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I've been with my gf for around half a year. She's only my 2nd gf even though I'm 31 years old now. Had one of 7 years before that.
My current gf has had lots of boyfriends and lots of fuckbuddies. She and her last boyfriend broke up after a longterm relationship when she was cheating on him.
Recently, she and I got in a fight and she started hitting me. I told her that if she hit me again she would have to leave my house. She did, and I told her to get the fuck out. She left and I went to bed.
That night I was dreaming of her cheating on me. I told her that the next day, after apologizing and so on and then she told me that when she was at home she briefly thought of calling Chad (for the lack of a better name), a fuckbuddy she used to fuck with before we met each other.
Now, the fact that she's fucked dozens of guys before me bothers me enough of already, but this has truly set me up. We're only 6 months together and she, if only for a fraction of a microsecond, thinks of hooking up with Chad, she, with her history of infidelity?
How long's it going to take her to cheat on me?
>How long's it going to take her to cheat on me?
Too late
Haha not long!
She was with me last night.
>>16868207
I doubt it
>>16868208
Durrr
Anyways, I'm going to confront her with my thoughts tonight.
I really see no reason to not call it off.
I have a really big nose that makes me look kinda like a witch
And I'm 23
Can I get a boyfriend or should I give up on that?
>>16860426
most people don't pay attention to your nose, though a picture always helps
>>16860429
How do you know?
i know some hideous human beings in relationships, i don't even know what you look like but i bet you can find someone too.
I got divorced almost two years ago and haven't been on a date, but i met a really nice guy on tinder who asked me out (femanon) how do i not fuck this up? i was married for 6 years so i haven't dated in a long long time.
What am i supposed to do? so far we seem to get along well and i really don't want to screw this up.
Please help.
so nervous.
This is all so confusing, i don't want to be a prude but i don't want to flirt too much and he think me a whore.
The basics of dating:
Don't think of it as a date. Think of it as going out and doing the things you would normally do to have fun, and you just happen to be with someone new and interesting.
If you guys both have fun, that means you might be have potential.
If you don't, that just means you aren't compatible .
This is all assuming this is just some random tinder dude who assumes you're there to hook up.
>>16860436
i've been forward about not wanting to have a hookup or one nighter, his profile also said he wasn't looking for hookups and wanted to meet someone.
i guess i just don't want to meet up and him not be interested and get disappointed.
soo my gf and I have been going out since we were 15 (22 now), about a month ago we felt more like friends and decided to go on a break
as we still feel like we are each others futures but we needed some time to experience things on our own
part of this was getting with other people, we decided to keep it outside of our friendship group and only kissing,
the other night I kissed someone within those boundaries, as expected she was pretty upset
we got into a fight even though she admitted I hadn't really done anything wrong,
but I kind of have a lot of thoughts running through my head at the moment
whats the purpose of this thread
>>16860407
has anyone got experience with a break ?
can it be successful? what type of things did you do in that time? how do you handle your partner being with other people? is it better to cut all contact? I defiantly think a relationship is better than a fling but have spent my younger years not being able to experience that side definitely leaves me curious and is it a bad thing that I do want to experience it?
Hey, I'm just wondering what you guys are doing for work and if there are any jobs you'd recommend. I'm not looking to go to school because I don't want to go into debt, but I also don't like working retail/food service. I'm looking into YMCA/KROC Center type jobs, as well as golf course and lake gas station jobs.
Any recommendations for entry-level jobs?
You'd take gas station over retail?
I work at Wal-mart and a shitty one at that (metro area a lot of homeless and crappy low quality customers that really fuck the store up). I honestly enjoy what I do. I don't make much but I don't require much to be happy either. I used to let the store pressure me because a lot of jobs do that to people but I quit giving a shit and just set my own pace now and am still a stand out employee. I could get promoted if I wanted but I just don't like the pressure, it's not for me. Honestly I don't know what the big beef is with Wal-mart but I would suggest giving it a shot. Once you make it in the store you can easily raise in rank to whatever position you feel comfortable in. You can become a store manager if you wanted eventually. If you pic a good store that knows what it's doing you get a nice little bonus also. Wal-mart gives bonuses (if you guys do good) every 3 months. You can get up to like $400 or some shit. Ours varied usually from $100 to $300.
