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Why do I fall in love with any woman who shows even the slightest amount of attention towards me?
It's not like I don't have experience with women. My longest relationship lasted almost 2 years. I don't think I have low self esteem since I take good care of myself and hold myself in high regard.
So why? Why does this keep happening to me? Am I just a hopeless romantic?
If by
>hopeless romantic
you meant autistic, yes.
>>17365042
it's not like I want it to keep happening, why the irony my friend?
>>17365036
Desperation and no real foresight / perspective.
You're not actually in love, you're infatuated because you desperately want positive female attention and are therefore starved as a result. You should probably shift your mindset to something else and learn to live with yourself on your own, rather than jumping in with what sounds almost literally anyone. You're also probably fabricating signals in noise.
>get told about a show by new friend
>enjoy show tell jokes people laugh everything is fine.
>after show new friend and her closer girlfriend make plans to do other stuff
>go outside to get hugged good bye
>waiting for urber to show up
>see them chatting it up waiting for their ride
>they walk off somewhere else and talk there
I feel a little bit excluded but I barely know this person so
Was I just totally beta?
Beta about what?
>>17365025
No? It's not beta to let two people who are clearly intimate with each other talk in private. This is kind of basic-to-mid-level socialization, bud.
>>17365057
That's a relief. Thanks!
I'm 25, and have never had a girlfriend or asked a girl out. How do I approach women I don't know?
>>17365013
you're too far gone, start digging your own grave.
Nigga how do you not know how to talk to human beings after 25 years on this planet?
>Go up to woman
>Say hi
>Compliment her
>Give her your name, ask hers
>Ask her questions, and start a conversation
Cmon bruh
>just b urself
Really you have to get to know them first. You don't just solicit strangers unless you're Fabio grade sexy or have enough money to compensate for all of your shortcomings. As far as how to get to know women... the wizard council has yet to figure that one out.
I've reached a situation that seems so palpable I'm sure others have been there, as absurd as it is:
I have a rather taboo sexual interest, which I share with my best friend. Over the last few days I feel like tons of shit has gone down. My friend recently had the opportunity to act on this interest which he'd never done before, I'm learning many of the people I know through this friend also have experience or interest here, and I may have an opportunity to act on it for my first time too.
I'm a really sensitive guy. All this stuff hits me like a train; I'm super excited but super scared and uncertain. A lot of questions that are often on my mind anyway now require a confident answer: What kind of person am I? What defines a person- their actions or thoughts? What sort of person do I want to be? Can you choose? etc.
Anyone else been here? What did you do and what did you learn?
What is this taboo sexual interest
>>17365015
getting boned by a handsome g shep
Is he introducing you into some pedo ring or something? What the fuck is your thread even talking about
Someone just called me a "gull" in a post, contextually it was completely uncalled for and the discussion had no connection to gulls.
What did he mean by this? Was it autocorrect or some weird slang?
Also if it's relevant at all, he said it because peacoats are my fetish
Found the gull
>>17365004
Im not a fucking gull. Puffins are my favorite sea bird.
>>17364997
It means someone who frequents /cgl/
>/cgl/
>C-gul
>seagull
>gull
I have aspergers and for that reason I produce a slew of anomalous test results
I am concerned that blind pre-employment screening might discriminate against me because my results could easily be mis-interpreted, but that similarly refusing to participate would rule me out of contention (officially or unofficially).
the problem is worsened by declaring that I have aspergers, because I would be certain to be discriminated against
most people have no idea what aspergers is, confuse it with classic autism or their knowledge is limited to media stereotypes
an employer would google it, and I would be at the mercy of their ill informed personal projection of what aspergers is
>>17364996
...Okay, so... what advice are you asking for, or are you just making 4chan a personal blog?
Just take the test, align your retarded puzzles and hope for the best aspie
>>17365002
I am looking for a solution that provides me with protection from unfair discrimination
Ausfag in high school in need of career advice. Always on the edge of dropping out due to mental health shit. Always unmotivated and dead inside. Recently I had an epiphany and that I didn't have one career in mind, and that there were many things I wanted to do.
