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Hello, /adv/. I made this thread earlier, but i had to leave before checking it, so it 404'd probably.
How do you deal with OCD? As in, increasing OCD, who got a lot worse and compromises your mental stability. I could control it in the past with mechanisms, but now the great deal of anxiety caused by the illness increases tenfold, and doesn't give me a chance to react before i'm buried in the anxiety-chaos, unable to think clearly. Doctor prescribed me some pills, but those have violent side effects. What to do? How can i go in the streets without being...
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>>16859337
ask for different pills. continue therapy. if ur doc doesnt play along, go to a different doc
>>16859340
Should i really use pills, anon? The pills he gave me could work, but i don't want to depend on them, because once i do, there's no coming back kinda. But i don't know, it's not just the desilusions now, but the anxiety attacks for no reason, which i don't have defenses for due to how fast and overwhelming those are.
>>16859357
ur either strong enough to do it without pills, or your not. there is no middle ground where theres another magic trick wihtout pills. otherwise we wouldnt need pills.
so make a choice.
Hi /adv/. I'm a 19yo student living with my single mother. She's been emotionally, verbally and sometimes physically abusive to me my entire life, but recent incidents involve her threatening to "beat my face until it was nothing but blood and snot" over salad and screaming, throwing things at me because I got sick. She matches all the criteria for borderline disorder but says that therapists are for losers. Anyone who I've talked to has told me to GTFO of this house.
I let her know I want to move out and she broke down crying saying that if I...
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>>16859320
Your brother is a genius.
You sound like a female norman bates.
My advice is to open and run a motel with your mother.
>>16859320
>But I just feel so guilty. I keep remembering all the nice little things she's done for me and how much I'd be hurting her by leaving (my older brother left and went no contact when I was 12).
If she really cared about being a good parent, and keeping your relationship alive, she'd get professional help. Threatening a person over wanting to grow up and live their own life isn't something you do when you care about someone. She is NOT going to get better until...
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>>16859320
A good mother would WANT you to start living an independent life. You weren't born to be this woman's permanent companion. You don't have to sacrifice your happiness and sanity just so she doesn't have to be lonely.
It sounds like your friends and your boyfriend are genuinely trying to help you and look out for your best interest, and it sounds like your mother has NEVER done that. There's only one choice here. You already know it. You gotta jump out of the nest sometime, and you've...
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I want to take some zinc supplements. Issue is I can't swallow pills.
Is it possible to open the pill (looks like pic related) and to just take whats inside or would that not work?
I guess but would tastes horrible
You can do it, but the taste would be terrible. Some pills can be mixed into juice or other flavored drinks, but not all of them can.
Have you tried putting the pill in your mouth and then drinking a big glass of water? That works for many people.
>>16859346
>>16859362
Thanks for the input, I usually open them and swallow them with a spoon of mashed apples.
too retarded to get the big pills down with just about anything
Is it bad to keep your wealth a secret from girls you are dating?
>>16859291
why would it be?
>>16859291
Not at all
>>16859291
>I wonder how well-off he is
>pull up in a 95 Jeep Cherokee with corroded paint
My friend has a big crush on this girl who I also like. Her and I have been talking alot more recently and it seems like she likes me more than my friend. I think I'm starting to fall for her. Any help or advice because I feel like an utter dick.
Tell him that you have feelings for her too. Honesty as soon as possible will make things easier in the future.
>>16859250
how deep dose your brolationship go? if deep, talk to your friend and explain, and think it'd be best if you both went bros before hos.
if not, go for the ho, but lose your friend.
>>16859262
Thanks, I appreciate the reply pal.
Hello /adv/. So, about me, i used to have expensive hobbies. Was a hardcore gamer and a comic book collector. I gave up on them when i saw that they weren't giving me the satisfaction for the price. Sold my consoles and my pc, bought a good notebook(beter for studying and space on my room) and stopped buying comics, will download them now.
