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I'm not happy with who I am right now.
I want to work on myself, I want to work improve who I am. The issue is I.... I don't really know how or where to start.
It feels like such an overwhelming idea, I honestly feel like there's a fuck tonne of shit wrong with me, some I don't even know how to put into words.
So my question is, where do I begin, how do I figure myself out and "work on myself"
Question 1. How do I see myself?
Question 2. Am I happy with that? If I'm not, what do I need to change? What don't I like, and what would I rather see myself as?
Question 3. What are the steps to take to achieve those changes?
>>16867153
I.... I honestly couldn't describe who I am to you, it honestly just dawned upon me that I don't really.... understand myself very well.
>>16867164
You could if you tried.
But to move past that, what do you want to see? What kind of people do you admire and aspire to be like?
does true love exist?
No. Think of the math. Depends on your definition. Multiple "true loves" sure. Next question?
no
in fact nobody actually really cares about most of us
Only between two men.
What types of songs on guitar attract pussy? I'd say I'm pretty decent at guitar, but most of THE stuff I play is kinda weird (like pic related) and most people probably wouldn't like it. I heard all you need is an acoustic guitar and knowledge of basic chords (eg Wonderwall) to take a look at the poon. What do you think /adv/?
Bump for vagina
dude I've had girls freak out when I fucking tuned my guitar I am not kidding
Play whatever you know well and hope that a girl knows it. The ultimate rombo combo is to know enough songs you can play something from an artist a girl might know. Make It Wit Chu is obvs QotSA's gettin' pussy song and it sounds great on acoustic, perfect for warming up some campfire canals. City and Color, John Mayer.. those are along the lines of the whole Wonderwall idea, but in the end knowing a shit ton of songs is the way to go.
hey /adv/, I am 23 and got married 4 months ago. My wife is really hairy and she has a huge wide back. I find her really hot since she's 5ft 9 and shes got long thick legs and a thick upperbody. However, I've been thinking if this could be a hormonal problem that could lead to infertility? shes 180lbs. She's kinda chubby but she used to be thin when she was in high school...
>>16867000
bait?
Talk to doc if concerned
Should not have married if this mattered
You probably shouldn't reproduce based on what you've said
>>16867005
not bait. It really doesn't matter since adoption or surrogate is always an option.
I dont see why I shouldn't reproduce? lol.
You have a few options.
Get her to see a Dr.
Pay for her to get laser hair removal.
My breasts are really saggy for their size and my age. Is it because I lost weight? I'm only in my early twenties.
Unfortunately, 'sagginess' is caused by a few factors; predominantly skin elasticity which is genetic. Your weight loss was only half of it, if you gradually lost weight and have fairly elastic skin you would've been able to have equally as perky breasts, albeit smaller.
Breast implants would be a temporary solution.
>>16866930
I lost weight really slowly and the rest of my body is not saggy.
>>16866935
Fat distribution is also genetic. Seeing as how you're clearly female, it's safe to assume you carry most of your fat in your breasts/hips/thighs. Excluding obese women, you generally wouldn't have saggy skin in those areas aside from breasts.
Fucked up bad. I've been with an older woman for about a year and a half now. She's hot, smart, makes boat loads of money and we have (or had) incredible chemistry. She wanted me to move into her house about a year ago, I did and things were good (I thought). There was always a strange tension between myself and her family/friends. She's an older corporate officer with a masters and I'm a welder covered in tattoos who rides a Harley. I don't think her family or friends ever liked or approved of me but I didn't care... we were in love. She had a pretty traumatic experience last April and wanted to quit drinking and suggested I do the same (not for her but for my own health), I didn't have to but I did. Now keep in mind this was new territory for me. The guys at work were astonished that I wasn't going to the bars with them after work. Around the beginning of Feb I was home alone for a few hours and just said fuck it, and bought a bottle of Jameson, got sloppy drunk and of course, got caught by her. I don't even know why I did it. Well she flipped her shit and told me to go stay with a friend. As everyday passed, she seemed to get more and more mad. She has a sharp tongue and would say things that made me angry enough to say very hurtful things back. So it was getting worse by the text and phone call. I regret all of it. Now at that time I had been working on a pretty big project for work outside in the snow and cold. I ended up developing pneumonia and a horrible respiratory infection. Bad enough to be admitted to the hospital for a week. While I was in the hospital, I didn't hear shit from her and I didn't push the issue. Well, it turns out she moved all of my stuff into a storage unit WHILE I was in the hospital. Now she seems more angry than ever, and she just ends up berating me when we communicate so I've just left her alone. It just isn't like her and I wonder if her family/friends have just been in her ear. Now I guess I just have to start over? Pic related.