>>16860386
Lake has station-- for boats. You get to be out on the docks all day.
I know this girl for over a year.At first we chatted every day and it was very good.Few months later we decided to meet and after it she said that she really enjoyed but i should remember that we are only just friends.Last year we met lots of times,went to to bars and cafes and like that.Last summer she wanted to come to my country to spend summer.I agreed and we spend 1 week together.In the last days of our trip we made out in the hotel room,but just without penetration,bc she said to me that she is virgin and i am the only one who knows about this.I know that she doesn't love me but i really going mad for her.Can't stop thinking about her every fucking morning after i wake up.She is dating with other guys right now.Last week she came to my home and we kissed and cuddled again.But she keeps telling me that we are just friends and we can't be together.
I am hopeless and dont know what to do,help me guys
Cut contact. You are her backup plan, and even if you do end up together she'll drop you as soon as someone better comes along. She directly told you she isn't interested and you want different things out of this relationship, so end it and move on.
>>16860359
i've tried,but she is my only friend too bec i live and study in a different country and she helped me so much.it's really hard man
any suggestions?
Be me:
>> Still living in my friends mom basement to finish school but I founded an ecommerce business with my programming friend. Making $1000.00 in Sales each day 45% profit margin. We are paying someone to do the work for basically nothing. Expecting $75,000.00-$80,000.00 in profit.
>> Studying Electrical Engineering-->Computer engineering/CS (Junior -Senior year)
>>I have some good footing into my friends company, that I or I have some good connects into Silicon Valleys money market to get some sponsors for a new software company I am looking to start.
>> was doubted by my friend that I couldn't do the business and that I would waste people's money. Now I am teaching him how to do it.
>>When I was doing applied Mathematics the head of the department said I wouldn't amount to anything because I got a c+ in Java programming.Now I am the CEO of my own company. Making more money than even my girlfriend who has her B.S in a Stem field.
>> Completely social/charismatic/persuasive.
>>was president of the mathematics club
>> can pick things up be it mathematics, programming,social interaction, politics,etc. By just looking at it. Literally missed 3 weeks of Java programming came in and aced a quiz drunk. Missed my Circuits lecture for food daily and still tutored people.
>>24
Cons:
<< I miss class all of the time/ sometimes I wont even turn my homework in .
<< I am very whatever about everything. If my laptop gets stolen then whatever I'll get another one.
<<I can be pretty condescending to people who are struggling because I think they are at fault for their own success.
<<I shut down people who think they are better than me pretty quick(especially teachers)
[EX:Had a teacher who told me to pick a 4 digit number as our grade checker, I asked what if we pick the same number, then he replied "Its mathematically impossible" , so I picked 1234, then he said it was picked and I said exactly!] worst experience in class ever.
Whats wrong with me?
You are making a huge deal out of nothing and it just sounds like you're somewhat self centered and narcissistic.there, you have your attention you crave. Not really a bad thing but I would probably find you insufferable irl
Your just a lazy chink the same as me. Except it seems you are mostly done with school.
I quit a while ago.
>Studies electrical engineering and has used his wits to make tens of thousands of dollars
>Math genius who doesn't need to study and can learn things instantly
>Can't figure out how to greentext
Why lie on the internet OP
Can it do permanent damage to a pussy to repeatedly and regularly penetrate/push stuff in there while it's dry?
This is why vaginas 'self lubricate' its lterally mother nature going ' dont shove things up here dry you idiot'
Yeah. You can cause tissue damage and then subsequent scarring. Imagine if you kept rubbing dry things against your skin. The same would happen.
>>16860276
>>16860283
So having sex dry all the time is bad?
To keep a story short, I'll summarize it with a question/form of a question(s).
