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I've had Tinnitus for the last 4-5 months and while its slowly normalized to be barely noticeable, something weird has happened to my right ear.
Normally when I speak the sound is balanced. However when I "hum" with my mouth shut, its noticeably louder on the inner part of my right ear and it feels like the sound is slightly vibrating back inward. Any idea what could be the issue?
I tried ear drops to cleanse ear wax and for two days straight it was fine, but then it quickly reverted and now the drops no longer work. The ringing has also slightly...
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Anyone?
Any of these sounds match it? Which sounds the closest?
http://www.hearing.nihr.ac.uk/public/auditory-examples-sounds-of-tinnitus
>>17364276
Closest would be sound 11 and even then its a lighter/higher pitch and isn't remotely as loud as any of them.
The tinnitus is in both ears but the right ear has become noticeably worse in the last two weeks as well as that issue in my OP where when I hum with mouth closed, it sounds like the sound is "vibrating" in the inner/lower part of my ear.
So I discontinued my use of Antidepressants in early June and it's now been about 40 days.
When I was on Antidepressants my dick didn't work too well.
Now that I'm off antidepressants my dick is in overdrive.
I have a social worker who I have to see about 5 times a week, several times a day and it's been happening that every time I go see her I'll get a boner.
I'm pretty sure that at this point she's noticed, but it's just an awkward thing between us.
How the fuck do I handle this? I'm scared that...
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>>17363999
if she's your social worker she should understand
is she hot?
Tell her exactly what you just told us if she says something. Otherwise, just try not to make a big deal of it.
>>17364247
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I like calling the suicide hotline a bit too much. I don't have money and I can't afford a therapist and it's always a nice sweet girl telling me it's alright.
Do they know who calls a lot? How many people do they have answering? What are the chances of getting the same person twice? I have no friends, no friends whatsoever. I can't cope with my life.
Do they know if you "abuse" the hotline by using it too much to talk to people?
Wanna talk?
>>17363964
I have no friends
I have no family living near me
I have nothing to do
I don't enjoy video games anymore
I don't have anyone to talk to in real life
I don't enjoy walking outside because I have social phobia and being around people makes me so uncomfortable the idea of ever small talking makes me feel physically sick
I have nobody. I have nothing. The only reason I'm alive is so that my parents wouldn't be sad. The idea of them sitting in their couch knowing "Wow he killed himself. My son killed himself" makes me not do it.
But I still want to
If it's a suicide hotline I doubt they care.
Haven't really spoken about this with anybody, so I guess that the best place to open up.
My Mother is overprotictive and controlling of me. A lot of the time she is screaming and bitching at me and says mean things.
My Dad is cool, but sometimes when he is drunk (A lot of the time) He is an asshole is very mean as well.
I never noticed how much of a bitch my Sister is, ever since she moved back in after getting divorced I have noticed that she is so stupid.
Trying to be right in any situation, fucking screams for anything, and has gotten into some huge...
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Its tough because it sounds like you're not in a very healthy family position.
How old are you? What do they say? If you are from the US it is not unheard of for the younger generation to have strained relationships with their family because of lack of productivity. Just in regards to what you said about your mother screaming and bitching. Why does she? Are you lazy? Do you have a college degree and actively looking for a job?
Assuming your family isn't a complete and utter mess and you're just being slightly over sensitive, I would suggest you take...
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>>17364047
I'm 18.
My mom has called me plenty of things like useless, faggot and etc.
Sometimes it's over anything.
Honestly I like being on my computer a lot, and I don't really help out that much.
I still shouldn't be treated like shit because of it though.
>>17364066
>Honestly I like being on my computer a lot, and I don't really help out that much.
Thats not healthy, especially at your age. You're young and you can't imagine how upsetting it is for parents to watch their children sit their like zombies. I've seen it for myself. Its a vicious cycle, parents get stressed and vent frustration, the child withdraws even further into computers.
You need to get out of the house and do something with your life. Are you...
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First time poster here. What is this website? I don't really get it and recently my boyfriend has been spending less time with me and more time on here. I always catch him on here but he tabs to something else. So what sort of website is it?
I don't have many memes on my phone so sorry for the image with this post.
>>17363880
Anonymous image board site where autists gather and talk/post about random topics
The topic depends on the board
Like tumblr with worse porn.
Nice bait. Anyway, pick "random" section from starting page and you'll know.
What's the best country to disappear to? I live in the UK, not happy with my life at all, thought about it for a year and a bit. I plan on leaving my country and everyone I know including parents, to live by myself. I would prefer somewhere with beautiful mountains and is kinda warm. Anyone have a similar experience either?
I would join you OP, the Swis alps or some shit haha.
>>17363876
You could move to Canada?
Its a cold, snowy winter, but if you live somewhere like southern Alberta or British Columbia where it's generally a bit warmer, much sunnier and you live right near the mountains it's pretty nice.
Pic related is downtown Calgary, Alberta. I don't know if it's a common thing elsewhere in the world but in Calgary we get "chinooks", these warm mountain winds that can bring the temperature back up to about 15 Celsius even in the middle of the winter.
>>17363938
Thanks for the advice, and I'm moving next year I'm sure of it
I believe I am mentally disabled because I neglected a part of my life where it was crucial for me to attempt to understand and challenge my brain.
For the first 13 years I was a complete little shit.
I refused to do school work and anything that mentally challenged me.
At this point im 19 and I've completely given up home for me to learn anything new.
I have no true passion, I get EASILY discouraged and I always forget a information while in the process of learning that subject. And when I say forget I mean I'm talking about chapters upon...
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You are thinking too much about the past which is why you cannot focus on the present or member stuff. Start off creating a hello world program. Then try simple operations. Better yet go on codecademy. You can repeatedly do exercises until you are master programmer. Good luck.
