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really need unbiased feedback on this
it's a touchy subject with friends

>>17369789
As far as your friends feeding you it sounds like they pity you and are basically being charitable. Which might explain why they give you their time and affection, because they also know you have a crumby life. I wouldn't brag about this, nor should you think you're taking advantage of them.

I pick up the tab for a lot of my poorer friends and even co-workers all the time. I patronize them a lot too because it makes them feel better about themselves.

Now as far as girls being interested in you that could just be cause you're charismatic. But the big question is, do you end up hooking up with them or is it just nice casual banter?

I think you're looking too much into this "being genetically manipulative" thing.

>>17369899
it seems like you're more focused on taking me as a braggart and then further scrutinizing me than answering the question.

>Is it shady to do very well interpersonally?
>what if I'm not a good person
>am I a burden on the world by nature

pity is kind of a repellant in a way, just to let you know. it's having sympathy for someone while simultaneously being disgusted by them. people typically...
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>>17369782
>Think that this is going along too smoothly, something will go wrong
>So we actually do start talking and connecting very well but I always had the feeling that I'm unknowingly in a competition with 1+ other matches from Tinder
>I end up asking her out and she says she will be out of town this weekend
>also find out she lives an hour drive away, 75 miles, which is kinda fucked up bc I had...
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Anon don't take it personally the girl probably just wanted attention and was never looking to actually meet up with a dude anyway. Tinder is a shit.

>>17369831

At least you have the balls to make the first move man. Honestly don't let this bother you to much, get yourself to a bar ( Assuming your not American) and approach girls there.

I've been on Tinder a few weeks, hardly talk to any of the girls I match because I have no idea what to say. But a few beers in me and approaching women in bars isn't anywhere near as stressful.

Also, its easy as fuck for women to match guys on Tinder. In all honesty you'll be competing with more than...
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>>17369757
>tfw haven't fucked up first love of my life
>tfw they fucked you
Go on

> be me, 22 years old, enjoying my newest app: Tinder
> Have had alot of success, some shitty dates but also easy pussy
> get matched with a girl 1 year younger than me, seems pretty enough: dick in full control
> Hit her up, she answers, we text for a bit until I ask her out, she has one request
> her: "Only if your aren't a dick driven asshole"
> me: "No" topkek
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Sweet this actually works. I'm just gonna dump, took me like an hour to write everything down.

So, the next year, 2015, I decided to enrol in an in-class 'Tertiary Preparation' course to supplement my lack of high school diploma. Primarily it was to get out of being obligated to look for work, but I also came to be enthused about the opportunity of earning a certificate that would allow me to go to university and 'catch-up' with my "imaginary" peers that I'm forever competing with. Long story short, it ended up falling short of expectations too. It could be completed within a year, and I made it about 90% of the way, but I let the work...
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A few months into this year, in yet another effort to gain some traction, I came to find it's still (unsurprisingly) a burden that's affecting my ability to pursue meaningful relationships. For about a month, I did volunteer work out on a farm and met some characters. Upon reflection now, I'm not sure why I would expected otherwise, but I still felt constantly uptight and unable to loosen up around people. The end point I guess of this whole post (I just started writing randomly) is that for a long time I haven't done anything and still continue to do fucking...
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Oh god I'm tired as fuck, really appreciate anyone that has the patients to read through my bullshit, it probably could've been much shorter.

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>>17369719
>when I mentioned my feelings she said she doesn't want it to be where she can't hang with any of them if Tom is there
>Tell her I never stated this, it just feels odd I'm excluded
>It's not even that I feel I always have to be there, it just seems that anytime Tom hosts something I'm excluded
>she says she's frustrated that she feels she has to ask him if I can come,...
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>>17369719
>>17369753
Correction: I'm frustrated that it seems Tom's feelings for her seem to be the reason I get excluded. And it's going to bother me that night if she goes out with them for his birthday, knowing I'm excluded because of his feelings or me getting a little jealous and asking what was between them.

That's the story so far. Other than this issue our relationship has been great. But when this comes up things feel a little shitty.
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>>17369769
>I'm excluded
OP the reason you are excluded is because of Tom and she doesn't want to make him uncomfortable. In most relationships it is assumed if one is invited the couple is so it is very problematic your gf doesn't see it this way.

