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Why are men so much more desperate to get a gf than women are for a bf?
You never hear any >tfw no bf either on here or irl. It seems like for all the feminist memes, men are actually the gender that seeks commitment.
>>16883564
Have you ever been to tumblr? It's literally a female mirror of 4chan.
Tumblr: Bawwwwww why can't I get a bf to love me? Fuck it they are all misogynistic shitlords anyways I don't need them
4chan: Bawwwwww why can't I get a gf to love me? Fuck it they are all hypergamous whores anyways I don't need them
Meanwhile in real life: happy couples of well-adjusted, healthy people who you don't hear about because they are busy being with each other
>Why are men so much more desperate to get a gf than women are for a bf?
Beecause men are bigger pussies emotionally
> You never hear any >tfw no bf either on here or irl
Wrong. Lurk moar faggot.
>It seems like for all the feminist memes, men are actually the gender that seeks commitment
Seek IRL experience over believing the Internet, neckbeard.
>>16883564
Men feel more defined by their sexual and relationship skills than women. Lonely young men (ie all of 4chan) spent their teenage years failing to get women, or chasing after someone who didn't love them, so it's even worse for them because continued failure perpetuates what they already feel.
People need to learn to be comfortable in themselves first.
>be me
>loser, no friends, kissless virgin, late 20's
>spend all time indoors in front of computer
>have many coworkers
>early 20's
>always hanging out with friends, traveling, going to parties, talk about things they've seen on snapchat/facebook, doing interesting things themselves, most are confident, outgoing, "alpha" types
h-how do i compete with these people who are more interesting than me?... i just want a qt3.14 gf
>>16883137
Be more interestimg yourself. You obviously aren't getting that much life satisfaction from your indoors life in front of a computer, since you're longing for a gf. So try doing social things based around your interests, even if your interests are needy. For instance I had a flatmate a few years ago who was (genuinely) autistic and antisocial. He collected board games and never had anyone except me and our other flatmate to play them with, and then steadily alienated us to the point where we never even played with him. Then he started going to a board games meetup club thing a couple of nights a week. He found a gf there and moved out with some new friends he made. As far as I could tell he was still pretty miserable and weird, but he made progress according to his own goals I guess.
>>16883151
These are some low, low goals we're aiming for. Jesus, that's depressing.
>>16883151
i don't even have any good interests. i watch films and read literature, that's about it. it seems like i can only really do solitary hobbies since i don't have friends.
whereas my coworkers have hobbies. some more than others. one of the guys who i worked with recently:
>good looking, confident, has funny stories (almost all about parties)
>plays a ton of sports
>has a large group of friends he does things with (road trip across america after graduating college)
>has a ton of other hobbies (hunting, DIY construction)
and i can't get into these without having friends to do them with (going to bars/clubs or traveling with friends) or show me how (e.g. hunting)
in terms of meetup, i have seen a boardgame one, and a few others that meet regularly and have people closer to my age. but i'm afraid of going there and have people finding out that i'm awkward as fuck and not be able to make friends
i'm most anxious around strangers tbqh
I use to struggle with girls for all of highschool and a good chunk of my time in college.
I changed that by dropping all my hobbies, focusing on working out at the gym, wearing fashionable clothes and talking solely about shit everyone else is interested in.
Although this has finally got me the pussy I craved, it makes me feel kind of hollow inside. I had to changed completely the person I was in order to succeed :-/
anyone else feel this way?
I didn't have to change a lot, just improve the features of my personality which worked in my favour with women.
That's probably true for you really.
>>16882941
Sounds like you overdid it. This is not uncommon. You can start reintroducing your old interests at any time. Just go slowly, and don't go overboard.
>>16882957
I acted normal to get a girl, got married eventually then stopped interacting with all other people in real life outside of work, filled my room with moe anime posters and figs and come home to roll on the floor dressed as umaru-chan when I come home from work. Joke's on her
Maybe I should get a kig...
The Normies Guide to Success
So I've been having this urge in my brain pushing me to write this for my fellow robots and failed normies for awhile now. I can no longer put it off.
I'm hoping someone can take my advice and help their life.
I'm an old fag (30's) and a lot of this comes from my personal experiences. Other stuff comes from things I've seen with my friends and people I know.
This guide is mostly about obtaining a gf since that seems to be whats mostly talked about here. My thoughts are kinda sporadic and random, and may bounce around. I will try to touch on many subjects that I see discussed here.