>visual arts (something i've loved throughout my whole life, i've always been drawing and painting)
>fashion
>perfumery
>make up
>baking
I'm interested in all of these and I'd love to have careers in all of them throughout my life. What do I do? Right now I haven't been to school for like a month. Is it necessary for what I want to do? Should I finish up school or should I start picking up certificates and apprenticeships?
Any suggestions would be helpful.
>>17364985
>>visual arts (something i've loved throughout my whole life, i've always been drawing and painting)
>>fashion
>>perfumery
>>make up
Good fucking luck. These shouldn't be career plans if you've got bills to pay. Hobbies sure, then you can turn them into a career if you get lucky.
>>baking
Culinary schools will expect a high school diploma or similar, but a small time baker only needs to know how to bake.
Stay in school m8.
Finish school. You're not going to get anywhere in life without your high school degree, people will look down you, treat you like a retard, etc. You're not even far behind, you can easily catch up and pass with ease.
Unless you're part of the 1%, you're going to have to do hard work to get far in your life. This means that you have to start studying for your classes, doing the assigned work, and making sure that you do well. You can't let your personal feelings jeopardize your future. I didn't show up to High School my entire final year and didn't do any study at all, and I did fine; but that probably won't be your case.
Your pathway to whatever your final goal is, will be pretty varied; but it all starts with finishing High School.
Of all the things you mentioned, Fashion and Perfumery are probably the only viable options of them all, and even then they're extremely hard to get into, and will require an insane amount of luck. I'm friends with a girl who studied fashion at RMIT, got places on runways all around Oceania, but then couldn't break into the international market and got stonewalled.
Surely there are some subjects in High School that you find fun or interesting? Go talk to a careers adviser, whether it's at a University or in your High School.
>>17364985
DO NOT GO TO UNI, IT WILL RUIN YOUR LIFE. It's difficult and crazy stressful for people who are 100% mentally stable, it will not treat you kindly. just learn skills and crafts, make yourself a useful person. Also, deal drugs, it makes a lot of money.
so, I really need your opinions, me and my gf have been dating for about a year a few months now, and I need some opinions on things. My gf says im too protective and manipulative, but i dont think i am. Shes starting to make me feel like im manipulating her and shes making me feel like shit for saying how i feel. for instance, heres a scenario thats happening now
>me and gf chilling at my house, midnight, shes exhausted and is barely staying awake
>she was supposed to go over some guys hose at 11 to study
>not really okay with this, but i trust her and i dont make a fuss about it
>i tell her to just go home since shes so tired and she has work tommorow, shes also been working 6 days a week, so i was trying to tell her she needs her sleep
>she says shes gonna go home and go to bed
>she gets home, tells me shes going over this guys house to study and all
>i say no, you need your sleep (we had a similar sitiatuion to this a few months ago where i was pulling long hours at work and she told me to stay home a few nights and i did) so i didnt think this would go much differently
>she says she needs to get this work done, but shell leave in an hour and message me while shes there
>an hour goes by, no message
>call her to see if shes okay
>gets upset with me, tells me she needs to get this assigment done
Weve had stuff like this happen before, where she wants to do something stupid and i tell her she shouldnt or i just flat out tell her no , like one time she wanted to get trashed and go to another city to see some concert, which i said no to. am i being overprotective here? Im just trying to look out for her, shes awful at taking care of herself and i want to try and help her. im not trying to be controlling, i just trying to care for her. she does similar things to me too, and i listen to her, but when i do it back to her she always says im acting controlling or manipulative, and its tearing me apart. I dont think im controlling or anything, pic not related
shes just twisting my brain around, she makes me feel like shit for getting upset at things like this. i dont think shes manipulative, but i dont know. i just need some opinions here on what you all think. you guys normally set me straight on these kinds of things.
Who the fuck studies at midnight? The only thing she's been studying is that guy's anatomy m8. Girls these days have figured out that they can make guys keep their suspicions to themselves or get rid often completely by trying to turn things around and make you out to be a 'jealous' boyfriend, or emotionally abusuve etc. Her story is suspicious as fuck, and any sane man that cares about someone would also have concerns
>>17364972
>9
thats what im really worred about man, i think it was more to do some assigments or something, and her and this guy have the same class.but i told her to not go several times, and she just went anyway.
