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What should I do with my life?
I've had a look into a lot of professions and I don't care for any of them.
I don't care for anything honestly. I just want to sleep until it's all over
well did anything stand out in what you looked at?
>>17367081
I feel the same way. Part of it is due to my mental instability, but still. I suffer from insomnia; sleep isn't an option.
Alright so I've got the clothes and hair and getting /fit/ down, I know how to not act like an autist or whatever, and I know to listen to the top 100 chart
http://www.billboard.com/charts/hot-100
To learn what millennial normies have such a hard on for, any other ways to really blend in?
I feel like the final piece to this puzzle is understanding their culture itself and I feel like there has to be more to it than the music
This is hilarious.
>>17367088
>never even try just give up kys: the post
Don't you have something more important going on in your life than blending in with people you don't understand, who don't understand you ?
You do have your own interests and goals in life. Strive for them and like-minded People will cross your path.
Other than that, you should learn some social-skills
What are things that make YOU happy?
Lmao even in 4chan no one responds.
>>17367016
Playing videogames until I am weak with hunger then refueling on a perfect mixture of high octane Dr. Pepper and Coca Cola
>>17367174
But peggy, my dudegal, isn't is funner to pewp-post in this place?
Alright /adv/, what the fuck is going on?
>wake up
>email from amazon confirming an email change to some indian name
>wtf
>call customer support
>tell them my account was stolen
>they can't find my old email in their records
>they send it to their higher-ups for investigation
>get an email a few hours later saying all purchases made since the takeover have been canceled and that I can change my password
>change password
>glad to have my gift card balance back
>few hours later get another email
>this one confirms the purchase of a fucking quadcopter drone
>I still have my account
>haven't logged in on any other computer since changing my password
I don't understand what's going on. The thing is even supposed to ship to my address for some reason
Also, my antivirus software scanned earlier today and didn't find anything.
>>17367005
Call amazon again, cancel the purchase? I think ghosts have invaded your computer OP
Change your email password ; they doubtlessly have access to it.
About a month ago I moved back to Chicago. My older sister had told me I could stay with her. In her own words: You can stay with me as long as you need.
After my plans are set, I ask her if I can stay for about a month. She turns around and tells me more or less that she expects me to find a new job and an apartment within a week.
I wasn't happy about it and wished she had made that clearer from the beginning. Without other options, I accepted the offer.
My summer job expected me to work 70+ hour weeks. I couldn't handle it and quit because I was starting to suffer health problems. I explained the situation to my sister in advance and got her approval to quit and move in with her early. She offers to set me up with a job where she works. It would be full-time with benefits.
Less than five minutes after I arrive at her place, she starts lecturing me about taking work seriously and how my performance reflects on her. I'm 27 years old. I'm not a child. When she offered to help me find a job there, I made it clear to her that I'd work hard and give proper notice, 2 weeks, if I found a better place to work.
She lectured me for quite a while. Not wanting to upset her, because she was my landlord and soon-to-be co-worker at the time, I sat there, nodded and re-assured her that I'd do right by her while she continued to berate me. She had the interview set up the day after I moved back, which made it impossible to cancel. At that point she'd made it clear that she didn't want me working there.
The day of the interview she insisted she'd drive me instead of taking public transportation. During the drive, she started off by lecturing me again about taking the job seriously, being professional and being respectful of my co-workers. My sister told me about a few positions that were open, including a fruit slicing position--I was interviewing at a grocery store. The fruit slicers sit in a refrigerator and slice fruit. Sometimes they bring it out to customers (cont.)
>>17366995
(cont.)
, but most of the time they sit in the fridge and slice fruit. My sister said they were cool guys, but she didn't like the job. I'm trying to stay calm before the interview, even though the situation is already stressful. I respond, "That sounds like a good job." While driving on a busy Chicago street, she turns to me and yells, "You're not taking this seriously enough!" then continues talking about other positions that are available.
I go through the interview, answer the questions as best I can and think of a way to graciously turn down the offer if they give it to me. They tell me they'll call me back in a few days.
