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So my parents are getting a divorce, and my Mom is telling me shit about my Dad that she can't prove, and I don't know who to trust anymore. My brother and I don't know what to do, and my parents are letting us pick who we want to live with. Any thoughts?
Well, in the end, the only thing that's going to matter are your and your brother's personal opinion of them.
But as a general rule, be wary of the one that is actively trying to slander the other person : In this case, your mom.
Does your dad also tries to make you distrust your mom, or does he keep quiet ?
Both my parents slander each other post-separation. They say awful things about each other but I chose to ignore everything they said, and I live with my mom because of my own personal experience she is the more respectful of the two.
>>16856482
Well then, it seems like you might already have made your choice.
And your brother, did he took the same decision for the same reason ?
I want to make 60k annually but I'm shit at math beyond calculus. What are my career options?
>>16856417
Depending on your area one of the skilled trades could easily make that much.
>>16856417
Literally ANY career option that is not stats/econ/accounting.
Easier to say that, than list ALL your options.
>>16856417
What do you enjoy doing? There are a lot of jobs that (eventually) make that much money. One example is: welder. If you're willing to put the time and effort into what you do you can make a decent amount of money doing all sorts of shit. What you are willing to work for and your available resources will decide your options.
If I were to make weed pancakes could I just through the weed in the pancake batter or do I have to to the thing with the butter?
You need the butter to get the THC out of it, you can also put the weed grinded into heavy alcohol for some days and then use this.
You need to bake the ground-up weed for a while first to activate the THC or w/e.
Then you need to cook it in butter or oil. THEN You put it into the pancake mix.
You should go to google for this, not /adv/. God damnit I hate lazy fucks like you who come here asking stupid questions that a quick google search could answer. How do you even function in society?
No, you will waste weed, how about googling how to make edibles instead of asking to be spoonfed
Good place to start is how to make budder
I can't lie I dislike this board alot and I am surprised that I find myself desperate enough to come here for advice, but I fear for my own life honestly.
Each day that goes by I am coming closer and closer to killing myself and its the only way I think that I can escape the pain that I feel in my head and body its probably just mental but the pain is there.
I'm not going to lie I don't want to kill myself but the thought just gets louder and louder in my head and it just seems to make sense at the point.
I've decided that if I want to...
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>>16856404
>berates the people he seeks help from
>wants to kill self
>won't kill self
>decides how to kill self
Advice? Kill yourself faggot.
>>16856409
>berates people he seeks help from
Should I have just lied?
I guess I didn't have to add that, I just thought it'd be valuable to show how desperate I am at this point.
whats your life like? Btw 4chans not the best place to ask these kinds of questions. If you want more serious answers, maybe seek them in more popular forums dealing with depression/suicide.
Does anyone have an experience like this..?
I started dating this girl a couple years ago, my first girlfriend ( I'm 24 she's 21 ). We dated up until a couple months ago then broke up. Until that time we lived together. I'm pretty sure I fell in love. Then I broke it off.. I had to, for personal reasons. But we still talk everyday. I don't want to get back with her, for various reasons. One being, that there is a very high chance that, for all intents and purposes, I am gay. But I love her still, and I just want to make sure she's okay. She was...
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>>16856387
I guess you can't tell her you're gay?
Personally I have a hard time talking to exes, but it's not like I have close female friends anyway.
>>16856448
We are very open, I was telling her I was probably gay before we broke up. I don't have a hard time talking to her at all. I don't talk to anyone else, I don't have any friends I talk to regularly besides her. I've heard exes can't be friends but I think maybe her and I can. I just don't have any relationship experience ( well until this ) so that's why I asked.>>>>16856448
But then all these websites say staying in contact is the worst idea.. Fuck.. I suppose it will resolve itself eventually
OK, this is gonna sound weird, but how often should you text your girlfriend?
I've been with quite a few girls before. Some of them, I couldn't reply to them fast enough (they sent a lot of texts.) Others, I feel like I'm the one texting too much. I've had ONE girl, just one, who texted me and I texted back at a seemingly healthy rate. Coincidentally she was the hardest breakup that I'm still not 100% over.
The girlfriend I have now seemingly never texts me. Maybe its because I text too much, but I just got off of work and I hadn't...
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So there's this one girl that's interested in me. Thing is, she isn't really my type; I just don't find her that attractive. I don't know her very well (at all, actually), but at a glance she doesn't seem like a terrible person.
