There's a girl I'm more or less decent friends with, who attends the same school and has the same circle of friends. I'll greentext her general bio for context:
>she's 20
>never had a boyfriend
>introverted and shy, but not aspie status
>family type chick, as in; regular sunday mass attendance and what have you
>bookworm
We went out on a coffee date, went much better than I hoped. I ask her out a second time, she tells me she's busy that weekend. Anyway, we've hung out together in groups of people multiple times since, mostly at parties/get-together I have at my place.
I had a mutual friend 'discreetly' approach her on the subject of dating, she said that she "doesn't want to do that at this stage in her life" and that she likes being alone.
Thing is, the more we hang out, the more we click together. I'm really attracted to this person.
Is this a dead-in-the-water endeavor or is there still hope given the loose context? IMO, my best approach may just be strengthening the friendship by us hanging out more over the semester. Thing is, how do I suggest that we do something alone, away from the group, without explicitly implying that it's a date?
I don't know. I never get a straight-up 'no' from her, but from what I gathered, my chances aren't fantastic.
If she doesn't want to date, she doesn't want to date. You can't make her. If you don't want to get hurt, ask her out and get a yes or no from her before you become more invested in her.
Sounds like things are fine. I wouldn't worry about being busy on the weekend. sometime it just means they are busy this weekend.
If you have not made a move (kiss, hand holding) then its time to make a move.
Better to make a move or ask her out and get turned down. Than never make a move, she moves on and you regret it forever.
