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Out of sheer curiosity, what do you guys do to develop yourselves ? What are some skills that one can develop, and what do you do when you want to have fun ? I could use some advice on personal development, please.
>>17367339
Learning languages and reading books is what I do.
I'm learning Georgian and Norwegian.
I'm reading "The Interpretation of Dreams" by Freud.
Reading = learning
Learning = learning
>>17367339
When I feel uncomfortable doing something out of insecurity, I always just do it anyway and teach myself to overcome my fears and anxiety. It's incredibly powering.
I find my very favorite music. The internet has been the most helpful tool for this. I also use it to find interesting books, movies, games, etc.. I try to be of benefit to everyone I meet, since most are not SS Officers asking where the Jews are. I try to be as healthy as possible, which is tough when you're poor.
That's about all I can pull off atm. I'd like to do more, but for a person without money that's not too shabby. Contrary to popular opinion, I don't consider the times I got my dick wet an achievement. The people I got to know in the...
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Hi /adv/
>Be me
>23 years old
>Recently graduated college
>B.A in Psychology
>The only jobs offered in my city are social work related
>Got hired as a Family Case Manager
>18 dollars an hour
>Have to deal with drug addicts and all sort of criminals
>I fucking hate it
>I...
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>>17367335
start your own practice where you get to choose the people that aren't gonna give you mental problems.
>>17367344
I don't get it... how would I start my own practice? can you be more specific?
Why in the fuck would you study psychology if you hate dealing with people? You never had this thought in the last 5 fucking years?
So I'd like to look a bit what healthier and add more volume / thickness to my hair, what's the best I can do? Also can I use conditiones used by woman to achieve this? Or do I need specific men conditioners?
quick bump
>>17367334
>what kind of haircut you want
>dude just give me a sideways mop lmao
I live about 120 miles from a major city (Los Angeles). There is nobody really here where I live. As a result, I feel like I'm being ignored on OKCupid very often because of my location.
The thing is, I travel to LA 2-5 times a month for fun.
I was thinking about changing my location to Los Angeles and, in my self-summary, clarifying that I don't actually live in LA, but I travel there often.
Does this sound like a good idea?
If you're willing to travel for a girl, the put your location in the area that you will travel too. If she's really interested as you are, she won't mind you traveling, and vis-versa. But I wouldn't say it's unwise to clarify that you are open to travel.
Goodluck out there mate, you'll find the right one.
And hey, if she's not your type, after your date, fuck it, go to a bar or pub and have a drink, who knows you might meet someone there too.
If the date is bad, enjoy yourself in the city.
Damn what city do you live in? Just curious cuz I live in Hesperia myself
What exactly is up with the notion that suicidal people are only that way for attention?
I never really understood that. Whether it's mild or severe suicidalism, there's that stereotype dictating that attention seeking is the main goal. I mean, to be in that state is doing an awful lot just to be histrionic. The closest I can come up with was remembering a couple kids at my high school who claimed to be suicidal for attention (or so it came off). But a). that was high school, and I kind of expect weird shit like this from people in that age range; and b). this...
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>you'll all be sorry when I'm gone
>>17367275
For the same reason people will say things like "OMG I'm soooo OCD, I can't stand it when my car is a mess lol."
They're making light of a situation they don't understand. When in reality, OCD is a crippling mental illness that has nothing to do with just liking things to be tidy.
People who don't have a problem can't understand what it's like to have that problem. So they fill in the holes any way they can. Often times they get it horribly wrong. When enough...
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>>17367280
What would your country have to gain from your existence? Serious question especially considering how you stated I would be sorry when you are gone.
If you endeavored to find cures for cancers. Enhanced methods of non benefecial bacterial avoidance.
Pretty much if you endeavor to prolong life or have an extremely logical sense of thinking so youd be a serious candidate if you ever are considering election; To lead your country so you can promote a sense of wealth in all aspects within each citizen. In...