I have very little interest in her, but I'm considering dating her anyway. The reason being that it's been nearly 8 years since my last date, I'm clearly a little rusty. The only reason for me to date her is so I can get some practice in, and use that experience on a girl I'm actually interested...
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Don't string people along, it will come back to bite you in the ass. When you learn how to manipulate people like that, it's very hard to stop doing it.
go ahead and date her, BUT let her know that you're not looking for anything serious/you're dating other people.
Is this a good apology to send to someone and should I send it? i don't think I ever will bump into her again, nor do I expect her to reply at all
>Hey, I just wanted to apologize for how I behaved last year as your roommate. I treated you quite poorly and created a toxic environment which you did not deserve. I was struggling with substance abuse at the time, and i just wanted to apologize to you for everything i did. Anyway, I wish you the best
>>16856352
I think it's good, and it's definitely a good idea to send it to her. Just for peace of mind for both of you.
>>16856352
Great. Just dont expect anything from her. This message probably will comfort her.
>>16856352
bitches love apologies
do it. it's great.
I'm personally a little torn on the excuse part, because to me it would feel like deferring responsibility, especially if she already knows about it. but, on the other hand it also shows that you've been working on yourself, maybe even because of her.
whatever. it's perfect enough. just send it.
Hearing my friend talk about his GF or how happy he is with her makes me want to hurt myself. Its stupid, i know.
I don't like the girl btw
why is this? what can i do to stop these feelings?
You feel this way because you miss your friend. You want your old friend back, not this mindless girl-crazy dumbfuck shell of a human being.
You either need a girlfriend of your own, or a new friend.
>>16856361
>You feel this way because you miss your friend.
i did use to feel romantically about him, so this could make sense.
>not this mindless girl-crazy dumbfuck shell of a human being.
hes not really, its just this one girl
>You either need a girlfriend of your own, or a new friend.
a girlfriend will have to wait on, a new friend i dunno.
Honestly, this kind of stuff happens when i see anyone talk about being...
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>>16856366
>i did use to feel romantically about him
There's your problem, you're a faggot.
You're not even one of those cool faggots like bears and macho leather types. You're an outright twink with girly emotions.
Alright. I've been dealing with social anxiety and awkwardness for all 18 years of my life. It's not to the point where I'm some weird ass kid who can't interact with anyone, but I am pure shit at social interaction. I am very smart and I want to be able to express my thoughts with others. I want to be able to have fun at social gatherings without wanting to blow my brains out every time I talk to someone. I want to be the type of person who is glowing with character and charisma. Right now people always say I look depressed (which I am) and they always bring up how I don't talk much. I can't change my expression to display emotion whatsoever. I always look sad and tired. I've watched hours upon hours of online tutorials on how to be more outgoing and confident but none of that shit works. I tried taking Xanax to make me more comfortable in social situations but that doesn't work either. I have a decent amount of friends but I want to have the ability to socialize with people I'm not familiar with. I can't remember the last time I talked to a woman. I don't know how to initiate conversations out of the blue with pretty girls and truly get to know them. I think I'm gonna try going to the doctors but I'm not sure if my problem will be taken seriously. Do doctors take social anxiety and awkwardness as a serious problem? I'm just tired of having to live everyday feeling so isolated from everyone else and I don't know what to do. Sorry to rant but I'm just out of options. My depression worsens everyday I have to deal with these issues.
>>16856340
Do you ever laugh? Like, ever? Here's a trick to faking a natural smile: thinking of the most hilarious shit you can remember, then when it makes you chuckle freeze that face. Congrats, you now look like a happy, approachable human.
Beyond that, socialization is a skill that just takes practice, time, and effort. You're very young, don't beat yourself for not knowing how to handle yourself, it's pretty normal.
Any ethical doctor will take you seriously. You may be referred to a psychotherapist of some kind.
It helps to pay attention to whatever social situations you're a part of, even if you're just observing them. How do people great each other? What do they talk about? When someone does or says something that makes you feel good or bad, remember what it was and why you felt that way. It's likely other people will respond similarly. Ape the good stuff and avoid the bad stuff. After every social interaction you should take some time while alone to pick it apart and examine what was going on as objectively as you can. Understand that small talk is not about transferring information, but about getting comfortable with one another. It's how people feel each other out and find common ground. Master small talk and you'll be able to move on to real talk, which most everyone enjoys more.