Ew those old ass elbows...
Anyway OP, you should get your stuff (be glad she isn't mad enough to throw your shit out) and cut contact.
Even though you think she may have been great, she really wasn't. It sounds like she was looking for anything to throw you out. She wanted control and when you didn't comply she told you to get out. When you didn't kiss her ass and beg for forgiveness (and instead said mean shit back) she realized she had no control.
If she did let her senpai & friends get to her, why would you want a girl like that? Notice I say girl because she's old and should be grown enough to make her own decisions.
Besides, you were sick with something serious and she still didn't give enough of a shit to go visit you. That itself is really fucked up.
I hope you realise that your relationship is over. There's no salvaging this
>>16866880
Dunno why it put "senpai". I put "senpai"
Should I dump my fuck buddy or keep banging him? Gay anon here.
So I love sex and figured a regular fuck buddy would be better than always figuring out a new one night stand, but he has a girlfriend. She knows about me, they're doing a long distance thing. They both agree, he gets to have someone he fucks and so does she. Here's the weird part, he's gay, or he identifies as just gay. When we first started fucking he called her his boyfriend, she's trans and came out like a month after I started fucking him. He really doesn't like women or hetero domesticity but he loves her anyway and they're staying together. However, one time when I came over to fuck and was being cute with him he called me the boyfriend of the year. Dumb slip up but still. He's very cool and the sex is awesome, but sex with me is very different than sex with his girlfriend because I'm also trans. I'm a trans man and he totally loves my body, I'm thin, masculine, cute, totally male, and on top of that I still have my front whole. He loves men and still calls himself gay, so it's awkward because I suit his tastes better than his actual significant other. He likes the kind of genitals I have better too, and tells me how good I taste and how sexy I am. I feel like an interloper, like I shouldn't get closer or risk ruining what they have. Worst part is i'm very into him and if he decided he wanted me i'd have a hard time saying no, but I don't want to be the guy he breaks up with his girlfriend for.
Also this guy is dating a cutie transgirl and banging a cutie transguy how the fuck did that happen
god damn trans people are confusing
>I'm thin, masculine, cute, totally male, and on top of that I still have my front whole
Does it not feel awkward being fucked like a woman when you're trying to transition? I'm honestly curious here.
This was kind of confusing to read.
Probably best to leave the choice up to him unless you are really turned off by the idea of him potentially leaving his girlfriend.
If you're feeling emotionally attached to the point where you wouldn't be able to say no if he decided he wanted you instead, you might be better finding someone else to fuck on the regular just for the sake of your emotions long term.
I know the short term gratification of sex is tempting as well though. My suggestion would be keep fucking him and then look for another regular fuck buddy in the mean time and phase him out of your life once you find one.
How come we are sexually attracted to buttholes? why?
Asses =/= Asshole.
>>16866509
I never claimed to equate them
I'm not, I like to look at butts a bit yeah but I hate anuses, also most pussies are pretty gross (~1% are beautiful though). No homo.
I'm 27 years old and have never really gotten attention from girls before.
I've been having sex with a girl from work for a few weeks (I lost my virginity to her, but I lied and said I've had a gf before), and I kind of thought of us as becoming like a bf-gf. However, when she told me her partner count (8) this seemed really high to me compared to how she seemed to present herself (always tells me how she likes to spend her time alone with her dog and doesn't really go out much or whatever. She's also quite a bit younger than me - 22). And I really don't know if I feel comfortable with being a bf-gf with her now.
Is this a normal thing to think/want? I'll probably keep having sex with her to gain some experience for the time being at least.
>>16866398
>when she told me her partner count (8) this seemed really high to me
Well, it's not and you're a moron.
You're insecure.
That's honestly about it, really. Just recognize that and you'll be on the first step of getting over it.
You're the one fucking her, not them.
8 is a lot, but who tf cares, stop worrying and enjoy what you have while it lasts.
Hello, Humans.
I live in a town of uniformly stained ignoramuses. I am a loner, but I have no trouble making friends, if they make the first move. I'm not wierd, I'm not ugly, I'm not awkward, I just can't introduce myself.
