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Met this girl on tinder and she actually asked me for my number right before I was going to ask for hers. We texted for a few hours and then I asked her out. She said she was currently sick and that her grandpa was too atm.
She never showed any signs of loosing interest so I'm kinda confused if she just wanted to be friends or if she would want to go out later. I thought we were getting along p well.
keep in mind she never put either "looking for a relationship" nor "just looking to be friends" on her profile because god knows everyone does it here
>>17365280
Either you asked her out too fast or she isn't ready for a commitment. Probably wanted to talk to someone for the company/self validation then realized she wants to be alone
>>17365285
I guess but I'm not 100% sure that its a way of showing she lost interest. Like I feel that would have been too much of a fast as hell change. Can I get confirmation from anyone else on this?
Also I will definitely see where it goes but keep my options open I guess... :/
>>17365297
Also try meeting up first don't just ask her out lol. That's super sudden for a tinder match up
Hey guys. I can't sleep
Sob story inbound.
My first girlfriend broke up with me a couple of weeks ago. We hung out on a Tuesday. Watched a movie. And made plans to go to the beach that Saturday. Thursday rolls around though and she wouldn't hardly look at me when I saw her at church. She told me it was just something with her. Saturday rolls around but instead of the beach, I get a phone call saying we have too many differences. I barely got a word in because she said another call was coming in and she had to take it.
What hurts the most is I've known her since I was 14 (I'm 21 now.) We got close over the past 2-3 years. I asked her out one time but she said she wanted to be friends. We didn't talk for a while after but started texting again. One thing led to another and I told her my feelings never died for her. And she said the same thing. We dated for 4 and a half months.
I can't reconcile all the things that happened and were said between us. She said we communicated so well. We got together on Valentine's day, no plan of mine. Lots of our friends said we could make it to marriage. She waited until 4 months in before she said, "I love you." Because she didn't want it to be fake.
I just don't understand. Was our time a lie? Does she even care about me? Did she ever?
I don't know how you can say those things and then one day just decide it's over. I just don't understand.
So yeah. It hurts a lot. I just want her back in my life.
Thanks for reading. Take care :)
Sorry op but it sounds like it is time to move on.
Maybe she felt something for you when you first got together but maybe she realized over time you liked her more than she liked you, i doubt it was a wake up one day and she didn't want to be together feeling.
You are young and will probably have this feeling more than once in your life, just learn to let things go and don't let it eat you up.
>>17365276
Sorry man, but it looks like you just managed to claw your way out of the friendzone, but if it ended after just four months she probably never had the same feelings for you
It might not be what you want to hear, but "getting her back" is not an option. At least not in a romantic way.
Just look at it as valuable experience and try to move on. Dwelling on it will only hurt you
Whatever you do, no matter how much it hurts, don't try to get back together and don't try to be her friend. This will just end with you getting hurt more. It's time for you to move on.
I can't answer your questions and probably she can't, either.
Watch this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5motuzyLXIk
Does anyone here have physical symptoms of depression? I've experienced sudden weight gain even though I watch my calories fairly strictly. I have lots of acid reflux problems nausea. The restless sleep that I get is wearing down my consciousness to the point where talking to people is something I don't feel like doing and all I wanna do is lay in bed. I try to diet and exercise but the weight never comes off. What do I do /adv/? Am I fucked?
Other than hoping every day someone would put a bullet in me or a truck would veer into a head-on collision with me, no, I'd say I don't have any physical symptoms.
Some of your hell could stem from other underlying conditions, like the acid reflux you're getting. Nexium helped me years ago with that but you should be chomping Tums in the meantime. Otherwise I'm not sure what to tell you pal, but best of luck to you.
>>17365246
Shit idk either man. A lot of my heartburn problems actually started when maalox got discontinued. When I told my doctor that I wake up frequently through the night with heartburn he told me your stomach is uneasy because of anxiety/depression, which seems extremely vague
This is whats happening to me Too op.
Didnt change my diet or how much i exercised. But within last 6 months ive been steadily gaining weight. Over 17kg so far.
How ever i get stomach pains every now and then. Not reflux.
Im always tired. Like my eyes constantly feel heavy.
Thought i might have developed a medical condition.
I want be get rich fast. I sound greedy but I dont want to live my life worrying about money. I thought about buying lottery scratchers and take my chances. Is it wise to be gambling on the slim chance of winning the big bucks? Also, why are white people always winning the loto?