A week goes by; I'm still stuck at my sister's apartment because landlords don't rent to the jobless, even when they can pay six months rent up front. My older sister keeps pressuring me and telling me I'm not taking the job and apartment search seriously enough. She tells me to do things I've already done since I moved back: look for a roommate situation. I explain that out of the hundreds of emails I sent out only a few responded, most of which told me they were looking for someone with a job or someone that was not a male. The only ones that responded where either in bad neighborhoods or with horrendous people who left the common areas a mess, didn't do dishes more than once a month and worked from home. The only decent one didn't call me back after he gave me a tour.
Eventually she texts me that she wants me out of there in a few days under the guise of having a discussion. I'm pissed that she texted me instead of talking to me in-person and moreso that she said it was a discussion when she gave me a date to move out. I had no choice, but I had managed to get one of my parents to co-sign a lease on an apartment and was arranging to move-in the next day. My plan was to sleep in my car that night then move in. The move in day was delayed because of the building engineer and I ended up spending $330 on a hotel.
(cont.)
>>17367029
I understand that my older sister lives in a small one bedroom apartment and is a clean freak. I did my best to respect her space, leave the apartment frequently and not make a mess.
Nonethless, I find the way she treated me unfair and downright rude. While I was still living with her, I told her that I was turning down the grocery store job because it was clear she didn't want me taking it. She kind of looked to the side and mumbled that she meant it to be a last resort, which was an obvious lie because she set up the interview for me the day after I got back.
I'm looking for re-assurance. I've blown up in the past for stupid reasons, but I believe I'm justified in my anger here.
Am I right to be angry? I'm stuck in an apartment I don't want without a job and am pissing away my savings because my older sister misrepresented herself and forced me out before I had a chance. That's reasonable, right?
>>17367041
>>17367029
>>17366995
Bump. May I please have an outside perspective on the situation?
I own a home in a middle class neighborhood.
People mostly keep to themselves and stay indoor.
Recently a couple moved into a house down the street where I notice the husband spends a abnormal amount of time in the garage with the door up. His behavior is predictable:
> Very resilient in staying in the garage even during extreme weather conditions. Even having to take his shirt off during extreme heat.
> Talks to anyone and everyone who passes. Anytime someone is outside or walking around, he watches or talks to them.
> Drinks a ton of beer and reeks of alcohol when talking.
> Wife is seen sometimes walking around with him
> Lawn is a piece of shit and in the worst condition with edges growing into the road
> Smokes a lot
> When it is garbage day, it takes him a few days to bring it back in
> Can stay in the garage with the lights on or door open all hours of the night
> He does fucking nothing in the garage except stand around looking at things. Sometimes fiddling with something in a drawer or table.
> He doesn't seem to produce anything that I would consider a hobby you can do in the garage such as building model airplanes, putting together artwork, or anything
> Seems to have friends who come and visits him. He talks with them for a very long time so it appears he has friends and/or families who come to visits.
Overall he seems to bring the home value on the street down a lot. What I'm trying to figure out is what exactly is going on with this guy? Why isn't he indoors with his wife and children? Why would someone stay out in the garage this much rather than being indoors? He doesn't seem to be enjoying staying in the garage as he does absolutely nothing at all other than standing around and going out to talk to random people who walk the street?
>I judge other people's leisure time because I am scared that mummy and daddy's house price will go down if a man is in his garage
Fuck off and die
>>17367152
I came into this thread to post this exact sentiment.
OP, worry about you. Let garage guy worry about garage guy.
>>17367182
>OP, worry about you. Let garage guy worry about garage guy.
This.
Also I'm sick and had a really bad day so yeah.
Its 2 am here. Id stay and talk but my head hurts and my phone is dying. Curtoasy bump though.
Quick adivse. Try omegle. Seriously you can find people to entertain you for a bit.
>>17367004
What if it's not enough to chat with some internet stranger for a few minutes about nothing interesting? What if nothing is ever enough.