Every now and then I'll see someone who shines against their shitty mediocrity and all I do is admire from a distance. How can I stop being so shy?
p.s. there's a girl
>>16866275
Jesus fucking Christ what is wrong with you.
>>16866275
Dude I'd hate to be this guy...but it's you.
People are stupid and suck but sometimes you have to look past that to see the good.
How can I smoke and keep my parents from finding out?
Not smoking.
>>16866274
Why do you feel the need to hide it from your parents?
When I was growing up, I preferred the "not enslaving myself to a chemical for a few minutes of fake happiness a pop" approach.
>NCEA grades not quite sufficient to get into PHYS 114
>automatically put into PHYS 131 as an alternative prerequisite, extending my degree by a year
>a senior lecturer basically says that he doesn't want students to think they don't need the requirements to get into the course and so he refuses to let me into PHYS 114 even on a trial basis, despite a couple weeks of negotiations
>university starts
>PHYS 131 turns out to be even more basic physics than I thought, I've already learned everything in the course plan
What do you do in this situation?
By the way, I should point out that this is New Zealand and not the US, which makes things even worse because New Zealanders are extremely passive. So only someone who actually has a duty to help me will do so.
>>16866236
At least its not a gender studies class.
>>16866236
Sounds like you need to hit the books, my friend. If you think you're going to manipulate your way into a higher level class, well, stop.
>>16866245
>tfw ex-classmate is taking gender studies and
>>16866255
He actually gave an offer for me to take a 200-level course without taking the PHYS 114 prerequisite if I wanted to save that year that was added on. So clearly, he allows worming into higher level classes. Just not straight from high school.
Also, what can I hit the books for if there's nothing to learn? Did you actually read properly?
I'm afraid that my boyfriend is gonna fall in love with my best friend once they meet. How do I stop being such a little bitch?
Your boyfriend only cares about you for your looks and loyalty. It literally doesn't matter how insecure you are.
>>16865885
rate yourself, your friend and your boyfriend, if she is an huge upgrade compared to you that's a problem, people are weak and they normally dump their current partners once they see the chance to upgrade.
>>16865941
I'm generally favoured more by guys than my best friend since she's very shy. We're both very similar in terms of personality though once you get to know us. She has the cutest, softest voice ever. In terms of appearance we're about the same. My boyfriend is pretty qt though he's a little larger. He's pretty confident and is charismatic which makes up for the extra weight, his past girlfriends were all very pretty and /fit/.
How do I come to terms with the fact that I was circumcised against my will as a newborn?
Sue your parents. It's about time someone does it.
>>16865814
i like this idea, OP should go for it!
>>16865810
Let me tell you its probably far easier and far less painfull than getting circumcised at 20 - as i was.
>>16865810
You just get over it. Seriously, I'm cut and I've never thought once I am negatively impacted. Beside. no smegma bro!
Hey its the autist from yesterday who asked for advice on talking to girls.
Ive taken all the stuff you guys have told me and I'm just about ready to start my new daily routine of approaching 20 women.
Now before I start I just have a few questions.
Where are good places to do this? So far I can only think of my school but I'm afraid that if a girl really doesn't like me I'll get charged or suspended for "sexual harassment", "attempted rape", or something ridiculous.
Should I try going to clubs? Ive never been to one so if anyone has important tips or knows of things I should be aware of please let me know.
I'm 19, if it helps.
For all those who've helped out, thanks!
lol no replies?
Nobody has any experience on this?
>>16865916
IDK if you live somewhere where this is a thing, but there's this idea of 'singles meetups', arranged online, where a bunch of single people congregate in a given place at a given time and just sort of hang out. It's generally understood that hitting on people under these circumstances is OK/non-creepy, and also if you embarrass yourself you can just ditch that group and find a new one.
Alternatively, there's the low-tech/old-fashioned concept of singles' bars. You might want to ask your friends which bars are the ones that got Schelling'd into being the ones that single people go to in order to meet other single people.
>>16865805
Dude, just talk to the girls who you run into. Ask the checkout girl at the grocery store how her day is. Tell the girl walking by you that you like her hair. Etc. Once you stop viewing every interaction as a possible date or something that needs to happen and be forced you'll stop reeking of desperation. Girls can smell desperation like a shark smells blood. Not to be all SJW, but girls are people too and once you start treating them like you would anyone else getting to the next level will be natural. Seriously, just relax.
