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College for me isn't going that great. Academically I'm doing fine, but I feel like I could be a lot more social but I'm not. I commute to school because, honestly, I couldn't do the dorm life. I have way too many bad living habits and would feel confined to a room. A lot of commuters go to my school, I am aware of that, but I still feel depressed or sad whenever I think of society's expectations for a 19 year old. I just have a part-time job and still live at home. I don't know.... I just feel sad and at times unwilling to do anything.
Do you have friends? I commute and still live at home, and I've never felt like I'm missing out or anything, but almost all my friends are/were in the same boat too.
>>16856930
I have some friends, yeah. Most are commuters, but I'm not exactly super close with them. Two of the guys I know I'm trying to get to know better because they seem really cool. If you don't mind me asking, what school do you attend?
>>16856927
Commuting automatically excludes you from a lot of social activity because it tends to happen spontaneously on the spot among residents - "hey," someone will shout in a dorm hallway, "Who wants to go out for pizza?"
So you have to work harder to create connections. Join clubs. Arrange your commuting schedule so you can spend more time on campus, working in the library or just hanging out in the snack bar. Reach out to others.
Yo /adv/ I'm coming to you guys for many reasons. In simple terms I'm depressed due to crazy ex always messing with my head and me being too weak to break things off because I'm madly in love with her still. Also I'm constantly aggravated at something or someone and tonight was probably one if the most out of control nights I've had (I even ended up thowing shit around like a child). I'm terrified I can't control myself anymore. I know there's plenty of other girls but honestly they all bore me to death because they aren't my ex...I...
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>>16856926
How long were you together? When did you break things off?
Was it a clean break up, messy, still friends or what?
Depending on where you live, if you go to your doctor you should be able to get a mental health plan.
They bore you because they aren't your ex, yet you say that all she did was fuck with your head and break you down. Why would you want that when you clearly just said how bad it was for you? Isn't it clear that people like her are bad for you?
Between that and then throwing shit around and ranting make me think you've got some deep rooted issues and potentially self destructive tendencies. Why?
>>16856935
We we're together for a year, we decided to end things the beginning of Sep last year...and here's where it gets complicated....she started dating some fool and (as stupid as this sounds) won't end things with him because he's "in love with her" and she doesn't want to hurt his feelings...I've tried leaving her even for a couple months I didn't talk to her, just ended up running right back. Also she fucks me behind his back all the time...I know I'm a terrible human...
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How do I become friends with Axl Rose?
Hold a candle in a cold November rain?
Guy doesnt even have an e in axl
>>16857018
Nor does he have a rose.
So i'm totally in love with this girl (pic) but she lives in northern Australia. What should I do?
Love is shared between two.
The term you're looking for is infatuated.
>>16856860
most likely true
Get over her. Not trying to be mean, sadly this is just part of life. You like someone, hell, you love someone, but then you can't be together for some reason... And it hurts. But you slowly get over it, it's all you can do. The girl in the picture is cute but she's pretty average, find some girl who looks like her who lives in your area.
I've had close calls with suicide myself and am recovering from depression. I feel a calling for working suicide hotlines. I have contributed in suicide forums and successfully talked someone down from suicide once and when the trained moderator visited the transcript said I did very well for someone who isnt trained. However I felt extremely drained and triggred and havent been back to that site since. Should I consider volunteering for such work?
bump because i still need advice
>>16856830
if you're recovering from depression (which i read as struggling with depression but improving), i don't think you should do it just yet.
the real question to ask yourself here is: what about the people you can't help? are you mentally strong enough to cope with someone coming to you for help, and still ending themselves? it takes serious mental fortitude to be able to handle that.
you should be prepared for the worst going into that kind of thing. it's a noble cause; but in reality...
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My gf worked for what I guess is the UK equivalent for many years. She started off when she was young and idealistic, I don't know what your situation is like, but she was quite quickly taught that in her role, procedure and professionalism was very important and overruled self disclosure, personal experience and the ability to relate too much was actually unhelpful compared to the ability to detach and provide a service. I mean, I can't be like "I get you bro, man, I've been there, let me gas about myself and my situation a while".
It isn't...
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Totally in love with this girl, but she lives in Australia, what should I do?
>>16856825
sorry wrong photo idk how to delete this
Find someone who you can actually meet in real life. Otherwise, it's just chaturbate.
>>16856825
Go to Australia?
i know its a lame question to ask
but how long does it really take for you to get over someone?
It always took me a lot of time to get over my ex girlfriend (inb4 dont contact them, i stopped all contacts), even if i was the one to break up. and even when i "get over" it, i still can remember all the things i felt, just like i feel them now too. Like i still love them but in a different way.