If you were a male, aged 16 and had sex with a woman who was over the age of 18, and she got pregnant: Would that child be considered a rape baby? (I'm almost certain he was 16 at the time, but he could have been 15.)
Would the male not be able to see his kid until he turned 21? If so, why? (He never called her a "crazy bitch who wont let me see my kid." From what I can tell, it was a one night stand).
Would he be able to move to another state?(Ohio is the current state he lives in. He tells me he cannot leave his state because of his kid)
What would go as far as child support goes for the male? (I was told he does not pay child support)
I was told a story and I am unsure if it was a demented joke, or true story. He tends to build up a good, interesting story but then pulls the "ahh I got you, you dumb bitch." card. I didn't bring up his kid again, til a few months ago and I said "On a serious note, do you really have a kid or was that just another joke to poke me with?" His reponse was "I just cant see him. It's so sad" But he said it with a tone as if he dropped his cookie, but had 100 more. Not too sad about it in all honesty.
I'll note the kid is probably 2 years old now. The mother does not/will not send pictures of the kid to him. (I don't understand why) This whole situation seems very fishy to me, he just does not hold himself as a "young father who will be meeting his kid in a few years"
I'm leaning to the side of "A joke gone too far and he didn't know how to back out and just went with it."
The blame would be on her because she's an adult and he is not. I'm pretty sure the reason why she's so secretive with their son is cause she's scared people will find out about how young she is compared to him. Trust me, I went through the same thing but my boyfriend at the time was older. So, no he would not get in trouble but she will. I mean if they keep it on the low and the only people that know sre understanding then why can't he meet his kid. Also he can take her to court to file for custody but then she'd get in trouble. So it's like a double whammy.
I dont know but a lot of people deal with huge fucking problems by being flippant about it and also because facing it head on would be emotionally too much for them to handle. I tell stories about the time i was tweaking and in rehab and laugh about it and people look at me like i shouldnt be so uncaring about it but thats how i deal
>>16860265
So if he wanted to see his kid, (if it is a real story) he could have by now?
I can honestly say that I'd be 100% content in life, if it wasn't for the fact that my gf makes me feel like I'm abusive.
Since there's no unbiased bystander to say what's what, I'm restless at night half laden with guilt. On one hand, She's neurotic and victimizes herself at the drop of a hat (My point of view) and on the other hand, I'm a violent, raging, lunatic that will snap at the drop of a hat (her point of view)
What do I do about this /adv/?
looking for constructive advice, not the inevitable "cut her off" post.
>>16867699
yeah really gonna need some more to go on here, examples
>>16867699
for some much needed backstory.
>I've never hit her.
aside from that one time we were really high and I reached for the bong at the same time she leaned forward, and I accidentally hit her nose with my forearm. Was no bigger of an ordeal than a stranger bumping you in public though.
>She's hit me.
Her argument is always that it there's no way it hurt me (which it doesn't, but I still don't appreciate it.) and is always, 100% of the time, the instigator in our arguments
>I'm level headed.
Except for with her, she has a way of getting under my skin persistently enough to where I snap at the slightest hint of instigation and tell her to leave me alone.
>She's not outspoken
Except for with me, she's constantly judging and making passive aggressive remarks about the things I do and don't do, but still says she loves me
>I've suggested we break up.
Clearly if I'm as bad for her as she makes it seem, then we don't need to be together. That statement usually ends our altercations, and she'll cry and tell me that I'm not bad for her and she loves me.
this behavior sounds like textbook "abusive relationship victim" behavior to me. someone who realizes they're in a shit position, but wont leave it for the sake of "loving them." and it is what makes me question my innocence.
>>16867699
>am I abusive
>gives no examples
also
>2016
>sticking your dick in crazy
I just sold an Item on Ebay, how much longer do i have to wait to post another listing before it charges me for having more than one item for sale?
does it still charge you for selling multiple items?
Is that death note for sell.... I'll be needing it for nefarious purposes..
