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Hi all. I'll cut to the point. I feel like I'm getting depressed.
I think..
I don't know because i've never had it but life seems to feel greyer.. A bit useless and futile.
My girlfriend has been noticing this and tries helping me but I'm afraid I'll get too emotionally dependend on her because of this. Does this mean we need a break in the relationship for me to learn to deal with this on my own? That's what a friend suggested..
>>16864788
probably just seasonal affect disorder (aka not enough sunlight) if you live a bit north. take vitamin D.
If you are getting enough outside sun time. your life probably just needs a shake up. So do something outside the box.
Recently became a NEET after dropping out of uni because I realised my major was useless and I didn't even enjoy it. How do I find something I can dedicate my life to? I enjoy things but they're entirely unrealistic to make a career out of and there's nothing I can motivate myself to do.
>>16864778
>became a NEET
>my major was useless
You should try to remove that beam from your eye before worrying about the speck in others'.
If you finished the degree you could have at least gotten office or low level management work.
If you were close to finishing of course. If you were a Freshman than going through something risky and not even liking it is bad.
Anyway, if your college GEs did nothing for you, how about a trade? I'm not going to push a particular one like a certain faggot, but my CC at least had a survey class that introduced you to like 3-4 different trades.
>>16864798
Yeah, it was freshman year. I'm going to start doing something again at the start of the next semester, that I know for sure. I just need to find something I can stick to.
I am not attracted to my boyfriend whom I've been with for 5 years.
I was 15 when we got together and for a long time didn't really understand what attraction feels like. We have lots of sex but I rarely get the desire to initiate.
This last year, I've been feeling attracted to other guys. Some of them I would never consider to date, other ones - maybe.
I don't know what to do. Maybe a bond is more important than sexual attraction? How can I hurt the one I love the most?
>>16864776
Stop being a skank and everything will fix itself
>>16864776
you will eventually cheat on him or you will never truly be happy. Is there anything he could change to make you attracted to him?
>>16864777
...
>>16864779
I trust myself not to cheat. Even talking to a guy I think is attractive makes me feel guilty so I ignore them the next time.
I feel content and happy with him, but I never feel butterflies or like my heart stops or very very aroused.
I used to think the reason I was not attracted to him was his looks but I think it is more his lack of leadership. The way he acts makes me want to protect him but not to have sex with him.
I've been going through some old facebook posts on my timeline and reading old messages and conversations I've had on there. A lot of this stuff dates back to over five years ago and it really surprises me. I've tried so hard to change myself, to 'develop' and to become a 'better person' but I'm exactly the same person I was five years ago. Sure i've gone through a lot of stuff since then and I feel different in how I relate to myself but actually what I'm reading and seeing proves otherwise.
I always thought I needed fixing because I was weird. And it's true. I did some cringey things that I'm not proud of. There were a lot of people in my life that left me behind and went off to do their own thing. I thought it was because there was something wrong with me. But the more evidence I see the more I sort of realize that was only a small fraction of the reason. I wasn't compatible with a lot of the people I liked.
I've always had this feeling of feeling lost like I didn't know how to fit into situations or fit into groups. And I always came off weird because I would get stuck in my head with my thoughts. I would constantly fixate on situations that could/might/would happen. It would drive me insane. This caused a mismatch between how I was acting and who I thought I was on the inside.
Is it possible I could have some light level autism?
>>16864769
I mean, as long as there is no definitive, physiological test for autism like physical conditions, anyone COULD have autism. Maybe you just chose the wrong friends. Are there people you are compatible with? What are they like?
>>16864769
judging your life by your facebook posts is probably a mistake
>>16864769
Doubtful.
Nothing good comes from over analyzing yourself. You will always see your mistakes and things that are wrong. just chill and keep your eyes to the future.
Where should go? What type of girl is she? What kinda guy does she like? I wanna max some s.links baby!
>>16864762
NEWS FLASH: She's fictional. She's made up. She's not real. She doesn't exist.
Neither do Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny.
>>16864821
>Neither do Santa Claus
S-so who was the person that came down the chimney??
>>16864821
Get a load of this kill joy.
Stop trying to be edgy, everyone has seen The Imitation Games already
Wtf is this ?
I am a human
How do I move to a cool city like la or Miami without college? Do I have to just settle for Phoenix or something?
