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What do you think of white guys with Asian tattoos? Hot or Not?
Not. Fucking weeaboos.
>>17368751
What is perceived as attractive changes with time, getting a tattoo for this reason is beyond stupid.
Your personal taste also changes with times; getting a tattoo is stupid.
Tl;dr: just do it!
>>17368751
>if the guy is already passable (read: not hideous, morbidly obese or dirty/gross/a cunt) and is interested in the culture he's tattooing onto his body
Hot
>if the guy doesn't give a shit about culture and just wanted an excuse to have something on him that would make him look cool
At best he openly admits he just got it because it looks cool and it does nothing, at worst it's annoying and off-putting, depending on how much he...
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I've lost all sexual and romantic interest in people. The only thing I want is a platonic bdsm relationship, where there's no intimacy at all. I don't want sex, the thought of kissing someone makes me nauseous, I don't want any emotional connection. I don't find anyone appealing. Attempts to masturbate have failed, I can't get off anymore, though it feels kind of nice.
What's wrong with me, and how do I fix it?
>>17368717
>What's wrong with me, and how do I fix it?
You're either just asexual and it's not a problem so just be okay with that or someone burned you hard enough that you've become an edgy little faggot, at which point you need to unbury that hurt and figure your shit out.
>>17368728
The concern is that I used to be very sexual. A little over two months ago, I suddenly lost all interest. It was like flipping off a switch. I've been waiting for it to go away, but it hasn't.
>>17368717
How about don't seek a relationship then? Why do you think you need to be in a relationship to be normal? Relationships should only be when you feel a connection with someone and want them to be a part of your life indefinatly. The world has just become overly sexualized and your feeling of confusion result from that. Just live your life and don't worry what other people are doing with theirs
>need a new anime
When i was a teen i was into FMA and other shonen
Grew up, been into other stuff
Recently started one punch man, and i finished Attack on titan and kabaneri of the iron fortress
I liked the latter the most. What are some other cool anime that have a decent end (iron fortress had a shitty end imo) you would recommend? With similar style would be awesome.
Go watch Jojo if you're into shonen
Also Code Geass
>>17368772
Code Geass is a great suggestion
>>17368667
Give Samurai Champloo or Cowboy Beebop a try
Hi,
there's this chick I know from a university sports group that I had half a year ago. I only spoke to her briefly in that time and last time I spoke to her was casual and half a year ago.
In the last couple of weeks I saw her a handful of times where she seemed to blush / smile at me. Last time at the cafeteria complex but she only smiled from afar and I didn't think much of it.... until the evening that day when I held my dick in my hand once again...
Problem: now lectures are over and I could only see her in the cafeteria complex by chance within...
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>>17368649
Get her number.
"Hi. I saw you across the room and realized it has been months since the sports group. Would you like to join me in a coffee/Coke to catch up?"
brump
just be yourself :^)
>Me, male in 20s
>born in a very religious family
>pretend to be religious for "reasons"
>anti social
>long story short, parents needs their son to be successful, married and etc
>How can I get married, I'm emotionally unstable and don't want to hurt anyone
>I admit I'm not that handsome, 3/10 honestly
> I don't see myself anything special
> Got a secure job, that my parents wants me too but too depressed
>All of my friends are successful and I'm not
> I want to be true to myself, doing the things that I proud off n perhaps, enjoy
> Hate myself for trying n keep falling, but ultimately, there's nothing can compare the joy of seeing the work you work ur ass off n get paid for it, even if the pay is so little.
> but this kind of live is tiring
>Got to please my boss, parents and myself.
> When I try to sleep, anxiety creeps in n I worried about all thing.
> Death, loneliness, someone to love
> I be honest to myself, saying that heaven doesn't exist and I probably would die alone at 50.
> I have no special someone or best friend.
Move out and do your own things.
You're male so the likelihood of your parents killing you for not living up to expectations is extremely slim.