The only thing i'm spending money on is when i go out to play soccer with my friends(rent the place, but is cheap), and when i go out to eat something, but i don't do this so much. I started Karate but my parents pay...
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>Sold my consoles and my pc
I'm basically poor and I can say that gaming on a pc is one of the least expensive hobbies out there.
You can use the same computer for many years, and you can download games for free. Even if you prefer to pay, there's lots of promotions on steam that make games cheap as fuck.
>>16859244
Honestly if i could have the time id go to the gym more. If i had the time plus money id go learn some ju jitsu. Not for fighting purposes but it builds discipline plus i kinda miss the grappling i did with frienda when i was in the corps.
The other shit that i do that dont costs me money is the uberbasics. Drawing and writing. Loved LOVED writing military fiction. But again, takes time i dont have. Figure out what your interests are and try to make them cheap bud.
But anything fun costs at least 8 dollars.
>>16859255
I understands this but the thing is, my PC wasnt that good and i don't play much any new stuff or even have interest on it. If i need to, i do have a fairly powerful laptop to hold on, but thanks
So I have a girlfriend, and I really care about her a lot. We don't life together, and we try to spend as much time together as possible. I really only have one day a week where I'm free. I have school Monday-Friday, and then I have music on Sundays.
I make a pretty big point of devoting most of my Saturdays to her, but that of course means that I have no other time to spend with my friends. Yesterday, I planned to hand out with some friends, and she had for some reason assumed that I was going to spend it with her.
I tried to make plans with them, and for...
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>>16859203
>for some reason
you spend literally every saturday with her for an extended period of time and pretend to be surprised when this happens
>she thinks that i cant spend any time with anybody with her
anytime? or just not the one day a week she gets to see you?
im actually very pro-bro and very anti-ho, but it seems here you're acting like you did nothing wrong, when in your mind before you made plans with friends you literally...
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mmmm, nice legs.
>>16859200
You're a fuccboi
>>16859200
Maybe it's because you're a spooky scary skeleton.
I had an emotional outburst in which I called my druggie, irresponsible mother a degenerate and a whore, then smashed some things and kicked others. I'm still angry at her and she's disinheriting me, which I don't mind, but I'm genuinely sorry for having yelled at her.
I want to chop of my pinky finger as forgiveness after I sign off my part of the company (which she'll make me do anyway), as a way to say sorry and express sincere apologies. My question is, is there any way to do this so as to make sure I cut it off in one clean swipe?
Particularly,...
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>>16859180
You speak pretty good English, Yakuzaman
>>16859201
Thank you.
Cutting your hair is a more traditional method of physical apology, outside of criminal organizations. Shave your head. It will grow back.
If you absolutely insist on going full Yakuza, then at least get your traditions right. You don't cut off the whole pinky for a first offense. At worst -and this is only for severe infractions- you cut the last joint (i.e. the very tip) of the pinky on your off hand, This is enough to impair your ability to hold a sword, which makes you more dependent on the organization. But not too much, because they still need men who can go...
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Okay, I've had bad acne since 13 (18 now) and it's just such a pain in the ass to deal with. It seems like I get a new one every week. My diet is healthy, I get plenty sleep. and I hardly have stress. I haven't been touching my face or picking/popping the pimples, but they're just not going away. I had made an appointment with a derm, and they gave me epiduo. Turns out, that made it 3x worse. I then try proactive which was the biggest mistake of my life, because now I have small cysts on my jawline.
What can I do? I'm male, so makeup and such is...
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Do you still live at home or at a university?
I had lots of acne in my face in my teenage years.
Now i'm 21 and having acne on my face is very rare, I still get lots of them on my back/shoulders though.
Maybe it's a matter of time.
>>16859163
pic related is me. hwo you ask?