>>16860237 get a business license if ur doing it enough.
>>16860245
hahah I was thinking of selling it actually
i made it friday
Hi all.. I've been addicted to porn for a long time.
Would like to get it under control and stop it being a habit that feels like a necessity.
I usually respond and make changes to my life more effectively by hearing stories from other people who have been in a similar situation and gotten through it. It inspires me and gives me hope that I can use to move forward.
Tell me about what you've been through, how it was affecting you, what did you see as milestones, were there any pitfalls, etc etc.
Thanks in advance and feel free to ask any questions that may be relevant.
Define "addicted."
If you're able to go to work/school/pay bills/associate with friends & family( ie: whatever human obligations you have) then is it really a problem? People watch porn. Some people do it every day. Multiple times a day. If other aspects of your life are suffering because it's ALL you do, I suggest therapy. Honestly.
I fell for a girl and porn/fapping just wasn't that satisfying for me, so I stopped.
>>16860235
Having sex with real live women makes porn seem less exciting.
Has anyone here ever lost their virginity to an escort? I know it sounds sad but I'm actually considering going to one that offers the whole girlfriend experience just so I can experience sex and get it out of the way. How do these girls feel about virgins/guys who want them to lead and show them the ropes? How safe is it? Money isn't really an issue if it's only a one-time thing. Any advice is appreciated.
Don't do it dude. You don't need it.
Let me tell you something, OP. I grew up ignoring women completely. I had a few female friends as part of my crew in high school, but that was it. However, at some point after turning 18, I picked a girl I knew and said to myself "I'm going to fuck her."
Soon enough, that's exactly what I did.
Girls aren't that hard, m8. You've just gotta have confidence in yourself.
>>16860222
That's fucking stupid. Losing your virginity to an escort cheapens the experience of losing your virginity simply because you paid for it when you should be capable of doing it yourself.
Why do you care about having sex so much anyway? Don't you have more important things to concern yourself with, like your professional life or developing your self confidence to the degree where you don't actually care about whether or not you are a virgin?
How old are you, OP
>>16860230
How do you go about doing it anyway, especially when talking to girls that you don't know? I don't have that much experience, and a lot of the time I just end up flirting at inappropriate times and coming off too strong when I do start trying to pursue someone.
I don't have confidence issues, but girls seem more interested in me than I am in them.
True or false: Everyone's boyfriends hit them once or twice. You can do something bad enough that your boyfriend is justified in hurting you. If a man feeds, houses and protects a woman, it makes sense that he would occasionally control her physically. If a woman is threatening something her boyfriend owns, he has a right to hurt her to make her stop.
ru4real
false
I've had about 20 girlfriends and never even raised my hand
False, going to jail over material objects is retarded thinking.
>>16867106
False. A girlfriend isn't your wife or property. Hitting her to keep her in line with your needs or to pay you back for his you feel about her is uncalled for and wrong, just as it is to act that way toward any friends or family. If she were to hit or endanger you in someway, then that's a different story.
Okay short and sweet. Matched with a cute girl, had a small chat, she called me sleez a comic book character because of my smile, likes my name and seems interested. I told her i'd message her later tonight as I had to go work. It is now later tonight.
I can hold my own in conversation decently, but it's the progression I suck at. When do I ask to get a drink? etc.. when do I end the convo? I'm afraid i'll either be too slow or too fast.
Please help me, what do you recommend
>>16860202
Lead with:
Do you want to go get a drink?
A huge percentage of women on those things will complain about how guys chat them up for too long before asking to meet in person. If she wants to, she will. If she didn't want to, she wouldn't have anyway.
>>16860227
Right, that makes sense, i'm sure I have some mild autism or something, this is all really hard for me
I just met a guy on tinder and we had a few decent chats over 3 days and ended up talking about movies and he asked me out. I wouldn't wait too long because if it were me I would be worried it wouldn't go anywhere.
But it's weird when you have an OK conversation once and they ask you out right away.
So for me 3 days of good conversation was perfect.
