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>Take a liking to Ellen Wong
>Fallow her on social media, she seems sweet
>Slowly fall in love with her.
I mean don't get me wrong, I won't stalk her or anything creepy but damn it if I don't adore her! How do I get over this silly celebrity crush anons? What are the odds of meeting a girl as beautiful as her?
find an asian, they all look the same bro
you dont need to get over it... just keep keeping on... live your life
>>17369544
>How do I get over this silly celebrity crush anons?
Get to know real women, for real. Yeah, I know Ellen Wong, whoever she is, is a real person, but you don't know her and you never will. If you actually knew her, who knows? Maybe you wouldn't even like her.
>What are the odds of meeting a girl as beautiful as her?
I live in San Francisco; one in three girls around here is Asian. Many of them are nothing special to look at, but I see someone at least that attractive at least once a day.
So I decided to start eating more healthy.
I read the diet part in the /fit/ sticky but I would need something more general.
Does anyone know the staple vegetables and fruit that are a must consume and does anyone know any other produce that is healthy to consume periodically?
Does anyone know any good salads the include tomatoes because I just can't eat raw tomatoes by themselves?
Are two straight days of unhealthy food a week too much?
I also suffer a little bit from acne and am lactose intolerant so I try to not consume that many dairy products. Does anyone know any good replacements for dairy stuff?
>>17369522
hi anon, here you go
>any good vegetables
all vegetables are good vegetables. people tend to think of healthy as an on of off switch. its either healthy, or its not. but thats simply not the case.
health itself is hard to define but in the case of consumption its at the caloric intake that you desire, and gives you the nutrients you need. despite what sources say, you dont need calcium after 24, your bones stop using it. so dairy isnt very necessary.
i recommend a vitamin cuz unless you try really hard ur not getting all ur vitamins from a good diet. you need to have a perfectly balanced diet for that. no, just get a 1 a day mens vitamin.
that isnt to say you shouldnt eat veggies. on the contrary, i think the vast majority of your food should be veggies. but very few veggies are superior to others.
lettuce is definitely on the lower end of the totem pole. it is virtually just water. same with celery.
my advice is to go out and buy small servings of every veggie you can. then for the next week try all these veggies. write down all the veggies you were at least okay with, which ones you like, etc.
and forget theo nes you hated. then research recipes for those veggies to make them even better.
as for salads, i prefer spinach. its got more nutrients then basic lettuce and good flavor imo.
Acne isnt as simple as parents made it out to be. if its only in one location its usually caused by a specific problem (for example (thisi s wrong but for example) acne on the nose would be a dairy issue). I had acne on my chin only, and thats a hormonal issue. however i cannot fix that as a dude (whereas women could just take birth control etc).
there are two approaches that worked well for me. the first is how i went from pic related to second pic related.
>tretinoin in the morning
>salicylic acne wash in the shower
>moisturizer after / as needed
>erythromicin at night
tretinoin is prescription but you can order online as well. you rub it on to your skin and it peels it fast, causing your acne to fall right off. thats.
salicylic acne wash is basic acne wash you can get at most any store. i get mine at rite aid.
moisturizer stops your face from drying itself out, which prevents your skin from getting damaged and/or over producing oils which makes more acne.
erythromicin topical gel is an antio biotic used to treat acne, however instead of applying it your stomach, you apply it to your face before bed. it attacks the bacteria right on your face, killing acne before it starts.
I used all 4 together and it wokred pretty well, but it was annoying. way too much of my day was dedicated to treating my acne, not eating foods, trying to find ways to scratch an itch without touching myface. if i was making out with a girl and she happened to rub her fingers across my face, you can bet your savings that id have acne on the part of my chin she touched.
i got so frustrated i went ahead and started taking accutane. i was nervous but within the first month i had no acne. i had to quit one week into the third month (of 5 months) but my acne still hasnt returned and for that im grateful. i can sleep face down, scratch my chin, eat whatever i want. its awesome.
OP here
I'm only 19 so I believe I still need dairy products, that's why I still at least eat yoghurt, but I've heard that dairy causes acne.