>tretinoin in the morning (prescription)
>salicylic acne wash in the shower
>moisturizer after shower (and as needed)
>erythromicin at night (prescription)
tretinoin is a cream that kidna makes your skin peel. kills acne, often stops it from growing.
salicylic acne wash you can get at any store, i get mine at riteaid, grapefruit looking...
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Severely stupid question, but if you don't get a response from a girl the next day when you texted her right before she went to bed, it probably means she forgot? She was sending me long messages and was happy, all while she was working too.
>>16859162
the answer is maybe
from my experience girls "mood" when texting change alot
one day she may be sending long messages and the other she may not even read it, and it's not because they forgot
>>16859162
Fuck I was just thinking about making this thread.
texted a tinder match if she wanted to meet up on Tuesday and she hasn't messaged me back for 1 1/2 hrs.
Granted we haven't exchanged messages this entire week, as she was on spring break, I'm still nervous about it.
Fuck I really hope she messages me back.
>>16859195
Oh, well she looks at me a lot and the only reason I texted her was because she offered help on a speech I'm preparing. I'll see her tomorrow anyway.
I'm fucking terrified.
I don't know why. Nothing is wrong. I had a very boring, uneventful Sunday of having absolutely nothing to do. Now I'm sitting here with this sense of dread.
I have a phobia about throwing up. When I feel like I might throw up I get this same feeling that I have now, and I'm just bloody terrified. But I don't feel sick whatsoever, just really scared and mentally disoriented.
What the fuck is going on with me???? What can I do to make this feeling go away?
Pic unrelated
bumping for help
Are you anxious? Do you have a history of anxiety/panic attacks? Is there anything at all going on in the back of your head that might be worrying you?
>>16859174
Absolutely nothing. I haven't ever really had panic attacks before, a couple maybe but really minor, like I calmed down after a minute or two of focusing on breathing in and out.
Going on a second date with a girl tomorrow, we've already had coffee and we're going to see a film
I'm going to kiss her on the cheek when I greet her, then walk with her for ~10 minutes on the way to the cinema. I'll ask her if she wants to get a drink afterward. I asked her out to the cinema so I'll get the tickets, but is it right to pay for the drinks too?
After the drinks I'll probably look and see if she's interested. If she's got reserved body language, I'll ask if she thinks there's anything there. If she's...
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please respond
>>16859155
>asking if theres anything there
this is the biggest vagina dryer ever. its even a penis softener. when women say
>where is this going
that tends to be the sentence that kills the steady escalation. if a man asks that, it'd be worse.
its not just women. EVERYONE likes someone who is decisive and makes a move. if they want you to make a move
worse case scenario is she avoids your move, you apologize after that, then...
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At this point I don't think you ask if 'there's anything there'. You set up a third date.
My sisters heroin addict drunk bf broke her finger. He was trying to get in the house so he was pushing on the door and she opened it, causing her to fall back and she broke her finger.
Does it make me a pussy that I don't feel mad or intend to do anything about it? Found out today and it's been a month since it happened.
No anger or anything, what's wrong with me?
>>16859150
Nothing wrong with you, you're just redpilled and know that your sister is trash, just keep yourself out of her business and you're cool.
Sometimes people put themselves repeatedly into bad situations. You can't be a saviour unless you want to or that person wants to let you.
>>16859176
What do you mean by red pulled? Shouldn't I have some sort of duty to beat this guy up for what he did?
Also she isn't trash, she is bad at making decisions (obviously) but she is the kindest sweetest woman
My girlfriend went down on me and I came in her mouth. Then we kissed right after that (whatever). Then right after that I went down on her.
SO what is the possibility of sperm having transferred from her mouth to mine, then from my mouth to her vagina, and resulted in pregnancy. Talking about the fucking exodus of sperm here, but is it possible? How possible?
Thank you guys.
I'd say that the chances are slim to none.
Almost zero.
>>16859149
It's technically possible, but spectacularly unlikley. Staistically speaking you have a higher chance of being eaten by a shark in the next nine months than you do of becoming a father.
