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I dont really know where else to turn with this, so I thought I would just put it out there.
I have had the worst last 8 months of my life. My best friend of 12 years died in a car crash, my wife left me after almost a whole year of a loveless farce and my band who i spent most of my time working on broke up. It was the lowest point of my life, and i did attempt suicide but was unsuccessful. I wanted nothing more than to die; every night as i went to sleep i would dream of killing myself. Then, things started improving in life. I discovered new friends, took mdma and lsd for the first time and had amazing experiences, my writers block disappeared, i started a new band with some amazing people, but best of all im now in a relationship with my best friend; a girl I've known for so long who even helped me through my marriage breakdown. She meant the world to me as a friend and meana even more to me now.
Life seems to be getting better, but my suicidal urges haven't gone away. At night when i sleep alone i still think of ways to do it, and i have found myself hating myself saying that its all temporary and that everyone will leave again. I thought that when things started getting better the thoughts subside but its still there. Its got me thinking: what is the point of being happy when you still want to die? Nothing will change it. What is wrong with me?
I have suicidal thoughts when im sad and i have them when im happy. What is the point?
Are you doing MDMA regularly? Serotonin loss no joke, I've never been suicidal (besides the "oh, I just wish I'd never wake up" feeling that I'm sure everyone has), but the days following heavy ecstasy use I'd start contemplating ways to kill myself.
If not that, then maybe you're not as happy as you think you are? Maybe you think you're happy because these "good" things have been happening to you, and because your life seems like it's on an upward slope. But there's still probably something missing... do you actually care for your best friend beyond friendship?
I don't know. I guess what I'm saying is that maybe you're not truly happy, maybe you just feel the need to THINK you're happy because good things have been happening.
>>17365897
>suicidal urges haven't gone away
They don't go away. Or at least they haven't for years for me. And it's fine. I have develped a part of my personality to dismiss them instantly, because I believe that suicide is 100% against my beliefs.
>>17365905
Semi-regularly. Like once a fortnight but ill do 2-3 during the night. LSD once a month if that. I know its dangerous but fuck it i lost out on being 18 and 19 because i decided to get married young. Fucking dumb idea.
To be perfectly honest I've cared for her more than just a friend for longer than I can think. Even my ex-wife told me that she thought we would be good for each other. I think im starting to feel love again, but its only recent so time will tell.
You make sense though anon. I just equate good things with happiness. If something is missing i wish i knew what it was.
Can someone please explain an autistic manchild what's going on with the world right now, and what can I do about it?
I'm in northern europe, disqualified from the military, regularly needing nonvital medication, and I have no idea what's happening. Turkey had or did not have a coup, Russia is becoming more Russia, China is starting a war with somebody over some sea or something, the US is about to elect a talking turnip for a president, Africa has been weirdly quiet, the UK is about to break into pieces, and I have anxiety.
What can I, being white native-born scandinavian not living in a large city, expect to happen next? Should I be preparing for a war or famine over here, what is a realistic course of action right now?
I have no family of my own but I have a mom and a sister to look after. And I'm worried.
>>17365878
You should open your home to immigrants and let them fuck your relatives
Its the right thing to do
>>17365881
I'm sorry I called your candidate a turnip.
Can we have some actual answers?
>>17365921
I'm sorry you live in an irrelevant country
Hello anons, take the time of the day and love yourself, because if we don't start, we can't expect others to do the same for us.
Sure sometimes things maybe terrible and are out of control. But take that first step, and love youself. No matter what you think you are, there's bound to be parts of yourself that you love
Go on and get lovin'
Pic unrelated
Tell em
My nigga
Neat sentiment, but despite any accuracy it's devoid of even basic utility.
I haven't slept in 35 hours, it's 11:38 am, and I'm going to continue keeping myself awake with stimulants while drugging myself into apathy with sedatives.
>>17365879
I don't get it, are you loving yourself with that action or nah?
looking to self teach myself to drive.
I got a car and a huge empty parking lot to myself.
Is it possible and if so where do I need to look for info and tutorials.
also I'll be driving a manual car.
Yes, it's possible, but you might damage the car, someone else or their property.
