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I've always been a cross-dresser (started wearing mom's shoes, clothes as a kid, dressed up as a girl as a teenager, now regularly dress as a woman in public) and now whenever I see a woman, I think how beautiful she is and get extremely jealous that I don't look like that. Every day I want to be a girl more and more, to the point that I'm having dreams about literally being one. Am I becoming a trap?
I feel so uncomfortable that I can't put on a nice summer dress and let down flowing blonde hair and be one of the girls. I've always gotten along with women much better than with other men and always had trouble fitting in with guys. Female ways of relating to other people always came more naturally to me and I was accused of being gay or feminine in school. Now I'm 24 and I just want to be a pretty girl, but I feel like it's too late. Am I a worthless tranny?
W/o knowing you, will honestly say you're not worthess. Nobody is.
No need to answer out loud, but do you fixate on your outward appearance ( the part you can physically control) and neglect your internal thoughts, feelings, values, etc.
Not to add more confusion in your thinking. Please don't over analyze some stranger's opinion. Just maybe find someone who has your best interests in mind as figure out where you want to go and how to get there. Peaxe
>>16858274
Idk, I care a lot about appearance but I always have too. I'm really confused and am wondering if I'm transgender. I don't always cross-dress but there's always this desire for me to be a pretty girl.
You're not trans you just have female envy, there's a specific word for this I forgot. Basically, just like your crossdressing, you want to play dress up and look like a woman. Not BE a woman. Which you never could be anyway. Cheers.
I'm 25 and have never had a girlfriend partly because I had been a major retard and partly because I spent the majority of my school years being depressed as fuck.
I'm a different man now. I have a very active social life, exercise regularly, and have a decent job. People think I'm funny and generally think I've had girlfriends in the past (as in they think I'm much more experienced than I actually am).
Now that my mental health is in order, I would like to start putting myself out on the dating market. Thing is, I'm really inexperienced...
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When you develop a crush, you find the girl on Facebook so that you can go through her photos to find ones of her and her ex knowing full well that this totally demotivates you.
>my mental health is in order
Not even fucking close m8.
>>16858125
This, you still have to work on your insecurities OP.
If you want to date, stop giving a shit. Every girl has a past, and you weren't a part of it, get over it.
If a girl is interested in you, she's interested in you. Her ex's are her ex's for a reason.
Keep lifting, eating well, and practicing your game. Start an okcupid account or tinder account and practice flirting with randos. It will boost your confidence tremendously, and help you get over fear of rejection.
My...
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>>16858125
not really. i don't go through someone's facebook photos to be demotivated. it's more like a picture of my crush pops on my facebook feed and i just click next until her past photos start popping up and then I see the ex.
Hi /adv/,
My girlfriend and I have been together for a solid two months now. I'm really in love with her, and we get on on a mental, physical and emotional level. She's my first serious girlfriend, and I don't want to ruin this, because I really really really like her (I even love her, but can't get the words out of my mouth). I trust her. But my main problem is, is that I am not very open to people, and it takes a really long time (at least a year) before I trust someone enough to start opening up, and tell them how I feel about the world and show...
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Don't. You're trying to force something which should resolve naturally. Your two month relationship is not going to suffer a lick of damage over this situation right now.
>>16858080
Unhealthy and I'll tell you why. You seek validation from other people.
Validation comes from within.
I used to be a lot like you, then around 20 I suddenly snapped out of it and started liking myself and my surroundings. I stopped needing justification to be me.
That's what you need. 'Opening up' isn't a thing.
>>16858082
I always imagined that having a relationship with someone meant that I had this connection of total trust instantly.
So this is probably due to my inexperiencedness with relationships?
>>16858104
How did you snap out of it?
I recognize the needing validation. But it is only the case with her. For the rest I don't give a shit about what the world thinks/wants from me.
My neighbors constantly leave their dog in their backyard and it keeps on barking as long as they're out of the house.
What can I do? I mean, are dog whistles any good for this? I've seen some apps that allegedly produce frequencies out of the human hearing range, but I don't think that they can actually work. Any ideas?
>>16858067
Suck it's dick
>>16858067
Tell your neighbors. If they do nothing call the cops.
If the cops get nothing done and this is actually affecting you, shoot the dog.
You tell them that their dog is barking all day. If they don't do something about it, you call the cops every time it lasts longer than 15 minutes.
I'm 25 and she's 19. Shouldn't be a problem, right? Why, then, do I feel anxious, disappointed, and vaguely creepy about it?
I've never had a girlfriend or been on a real date before. She seems head over heels for me. When I met her I thought she was around 22 or 23, but she's 19. Half-my-age plus 7 says it's just barely fine. But I don't feel fine. I'm worried that we won't have anything in common.