Life feels bland and painful.
>>17367023
Get it off your chest threads might help.
>go to work
>come home
>if I'm lucky, I'm already tired enough to go right to sleep
>if not, have to spend hours distracting myself on 4chan until it's late enough for me to fall asleep
>repeat until Friday
>weekend comes
>have absolutely nothing I'm interested in doing
>bored out of my mind for two days, try to distract myself as much as possible
>ingrained sleep schedule won't even let me sleep in no matter how late I go to bed, have to settle for going to bed early instead
>start the cycle over again
At least I have a job that provides me with 40 hours of distraction a week, I'd be even worse without it. Is there some way to end this boredom, or is this just the rest of my life? I don't even have the willpower to try doing something small.
>>17366974
My phone is too old and I can't install it.
You gotta fight it anon. I know it's hard, the lack of willpower to do anything but boredom and dissatisfaction with your current lot in life is a deadly combo that repeats itself in a vicious cycle
Try exercise. Exercise is amazing for building up your willpower. Literally forcing your body to release endorphins
Reason why I am asking is because when I look like shit, don't shower / shave etc. I get hit on alot. When I look good women don't even know of my presence. What is going on?
Where are you when you look like shit, it might have something to do with it.
No shower: pheromones
No shave: looks kinda rugged, some people are into that.
what? what would a woman want with an ugly guy?
women do not interact with ugly guys if they can help it, they might not try for the top 5% either (because they think they wont win so no point) but they absolutely try and avoid the bottom 60% at all costs
>>17366985
K let me give you specific examples. Case in point, girl in my class. At start flirts with me hardcore, all over me, but I shaved next day and yep she acts all cold and what not. Not even kidding, two weeks later over weekend I grow my beard out and she's all over me, can't get enough.
I went to clubs for yrs, never had a woman hit on me. I dress up as Hancock, grow shitty beard and wear stupid thug shirt. Go to club and woman is all over me, asks me to go to the bathroom with her.
Was having a depressed i don't give a fuck phase. So once again i grow my beard out. Go to store and literally the most prettiest woman keeps looking at me while hugging her bf, then asks me to skip line and go infront of them. Then I am sitting on a chair waiting somewhere and I have girl ask me where the exit is (flirting).
Standing in line at walmart, girl gives me that "omg hes hot" look and smiles, then walks away. When I shave I get treated like either I dont exist or I am annoying people.
Could this be that my behavior changes? maybe I act insecure when I dont have a beard. Idk man this shit is really odd.
The only reason I have not killed myself is because I know it would destroy my mother and father who love me very much and might follow suit if I do.
What can I do to make sure they will survive it when I take my life?
trust me don't do it there is always time for things to turn around imagine if kurt cobain was still alive and how different his life could be right now
>>17366965
Please don't kill yourself, no matter how shitty your life is if you love the people you and your family then don't do it. It would emotionally ruin your family
>>17366965
>im so noble
stop. you are lookingfor excuses to live.
so congrats. you WANT to live. yoiu just want to find meaning and happiness.
focus on that
How the fuck are you ever supposed to be confident as a guy. Unless you're a celebrity there's always a ton of guys out there that are more charming, smarter, richer, funnier, more fit, and more worldly than you are. You're always being compared to these guys by others (especially women).It seems like the only people who can have any claim to confidence are either these aforementioned celebrities, delusional people, or people that know whats up but are putting on a facade.
>charming, smarter, richer, funnier, more fit, and more worldly
Every single one if those traits are learned, not inherited. Those can be fixed if you're willing to put in the effort
>>17366970
It's totally absurd to think that you can compete with people who are so wealthy they can spend all their time working on those things, meanwhile most people have to work their asses off to have some sort of career later in life.
