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There are no resources for someone like me to help make my decision. I feel like I'm at a loss.
In short, I'm a pervert who wants to get it on with dogs and has since I started my post-pubescent life. For the very first time it's becoming a possible reality, and is something my friend has now acted on for the first time too.
I'm also very sensitive (about sex, and in general), anxious, depressive, and have some deep self esteem issues. I don't see anything wrong with what I might do, but I also don't know if I could live with the shame....
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>>17366352
>I don't see anything wrong with what I might do, but I also don't know if I could live with the shame.
See, this is where your story wears thin.
How does one not see anything wrong with it AND worry that they couldn't live with the shame?
I don't mind people making up stories for /adv/, I just wish they were better writers.
>>17366360
This is the point of misunderstanding that makes me feel alienated from my friends. I don't understand it either, but it is VERY possible to not feel something is wrong rationally but still have intense (internalized?) guilt about it. Why can't people understand this?
You want to fuck dogs or be fucked by them?
Either way, just keep this to yourself.
I really want somebody to beat me up, possibly blunt force trauma me into a short coma. I am not going to do this. However, why do you guys think could be a reason I would I want something like this?
>>17366261
What would happen during this short coma?
>>17366275
Nothing really
>>17366277
Can I have sex with you?
Went on tinder thinking I would actually start a relationship with somebody
>Girls just looking for new friends
>Girls that already have bfs
>Girls that most likely want to fuck your dog
If I see one more "if you have a dog I'll probably swipe right" I'll delete this fucking app
>inb4 use OKC
Sorry, I don't really want to shell out money to get rejected and see who rejected me
>>17366255
I've had a number of promising relationship-wanting girls from Tindr, might just be your age group. How old are you?
>>17366292
18
Not gonna lie you are probably right in my case. Living in southern Louisiana sucks for 18yo guys unless you are shitting cash
>>17366302
I'm 26, and the dating pool has probably shrunk to sluts and girls wanting a serious LTR. I'm in Nebraska, and am currently seeing two girls who want a serious relationship.
>gf of 3 years
>break up
in the end there wasn't a future. but theres this feeling of wanting her back. shes moved on and told me she fooled around with a new guy. How do girls move on so fast?
I broke up with her, but damn. in 4 weeks. pretty sure she just installed tinder and found a match.
how do I get over her ? We are still friends. but fuck. there is a feeling of wanting her back but another of wanting to step up and meet new people.
install tinder a slay sluts
>>17366232
>How do girls move on so fast?
It only seems fast because you didn't know she had already broken up with you months ago. She didn't wake up last week and decide to break. She has been thinking about it and planning it for months. During that time, she emotionally disconnected herself from you and started thinking about new guys. The guy she fucked recently? He has been running around her mind for a long time. She just finally let you know about it when she got the courage...
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>>17366253
I broke up with her
What is a nice way of telling a girl that if she doesn't want to go out, she doesn't have to make up excuses?
The catch is that I'm not 100% sure she is making excuses like she might have legitimate reasons for not going out rn
>>17366229
"If you don't feel like going out, just tell me, I really don't mind."
>>17366229
Wait until you ask her out again and say "By the way, if you're just not feeling it that's cool too. I won't be hurt."
>>17366239
this. though to be honest if a girl wants to go out, she will make the time. there are extremely rare cases where someone might be too busy for some time, but i am the only case i know of where that happened, where id been busy for so long that i didnt see a girl after a month of promising, then finally did and we dated for six months.
but for the most part peopel make the time if they want to meet someone.
if a girl cant settle on a day then she clearly doesnt. i mean if she wanted to wouldnt she...
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is suicide a good idea?
>>17366216
Always.
Yes but it's not practical. If you're so intent on killing yourself then live a little before you do. Ask out ALL of the girls, drink all the drinks, jump off the bridges, go where you're not supposed to etc.
>>17366216
>is suicide a good idea?
No.
tldr: gf wont do anything sexually and im unhappy but i love her
>be me
>22
>high sex drive
my gf is 23 and has a sex drive but repressing it because of guilt and her religion. she grew up in religious family. both grandparents were penecostal but he mom n dad wernt. they were kinda crzy and over protective, siad if she had sex or did sexual things before marriage she was a whore.
Had sex with first bf out of fear of him leaving, he took her v card and forced...
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>>17366211
Bro. She fucked two other dudes, and now she's not willing to do shit with you. You're just the nice kid that she's with right now so that she doesn't feel alone, but she doesn't like enough to fuck. It sounds like you're too pathetic to get another gf, so you don't really have any choice but to put up with it. Sorry mang.
>>17366211
Get her some help from a therapist or something OP, that sounds like some pretty intense trauma for her.
>>17366236
This.
I need /adv/ about how to best go about learning Kanji. I've memorized Kana but everytime I attempt to read something remotely Japanese I have to look up what every single piece of Kanji means because there's so fucking many. Is there anyway I can go about this better or will I just have to look up what every single word is in Kanji?