Having said that it doesn't appear she will change so you either shut up about it and accept her relationship with Tom or you decide you will not put up with your gf in a close friendship with a guy that is in love with her and find you another girl that puts your relationship above a guy.

dude its fine go to the beach have fun and more than likely nobody will care if you have hairy arms or a hairy back.

This is hot. And I saw your undies :D Love hairy men, hairy like you. It's just as it suppose to be

and I'm a guy, yes.

Dude forget what I said someones gonna pummel your boipucci if you don't get that shit waxed immediately.

>>17369705
Almost everyone gets this, eventually your tips will form calluses and you'll almost lose the ability to feel with your fingertips.

>>17369705
Everyone starts like that. Just keep going and it'll get better.

This will get better after more playing. Guitarists have finger callous.

One word:
T H E R A P Y
If you cant make your self do shit you need to do because you lack motivation you may or may not have some real psichological problem at hand.
Other than that try all the normie bullshit on google about motivating your self. Pomodoro technique diary etc.
But I think that lazyness and lack of motivation can be a symptom of more deep problems you need to solve

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logo mais eu to ai e as coisas vão melhorar (nem que seja um pouquinho só)

>>17369702

This.
>>17369735

Yes. Get a boyfriend in real life to tickle you. It's not some fucking crazy shit you need to go online to find. Anyone can tickle somebody.

>>17369691

> but I'm scared they might be creep

>Hi guys, I'm here because I have this really weird fetish that gets me off, just like you guys, don't judge me.
>You fucking creeps.

Bitch, ever think you're the creep?
Also, if you aren't comfortable taking the risks that come inherently with online meet-ups, you shouldn't do them.
That's literally all there is to it.

>>17369706
I had two bf, both of them didn't tickle me after they found out I have this fetish. They tickled me before knowing it, but a very few times.

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Guy was lucky he didn't have a goatee beard.
The Muslims would have raped him.

>>17369671
This is a clickbait site
The guy is actually a thief, got caught, so they smacked his shit straight, took his clothes and kicked him out

>>17369716
umm, why? Why didnt just call the police?

tell her she's a cunt

>>17369645
Did you guys have a thing op? Romantic/relationship wise?

>>17369645
>same class in school for several years.
ok
>she always found a reason not to come (party, friends, study...)
>She always told me to come to her place (neither makes a big difference, we live only 45min apart). Then contact stopped. And every time i tried to get in touch, the same happened.
>NEVER did she contact me and ask me how i was.
I think there was a hint somewhere, try any...
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>>17369637
OP, if you're an alcoholic then why can't you spit instead of swallowing so you don't get drunk and don't kill your liver?

>>17369649
that doesn't make sense. i don't like the flavor, i like being drunk. which is probably the case with most people who drink a lot

just go to your parents and tell them you need help to quit drinking after a few years you wont need alcohol anymore but just take it a day at a time.

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>>17369594

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GO OUT AND SMASH SOMETHING.

DO IT FAGGOT!

Seriously though, how can we help you control your impulses? Well I had to find that willpower on my own anyway. Hm.

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>>17369627
I don't know, should I hire someone to follow me around to hit me every time I'm about to do something dumb. I just don't know how to make willpower or some shit out of nothing.

offer him your boipucci

yes they deserved to die and I hope they burn in hell

>>17369593
Bruh sorry I dicked your girl down, she liked it though. It's not my fault your girls a thirsty one

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Continued:

I have friends in NYC, but the idea of living there makes me so deeply uncomfortable I don't think I can do it. I've been thinking about killing myself nonstop since signing / putting the deposit down.

I've thought about L.A. since I have a couple of friends out there, but who's to say I won't feel the exact same way once I move out there. Plus, I don't know what I'd do for employment out in L.A. anyway. I feel like I'm stuck with nowhere to go and no options that don't make me want to kill myself.

why would you move to one of the most expensive cities in the country without a job lined up? That's not a plan, its a recipe for ending up on the street. Your savings will be gone in an instant.

is it not possible to move back in with your parents in NJ while you look for a job in the city, then once you're a bit more secure you can move into it.

>>17369569
wow haha, ok I take back what I said

clearly you have deeper problems than just the normal practical ones of money and finding work, you really want to kill yourself over this? THIS? Wtf is wrong with you, get a fucking grip.

stop being such a damn attention whore and drama queen and man the fuck up