How do I calm myself down enough to not act weird during my date tonight?
I'd expect it to be more likely than not that it SHOULD be a problem. It's not so much about having stuff in common--I've dated people from so many walks of life--but that your life experiences are significantly different. She doesn't go through what you do on a day-to-day basis. It makes it hard to relate to someone like that. It's a breeding ground for insecurity and jealousy. I don't worry as much about "stuff in common" as I do "life in common." A lot of compatibility in a relationship comes from being with someone who gets...
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As long as she's over 18, who gives a fuck? I respect guys with younger girlfriends, young girlfriends are the shit.
They look up to you, worship your cock, and are easy to please.
My gf is my age and she's great (22), but I've had teenage pussy in the past and it's a whole 'nother ball game.
My bf's 21, i'm 27. I was kind of shocked when i met him and i found out his age... I genuinely thoufht he was my age.
However, i think it's very important to keep communication open. In every relationship, but in age-gap ones even more so. Especially regarding expectations, how you spend time together, values, future, and so on. We are in rather different parts of our lifes. I'm going towards 30, he's just out of bein a teen. There is some compromising that needs to be done, for sure. But so far we manage that pretty awesomely. He's studying...
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how the fuck do you manage to fuck girls from dating websites?
all of them seem to be interested in "serious relationship" only
If i ask them if they want to have fun or sex the conversation up, it's usually a NO
I don't have any problems to get first dates / meet them, but then it seems it would take forever for them to put out, since they are looking for a bf.
so how do you guys do it?
should I look for girls who are not looking for a serious relationship, or meet the ones that are, and try to get sex out of it?
>>16858056
You're on the wrong dating website, mang. Not sure what the hookup ones are, since I've never really done this, but Tinder is a well-known one.
>>16858068
I've signed up on meetic (not sure it's famous in the US, i'm in europe), simply because of the sheer amount of girls.
I've managed to meet 3 of them in a month
>first one I was able to have her meet me at my place and I fucked her
>other 2 I went to a bar with them and they never replied at my texts after that
so I have no idea wtf I'm doing wrong
I'd assume that most girls who say they are looking for a serious...
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Girls most of the time don't go looking for casual sex because sex comes so easy to them and they don't want to be seen as sluts.
However, if you say you're looking for a relationship, or just to be friends, that doesn't mean she won't put out on the first date.
Seriously, on tinder, okcupid, etc, they all fucking do this shit "not just looking for hookups!!" Is only partially true. They aren't out looking (well most of the time), but if it "just happens" in the heat of the moment, well that's not their fault!...
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Post all your stories about how you failed at romance in highschool.
For example, A girl asked me who I was taking to the dance and I was too nervous and suggested my friend as a joke. I then looked away awkwardly and left.
>>16858052
"The girl that got away" is still this girl from high school/college that I didn't act on because of a lack of self confidence.
I developed a thing for her when my LDR was starting to wane. She was on the dance team, just absolutely gorgeous. I was terrified of talking to her, but when I was finally single, this girl started to invite me to parties that she was at, where I finally met her and we became pretty close.
She had a boyfriend, but for years she was over at my house all the...
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>>16858052
Was really into this guy. Told him how I felt but told me he wasn't ready for a relationship. Few weeks later he starts dating my best friend. Still upsets me even though it was years ago. Last I heard they're still together.
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Hey /adv/, I'm going abroad soon to visit my boyfriend and I'll be meeting his family for the first time. When he came here they sent gifts with him for me and my family and we'd like to do the same for them. But I'm at a loss for what to get his two brothers and father, and my boyfriend hasn't been able to offer much insight into what they might like.
Whatever I bring needs to be able to go through customs and be brought onto a plane. What are some thoughtful gifts to consider? I'm from America and they're from the UK if it helps.
>>16858022
Give them some blowjobs you stupid whore
Use their gifts as inspiration. What did they send over to you and your family?
>>16858109
An apron, three cookbooks filled with traditional British recipes, some cute tea towels, and some canvas bags with the British flag and other distinctly British motifs. When my boyfriend returned we sent a cookbook back with him along with a few other small things. I was thinking of possibly getting them something distinctly American like they did with the bags, but I'm not sure what.
I recently learned that a friend of mine has cheated in a relatonship in the past (although she broke up with them afterwards), and it's gotten me thinking about how I feel about cheating.
There's no doubt that it's absolutely reprehensible, but do you think it's possible for someone to change, and would you date someone knowing they had cheated?
I'd also like to hear any related stories, if anyone has them.