>>17368624
Go read (or listen) to "no more mr nice guy" by Robert Glover, you can torrent it if need be. You sound like someone the books is written for, sacrificing yourself to please others and then wondering why you're dissatisfied with your life at the end of a day. Make you own path and satisfy your own wants and needs. If you lose friends/family on the way so be it, true friends and family want abandon someone trying to fulfil their basic wants.
OP, your pic hits me right in the feels
What is /sci/s opinion about relationships with a big age difference. I am a 26 year old guy dating a 40 year old woman and I have to say it is hot af, but I think it is not socially accepted, or is it?
>Science & Math
>>17368610
Mods need to give out longer bans for these threads.
>>17368612
Chill out dude I was just asking for scientific opinion
Do I have to give up anime and games to become a happier person?
>>17368579
if anime and games make you happy, giving them up will make you less happy
if all you do is play games and watch anime, and these two things alone don't make you happy, try something else
>>17368579
It's a start.
>>17368579
Not unless they prevent you from doing things that make you happy.
alright so im 26 and im working in an office with 3 middle aged women (they are disgusting before anyone..)
ive been here for a year now - first job - but i cannot take it anymore so i decided to use earbuds and listen to music at work because i am no longer interested in them
i came to the realization that they are two faced bitches and i should never tell them anything ever
the other thing that annoys me is that their daily topics are: kids, family, shopping, food, kids, kids, work is shit
i mean if work is shit and you cannot believe that you have...
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Wait what women who are probably mothers will talk about their kids
Or or wait women gossip jesus it's almost like these aren't facts
>>17368581
first job mang i had no fucking idea that older women have no life and can only talk about unimportant shit
>>17368567
Technically they could. But as long as it's not interfering with your work I don't see why they would.
I'd recommend headphones though, better sound quality that way. Skullcandy is good if you're on a budget but want decent quality.
How do I not bust a nut in under a minute during my first time?
>>17368562
That minute is going to the best feeling you'll ever have.
Why prolong it? Embrace it, you only experience it once.
Greater men than you have tried and failed. It will happen.
Eat her out so she comes before you stick it in.
You won't even need a minute.
>know girl for a while through hobby related social circle
>recently begin talking more
>more recently get flirty, dance together on a night out, lots of physical contact
>texts me this morrow 'Morning tiger' with winky emoji
Would you assume she wished to indulge in carnal relations with you?
>>17368498
>>recently begin talking more
Really can't tell. Maybe she just wants to talk about the hobby with someone
>>more recently get flirty, dance together on a night out, lots of physical contact
Maybe she likes you or maybe she just wants to dance with someone. Really can't tell.
>>texts me this morrow 'Morning tiger' with winky emoji
So she sent you a message in the morning. Really...
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>>17368504
We kinda started talking more after I found out she was a Christian, so we talk about that alot.
Last night she started bringing up the subject of sex, and specifically pet names, hence the 'tiger' part. I told her guys love being called tiger.
Im gonna see her tonight. Do I ask her to go for drinks?
>>17368498
You best start to flirt back and ask her out instead of wasting your time asking memepeople for advice at this stage ya chicken
Hey /adv
Recently enough a group of my friends and other people have been organising beach parties. I went to a few and they're quite fun. Unfortunately the last one I embarrassed myself horribly. I got seriously drunk and started getting sick. To add insult to injury I went to a state of trauma. My friends looked after me and got me home as well as the other people too which I'm thankful for.
Now I feel scared too go back. I feel I can't go back. I feel highly embarrassed and feel if I go il only embarrass myself and ruin other people's night....
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You should go if it isn't already over.
I drink too much and throw up and pass out every so often.
In fact I hosted a barbecue where I ended the night by throwing up and passing out. The only time it ever comes up is when I bring it up.
Point being, nobody gives a shit except you. Everyone has a bad party.
>>17368542
This, it has atleast happens once to everybody, and the only one making a fuss about it is you, sometimes my best friend comes up with it and we laugh it off, Eitherway, don't stress about it happens to everybody
>>17368491
Don't worry about it too much. Stuff like this happens, and honestly I think almost everyone has been there at least once. Heck I know I've been there a few times. Just don't overthink it!
tl;dr: Me and my girlfriend both have PTSD, it's manifesting in opposite ways and doing real damage to our relationship.