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I moved to my college year round for summer classes, with two friends who were really close to me my freshman year of college, a roommate from that year and someone I had met at orientation before that..
I thought everything in our set up was going to be fun, us being friends, me being introduced to local friends theough the roommate who lives here...
Boy was I fucking wrong.
They shut down as soon as we moved in, roommie 1 got a girlfriend and we haven't seen him except twice in the past month when he dropped by his checks for utilities and rent. He won't spend time with us any more, and the other roommate and I feel uncomfortable about it as a result.
It's only two of us in this rather large apartment, and he spends a lot of his time locked in his room with a headset on, so I'm stuck alone when he's at work and doesn't want to hang at home. I'm feeling so dependent on him for human companionship that I think I annoyed him, he treats me nicely but often wants to hangout away from me and not invite me out with his friends any more.
I'm so depressed that I honestly break in to tears daily now, I'm turning 20 in a few months, I shouldn't feel like this, I shouldn't break down when I come home for a weekend and break down in my parent's arms because I'm so lonely and happy to see their faces.
My problem is my schedule I think
I'm looking for a job currently to fill the gaps betweb classes so I don't spend all my time alone in this place. I have no local friends that are living here for the summer, so I spend all day watching netflix, working out, playing pokemon go, and jerking off for days on end, going to class on four days of the week.
I don't know how to make friends in this city, I don't have any special hobbies, I am gay but hate grindr. I need help, or I may need to seek therapy for suicidal thoughts. I just want this crippling, almost physical pain to just end already.
Someone please help
Tldr - moved for school, summer so nobody is here that I know, clingy to roommate so he dislikes me now. Considering suicide if this is all adult life is
Even finding an online community would be nice to fill this shitty void
Don't panic anon, I didn't make any friends in college and I survived. Looking for a job will definitely help you since it seems you have too much free time and you don't know how to spend it. I fucking hate it when somebody acts friendly with me and a few days after they just stop giving a shit. Just try meeting new people, join a club, find people that have the same interests as you and you will be fine. Fuck your roommates, let them fucking die.
Through a weird turn of events I've wound up in possession of the cell phone number of my favorite pornstar... what do?
>>17367263
>"uuhhh... yeah... uhh.. hi... i masturbate to your... videos... is there any chance you and i... could... uhh.. be together one day?"
>>17367271
>"i swear, you'll never catch me looking at another porn star if we are together"
A.
Just call her up like you would any broad, be you. Don't throw sex in on the first convo. What's the worse she can do? Hang up? Who gives a fuck, her whole body and sex tapes are out there. So what you didn't get lucky and experience it. She's one in 8 billion people.
If she's close to you, ask her out for dinner and get lucky.
B.
Call her up, ask her how much she costs for appointments. Who gives a fuck if she say yes/no. Again all her shit is online at your disposal
How do I grow my hair pic related long and make it look glorious? Right now I have pretty short hair, but I've always thought I'd grow it out.
Do I go get a certain haircut first?
What are the steps?
How long or tiring is the process?
Any tips or general advice?
Personal experience?
Thanks in /adv/ance.
>>17367234
Are you a dude?
>>17367243
Yes.
>>17367251
Then don't.
I'm in a hospital room next to an old man, I can't fall asleep due to his snoring, how do I stop his snoring? I'm becoming homicidal by now
>>17367233
Tell a nurse hes bothering you. They should be able to move your room without embarrassing him and you.
>>17367249
Nobody is around, it is 2:30 pm here and i don't want to bpther them since I'm leaving tomorrow
>>17367249
Nvm I found a perfect solution, I've opened a window and made a draft, which he fucking hates
Is it worth losing your virginity to an escort?
What are some recommended precautions I should take?
>inb4don'tgoforanescort
pic unrelated
I usually Google their phone numbers and try to find additional ads and reviews of their services.
It's not worth it Tbh
i lost my virginity to a street worker prostitute, wasnt worth it at all.
