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How do I be less autistic? Like I don't understand how people just talk to eachother, friends telling me "Just go talk to a girl" is like telling me to stick my dick in a power socket. Should I do some shit to boost my self esteem? If so what?
>>17369023
do you actually have autism or are you just really shy?
if you have autism then I'm sure there'll be some sort of therapy where you'll learn to better deal with it. idk tho
if you're just shy then you have more of an effort if you want to talk to girls. work your way up in small steps; like just talking about casual stuff with a girl you're not particularly interested in for a start or sth like that. and then work your way up from there in terms of talking to girls
>>17369023
Learn game. You're welcome.
http://www.rooshv.com/
>>17369033
I have a good deal of signs that point to me being an aspie, never gotten tested because of an irrational fear of doctors
I'm in a really bad position right now on the edge of breaking up with my girlfriend.
>im her first bf
>first it all went well
>one day she got annoyed and went home and we didnt speak for a week
>she instead hung out with her "crush before me" and my friend who refused to speak to me too
>we called and she cries within the 10 minutes
>were really not working out but I want to believe
>I also don't want to be in a relationship
>I'll lose friends if I break up with her.
I don't know what to do /adv/ please help
Are you 15?
>>17369011
Go talk to a therapist about learning how to not be an asshole. Everything else falls into place after that.
Underageb& should've broken up after she went out with the other guy, you cuck. She probably slobbed all over his knob and knew you'd take it.
I have a recurring issue with anxiety each Sunday night/Monday morning related to work. Every Sunday night, I have trouble sleeping, have anxiety dreams all night, wake up multiple times, and toss and turn. Monday mornings, I frequently wake up way earlier than I need to, and I inevitably throw up and shake in bed like every 3/4 weeks until I wake up and begrudgingly go.
Once I've been there a few hours, I settle in a little bit more, and by the end of the week I'm way calmed down.
Any idea how I can get the end of weekend fears to go away? I'm so stressed. Took today as a work from home day.
>>17369009
You have to realize it's only a job, not your life.
Do something fun/interesting over the weekend so you get a high from doing it and it will make going to work easier.
>>17369009
Hahahaha fuck nigga what the fuck is up with your life
Fucking grow some balls nigga like wtf
>>17369019
I do a ton during the weekends. I live a very active, social life. I travel a lot, I always seek out new experiences. That's a double edged sword. By the time I come home Sunday night from all of this adventuring, I think "oh god, I'm so tired, and I didn't take any time to myself just to relax, and I'm only going to get so much sleep, and I'm so tired, and I have this, this, and this to do oh god."
Spending the weekend all by myself makes me feel slightly better, but then I feel like I'm wasting my time in front of a TV.
What's the most painless way I can kill myself that leaves no chances of pussying out, doesn't leave my corpse all fucked-up and doesn'f require me to buy anything online?
Kill that part of you that can't stand being here. Then you don't have to do or buy anything.
>>17369004
Being a tranny.
Helium isn't an option, and guns aren't an option. What else is there that's quick?
Painkillers shut down your liver, it hurts like hell, takes several days and the chances of surviving are too big.
Walking into traffic would traumatise outsiders.
Today I lost my job because I keep crying at work. I worked in a child care center where the entire staff was women and females have ways of being cruel to one another in a very subtle fashion.
I can't stand it. It's so stressful. How do I cope working in an environment full of women and not break down every time one of them is mean to me? I need to be able to work in this field.
Some background on me:
-depression
-molested as a child
-anxiety
-prone to thoughts of self harm
-no confidence
Fuck man that sounds rough, I seriously feel for you and hope that you can pull through this alright.
Anyway, I'm not sure if this will work for everyone but I've found you really just need to be prepared to forgive women for all the shit they pull if you're working with them and don't really have a choice.
But I suspect that's not the problem, the problem is the way that you react to them when they get really weirdly aggressive. I guess ive always dealt with that by keeping kind of ironically detached from people who have something against me, treated their whole qualm as a joke.
Sue for hostile work environment.
Man the fuck up
>>17368954
Momentai and get rid of things that takes you back there.
just b urself ad beeleev ur dreems
Make a better future.
I have a job interview tomorrow.
How am I supposed to answer the question, "why should we hire you over other applicants?"
>>17368943
Btw, I'm applying for a software development company as a tester.