Yes, we are both scheduled for continued visits with mental health professionals, but also because of the whole Diagnostic>prescriber>therapist routine where they all have their own busy schedule, treatment is not immediate and I'd like mean time advice
>Get shit beat out of me as a kid
>Scars, concussions, whole nine yards
>Years later get diagnosed with PTSD
>Think it's bullshit, but I can see why they'd say that
>Meet the love of my life
>She is an emotional wreck, see the symptoms in her that were given to me as evidence of my own PTSD, though it's undiagnosed
>Don't really fix her, but get her to a functional place
>We're in love and together and it's awesome
>Figure joining the army is the best way to provide for our future together(lied when they asked me about mental health)
>Stupid idea
>Me being out of contact and far away was bad for her
>Gets kinda shitty almost immediately but the situation survived for a year before she just breaks and ends up worse than when I found her
>Talk to behavioral health guys
>Yup these are all really typical PTSD manifestations
>Oh shit, separate as fast as I can (still took 4 months) so I can go make things right
>Turns out that separating often exacerbates these things
>I have to watch my own back like Jim used to, and I also have to watch my back like Steve used to, and basically I should be on edgetting forever
>It's tough, within a month of being back I had a full blown, grown man crying, panic attack in my grandma's kitchen
>Get to VA mental health, learn about the above as well as a couple other things
>In many, PTSD compels them to withdraw and not want to be accountable to people
>Like her
>In uncommon, but still prevalent cases it compels people to overly lean on their support for a sense of security and predictability
>Like me
So now I'm too clingy and she's too distant and that stresses us out and we get mad at each other for being mad at each other and it's all happening at a bad rate. I got home like 5 weeks ago and we're just hanging on by a thread.
Wat do?
>>17368487
Yo know what to do :/
Break up and find some other crutch
>>17368487
Hey man,
>22
>diagnosed with chronic PTSD since childhood
>similarly to you, multiple cases of extreme violence & psychological degradation >Therapy helped my awareness but didnt really fix anything.
>lost gf of 3 years because of strain on relationship
>multitude of negative behavioral patterns manifested into my everyday life because of said illness
I...
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Arranged to go on coffee date as a first date with tinder match
Just found out the cafe closes 30 mins after we arranged to meet. Pic related.
In the next town along there is another coffee shop that's open a bit later.
Do I ask her to go to the other place instead and risk looking disorganised or go for a 30 minute date with the possibility of doing something else after?
I'm also a bit worried they'll start clearing up the cafe almost as soon as we get there.
"Hey, I made a dumb mistake, and that café closes right after we get there. There's another spot in the next town; let's go."
If the other shop isn't far away, just meet her outside where you agreed, tell her that they'll be closing, so you should walk to the other one. I think walkinf is better than sitting for the first couple of minutes after first meeting anyway. You'll be able to establish assertiveness by leading her.
>>17368469
Thanks
>>17368476
We both live out in the sticks so we were gonna have to drive anyway, and the next town is about a 15 min drive away from the original location :(
I want to quit my job next month and I wil have £5.5k and stay with parents. How can I NEET it out without my parents forcing me into another job and how do i make my money last more than a year ?
>>17368465
Not going to happen. Why go NEET anyeay? Why do that to yourself?
>>17368465
Don't fall for the NEET meme
All NEETs are actually depressed cucks who take their lack of self-worth out on other people who are trying to do something with their life
>>17368465
Don't become a NEET is the best advice I can give
Hey /b/ I need serious advice with my relationship. To break it down shortly I met an 8/10 female 7 months ago who I've been together with for 6. I find her attractive funny smart and the kind of person I want to be.
Only problem is I care too much for her and I kind of see me holding her down what do I do ? I'll give more info needed
I'm assuming you mean she's the kind of person you want to be with. But you see her holding you down. Do you want to be with someone that holds you down? I'll ask that simple question.
>>17368420
No I just see me holding her down. I feel like I'm not good enough for her sometimes.
>>17368429
Work on yourself then.