>>16864755
None of those cities are cool. Also college != money. Believe it or not, you don't need college to have a decent income. Stop blaming your lack of financial success on not going to college
>>16864801
I don't I blame it on being from a small town
>>16864801
I blame society for telling us "college is everything, and everyone should go".
>>16864803
That makes even less sense. If you had money you could go anywhere, regardless of where you are now.
Canadabro here, worked construction for 3 years. It sucked, hard work - no pay. Thinking of joining the military, not just for a job, but because I'm having trouble dealing with my "friends" and moreso my family. I like the idea of boot camp and maybe even being sent someplace new. Also, I see local armyboys/women and they're fat as fuck with brand new SUV's, looks easy teebeeayche..Anyone have tips? I'm 30 so I'm worried i'm too old. I just started back at the gym today, I suck at running but other workouts were not bad. I don't dudeweedlmao.
>>16864746
>to old
>no higher education
Its peace time they won't take you
>trouble with family and friends and now wants to join the military
kek a dime a dozen
I’m a 20 year old guy and went on a Tinder date few weeks ago. We talked for 4 hours straight and went for a walk after. To sum it up shortly, she had everything i was looking for. At the end i told her i’ll text her the next day, she said she hopes so. When i came home from the date i got a friend request from her friend (we will call her girl A). Important note, girl B was a mutual friend between me and girl A. We texted back and forth for a week, she was replying instantly, then i suggested a second date, she stopped replying.
Now, who is girl B? I went to college together with girl B before i changed majors and cities. Months ago, i was on Facebook and saw my friends lightly making fun of girl B, so i thought i’d join in, but i really went over the top and said some harsh things. Turns out the post wasn’t in our friends private group, but in the classgroup of my previous college. She saw it. I only found out the next day that it was in the classgroup, i deleted the comments and wrote a sincere apology to girl B. I didn’t have to do that, i could have walked away from it without any consequences, but i apologised out of respect for her. Turns out she didn’t take my apologies.
Girl A knows girl B very well and probably asked around about me and found ita bout the Facebook accident and told my date about it. Girls B and my date aren’t even Facebook friends. I suggested a second date, she never replied, but instead i got fake Facebook requests from fake profiles with subtle hints that it was her (things like same major, same birthday as me), got those requests for a week, never replied to any. I didn’t know yet what was going on so i sent a Facebook request to my date (hadn’t added her yet) and she didn’t accept it. I haven’t texted her or replied to those requests.
Now i don’t know what my question is, but i’d like to hear your opinions.
Well, what did you exactly say about girl B
>>16864734
Really over the top things, including who she slept with, not that anyone didn't know
So I have been dating my girlfriend for around 2 years now and like everyone we argue about little things but nothing serious.
So she has a friend who is a guy whom she used to like but never did anything with. They talk just about everyday together on snapchat. I know that they flirt constantly, but they haven't actually seen each other in over 2 years.
She assures me that it's nothing but I really feel like it isn't. She is very secretive about it.
I don't really know what to do, should I be mad, should I ignore it, I just don't know
>>16864720
I'd break up with her. Note that I'm not accusing her of anything; but once you have that kind of doubt it doesn't really leave and your relationship will go downhill from here.
>>16864720
my ex gf had a friend like that and I found she was sending him nudes. She refused to admit she even lied to me about him, saying sending nude pics wasn't cheating since they weren't touching each other
>we argue about little things but nothing serious.
That shows that you guys are in a steady phase of a relationship, its perfectly normal. You just need to spice things and play a little game of hard-to-get...
Here I was chilling in my room when suddenly 4 of these nasties came in. 1 hour later and they still didn't come out. I need help dealing with them. Hard mode, no insecticides,no allies, final destination. Your help will be appreciated.
>>16864719
Wanna hear the fucked up part? If you see one roach it's because there are hundreds in your home.
Better call the exterminator.
>>16864719
4? Oh boy...
As a general rule, there's 6 other roaches hiding nearby when you spot one so the math shows that you're living in a roach nest. Forget hard mode and blaze everything with insecticides.
>>16864735
>>16864736
Thanks, guys. It's midnight now so I'm sleeping outside.
HELP
I normally dont consider myself the horndog. Even surrounded by scantly clad hotties I dont spill my spaghetti. However, I cut my FWB off for being too clingly and live in a shit hole town with no social scene so I havent been with a women in 2years!