Say you know the dankest meme.
But seriously, just tell them your hardworking, reliable, blah blah.
Look at them in the eye and say 'because I am better than them, and I want to prove it'
I'm looking for book or video recommendations about gastric sex. A friend suggested I look it up and try it with my gf as our sex life is dead. Does anyone here practice Tantra? Thanks.
>>17368930
Fk autocorrect. I meant tantric sex.
Try Making Love: Sexual Love the Divine Way by Barry Long. And anything by David Deida.
Thank you, Anon.
I'm 20 and one night stands and pulling girls at night-clubs just doesn't do it for me anymore. It feels nice to kiss them, feel them up and everything but it feels empty at the same time, I don't want to speak to them the next day and just feel like a piece of shit.
I think I want a proper girlfriend but I don't know how to get around that since I've never had one. The girl who I actually liked properly but who never reciprocated my advances and just in general felt like she was too good for me also recently got herself a boyfriend which despite everything made me kinda upset and caused me to rethink a lot of things.
Where do I go from here if I want a fulfilling relationship that will make me happy?
just bee yourself
>>17368908
>I'm 20 and one night stands and pulling girls at night-clubs just doesn't do it for me anymore.
Congratulations, kiddo, you're an adult now.
>>17368908
>I think I want a proper girlfriend
Yep, that's your goal.
>The girl who I actually liked properly but who never reciprocated my advances
She was never interested, she never will be. Accept that fact.
>Where do I go from here if I want a fulfilling relationship that will make me happy?
By putting your effort in reaching the goal instead of wasting it on someone who will not help to reach that goal. Join a dating site for proper folk (no Tinder), start working out, buy yourself a sharp shirt and jeans, and learn how to talk to people as if they are normal, breathing, human beings.
Once you get a proper girlfriend, you will forget about the girl who never reciprocated. You will shrug and ask what the fuzz was all about.
So here's the thing.
I did a lot of self improvement lately and am genuinely good looking. Not to brag or anything but most guys @ work aren't attractive at all. So I get a lot of IOS from female co-workers. Today a co-worker "accidently" slapped my ass while she passed me on my way to my car. I've also seen her checking me out on multiple occasions, "fixing" her hair after she passed me etc. She is DTF 99%.
I'd say she's a 7, decent face, amazing tits, okayish everything else. I am not interested in a relationship with her but I am interested in mindless sex. Have been doing /nofap/, so I have a very high sex drive-
The problem is that her boyfriend is my direct boss. I don't wanna lose this job. So what should I do?
Sounds like one of my Chinese cartoons.
Don't shit where you eat. It never ends well.
>>17368874
>i'm self-improving
>how do i become a shitter person
I posted this yesterday and it was met with harsh criticism. I'm attempting to start a new thread on the same subject in hopes to give better information for better advice. Keep in mind I understand that people are free to do what they want and this isn't about how to make them NOT do what they want to do.
The situation:
> New neighbors moved in. Husband stays in garage all hours of the day doing nothing.
> Nobody else in the neighborhood is out in the garage as much as he is.
> Very nosy. Whenever I go outside or do something in the yard, he comes over to talk. He makes remarks about when I'm going to do something with the yard, or where I am going everyday at some time. His questions doesn't seem sincere in nature other than to just simply ask questions about my business.
> He watches what people are doing and make comments about it the next time they are seen. It isn't like they bought a new car or something, but something as simple as, "I seen you come over yesterday at 4pm, that's a bit earlier than usual."
> He can talk to anyone in the middle of conversations making accusations about things such as cars he seen, or whatnot that sits out.
> Whenever a ambulance or firetruck or police is around, he comes over to bug them right in the middle of their work. You could be missing a leg and he's still talking about random shit about their job or what he done in the past.
> His yard is shit and he doesn't do anything but stays in the garage.
> No I do not look out the window at him all day but whenever I am outside he's right there watching me. Others I talked to have said the same thing about his behavior and general concerns that he could stay out all day/night in all weather condition.
What I would like advice on:
> How to avoid such a person? It doesn't seem like going about your business works. He comes over to talk and no matter what.
> Why would someone hang out in the garage all day bugging others when he got a wife inside?
>>17368864
You faced harsh criticism there, and you'll face it again here
Stop snooping into other people's lives. If you find him annoying, just don't talk to him. Done.