I'm battling acne with external ways as well as I take accutane. I'm just wondering if there are any dietary approaches as well.
I need full nutrition because I started working out and I generally want to be healthy.
By the way, do you think there is a chance for me to still grow a few centimeters with the right nutrition?
How to get rid of circles/shades under my eyes ? I sleep and drink water well for the record.
You can't.
Vitamin C serum might help lighten the dark color a little, but that's all.
>>17369550
>tfw you will look like a drug addict for the rest of your life
without plastic surgery you can't, I have them too. I recommend you just get used to the fact that you'll look like an anime villain for the rest of your life.
Honestly you notice them far more than anyone else does
I have a Uniform fetish but it's for uniforms from the nazis and Russia/Soviet Union. I get extremely turned on when I see girls wear these uniforms. Why do I have this? What should I do about it. Should I start buying nazi/Soviet uniforms? I don't know please help.
>>17369486
they are good uniforms, well the nazi ones at least. they where designed by hugo boss. they are meant to be good. everyone secretly likes how they look.
If I was a young male living in Germany in 1920/30s I sure as fuck would gladly sign up for the SS/Wehrmacht.
Your economy is in the shitter, no job prospects, can't provide for a family/find a wife, your country is the laughing stock of Europe, civil unrest.
Then comes Hitler, gives the economy a good kick, re-instates national pride, gives you opportunities to make something out of yourself and take part in something bigger than yourself.
Who the fuck wouldn't follow that man?
They do look good. And you probably link them with something that you crave. Maybe it's that it seems assertive or stern. Maybe it is bravery or loyalty. Maybe it's pureness and order. Only you can find out
Even when I sleep alright I never have any energy.
I eat well, I take a multivitamin, I exercise, I've had my blood tested recently and everything was fine.
wot do?
try increasing your potential energy then releasing it.
>>17369469
What're your sleep hours like? Do you always wake up with an alarm?
Are you depressed?
A medicine like Wellbutrin can help with this
I'm an apathetic person with no morals. All I do in life is consume media without a care in the world. What can I do to change that without going to church meme?
Swebros can the swedish military straighten the 25 year old me out or should I consider live innawoods to test my valor as a human being?
Become a minority, it helps
Find an interest that requires moving and/or thinking. It can be anything, football, chess, traveling, whatever.
I wouldn't recommend military as you'll most likely hate it and if you hate it you're not very likely to keep any principles that are instilled in you during that time. Same with living by yourself secluded from society, although that may work better since you'll have a lot more control. I'm not saying these methods won't work, all I'm saying is that you shouldn't try them right away, they're more like a last resort.
Try something new, painting, playing an instrument, sports, whatever. And definitely go on a longer trip somewhere. Travel to China for a couple of weeks or something. If none of these things works then off to the military with you.
>>17369465
instead of consuming, try creating>>17369466
This guy obviously likes me. Everyone around us can see it and keeps making comments about it. He was really handsy and flirty until I actually confessed to him. He stopped being as forward but it's still there on the surface.
A few weeks ago I made it clear to him that I like him once again and he told me he's not sure he can return my feeling fully and is afraid of giving false expectations. At the same time he keeps sneaking touches at me whenever possible or he's tipsy or something. We really click on an emotional level and if he didn't feel any of it/was uncomfortable he'd stop initiating hugs and stuff with me, right?
I mean he obviously has some kind of an intimacy phobia right? I've considered that it might just be my overconfidence but people around us actually think he's the one who has feelings for me while I keep a poker face.
Is it pretty much a lost case and I should move on or is there a chance that he might open up some day? I thought that he's just unsure cause I usually don't make my feelings clear to guys but I've done everything I can here. Anyone gone through something similar?
Weird.
I mean yes, he obviously like you one way or another since he keeps initiating contact, but he might just be a natural flirt. How does he act around other women, especially attractive ones? Is he as flirty as he is with you?
If so, then sorry, he likes you, but just as he likes you he also likes another 50 girls. If not, then I have no idea whats going on. I could say its an intimacy issue, as you mentioned, but people with this issue tend to not initiate physical contact. Maybe he has some weird reason he doesn't want to get into a relationship.