Whenever I think about aging I end up deciding I may ad well kill myself now because life as an old dried up piece of shit feels pointless to me and it's creeping up so very fast. How can I cure my vain obsession with youth and beauty?
Male or female?
i know wher ur coming from. my dog si the only thing that loves me. im never going to meet someone and have a real fimly fo my own. when my dog is gone illhave nothing left; litteraily. thats when ill probably kill myself. twenty now, dog is three. probably hass ten more yers. goodbye 30
>>17364941
I'm a guy but I'm super fem. Not a MtF/trap/tumblrkin though.
>told myself I would get /fit/ over the summer
>it's half the end of July and I haven't excersized once
JUST FUCK MY SHIT UP
Now that's a JUST!
Don't hang yourself!
You'll just break the roof beam.
There is no better time than now.
I can't stop talking to myself
When i'm not thinking about not doing it I inevitably start muttering nonsense
JESUS CHRIST
>>17364896
it's either stress or mental illness
see a doctor
>>17364902
Jesus christ I love you
>tfw you go somewhere you aren't really there
Where are you?
wat
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>>17364885
>>17364890
>>17364895
Let me preface this by saying that I am terrible at reading signals. The majority of my relationships thus far have begun online. That said...
There is a guy at my job who I really have a crush on. He seems to like me too. He greets me with 'hey pretty lady' regularly, says I'm funny, and seems interested to know the details of my dating life whenever they are brought up.
>For example, I told him about a funny interaction I'd had with a customer of mine and how she asked me about the men in my life, at which point he questioned me about who the men in my life were.
We regularly talk to each other about our goofy online dating mishaps (tinderlol) and I think (but can't be sure) he asked me out on a date? He asked what I was doing after work and when I told him nothing he said that he was planning on cancelling a date with some girl he didn't want to see and wanted to know if I'd like to come have a drink with him at a local restaurant. I declined because I was caught off guard, and also wearing some pretty gross work clothes. (I work with a lot of chemicals and such.)
Today he comes in and we goof around as per usual, but he tells me a couple of times about how he wants to talk to some other woman we know at our job. He has mentioned her before, too.
I've read in some places that when a guy talks casually with you about being interested in other women, he sees you more as a buddy and less as a love interest. Is this typically true? Did I just blow it super badly by declining to go out with him the other night?
Sounds to me like he just mentioned the other girl so you'd notice him more. So go for it. Worst case scenario you were option 2 behind that girl... And if you guys hit it off he'll most likely forget about her
>>17364875
he's probably not the type that gets hung up on a single girl, and so he's okay with moving on to the next one easily. He's gonna keep you guessing because everyone wants what they can't have.
He won't reject you if you "change your mind" though.
>>17364889
Nice! Thank you for your input.
>>17364903
Considering our previous interactions, you're probably right on this one.
So I was just reflecting. Earlier this week I said something to him about being afraid of every bump I hear in the night. I vaguely remember him saying something to me in regards to him owning a gun and how he should take me to the shooting range and teach me how to use it. Oblivious, I responded flatly "I have a dog and a taser. I think I'm good." Damndamn. How do I fix this? How do I let him know that I'm interested but just dumbaf?
I'm a female in my early twenties and I've never had sex. It's not my appearance or personality that's caused that, I'm just so scared of being emotionally vulnerable during sex. I've been with my current boyfriend for a while now and I'm worried that he is ready for that sort of relationship. How do I open up to him and not feel terrified whenever he brings up sex? Also, I'm noting that I've never been abused and had a happy childhood. Pic Unrelated.
>scared of being emotionally vulnerable
Can you elaborate?
>>17364873
Sure, I feel very guarded of my feelings and I don't want to get attached to people.
>>17364886
Not even your boyfriend? Huh.
I can't figure out what to do with my life, or even a hobby I can stick with. I want to be one of the best at something but I don't think I care about anything enough. What do?
fucking answer me, reeeeeeeeeee
>>17364852
>I can't figure out what to do with my life
> but I don't think I care about anything enough.
What did he mean by this?
>>17365922
>It's a lazy anon bitching about nothing episode