A good question to ask yourself is: why do you feel like you want to die whenever you talk to people? Is that a realistic thought?
If you're worried about what to say in conversation, try to ask questions people enjoy answering. 'What do you do for fun?' is a great one. Pay attention to what they say, ask follow up questions, try to find a point of common interest that will let you find a comfortable conversation topic you both enjoy. Cultivating a genuine interest in people is probably the easiest way to avoid social fear, since you're focusing on them instead of worrying so much about yourself.
How does a non white boi such as myself go about getting a white gurl?
fat/ugly girls are less picky, go for them
>>16856296
Are you Asian, OP?
>Freshman year of college, off to bigger and better things
>Four months into first semester, meet a girl
>After a few months of friendship, she becomes available
>Putt around for a few weeks so as not to come off as a rebound attempt
>Ask her for exclusivity.
>A year and some go by
>We moved cities together, she began university, I'm finishing out community...
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>>16856271
>A couple of months ago
>Start to feel lonely, no roommates, she goes home every night as per mothers request
>She's twenty one, and despite her age or position in life, her mothers mentality is "If you live under my roof, you abide by my rules."
>General 7:00 PM Curfew on Weekdays
>1:00 AM on Weekends
>reminder: she's twenty-fucking-one years old.
>Discuss...
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Evidently Adblock was keeping me from posting. Fun.
I have a few choices here adv
>Marry her prematurely and risk a separation
We've been together almost two years and I know I'll marry this girl someday, but for the time being, neither of us are in a position to do so without it seeming forced or with ulterior motive. I don't want to risk losing her over something like that
>Convince her mother to see otherwise
Given her mentally and emotionally abusive tendencies, coupled...
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Has anyone ever experienced eating and then feeling gross? I hate the feeling of being full to the point I don't really care to eat that much. Mg diet primarily consists of junk food cause it's light.
yes
everytime i overeat or eat junk food i get that bad feeling after the initial pleasure goes away, and i'm not even self concious about my weight
Don't settle for that bullshit, appeal it. Take it to the department head.
Go and talk to the teacher. Also the teacher may be in the right here - lots of classes are not about whether you got the right answer, but about whether you used the right method to get your answer. That's why you'll find in lots of classes you'll get partial credit if your working is right but for some reason you come to the wrong answer.
>>16856272
>Take it to the department head.
The first thing they'll do is ask if OP has talked to the teacher.
I had this happen to me in math 132, which was a finite mathematics course in college. Which was by far the worst math---well the worst class in general I took at college.
Its been awhile, but had to something to do with matrices and reduced row echelon bullshit. There was an easy formula to do to get the answer, but if we did that we didn't get points on the test, they wanted us to grind out the matrix using the long method. Man I hated that shit.
Anyway, dispute it OP---unless they specifically said you couldn't use a certain method, they can't...
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Has anyone been on antidepressants for long periods of time? I've been on Citalopram 20mg for some time now, though I have been on it before in the past (on and off again cold turkey).
This time though I am usually riddled with stomach problems (gas/bloating, nausea, indigestion, etc) and it seems like no matter what I have done, nothing has improved it. I cut caffeine barring the occasional cup once a week or two, increased fiber, and even tried different times of day/meal or no meal. Nothing is working. Anyone experience this? Is it really because of my medication?
>>16856227
You'll need to talk to a medical professional about your medical problems if you want actual advice.
You should consider investing time into cognitive behavioral therapy to correct the fucked up thought patterns causing your depression in the first place so you don't have to mitigate the symptoms with meds.
>>16856227
How long have you been on your meds for? Because it will take time for you to get used to it. If it has been a while, you should talk to your doctor about what alternatives or supplementary meds you can take.
I was on 150mg Zoloft but I experienced too much fatigue, and my doctor prescribed me mirtazapine for it. It didn't work, but it was worth a shot
>>16856227
First of all, going off meds cold turkey can really fuck you up. I've done it twice and didn't realize how damaging it was until days later.
I've been on antidepressants for quite a while. I was on Lexapro for 2 years (it didn't do shit) and have been on Zoloft for 3 years. Zoloft personally made a huge difference in my life. It has helped my tolerance for dealing with both other people and my own negative/masochistic thoughts. However, it does have some fucked up side effects like making...
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