>>17365221
Why don't you aim for something more attainable like extra income from things like youtube or twitch? Then look into investing and eBay flipping? Learn some new skills before donating money to the lotteey
If you're 100% sure you want to do this via gambling. I suggest casinos over scratch cards. At least with craps or 21, you have SOME type of influence, as opposed to none on scratchoffs.
>>17365221
I wouldn't recommend it. You'll blow throw money pretty quick.
I work at a gas station, I stand there and watch people feed money into the machine all day
>regular named Chris
>in the store everyday, sometimes for over an hour
>plays scratchers all day
>can spend well over a hundred dollars at our store
>apparently plays at other stores in roughly the same way
>has won some big prizes including one million dollars
>came out of retirement because he used all his money playing scratchers
Like a lot of people that can't stop playing these shits, he has a strategy and a system and useless shit to look out for with a lot of anecdotal stories. He likes to brag that just at our store he's bought enough scratchers to buy the machine up to four times.
I also like it when one of the big lotteries starts to get attention
>people come in and play up to $100 on a lottery
>come back the following week to see if they won anything
>$14
Sounds like they're gonna get rich soon
I'm hitting up this girl and she says she has eczema on her ass. Can I trust her?
>>17365220
I think her informing you of her problem is more than good enough of a reason to trust her.
trust her with what, eczema isnt a big deal
>>17365248
>>17365255
That's its eczema and not something else. Should I trust her with that
My friend won't stop drunk driving. Right now he's out for cigarettes. He doesn't get the concept that when you're drunk you shouldn't drive. He's already gotten a dwi. He's not even an alcoholic/problem drinker. When he's sober he's like yeah, drunk driving is stupid but once he gets dunk it all goes to hell. What do?
>>17365212
I have a friend like that too, she have almost killed me a couple of times because of her reckless driving
He sounds like me when I was in a really bad spot before, except I never got a DUI. I can't offer advice to you, but I can tell you what I would have told my friend while drunk: "drive me, then."
"If you ever drive drunk again, I will call the police on you". It's a threatening statement, and he'll probably get mad. But you don't want him to kill anyone.
It's the middle of the night and my carbon monoxide sensor started going off. I don't know if it was because of low battery or if it's something serious. I was working with an air compressor probably 5-10 hours ago if that has any correlation. I don't know if I'm feeling symptoms or if I'm just paranoid and tricking myself into feeling symptoms. Anyone have any suggestions as to what I should do? I don't feel like calling the police or anything unless I know for sure something is up.
>>17365208
get the fuck out and call the cop on your cell phone f you have one
Keep your bedroom window open just incase
>>17365210
>>17365209
Two very different suggestions. I have a fan and my window open so I might just chill unless I feel some serious symptoms
How to move at 19 or 20? Is it possible for me?
I dont really know what I need in order to move out. Im 18 and already graduated hs 2 months ago. I have a part job that pays $11/hr and have about 1.3k saved up (not much and not full time). I live in CA in an area where housing is pretty expensive. I signed up for colleges but I still dont know what Im going to be. I chose between firefighting, EMT, or nursing but I havent been officially registered in any college. Other than that, Im basically living in a toxic family that I'd like to be out of. Anyone here moved out early and willing to give me some /adv/? pic unrelated
My advice is not to become an EMT
>>17365159
yes, i called up an apartment place, found roommates in the area, they grabbed the apartment, mailed my shit and grabbed a plane ticket (called the apartment place, explained the situation, they put me on the lease.)
flew out, stuff came in, moved it, found a job within the month, bam. moved.
Best way would be to move into a college dorm. California is a fucking expensive place to live and going to college out of your resident state is ~15% more expensive on average.
I just started running on the beach in San Diego. Whenever I have nothing to do I just run. I've never been here n said fuck it. Google maps says I ran 24 miles. The problem is that I just don't care. Is this a problem?
>Is this a problem?
as long as you take care of yourself, eat properly, rest and hydrate, of course there's nothing wrong you egg
Why would it be?
Unless you're not avoiding important stuff it's OK I guess.
Give me a share of your problems, mate. You seem to have none
How to tell a girl I've been friends with for over a year that I like her ? I'm not in the "friendzone" 'cus I haven't tried anything yet, but when or how is the best way to do it ?