Get a realistic car simulator with a clutch and drive that first
Tutorial:
>get in
>put seatbelt on
>make sure handbrake is on
>Press the clutch pedal to the bottom, and keep it there
>move the gear stick to first position
>fully press the brake pedal
>start the engine (fully rotate the key)
>disengage hand brake
>slowly disengage brake pedal (if you're horizontal it should be ok)
>VERY slowly: disengage the clutch until the car starts shaking - keep it in position. if you disengage too much, the engine will die
>accelerate just slightly
Congratulations, you're a driver
To stop, press BOTH the clutch and brake pedals
>>17365902
Also, to stop driving just follow the EXACT reverse order.
Leave the car with either 1st speed (if you're going up) or reverse speed engaged. (if you're going down). Don't leave it neutral unless the terrain is perfectly horizontal
Why does it seem like I always have nothing to talk about ? it's not about social anxeity, even with people who are close to me ( friends - family ) I have nothing to talk about, it's just awkward silence or talking about stupid shit to evade awkward silence.
>>17365851
Better to be silent than talking about useless shit
I mean, I was like you, I was worried I had nothing to say. That was because I had nothing light hearted to say and I would rather talk about something interesting.
I learned that being silent is often the way to go. Only talk when you have something important to say. At most, I have one conversation per week with my acquaintances, usually about school and to catch up. Those are for maintenance rather than winning impressions.
No, beeing serous doesnt work. If you wanna be miserable and alone for the rest of your life go and do what you do but if you want to talk with people and i assume you want that , otherwise you wouldnt post this here, listen practice the golden rule
<make an observation about a shitty think in your enviromnent,then ask shitty dump questions. After that start feeding the conversation with more questions etc. Its better with people even when you talkk about useless shit
>talking about stupid shit to evade awkward silence
It's 99% of all talks on this globe, just git gud at at repressing the void.
Also this 1% happens sometimes and changes lots for you.
What tools are best for removing a tiny shard from my brother's sole?
needle, alcohol
Exorcist
Sanitized tweezers. Once you get it, make sure to rubbing alcohol it, dry it, add neosporin and bandaid.
Hey /adv/ice.
Got a 10 mg vial. It says 7/2016 is it expired?
I wanna shoot it now.
But what do ?
Not expired, do it
Dont do drugs
Can anyone tell me if its expired?
Bump bump
>smoking cigarette outside depressed in morning
>head swimming with despair and shame
>neighbor normie Chad comes home from wherever and he's cussing at someone, he can see me
>start nearly having a panic attack because I'm a neet subhuman
Is this normal?
Given that you frame yourself as inferior, yes, it's normal for a broken and deficient thing to panic at perceived contrast.
At such a point you might as well get down on your knees and orally pleasure Chad on the spot. Let him use your ass if he wants. Because functioning in such a way renders you slave to Chad and probably everyone else kin your environment.
Ditch this notion of weighing yourself relative to some ideal, if you aren't using it to improve. It's naive and shows you don't know how life or people work.
>>17365839
>Ditch this notion of weighing yourself
You do know that acting like nothing you say or do has any societal effect is just as stupid as assuming it has everything to do with such, yes?
>>17365910
Depends what you mean by "societal effect". Some people's impact on their environment as far as branching outcomes probably really would be trivial, with any minute differences in other people quickly reconverging to the general range they would have been had you not existed at all. The idea of a butterfly effect is quite real, but often overstated in short range magnitude.
Otherwise, yes, it's incorrect to assume you're invisible. Or whatever you're trying to say. The point is that the OP would be served much better with a different lens to view the world.
>Age
>Professional occupation / Area of studies
>Number of sexual partners
>Number of relationships
>Something random about you / how you feel
22
Journalism
3
4
When I was a kid, I didn´t have a lot of friends or a very dynamic social life, so I spent a lot of time practicing the piano and learning about music with my grandmother, who at one point was a private piano teacher
>>17365825
>20
>I've a profession (winery) but I dont work in it, would like to learn languages and something engineer lel
>0
>0
>I feel like shit
fuck
>>17365830
You fucked yourself up and he wasn't even trying to fuck you up.
>>17365825
26
Attorney
over 20
1
never want a husband or kids
Why would someone need friends?
>>17365818
To test your thoughts and beliefs - if you assume they are Human like you and you accept that your perceived truths can be factually wrong then friends would be a good way to test your perception; you could just argue with strangers, but you can also find people with similar interests (read: interests, not beliefs) and have prolonged conversations over the course of multiple meetings about topics which you wish to speak about.
