am aware it's a bad idea. I keep having these thoughts though and really can't get over my feelings. I've actually tried to get over it but can't. I think I have some serious psychological problems. And like I said, since I can't go to therapy at the moment, I've been having to sit on these thoughts for the time being.
No this is a gross and weird idea. Dude most people have a hot cousin growing up, but you don't ask them out and steal their fucking panties!!?? Get it together man!!
Hello /adv/ i need some word on this.
Having trouble deciding if a should ask a girl out or not.
I think there's a 90% chance of her saying yes and i'm not fearing rejection here because we are somewhat friends and by our conversations i assume she likes me. We're in the same law school class and she's told me i'm smart because i've been helping her with some tests so there's that.
My problem is she's loves parties/social events/social media and already had like 3 bfs at the age of 20 and i don't really like that. I'm as introverted and lonesome as the next guy but i'm not insecure or resentful about it i just accept that as who i am and try to find someone who compatible with this.
I'm still very young and there's the >tfwnogf bothering me so i really don't know how to handle.
>>17370357
>My problem is she's loves parties/social events/social media and already had like 3 bfs at the age of 20 and i don't really like that. I'm as introverted and lonesome as the next guy but i'm not insecure or resentful about it i just accept that as who i am and try to find someone who compatible with this.
You're far from compatible. It won't work out unless one of you goes through a dramatic change. Also,
>3 bfs at the age of 20
You realize this is normal, right?
>>17370365
>>3 bfs at the age of 20
>You realize this is normal, right?
It shouldn't be
>>17370419
>It shouldn't be
That doesn't mean cocks taken. You know how kids in elementary and middle school will like someone at random and will be all, "You wanna be my boyfriend/girlfriend?" Then they talk, get to know each other a little, fight over petty things, and then jump to the next person. It's kid stuff.
So I have a weird problem, I think it's a mind over matter thing, I just want to know if this is normal or anyone else has it, maybe even how I can fix it.
So I gag. A lot.
>Inb4 "hahahahhaa you gag on cock faggot op"
No, I gag like I'm about the throw up. When i wake up in the morning and take a shower, I always gag, someones dry heave into the toilet. Im pretty sure that this has to do with being a nervous fuck, because I notice the more stressed out I am about something (EG: a test, or breaking the law.) The more I gag and dry heave.
Throughout the day, I gag a lot. Not in public for some reason, but when I'm alone. It's over nothing too, but I do gag easily when I see or smell something foul.
This obviously isn't social anxiety because it's easy to talk to people for me, and I'm not sure what to do, what do you guys think?
>>17370265
>I notice the more stressed out I am about something (EG: a test, or breaking the law.)
???
>>17370273
???
Maybe induce gagging on yourself with tongue depressors and whatnot, remind your body that gagging should only happen when something's going in your throat
recently turned 18 and started drinking at pubs etc. the de-facto "leader" of my group of friends doesn't like the custom of everyone buying a round of drinks, as it apparently "costs too much". Because of this, we all just kind of awkwardly buy all of our drinks for ourselves like a bunch of isolationists when we go out. Am I correct in thinking my friend probably has some kind of learning difficulty if he struggles to comprehend the rationale behind this universal tradition?
>>17370242
>Am I correct in thinking my friend probably has some kind of learning difficulty if he struggles to comprehend the rationale behind this universal tradition?
Err... Learning deficiency? Are you implying a certain over-used 4chan word that starts with an A?
He's probably socially inept.
You're 18. Do whatever the fuck you want. Be an adult. Stop being a sheep. If he doesn't want to get drinks with you guys, he can buy his own round.
>>17370242
The fact that you and a gaggle of other assholes go out and actually do things you don't want to do because your "leader" says so is pretty sad.
He might have a learning disability but the rest of you must have a social one for actually listening to him.
I use the term "leader" as a shorthand - it's more that I'm a quiet guy and my suggestion that we do a rounds system was swiftly rejected by him. I'm right in thinking you end up paying the same amount if you buy drinks for everyone as just yourself?
I'm a SMART scholarship selectee. Sweet deal. Tuition is paid. $25k a year, cash. Guaranteed employment after I graduate for a # of years = the length of the scholarship (two years, for me). Includes a summer internship. Pay is low at first, but steps up drastically on a fixed schedule over two years (how the government makes some of its money back for paying for my education). Work isn't very exciting (troubleshooting jet engines for the Air Force), but not awful. Pretty cool.
I *also* got accepted into the NSA co-op program. Yeah, that NSA. It'll extend my graduation by a year, but pay starts high, comes with a TS/SCI security clearance, and is a world class organization doing work that matters. Will have to be there for 52 weeks over three semesters to complete the program. Pays while I work, but not other times, and doesn't pay tuition so money in the short term is inferior to SMART.
These are mutually exclusive. I have until August 1st to decide.
Complications/details: Married with three kids: 2, 4, and 9. When I'm gone, wife (who works) will be alone with them, plus help from grandma.