I would use memrise. Also, take post its and put them on things with the kanji and kana equivalence written on the post it.
There are plugins for most browsers that display kana above kanji for beginners and children to be able to read. Start with manga or news articles aimed at grade school children. Learn words in kana first and kanji will come with seeing them so frequently while reading.
Also stop being a weeaboo fuk. This won't matter to you in 10 years.
wanikani
Hi /Adv/. I'm 22 years old and Im a total failure. Im fat. I have no friends. I havent even started college.My family thinks im useless as fuck. I wasted my life playing video games basically. Can i still turn it around adv? Is there still hope for this fat fuck that doesnt even have job experience
What do you want out of life?
>>17366192
Yea, if you do everything right and nothing dramatic comes up.
You have to actually do shit correctly though, and more so than people who started early.
Your chances are pretty bad though and expect to hate life for the next 10 years.
>>17366199
I want to be able to make my parents proud of what i do. i want to make more than them as well (real estate developers...pretty hard). I wanna lose weight. I wanna have friends. but # one on my list is my parents and money
Ok so I asked out a girl i'm pretty close friends with, we've been friends for a couple years now and we tell each other pretty personal stuff. She rejected me (politely) and said she doesn't want this to hurt our friendship, what should I do? Keep being friends with her, or just let her go for good.
>>17366187
>what should I do?
Simply walk away.
If you want a relationship with her, her saying 'no' isn't going to change that. You'll develop stronger feelings for her and interactions will just become more awkward and it'll suck even more when you see her with another dude
She wants just a friendship. You don't. Just leave it at that and start talking to other chicks, or at least do other things to get her off your mind.
Never pretend...
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>>17366258
It's gonna be tough seeing how she still is asking to play games and stuff, but I can't feel guilty for my feelings and my sanity i feel like is more important than being her friend.
>>17366187
friendship = friendzone
You brought this on yourself desu.
Okay, so I have a group of friends and within this group is this girl I kinda fancy. She isn't too part of the group, she doesn't attend too many events, hangouts, etc.
Here is the basic timeline, met her about 4 months ago, my friends added her to our groupme app. I started to make it a meme saying that I loved her, and she breaks my heart. Then I find out she has a bf, I still continue my meme, and create a separate groupme that included only her and I as a joke. She breaks up with her bf, then on this group she begins to message me,s tarted off as drunk...
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Also she's been texting me don't really know if I should respond
An hero then
Ask her out for a drink, just the two of you.
Alright adv I need some advice big time.
My boyfriend invited me to his family vacation about a month ago. He reassured me the entire time that i would go and his mom was very open to letting me join them, expenses payed and everything. Things between us aren't so great, he's been acting very distant in the past couple of weeks.
Well anyways this morning was the day they were supposed to pick me up and take me along with them, but that didn't happen... Instead I was waiting with my bags ready and shit but instead he sent me a text message saying...
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>>17366179
Yes, you're definitely right to be mad. I would be furious. Do you live together?
>>17366183
No we don't, were both college students living with our parents and Ive only seen him twice all summer
>>17366190
Dump his ass. He doesn't respect you and he has definitely been talking shit about you to his parents. He is already most likely going to cheat on you/dump you, so you might as well beat him to the punch.
You are young and should be with someone who treats you well. Don't waste your time in a relationship going nowhere.
How do I get into a new group of friends at 22? I'm in a big group of friends but I never get invited to shit unless everyone is explicitly openly invited, and it made me realize I'm not actually considered a real friend.
I used to proudly say that I was a heartless robot without feelings, but in truth I realized that I'm social and that I like socializing, and now I get easily bored and lonely.
I guess keep pretending to be a heartless robot. Pulled the same shit back then, everyone loved it. The only guy people care about is the whole who can't give a shit. Why?
He never complains.
are you still in school? what are your interests?
>>17366164
Do a college course, join a class doing something, start a new hobby. All the normal ways of meeting people.
>be a girl's bf for less than a month
>fuck literally 3 times
>always used condoms
>she does the pregnancy test and says she's positive
>says she'll do some med analysis tomorrow
What the fuck? What the fuck procedes from now on? What can I do to save myself from this one, /adv/? I'm literally trembling in fear.
>fucking someone you barely know
gg, op
>>17366159
is this bait?
> less than a month
how do you the father isn't the guy fucking her before you got together?
have you ever had condoms break? or just said "what the hell" even once?
In short.... I have no will to live.
It's not a suicidal thought, I really just have no will to live, I carry on my days like I'm in autopilot, having ideas to do things, but failing at them because I quickly lose interest in them.
I know I'm able do great things or just be another pawn like everyone else.
My question is, how does one get a will to live?
¯\_(ツ)_/¯
>>17366143
Find ways to retain hope and spark passion.
As for how to do that I'm trying to find myself...
Good luck nontheless!
>>17366143
Browsing /adv/ probably isn't giving you many reasons to live.