>>17369471
Well I don't know what he's like with people without me but when I am there he's focused on me. Like it's weird, even if he's being kind of flirty with an attractive server or something he keep looking and me to see fi heard his punchlines so to speak. And when I tell the people who think he likes me "he's flirty with everyone" they tell me he's not.
I guess it could be that he's older and I'm "nice girl" so he might be afraid of fucking me up. In any case there's probably nothing to do at this point right?
>>17369448
are you fat, ugly, or got a bad reputation? im not trying to sound mean but some people simply dont want to get the reputation of dating a certain person
How effective is the pulling out method? Do you consider it reasonably safe to have unprotected sex with a trusted partner in the few days before her period starts as long as you pull out before ejaculation?
>>17369445
Safe enough.
Then again I'm 20 and you shouldn't listen to me.
I never, ever have unprotected sex.
If you're not ready for a kid, you should do the same
It's better than using a condom. Rawdoging is the best. Try getting on the pill, nuvaring, or the patch so you won't have to worry.
tl;dr What to do in 2 weeks whilst on holiday?
>visiting family for 2 weeks, in the middle of nowhere in the countryside
>internet speed is 0.5-1mb/s
>no desktop or laptop (on a chromebook)
>nothing to actually see or do around the house (nearest town/village is a 40 minute drive away)
What can I do for 2 weeks as I'm stuck here? I've read the books I brought with me and I've got tired of reading /pol/ and looking at funny images on imgur
What would you do during these 2 weeks?
>>17369438
Maybe spend time with your family?
>tl;dr: junior doesn't want to spend time with his/her family on a family vacation.
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>>17369526
IT's not a family vacation, my parent's retired to another country and I spend time with them every now and then. My mother spends her time reading her books and doing her research and my father is on his computer most of time.
Junior is quite happy spending time with them, junior however still has 16 hours of the day with nothing to do
How to quit being so addicted to trap/shemale/boipucci porn?
I've been sober for over a month now, but it's still pretty hard browsing /b/ and seeing the occasional thread and resisting it.
Been watching more straight porn (even though it's boring and unbelievable as fuck). I have a 8/10 gf. I fuck her a lot. But I still crave trap/shemale/boipucci porn here and there.
Anyone else on the same road?
>>17369399
you are asking how to supress your sexuality. you cant. you want what you want. once the floodgates are open you realize it is what was missing.
what's wrong with liking that weird shit m8? who cares? fap to traps and stop giving a fuck.
> being so addicted to <porn>
Stop watching it, fuckface. That isn't a real addiction.
My mother found a dog walking around in our yard. We're going to ask around the neighborhood later, but for now we're curious to what kind of dog he is. Does anyone know?
looks like a mutt. German Shepard lab mix maybe?
>>17369361
Looks like a good doggo.
>>17369371
He is a very good doggo
How do I stop being a yes man and stand up for myself ? I'm fucking scared of any type of confrontations whatsoever, I can hardly make eye contact and I always mumble.
>>17369334
by not being a yes man and standing up for yourself.
there's no magic trick, magic pill or magic words that will fix this for you. you do by doing.
>>17369336
You make it sound so simple and it probably is but I feel like I'll just come off as an awkward spaz.
>>17369348
>you make it sound so simple
>thats eaiser said then done
>its not that easy
we get that a lot. and again i say
>no magic tricks
life isn't meant to be easy. its not easy for anyone else standing up for themselves, they just know its better than the alternative, and once they work their way to knowing exactly how to do it, they realize that its better to be a spazz that people dont mess with than it is to be a spazz that everyone walks over.
nothing is meant to be as easy.
I think there's something wrong with me, but I don't know what it is. I can't handle losing people.
I broke up with a long term girlfriend over Christmas. We had a very toxic relationship and I really didn't care about her. There was no love and although we tried to make it work we just ended up arguing. Then, a few weeks before Christmas, she ended it. Just said she couldn't do it any more. Suddenly, all my ambivalence left me and losing her became the most crushing thing in my life. For a month, all I could do was drink Whiskey and play video games. I was a mess over someone I didn't really want. I just couldn't cope with her leaving.