I think it's possible to change.
My gf of 2.5 years cheated on someone in a previous relationship and learned from it apparently. I can't know 100% for sure whether or not she has on me, but I believe her when she says she hasn't, we really REALLY are in love with eachother and fantasize about living together, and it's very obviously genuine and sincere on her part as well, as someone whom it's very hard to win over their trust, I trust her completely now, I can just hear how much she loves and cares for me in her voice and can feel it in her...
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It all depends on the situation.
Would I date a woman who had cheated on her previous husband? No.
Would I date a woman who did a stupid thing back in high school and it's been well over a decade since it happened? Sure.
>>16858002
sometimes someone doesnt understand how important fidelity is until they've actually cheated or been cheated on. until then it might not seem like a big deal. but after fallout, people grow and change a bit.
repeat offenders are probably going to serve lifelong sentences though.
all that being said
>its absolutely reprehensible
is it tho?
So I went on my second date with this girl yesterday, and I thought it went well. When we split ways, we hugged and I gave her a kiss on the cheek. I think it threw her off, because I texted her afterwards to meet up again another time and she's not responding. Now I get that she's a person too, who has other shit to do, but it's a little disheartening to hear nothing back, because I really like her.
What should I do? Just let it be and give it a couple days? Or be more proactive and give her another text/call or something?
>>16857983
Busy I guess.
Chill out senpai. Don't spam calls. It's been like a day.
>>16857995
I haven't spammed, don't worry. I only texted her like last night. I want to still seem interested, because I am, but I don't want to come off as desperate
>>16858045
I was literally about to post this same exact thread then I saw your post. I went out with a girl on thursday, texted her that I had a great time but didn't hear back. The kicker is she is in one of my classes (uni) on monday so I have to face the inevitably of seeing her again. I'm sweating this interaction for some reason because I haven't been rejected or accepted yet... it's a weird gray area and it pisses me off. I'd rather have her come right out and reject me rather than this fucking guessing game.
Help, Ive been in Poland for the past year, doing an exchange for university. I started dating this girl I met at university, she was very sweet and we got a long really well. One thing led to another, and now she's pregnant. Because of Polish laws, she can't have an abortion, ( I dont advocate for that either ) but we both want to keep the child. Im scheduled to go back to Canada. Im worried especially for my parent's reaction, but also how I can actually provide, since I'm still gonna have to do another 2 years of university. Does anyone have any suggestions...
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There's nothing you can do, you fucked up and made a huge mistake, seriously this isn't something to be taken lightly, like Ohhh oh well, no you brought a fucking child into the world that you can't afford to raise properly, and because of that the child is going to live a shitty life and not know you, and probably grow up to hate you. All you can do is try to take up a part time job if you have time, and send her what little you can, even though that's hardly put a dent in what will be needed to raise the kid, if you don't even have time for that, idk...
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1. Tell them
2. Good luck with the part time job
Anon it's Poland. You can probably rely on your parents to provide the pittance it takes to live there. You can pay them back later right?
Do companies ask for their employees facebook and such?
Part of the job (graphic designer) I'm applying for goes through managing social accounts such as facebook and instagram, but I have neither since I deleted them ages ago. Will it matter that I have little experience on it?
No, they just want to make sure you don't post dumb shit on social media.
>>16857971
but will they ask for it?
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How to deal with The paÃn and frustration of going to work and school everyday?
Girlfriend says she wants me to choke her a little bit during sex.
She's never said anything about this before (we've only been together for like 4 months), and I'm curious what /adv/'s read on the matter is.
What does this say about her personality? What about my personality? I have no problem during it if it helps her get off, it just seems out of place to me.
>>16857922
It means she want's to sue you for rape once she videotapes you doing it
Get out while you can
Why is it out of place? A lot of people enjoy some form of domination.
Fuck you mean, your personality? You didn't say what you thought of it. As for hers, what do you think? It's a fetish shitmonger ffs.
1. Ask GF has she suffered physical trauma in the past?
2. Hear her answer.
3. Connect the dots, friend. Does she mistake viloence for love????
4. Use your conscience!
Hi, I'm a broke math student and I only eat one meal a day (latenight). Is it dangerous ?
>pic not related
Short answer: no
Medium answer: it might be if your blood sugar tanks while you're driving
Long answer: you're really upping the difficulty on making sure that you get enough micro- and macronutrients, and that your body has the opportunity to properly digest and utilize them before it's shipped out from your bowels
Long as my dick answer: prob not
>>16857920
You should be fine....but why do it late at night?
Do it mid-day.
>>16857920
>Long as my dick answer:
Why didn't you just lead with the short answer?