My neighbor is this cute little thing and she likes to come over and play vidya and watch movies and talk about her lifes problems. When she started opening up she let me know about her DDLG interest and that her best guy friend is her "Platonic Caregiver." I was really turned off by the whole caregiver thing. Ive dealt with the "I have alot of guy friends" chicks in the past but this was just a huge "Come on!" so i didnt escalate my interest, We hung out more frequently and after taking her on 2 unnofficial dates I decided to distance myself. About 3 months went by without communication, even tho she lives next door literally. Lately my horniess is becoming uncomntrollable. 5-6 masturbation sessions in a day and Im still popping wood around hot bodies IRL. I resorted to Tinder and the like with nill results. A couple interested but live 100+ miles away. So, in my horniess and desperate mental state I simply "Hey"'d the girl next door,
Well... she came over and chilled right away. Turns out caregiver is out of the picture now and she seems to be flirting more openly with me. She came over last night wearing booty shorts and a tube top, showing off her perky breasts and long legs. We played vidya all night, very positive evening, when she left I hugged her, couldt go for the kiss, might give her a black eye with my spring loaded boner.
tl;dr : how can a normal guy overwhelmed for the first time by the need to fuck casually ask for sex from the girl next door
>This is what she looks like
>This is NOT her
Maybe indulge her fetish. Seriously, just work your way up to it, seems like she might be interested. Not sure why you were worried about her caregiver if you're looking for something casual.
>>16864706
You don't ask for sex, you just start doing it. Slowly at first of course and make sure she's enjoying it before you put it in her.
So I've been having sleeping problems lately.
I've cleaned up my act, though, and I sleep somewhat well most nights (waking up and going to bed at the same time, using bed only for sleeping, low-stimulus activities at night, etc).
HOWEVER, there's one thing that still fucks me no matter how well entrained my circadian rhythm is.
EVERY TIME I DO CARDIO I GET LIKE NO SLEEP THAT NIGHT.
Why? Because of my fucking restless legs, man. Specifically my right foot is twitchy, feels uncomfortable/squirmy, and automatically jolts me awake every time I'm about to drift off to sleep.
If you're wondering, for cardio I do 30 minutes of biking. I bike like 10 miles and burn around 400 calories-pretty standard ass shit.
But what the fuck? I ran and played sports all the god damn time in highschool and in college and never encountered anything even resembling this problem (in fact I slept like a fuckin' baby after running and stuff), and I come back to working out and my legs are giving me the middle finger? What to do??
Make sure you're eating enough magnesium. Shit can cause your muscles to spasm if you're low. Exercise burns through it pretty good.
>>16864756
Spinach, dark chocolate, and 200mg of Magnesium before bed.
Should I just crank up my dark chocolate consumption? I should probably throw in some chicken, too.
>>16864701
I get the same thing as you and I fixed it by doing more cardio.
I work my body but don't work it enough to kill it. It only pumps me up and makes me what to do more.
But with your legs it might just be restless legs syndrome. Its a spectrum and its very possible for you to be on the lower end.
This said it only occurs when you do cardio which is root of the problem here.
Do as >>16864756 said and also watch out for iron and zinc, if it gets bad you can get subscribed drugs to treat it.
Any advice on how to find a full time job? Despite being as old as I am, I never had a job at all and I feel like I am completely lost mentally for this shit.
>>16864685
How old are you? I never had a job either and I'm 24 haha.
>>16864689
28. All I want is something basic like an assembly/factory work.
>>16864694
the only motivating thing about factory work is the money
otherwise its just mindless, repetitive work that makes the minutes go slow and your body go numb in the process, its not a good place to work in if you dont have any job experience since it will drain your soul pretty fast.
try finding some janitor work or similar, you have a daily routine but instead of packing sardines 8 hours straight you may be scrubbing floors for 2 hours, dusting for 1 hour, refill toilet papers and necessaries for 1 hour, change light bulbs and switches for another and then maybe just do some facility project for the rest of the day. its way easier to keep up and not make you loose your soul in the process
Are these real goals help a nigga out
>>16864677
Yes
Here's another one: get better handwriting
>>16864677
You shouldn't post full names in 4chan, Brian. Also, AVID? What is that middle school or high school?
What kind of test is this?
You get rewarded for setting small goals? Are you going to one of those schools for "special" people?