>>17365131
>I'm not in the "friendzone" 'cus I haven't tried anything yet
That's not how the friendzone works
>>17365131
>a girl I've been friends with for over a year
>I'm not in the "friendzone" 'cus I haven't tried anything yet
You are so deep in the friend zone you can't even tell you're in it anymore. Like you're swimming just above the water. But that's not how it works, it's one of those underwater 'lakes' caused by a sudden change in water density. You're still underwater even if you aren't under that layer.
The fuck does that even mean ? I like her but I haven't even implied that I do, how is that the friendzone ? Am I just a cuck ?
So I'm 29, and it seems the single men in my social circle are all getting into either committed relationships or marriage. At least in my provincial life, the single among me are an endangered species.
I'm faced with pressures to meet a woman, build a relationship, family, etc. etc. I've been stigmatized as a sloppy bachelor who eats pizza and drinks beer and watches sports all day. This is not (completely) true.
I've been in years-long relationships before, but they never worked out. Now, more than ever, I am not interested in them. Not for some angry, misanthropic reason either-- I'm a doctor/scientist, and spend my days working in a lab and seeing patients. I love my job and my wacky research, and I feel that relationships and such would be distracting.
Are there single men in my age range lurking about? Do you feel alone in your bachelor-hood, and if so, how do you get by? I've been happy, but sometimes I feel tugged against the grain to seek romance when I'm more interested in medicine and enjoying my solitude.
Pic....unrelated I suppose
You're married to your job. It happens. Don't worry about it.
>>17365123
I'm surprised at myself for never considering it that way. Thanks.
I'm the same age. I'm lonely as all fucking hell, and people constantly make fun of me for not being married. Fuck this.
I am still desperately in love with an ex. She moved cross country four years ago. She currently has a boyfriend but recently she has started sending me and my family ggifts, even a father's day card for my dad. She often texts me a hand drawn cartoon character we invented as a couple. Should I tell her how I feel? Is it appropriate considering she is in a relationship? Should I just be happy we have a good friendship and leave it at that???? Or do I profess my undying love and move to be with her?
She's playing games. Cut her out of your life like the malignant tumor she is. If she loves you, she can come back to you.
What the fuck is her problem? She seriously has issues if she's doing all that shit while having a boyfriend
>>17365077
She sees my parents as family to her so the dynamic is a bit strange.
>>17365074
She might be but she seems very sincere. If she feels like we are "family" the things she does sort of make sense. I'm still confused about it tho
Three months, still miss her so much
3 months? Try 10 years
8.5 months here, still suffering. Work more, faggot.
6 months in for me, starting to forget about her now.
Still thinking of her every now and then and getting back together would be really cool but I think I'm subconsciously starting to realize that I have to move on.
Try to put your focus on yourself instead of her, peruse your interests and become a better person.
Need some ideas quick. Already know not a movie. Please help me
Age?
>>17365062
Both of us are 18
>>17365062
set down some poke lures and wait.
I had a fight with my gf and I want your guys opinions if I overreacted
>Gf always calls me from her work on break
>Her male coworkers are always saying shit in the background to mess with her, cause she told them I'm easily made jealous
>Usually she ignores it
>2 or 3 times, they've said something and she starts giggling so much that she isn't paying attention to what I'm saying
>I feel like a cuck, sitting there while my gf takes a minute to calm down from laughing at other dudes joking/messing with her
>We talked about it tonight, I said I feel disrespected
>She says "you know I don't mean it in a bad way" and I say "If I had did that with you on the phone, would it be okay?" and she avoids the question
Now shes ignoring me. I don't think I was overly aggressive, i just said basically that I think its rude and I feel disrespected, I said I'd like for her to speak with me the way that she'd like me to speak with her. Am I wrong for being upset about this
You've become a workroom joke essentially. She finds the scenario cute or funny. You're not wrong for being upset about it really, but it honestly isn't that big of a deal. Who gives a fuck about her coworkers
Dump her, she's probably fucking and sucking those thirsty fucks as we speak.
you're not wrong for being upset about this. but if she is going to be childish like this for some shit that obviously upsets you, you need to let her do her thing then. don't ever let someone who is supposed to care about you disrespect you.
speaking from experience, those guys don't care about your relationship and are not going to respect that and the fact that she is talking shit about you to them denotes a lack of respect she already had for you.
basically, let her ignore you. you do the same shit right back desu. only for good reason.