Worked in intelligence in the military, been my dream to make a full career of it since I was 18. I'm 33. This shot at NSA is probably my last chance, ever, before I'm too old.
There is a chance that if I go to work at NSA, I can be stationed in my home state, where cost of living is lower than Ft. Meade and wife can still work, be near friends and family, etc. But this isn't for sure.
SMART installation is outside my home state, but not far and still low cost of living.
My current discipline is electrical engineering, but I also have background in intelligence (like I mentioned), Arabic and the Middle East, and law.
So... safer, more lucrative SMART and give up my dream, but be able to practice patent law later? Or take my last chance, harder on my family, for a permanent and fulfilling career that pays less?
Tough choice. If you were younger I'd say the SMART choice is a no brainer, but if being in the NSA is truly your dream, and you think the window has an expiration date, I say go for it.
But I don't think that is a decision anyone but you can make.
You definitely have your shit together and you are obviously smart, so you should be able to come to a decision. If you go to the NSA and it sucks and you don't have the SMART scholarship, it won't be the end of the world. If you go to the SMART program and it works out, you will always have that what if in the back of your mind.
I say NSA, but that's only because those opportunities are rare, and you seem more than qualified.
>>17370219
Thank you for your level-headed assessment. I appreciate the effort you put into your answer.
Also, bump.
>There is a chance that if I go to work at NSA, I can be stationed in my home state, where cost of living is lower than Ft. Meade and wife can still work, be near friends and family, etc. But this isn't for sure.
>When I'm gone, wife (who works) will be alone with them
Talk to your wife about these and about any financial hardships this path will bring. Be realistic about the work/home balance and how it will affect your family.
Once you two come to a conclusion about that, then weigh the other stuff involving your choices. But as it is those are the most serious issues because they will change your family dynamics.
I've been living in Chicago largely being a disabled fuck since 2008.
What led me to this life could take days to explain.
Anyways: I am starting a well paid job finally soon. It involves a lot of traveling and it doesn't matter where I'm based, as long as it's the Usa.
Where should I move that's more pleasant, safe, and well, boring and white? I've endured enough ghetto shit for a lifetime.
North Dakota.
White, Boring
Watch out for those natives who emulate nigger life style.
>>17370441
I can handle wiggers better thsn the real thing. There's still a spark of human in them somewhere.
pretty much everywhere in mid usa / upper west
/adv/, how do you cope with wanting to be in a romantic relationship with someone (not even a particular person/character) that will never, ever exist?
I just can't anymore. I've appeared happy through all of middle and high school, love socializing with my friends but it's just in the back of my mind, whispering that I'll never be happy.
I've finally broken. The drop that spilled the glass was a lonely drinking session at home and I just can't pull myself out of the depression like I did before. I realized that I will never, ever be happy or loved (I've never been in a romantic relationship, but this is a very complex situation) and just don't care about life anymore.
I just want the suffering to end.
please respond
>>17370131
It's difficult to say you will be alone for the remainder of your life. Nobody can predict the future. Someday you will have a fat slob wife and kids and you'll be pissed off even then but you'll have to do it. Until then I suggest just taking a chill pill. And stop drinking, you underage twat.
>>17370131
>I just want the suffering to end.
Everyone suffers to one degree or another. The truth of the matter is you'll suffer even in a relationship. Sure you may feel happiness and joy at first but eventually that will wear out and you might want to leave her or vice versa. In middle school you'll be constantly changing relationships and don't think that just because your "peers" are talking about all the sex they get that it is actually happening. I can assure you it is not.
What is true is only you can remain hopeful about your situation. I wouldn't recommend going out and trying to "fix" your situation as that will only further your suffering. Instead work on yourself.
If age of consent is 16 in your state does that mean you can bang a 16 year old in your 20s? Is that morally wrong?
Yes you can and no it's not as long as she likes you and you respect her. Just no pictures/videos until 18.
>>17369771
Nothing wrong with it if you both want it. It's just weird. People might think there is something wrong with you
>>17369771
>Morally
>Wrong
wew lad
My boyfriend's mother is extremely sick with a lot of things including MS, and he's had to take care of her from a young age.
She might die anytime soon. I have insecurity issues so I fear that the shock from her dying might cause him to break up with me.
He has no other reason to, and he frequently showers me with affection. Am I just paranoid?
And yes, I do care about his family. This is just one thing that's on my mind.
Sometimes he says I should leave because his life is too much of a burden. I never will, though.
>>17369749
>Am I just paranoid?
Yes. Your paranoia is what will likely drive him away from you if you can't control yourself.
>>17370141
>Sometimes he says I should leave because his life is too much of a burden.
That's because he feels guilty that he can't be a normal boyfriend with a normal family. He loves you so much that he wants you to be truly happy, even if it's without him.
>>17370148
He'd literally have to have armed bodyguards drag me away by the hair. No amount of "burden" will be enough for me to be okay with leaving. I love him too much for that to be much of a problem.