>>17368864
Some people sit at a computer all day playing games and reading 4chan. Some people stand in their garage watching the world go by. One could argue that his is the healthier option.
And if his talking to you is unwelcome (why?), just say Hi and keep walking or go inside.
The reason you got grief yesterday is that you come across as oddly obsessed with someone who is doing nothing objectively wrong. Let him be and get on with your life or, if you have none, get one.
Nosy dumbass.
I have to do a compulsory internship for my studies in IT and I have two offers:
1. at a large well known company
2. at a very small (5 people) startup
I like the startup a bit better personally. But will it be a bad decision regarding my cv? Will a future employer think less of me than if I did my internship at a renowned company?
Doesn't matter as much as you think it does, any code you write during it will be shit because you're still a student. All code I wrote during internships was shit too. You might get better paid and maybe accommodation at the bigger company, but there's slightly less chance of you doing something that has a big impact there.
>>17368846
You are more likely to be given real work to do in the small company, and also different kinds as you get called on to assist everyone.
>>17368894
>>17368911
I think I will learn a lot of stuff at both companies. At the end, I just wonder whether it'll make a big difference on my CV.
So I really need some relationship advice that leans to the sexual side
I am Asexual. I suck at literally everything on this topic. And I have a great bf that every time I go over to his place and we want to do something, it doesn't really work
He's accepting enough that we don't actually have typical sex, but anything else we do either hurts or isn't very good. He's eager to please which is great, but each time he fingers me, it's okay for about a few seconds before it begins to hurt really badly and I wish I never asked in the first place. I can easily do it better myself, which is saddening because I know he just wants to make me happy
This follows up into the fact he really wants to go down on me. We have only attempted this twice, first time it felt good and I enjoyed it but the second time he said I tasted awful and I made him stop. I'm an unhealthy person with decent hygiene. He said I could get some special soap to fix the problem but I still live w/ my parents and I have no fucking clue what to do. I desperately want to see if there's a way to fix both issues but this one takes priority.
So basically, is there any way to get my sex life sorted out/how do women make themselves taste better? On his side he only needs handjobs so even if I am not the best he seems okay, which I'm eternally grateful for. I just am lost on the rest.
>>17368811
You're not asexual. That is something i have to make very clear!
And the problem with bad tasting vag can be fixed with a special soap designed to the area. Your mom can most likely tell you where to buy stuff like that
>>17368825
I am an Asexual that realizes that I have to do sexual stuff to keep a relationship going. There's nothing more attached to it/I wouldn't be desperate for advice like this on the internet if I didn't feel I needed it for my bf's sake.
If I ask for the soap, she's going to wonder why, and I don't want to go into that.
>>17368832
You are talking abouy enjoying stuff and wanting to try stuff with your bf. An asexual just doesn't have the drive, it's not because it hurts or anything, they simply just don't get turned on.
How old are you? Your mom shouldn,t be surprised that her daughter with a boyfriend haves sex
>came on her belly
>washed my dick well
>put it in without condom
is this safe? she won't get preggers this way right? please no stupid answers. i'm really anxious.
congrats on your kid 9 months from now OP! Remember this post cuz im not telling you congrats 9 months from now.
>>17368781
You can wash it all you want. There was probably still some left over semen in the 'pipe'
If you peed after it, you're probably fine
>>17368781
There's a small chance, but it's about the same as your chances when having sex with a condom on.
You should probably start using at least some kind of actual protection, buddy, unless you're okay with the idea of having a kid.
Hi /adv/
Say if I were an idiot that never learned much about math (such as basic basic algebra and so on) where would be a good place to start?
I've been wanting to actually properly learn math for a bit now aside from just stuff you learn in primary school.
>>17368777
Be more specific. What level of math are you currently up to?
>>17368780
I guess I finished everything before high school really, sorry if this sounds stupid not exactly sure how to say if that makes sense.
>>17368787
Take a plato course, I guess. My friends who were not very good at math took these instead of traditional math courses. It's hard for me to recommend something for you if I do not have a place to start, since there are many different areas of math.
If you're done with algebra 1 or 2, then plato courses should be a good place to start. Whenever people paid me to do their plato stuff for them in high school, the material in them seemed to pick up from there.