I did tried an escort once, it was honestly better, if you find the right one it will be the same as a one night stand with a hot girl that make everything for you to feel good.
your call, mate.
Is it actually reliable? If so, what should i start with and what to keep in mind?
>Literally sit on the floor on some kind of mat
>Focus on keeping your mind clear and letting any thoughts that come up drift off
>Do this for 20 minutes a day every day for the rest of your life
>>17367238
This. It actually helps a lot with stress.
>>17367238
>try to meditate to relieve stress
>thoughts keep coming and coming and don't drift away
>have a panic attack
Fuck it, I'll stick to my hentai to numb my mind into submission thank you. [spoiler] Send help [/spoiler]
Hi /adv/
One of my best friends and I are gonna rent an apartment together. I'm a guy and she's a girl. To cut to the chase, there probably is a little bit of sexual tension between us. But we have the same way of thinking/ethics, both relaxed, and have never gotten into a big arguement before.
Is this a sound idea?
Is there something I should know going into this?
Any other related advice?
Thanks
You'll end up fucking, which may or may not cause a problem later.
>>17367181
>Is this a sound idea?
Eh...
>Is there something I should know going into this?
You two *are* going to fuck. Within the first 6 months, I'd wager.
>Any other related advice?
If you end up trying to turn it into a fwb arrangment, the only way I've found to keep jealousy at bay is to agree to secretly keep screwing even when dating other people. I've had three fwb in my life, and the two times...
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>>17367205
This.
I was in bed with my gf. I started jerking off with my right hand and then i fingered her with the middle finger of that same arm. Can she get pregnant? I didn't cum before i touched her but I think there was some precum on my dick. Thanks in advance
This is exactly why human beings shouldn't breed with retards.
>>17367137
Not if you both get castrated before she misses her period
>>17367137
>that pic
I cringed
Am I crazy because I think the world is full of demons. Like people who have an exception talent or fuck tons of girls have like a higher level of demons then say a basement dweller. And the reason why drugs are illegal is because they open your eyes to it and things like alcohol and cigarettes don't have that effect but weed and mdma have the effect
yes you do anymore drugs you could reach levels of batshit.
>>17367138
Like actually snap and black out and wake up in a psych center or just like sit in a basement all day holding a cross and telling people about evil
If it's the latter I can probably work through it and just ignore it. Plus I fucking hate God so even if the shit was true I wouldn't care.
>>17367131
Sounds like you're a druggy yourself and try to justify your own use.
The demons shit is a pretty common picture because our culture is very strongly influenced by fan fiction to a Jewish book with all the crap in, and that's where your mind drifts once it gets impaired.
>And the reason why drugs are illegal is because they open your eyes to it
Easy to kill this stupid idea; weed is legal in many countries, and even in the ones where it isn't, there...
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My girlfriend bought a vibrator to see what it's like. We could use it together and she can use it when she's horny and I'm not around. I'm completely fine with this, I even encouraged it.
My question now is: Could this impact our sex-life to the point where sex without the vibrator becomes less enjoyable to her? Should I be worried about this?
She has no problem having orgasms during sex and when I eat her out or finger her. Could this change after she's used her vibrator a few times?
I'd say it can only become an issue if there is no emotional attachment between you too. Is your relationship only about sex? If no, chances are she would much rather make love to you, a living human being, than her vibrator.
>>17367112
>Could this impact our sex-life to the point where sex without the vibrator becomes less enjoyable to her?
Sex is multidimensional. She might grow to really like the stimulation of the vibe, but you are a real person, one she has strong feelings for. The vibe cannot compete with you there. If anything, she'll be asking you to use it on her as foreplay.
>Should I be worried about this?
No.
>>17367140
That's not an issue at all.
She doesn't like masturbating much because she she can't climax as hard (if at all) as when we're having sex.
I'm just wondering if her using a vibrator might affect how sensitive she is significantly.
She obviously wouldn't use it regularly, but when we don't see eachother for a while it would be useful for her when she's feeling horny.