Later on, I hooked up with a woman called Jen. We saw each other casually for a while and it was all good fun, but we knew it wasn't going to last. We had very different aspirations and outlooks on life. I even said to friends it was a casual thing for when University is over. Then, when we said our goodbyes I cried like a baby. We had long talks about maybe making it work, but ultimately not. I felt like my heart was being ripped out of my chest, like I was losing the love of my life over someone who was a casual fling.
I don't have an issue with rejection, I meet it constantly as part of my job. Why is it when partners move on, no matter how much I want to see them gone at the time, they suddenly become gold dust and I beg them to stay and it tears me apart emotionally.
The worst part? My ex, Jen and another girl I'm still talking to all three trying to "make it work". I have no plan on how I can do that, I have to let at least 2 of them go, and I know if I don't fix this, more will be added as time goes on.
What is going on?
>>17369333
Man up.
>>17369351
Real mature.
Next.
>>17369333
you genuinely sound like a bitch
nice trips tho
Just broke off a long term relationship with a girl.
When it was good it was great, but when it was bad it was unbearable, and it was bad a lot of the time.
How do I stop myself thinking of the good shit and remember only the bad stuff?
>>17369311
Sounds awful. Just forgive her and blame yourself that's what I did.
Feels liberating after the shame and remorse passes.
>>17369311
Don't try to remember either. Move on, nigga.
C'est fini.
Write down the reasons you broke up. REALLY WRITE IT DOWN. Can be done in the "notes" of you phone so you have it with you all the time. Read it when you feel like it hasn't been that bad after all. Thank me later
It seems like no matter what I do or how hard I try I can’t get a job. I’m a 20-year-old male living in NC. The last job I had was about a year ago and it was the first job I had ever had. I worked retail from 2014 to 2015. Long story short, I quit that job because the management was going to shit.
While I’m living with my parents and going to college, I feel like a fucking loser because I don’t have any income. I’m tired of my folks giving me gas money and the like, even if I did house work for it. I want to earn my own money again through a real job. I’ve been applying to jobs left and right and even walking into stores, looking sharp, with resume in hand. I have no criminal record, I was never late to my old job, I left on my own terms (gave my 2 weeks), and even my pervious co-workers would put in a good word for me. I even have lots of volunteer work in various areas as well. I don’t think I’m perfection or some amazing worker that anyone would be privileged to have working for them and I’m sure there are many others like me but goddamn I can’t catch a break.
What do I do /adv/? The constant applying and rejection is starting to get to me. Any help or advise is much appreciated.
>TL;DR: What can I do to get a job?
im having the same problem as you are. i am also 20 years old living with my mom. she also give me money cuz she feel bad for me and i always tell her not to give me any and use it on herself anyway my advise to you my friend is the same advise my friend told me. LIE just lie in your resume. lie in your interviews and lie until you get what you want. the reason is because most people these days want people with experience. they dont wanna train anybody cuz it waste there time but either way they gonna have to show you how its done.the only way for you to get experience is to get a job and the only way to get a job in this era is too have experience. once you get the job, learn everything about it and if you get fired then lie to the next job then the next and so on cuz its not really about the job, its all about experience hope my advise help you cuz i know it helps me a lot. i live in nyc and getting a job here is pretty challenging
I'm in a similar position too and live in NC as well. I've been working with my dad until I find a job which has been for the past year or so now. Do you live in bumfuck nowhere with just corn and tobacco fields all around? I do, and it's so fucking hard to find a job around here. It doesn't help that half the population appears to be niggas that would rather hire fellow niggas than hire a white boy. Some places I don't even see one white person employed.
>>17369427
That all kinds of shitty Anon. I live in Wilmington, so I'm here with retarded college kids and old, rich Northerners who moved down South to make our lives hell. Good deal of nigs in my area but your more likely to see super liberal yuppies running around than anything. It's hard to get a job here due to the colleges and vacationers in the area. Once a job is posted its already gone.