These friends can introduce new things to you such as music, ideas and activities.
Thee friends can be connections for you to something you wish to access such as drugs or cheaper prices on items.
Being in a group of people you have grown to be more comfortable around can make you feel good if you do something with them. Going out in public with a group of trusted people can make you feel more safe or more confident.
These friends can possibly help you out if you are having an issue such as emotional confusion or money troubles.
I'm probably overlooking a lot of things so if I remember them, I'll come back an post them.
If you don't agree with anything I've posted, please confront me on it.
>>17365818
Basically what >>17366573 said alongside.
>help you get a job
>your friends are connected to other people
>doesn't hurt to have someone lookout for you
>you're less likely to be an autistic edgelord or at least appear so
>one of the friends can become your future gf/bf or spouse depending on how things go
>see things in from another's perspective
>>17366585
>>see things in from another's perspective
This is the one that has always interested me.
>>one of the friends can become your future gf/bf or spouse depending on how things go
This one too, I completely forgot to mention how deep and rewarding a relationship can become.
To all the femanons lurking here, I'm making this topic as an attempt to help you out. /adv/ helped me a little in overcoming my problems approximately 3 years ago. This is my attempt at paying the board back with words of wisdom.
This is directed to all the females here, but guys can listen in, too, and perhaps learn something.
Ever since I've entered the social sphere, grew confidence and got a life (so to speak), I've been observing women. Trying to understand them. Attempting to find a long-term partner. In my introspections to discover what I'm looking for, I've discovered a flaw in modern women, that very few people are aware of. Now I know what that last sentence sounds like, but bear with me here:
The word of the day is 'confidence'.
Women, like men, come with a certain set of behaviors and desires that are instilled in us by our very genes, by evolution itself. One such trait is a woman's instinct to find confidence in a man. Girls, you are handling this trait horribly wrong. 99.9% of all girls I've ever met strut around - trying to find the "perfect" guy like you're entitled to it. You refuse to date men who don't show confidence. I'm here to tell you - straight up, no bullshit - you will never find your "significant other" by dating only confident men.
I was a guy who had no self esteem. Confidence is one of the greatest achievements any guy could have. It's the gateway to success for us. Confidence can move fucking mountains. Now, when it comes to a relationship, it's crystal clear to me what does and doesn't make for a happy couple. I know this is going to sound extremely biased, but I swear on my life it's true. Girls who date guys without self-esteem are signing up for a relationship with the true potential to last a lifetime.
>>17365809
Why? Because if you support a guy who's on the ground, reach down and pull him up, inspire him to do greatness, he will be in-debted to you. His greatest moments in life will be a memory you share with him. That shit, right there, is "80 year old grandma & grandpa who married at 20 and are still happy together" material.
I know first hand of what it's like to build confidence all alone, without anyone's support. And sadly, that's what modern man is used to. Most guys are like me. We get our shit together on our own. And it's not fun. Not one bit. It's hard. And it instills a sense of distrust in women. Even if most of us don't realize it, we still know on a subconscious level that most women just want to use us. We do not respect you. On top of that, our confidence makes us aim higher and look for women who really are the complete package. A confident man is a highly wholesome creature most of the time. We now look for special and rare women who can unlock whatever hidden potential remains in us. Very few men out there are capable of maintaining their integrity after having built up their confidence. You're nothing to them. They're out of your league. Even if they have a 3/10 face or no money. Your intellect is nothing to them. Most things you complain about in men, though, are ultimately your doing.
Feminism is big these days. So I say grab that issue by it's horn and even the playing field on the dating scene. Guys ask out shy girls and losers all the time. It's high time you tried it out, too. Because real love blooms where both people are willing to help eachother grow and better themselves. And a confident guy? Well, there's not much need for him to grow anymore, so good luck trying to find meaning in that relationship.
In closing, you should aspire to build confidence in men, as opposed to seeking out those who already have it.
I guarantee your love life will improve.
Tl;dr
I am probably going to kill myself in the immediate future.
I've come close 2 times in the last month.
It just feels inevitable.
I have a gun.
What are you waiting for faggot?