See if you have a learning disability and maybe try to get ADHD or ADD medication. That might help but removing ingrained habits will take a lot of will power and won't just happen immediately. Your still young so you could go to trade school and learn something more hands on and still make great pay. If your still going to stick with your major see what languages are taught in the introductory course, get a few books and try to learn it over the summer. If you can't do that you might want to reevaluate what exactly you want to do. But saying I'm lazy, I can't...
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>>17364334
Yeah, it was. Thank you.
>>17364131
Thank you too.
Is 18 and 15 a weird age difference? It's legal in my country btw, and I really like her but don't want people to think I'm a creep or something
Yea, especially if you're out of highschool and she isn't.
>>17363849
Yeah, I just graduated and she has 3 years left. Damn, I never thought about it this way.
It's fine man, that isn't a huge gap. It's quite common so just go for it.
I just got a job at a gas station a month ago, and I've gotten really sick twice in that time, causing me to miss work, and that looks very bad.
How can I stay healthy?
I'm a fit guy: I exercise, sleep 6-9 hours a night, eat well most of the time, and I don't even drink anymore.
I'm blaming handling all the cash given to me by these rednecks who come in three times a day on getting me sick so far.
>>17363824
There isn't much you can do about a shitty immune system.
>>17363827
I usually don't get sick often, normally just like a minor cold twice a year.
I moved from a really urban area to a really rural area in a different state, so I don't know if that makes a difference.
>>17363824
Anything else?
There's this girl from highschool I always sort of liked who asked me to homecoming dance once and I said no because I was socially awkward and thought she was joking to make fun of me, but she wasn't. She's really nice and a real legitimate Christian (unfortunately but whatever)
It has been 6 years since that and I still sort of regret it. I looked her up on Facebook and she doesn't seem to have a boyfriend, but she lives far away. Should I message her?
What do I say?
>>17363799
Note that my Facebook is literally empty with 0 friends, I just have it as a junk account and kind of haven't ever used Facebook for real.
Do it. Nothing to lose.
Yeah do it, but why the hell it's 0 friends man ?
Hey guys, I'm beyond desperate
i dont even know if I can convey it properly here
I'm trying to break up with my girlfriend of almost two years and i simply cant rip the band aid off. Im sure i want to do it, im miserable. But i cant hurt her, I literally cannot force myself into having that conversation. Its literally been months of me not sleeping and pretending I want to spend time with her. I know its pathetic we can acknowledge im a weakling right here.
I dont know what to do anymore. I dont have a clue I get so close to pulling the trigger every time...
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do it for her
you will be hurting her more by dragging it out. Pull of the band-aid, and you're trading temporary pain for a drawn-out, fucked up situation. Allow her to have her heart broken fast, so that she can get over it fast. It's the right thing to do, but it won't feel good.
>>17363792
I'm was in the same situation mate, I had the talk and she convinced me to back out.
Later on we thought she was pregnant, but luckily it was a false alarm.
You might not be as lucky desu senpai. Don't worry about what it will do to her, she has to mean nothing to you now, just tell her you do not feel the same way anymore then leave.
Make sure you are prepared when you leave.
Christ haha
alright yeah. I should know theres no way around it. I just cant gather the strength... I try turning my emotions off I try to act courageous I try to be a dick it hasnt worked. But ill keep trying. Ill either grow into a person that can do this or I wont and ill be miserable forever...
ITT we post our age and the best advice we can give
30
You can lose a lot of money chasing women, but you'll never lose women chasing money.
>that either-or mentality
Do you know how I know you're going to end up lonely?
Actually I lost my gf because I was trying to get into medical school so you're wrong.
>>17363753
>>17363764
Holy fuck
Beta plebs
i just got gifted $10,000 usd.
how can i be smart with this?
im 18. going to mechanics school but im fairly smart and can learn shit easily and fast.
how do i get into stocks and investments?
Go and see a financial advisor.
That said, $10k isn't actually that much.
Open a 401k, and let others invest it for you.
A 401k can be used without penalty to buy a first home (and a few other things, like medical expenses), so it's not a bad place to sock money away even at your age.
>>17363738
>$10k isn't actually that much
Yep. Investing it isn't going to yield that much of a return either. Plus you won't get to enjoy any of it for awhile.
Personally, I would just put it in a checking account and use maybe a grand or two on stuff you want then spend the rest of it very very sparingly and have it as mostly a rainy day fund.
How the *fuck* do you forget your ex-gf /adv/?
>get first gf at 25
>date for 2 years
>she dumps me
>6 months later
>my mood is hesitating between reverting back to my previous virgin mindset and behind nostalgic as fuck of the time we were together
what do? I feel like I'll never find a girl like her again
>>17363709
if you were meant to forget your relationships, you would never have had them to begin with.
>>17363717
how do I move on then?
my gf had no problem duping me at the end of january and getting a new bf in march (a fucking brazilian of all things)
it takes time
it'll suck for a while but wait it out
keep optimistic
How can I get into cooking? I'm 21 and I'm about to move out from my parent's basement and live in my apartment.
Throughout my entire life I relied on them preparing and cooking meals but with me sometimes making super simple stuff like fried egg, sausages etc.
I was looking at various food recipes the other day such as teriyaki salmon and it looks so intimidating to me having to prep all the ingredients and attempt to cook it.
How would I go about increasing my experience? Should I start making the fancy ass food or start off slow with...
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baby steps first anon
>>17363693
Got any simple nutritious recipes anon?
Get one of those cookbooks that are intended for people moving out of home for the first time, or just one that's got quick and easy recipes. My boyfriend's not the greatest in the kitchen and those have helped him a ton.