Im a 26 year old man, had a certain amount of women, had three long relationships, loved deeply each one of them. With the last one i broke up in august last...
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You know, saying, 'just move on' is not really nice, but it's the only solution. And the best one. Really, I'd say 'just solider on, and don't let your past poison your future," which is probably easier to take, anyhow.
I've been in your shoes, anon- dated the same girl from 13-23, wasted a couple of years moping, after it was over. I'm married with kids, now. I'd probably have suck started a pistol if I ended up with my ex. She was nothing but practice, in the end, and, in the end, that is all that failed relationships...
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>>16856850
damn, anon, thank you
its something i would probably say to someone if i wasnt this deep in my own shit now.
>You'll attract people of better quality as you become a better person while working on your goals.
the only real goal i have is to be truly happy and peaceful. everything else is just a bonus to that.
>>16856850
also, nice balloon
In my current job in finance I can make $250k or so with about 7 years experience. In my last job I could have made $500k+ eventually but I quit because the hours were burning me out and I didn't get along with my coworkers that well. I'm married and mostly own everything I want.
I feel like a loser sometimes for quitting my previous job but on the other hand I don't need all that money. Mostly I just think of just dropping everything and becoming a game director or an entrepreneur or a scientist or something where I don't have to deal with corporate...
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Do something else with your life. Volunteer, travel, get a hobby. Heck, even spend more time with your family. Money isn't the be all and end all and it doesn't make you happy.
> In my last job I could have made $500k+ eventually but I quit because the hours were burning me out and I didn't get along with my coworkers that well.
honestly, its something i would do too. doesnt mean its the best choice possible, but when you look at it, life doesnt really have "the best choice".
>I feel like a loser sometimes for quitting my previous job
i know how you feel, but at the end of the day, you did what you knew was best for you. and even if you didnt, you would still...
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>>16856818
That's enough money to provide yourself and potential family with a comfortable life. You should take this opportunity to make yourself happy or find things that do.
My parents worked their whole lives with the goal of getting as much money as possible, ignoring their own happiness, and now they're in their 60s with health problems and probably not much time left to enjoy that money they earned. Obviously it sounds great for me because I'm an only child who gets to inherit all of it, but that's a shitty outcome for them. I wish they could have spent their lives happier and left me with little or nothing.
Don't work just to give your kids money to waste once you're dead, OP. Be useful and helpful in the world, and be happy,
What do guys look for to have the perfect girlfriend?
>>16856784
It's a case by case thing.
No set guidelines.
Sex.
If you're older, sex and living conveniently close to a liquor store.
Us men like saggy clit and fat chicks
I've got a group of 8 friends in my uni. I don't have any other friends here, we all have the same major and have almost the same courses.
We'll, one of my 8 friends had a thing with a 5/5 girl that's nice and sweet and everything nice. He dumped her, but she stuck with us and I assumed everything was cool. Three weeks ago I started hanging out with the girl, two weeks ago we started having sex and she said she loves me and I said I love her etc.
One week ago she started having second thoughts, because she still had feelings for my friend who...
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What do you hope to achieve by telling your friend?
>>16856780
I assume he wouldn't be so eager to take her back anymore if he knew that I was with her. He think she's been waiting for him and only him. And I feel like shit, getting dumped like that and having to hang around with those two and watching them cuddle and shit.
>>16856789
So basically your thought process is "if I can't have her, he can't either"
Hi I'm a lady and need tips on how to achieve orgasm. What do you men do that works out for ladies or what do you ladies do that helps? Sos lmao
>>16856763
>what do you ladies do that helps? Sos lmao
Getting a man that knows what to do.
>>16856763
You need to learn how to love yourself. If you can't figure out what you like, how can you expect someone else to? Figure out how you masturbate and what you like, look up guides if you have to.
I will say that your g spot is a ribbed area that's about behind where the clitoris is. Generally stimulating that with one hand while stimulating the clitoris with the other is a good way of getting off, but stimulating the clitoris alone should be sufficient.
If you're talking about during...
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Explore your body, then watch porn to figure out what you want to try.
Printing out my law school writing project at 3 am at school. Next to the printer someone left a copy of their project.
I give it a read just for a taste of where others are at.
This kids paper is absolute garbage. Everything about it is wrong and its due on Monday. This kid is going to fail and never be hired to do legal work.
Should I tell him his paper is absolute shit?
Diiid he, ah, ask for your unsolicited advice?
>>16856750
No, you shouldn't. The curve will work in your favor if he fails, and also you'll just make an enemy if you tell him how shitty his writing is.
I was so sure this story going to end with you reading a better paper and ripping his off, but am surprised it is going to turn out better for you.