Why not plan put how you can make your life better, then try executing on that plan? You have nothing to lose so take risks
LIfe is short.Why you want to make it even shorter? Its a dumb thing. Its better to leave everything and go to the unknown life. Go and get experiences. Up above my friend up abbove. Try to accomplish 20 Pull ups. Then when you do that. Rething your suicide
>be me
>degenerate kinkster with equally kinky girlfriend of 4 years
>finally decide to open relationship as we both find a seperate side hoe.
>she just fucks this one guy, his dick is smaller than mine on all count idgaf but that's what she tells me
>I, on the other hand, get my dick sucked by 4 other women on the reg
>problem in the air
>every one of these girls wants me to be a Daddy Dom
11 girls in a row now do this to me. Are auras real? Do I bleed daddy? Everyone of these chicks are 18 and I'm 23. Is this a statistical thing? Should I stop being a faggot and enjoy the ride before I hit 24 and it all floats away?
Why is it that every one of these girls, very literally, wants me to rape them?
Stats
5'7" Manlet italian
Slim, muscular, long hair to the mid of my back
Where do you find these girls are perhaps a better question. Online? What do you tell them your kinks are? Spanking? Obviously you'll get a lot of littles to take care of then. You seem attracted to a certain type so it is not that weird that they all end up being similar. If you are in the kink scene and attracting subs, it's not that odd that they want you to take charge or pretend to be forcing yourself onto them.
What is actually your issue? That they make you feel old? They are living out a fantasy, you're helping them, it's lust. It got nothing to do with your looks or age. Stop obsessing over it or find either a vanilla or more dominant girl to play with.
>>17365843
Actually, yeah. Mostly tinder.
I guess my frustration comes from the fact that I've never had a vanilla relationship in my life.
It's all good fun, but maybe I should go to bars if I'm looking for someone more average in taste.
I'm also an aspie that's forced myself to communicate with people until I got it right. Maybe it's time I took a leap forward and tried actually gaming.
>>17365783
no one should be in a serious relationship until they get the fucking out of their system. Fuck you are only 24. Couple other milestones. Women get close to 30 and they go dick crazy again and again at 40. Just know if you are in a relationship they will fuck other men.
I'm so done with my family, like really. Done.
Let me bring you up to speed...
My Mother is always a bitch, and screams and fucking says mean things. Always in a bad fucking mood.
Like I can barely talk to her without her saying stop.
My Father is not bad, generally nice and alright. If he gets drunk he is a bitch a lot of the time, saying mean things and just being an asshole.
My Sister which just moved in after a divorce, screams as well, and fucking curses and has to have shit her way.
I'm always wrong, even if i'm being called terrible shit, always being controlled. It's terrible.
Yesterday a huge argument started because I wouldn't open the door to my sister because I was busy fucking jerking off.
She started banging on the door and I told her to fuck off, she immediately started fucking saying a whole load of shit, and screaming, saying things like ''What are you going to do?''
My Dad grabs me by the shirt and pushes me against my bed, screaming as well and saying how he is gonna break my computer and shit.
He later comes in and says Sorry, that it really was my sisters fault, and that she won't ever get a husband because she is to controlling.
Today, my Mom knocked on my door, and I just ignored it. I hear her saying shit and I go out and just tell her to fuck off, and leave me alone.
She tells me that she is going to call the Cops on me because I am to vulgar or something like that.
Again the blame is put on me, I am never right. I am the one to blame for this. I wish I could leave forever, but sadly I can't be gone for good.
Why is it so hard for me to be treated nicely and shown love? It's always negativity and just fucking hate.
What should I do /adv/?
>>17365778
Move out?
If they're paying for your school then just try to deal with it and then move out.
>>17365794
It's gonna be hard to deal with it man.
I can't help you because saying"fuck off" to your mom to me is unheard of and your family sounds rather trashy. I would implore you to change your ways OP and rise above the garbage heap set before you. Stop all your degeneracy, eat healthy, read more and do well in your studies. Always be kind to your family regardless of how trashy they might be. You may consider me the understanding wise father you never had.
I'm looking at my brand new Skylake computer screen after having just upgraded to Windows 10 last night. I haven't done anything to it besides install my Asus drivers. It's currently a completely virgin Windows 10 installation.
How do I make WIndows 10 as private as possible after upgrading?
You cant, it will always have telemetry and send your info to Microsoft.
Install Spybot Anti-Beacon
http://www.majorgeeks.com/files/details/spybot_anti_beacon_for_windows_10.html