>>17366955
You're not supposed to be anything. Some guys are just confident, and girls want to get fucked by them. This isn't a game or a system that someone thought up and balanced so that it's achievable for everyone who puts in the effort. In fact it's really more the other way around - people are drawn to confidence precisely because it's hard to manufacture.
my girlfriend is really fat and I dont want to show her to my parents or be seen in public with her and I dont feel sexually attracted to her like at all
but she has an amazing personalty and its really easy to talk and have fun with her but at the same time i've dated MANY extremely attractive 10/10 girls but I just couldn't maintain rapport with them
god ffssssssssssssssssssssssss
like she has a super cute face so along with a 10/10 smile and way of doing thing but porking her would be like a difficult and unsatisfying task and im a super sexual person
what do I do?!
>>17366949
Tell her to run everyday and stuff her fat gob less.
Till then, satisfy yourself with girls that are around, don't worry too much about being faithful, unless it makes you guilty.
>>17366949
For a lot of fatties, they just lack the fit culture; the discipline, diet, and lifestyle can all be learned.
So take her on jogs and to the gym. Hell, start goibg on walks in the evenings. That's just good for relationships period. Gives you guys a nice chance to hang out and talk to esch other.
Start cooking with her. Show her how to make healthy meals while encouraging healthy habits.
There's the old proverb "give a man a fish and you feed him for a day; teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime"
Help your girlfriend learn to fish.
Just be friends instead
I'm tired of it all and I'm going to take the pussy way out and kill myself with helium.
Try and stop me.
Do it
Do whatever the fuck you want with your helium, but don't kill yourself. The last thing we need is another suicide to happen because someone wanted to be cool and edgy on 4chan.
How do I become friends with a lady that has blue hair?
You kill her 7 evil exes first, duh.
>you gotta have blue hair
BURNINATE TROOOOOOOOOGDOOOOOR
ask her if the carpet matches the drapes.
>Meet a girl that hits 100% the right spots
>We have a lot in common, start chatting more and more
>After a month it's something like 20k messages
>Ask her out, she immediately says yes and is obviously happy about it
>Dating for 2 weeks, every time we have a great time and she sticks to me like a velcro
>Friday night, today I want to tell her I love her
>We went to a cinema but the movie was so shitty that we laugh all the time and there's no mood for "the talk"
>Afterwards we decide to go somewhere else before splitting, end up in a rave club (her idea)
>Having a great time, 2 guys tried to grope her and I told them to fuck off, getting pumped up from the coke and booze (she's high too)
>We go outside, she says she's tired so I walk with her back to her house
>On the way we talk just like before, I tell her that I wanted to talk about something but we're high as fuck so maybe it's better to do this when we're sober
>She smiles, says it's a good idea and we can meet tomorrow
>The next day I call her to ask if she wants to go to the riverbank to watch the fireworks
>She says she's busy today and will call me when she knows if she will manage to go out
>Doesn't call, ignores fb messages in the evening but reads them
>The next day I hear from her sister that she's going on a 5-day holiday all of a sudden, alone and doesn't know yet where she's going
>I try to start a conversation for 2-3 days but she just responds "k" etc
>Things stay like that for the whole week
>She comes back, the next day I ask her if she wants to go out knowing she's doing nothing that day
>"Dunno, I'm pretty busy today"
What is going on? Did she decide overnight that she doesn't give a fuck about me and tries to ignore me until I start ignoring her?
I know that she's not meeting anyone else because we have many common friends and I'd get at least a tip from someone.
>>17366931
The reason doesn't matter, get over her. If you let her do that once, she will do it again.
>we both do coke while drinking
Because you know, drug addicts are some of the most predictable, reasonable and consistent people on the planet.
Two weeks is nothing in a relationship or time to get to know someone. You guys (you at least definitely) sounded like you were in honeymoon mode hardcore. Move on and don't pursue her. The balls in her court now, you did all you could do. If she wants to make it happen, she'll let you know.
Also drugs.
This happened to me too, We both dated for quite a while, then she begain doing the same stuff that's happening to you. I eventuall had enough and left her, stopped talking to her, my mind was at peace, and then she tried to contact me again 2 months later, and I noped her. Dude get over girls like these, I call em fuckgirls. you don't wanna waste your energy, time and stress about it