Getting a gril - Before some of the more butthurt guys chime in with "huh I dont want a vapid cunt", I think we should realize there is nothing wrong with craving companionship. We are hard wired through biology to want to be loved and nurtured. When we dont get this, depression can and will happen. Regardless of what others may say like the above butthurt guys quote. Or with the ones who say "You gotta be happy with yourself first". These are false statements. As a lot of our self worth and happiness stem from what a significant other thinks of us.
Girls are mysterious creatures. They are random in their desires and are much like a Rubik's Cube or a puzzle. Very frustrating in trying to piece together, but very satisfying when you find the last piece to one. But girls like guys, are ever growing and changing. Women in general will be a mystery from month to month or year to year. Some dont change for years. But they will change. Not that is necessarily bad, as all people change over time.
What attracts girls? - In no particular order : looks, status, goals, social skills, other girls
>continued
I'll start with looks since every robot is stuck on that.
Robots like to say Chad this Chad that. But the truth is far more complex than that. First of all, lets throw Chad out the window. He is nothing more than the /r9k/ booogie man. He scares you back into your bedroom and gives you an excuse to give up.
A hot looking guy is great for that guy and for the girls that chase him. Fortunately for us, most guys are normies...hence the word. I see plenty of Stacies (9/10) but I'm not stuck on getting one when i could have a more normal girl. It doesnt mean I settled for less or that she is my 2nd choice. Likewise with girls and their selection. Don't feel like your 2nd choice. This is because of your low self esteem.
When it comes to looks, women need them more than men. They have to work much harder for it because it's all they have. Men have other options of attraction, which I'll get to later. Also, men age better than women.
But it's important to remember, as insecure as you may be; women on the average will be a hell of a lot more insecure than the average man. And that's because of the simple reason I mentioned before, women need their looks more than men.
Being attractive - Really the one super important key to being attractive is really pretty simple. Hygiene. Women strive to be sexy. Men only need to strive to be "not ugly or disgusting". Hygiene goes miles in this.
Keys to hygiene - Take a bath every day. Wash your hair a few times a week. Brush your teeth twice a day. Wear deodorant. Have clean fingernails. Have a nice smelling cologne. It's unfortunate that these things should even have to be mentioned, but sadly it needs to be said.
>continued
Having good hygiene will start you off as a solid 5 and put you in normie territory. Unless you have a facial deformity or just plain obese, then you have more to overcome. But considering lots of guys fail at hygiene, having it will put you ahead of a lot of the competition.
/fitness/ - Exercise is great for you and is encouraged. You will see many posters claim it is an end all for getting a girl. What fit geeks fail to realize is you still need social skills to succeed with women, which we will cover later. I love /fit/ but lots of them take the woman mentality of "I'm hot, come talk to me", when 1000's of years of social rules dictate that men must go talk to women. Also, no woman wants a man who is more prissy than them.
But what fitness does is give you a better body and gives you more confidence. Plus it releases "feel good" chemicals in your head which in turn, makes you more pleasurable to be around...unless you're a roid head.
Most fitness regimens recommend 3 days of lifting and 3 days of cardio. Many fit bros will swear how much they love lifting. Unfortunately it's not that glamorous for most. If you stick at it for more than a couple of months, then you will start to notice gains which will encourage you to keep going. But getting your pump on, or getting excited for the gym is a misconception...unless you're addicted to working out. Most just wanna get in there, do their regiment and go home and relax.
>continued
Cardio is great for your heart and while not for building mass, is perfect for becoming ottermode. Ottermode is nothing more than having a low body fat content. And it is the #1 preferred body for women according to numerous studies. This falls in the 9-15% body fat range. It's hard to get to, but again it's easier for men. Just eat healthier and work out. And pick some type of regiment and stick to it.
If you can't achieve ottermode, don't fret. As I've said before, it's more important for women to be attractive and fit than it is for men. Men at the minimum must strive to be "not fat" or "not super skinny". Exercise will achieve this, while also giving you a goal; which is another attractive quality.
I will stress though...that you should really work out for yourself and your health...and not for girls. And fitness should be part of your daily life. Not a short term goal.
http://liamrosen.com/fitness.html
>continued
Yesterday I decided I was finally, actually going to commit suicide. I wrote my suicide note, I set my alarm to go off at 2AM - when my parents would have been fast asleep - tidied my room, and stashed my spare house key in my pocket. My alarm never went off, though. And now I'm here, living the day I shouldn't be alive for, with absolutely no idea what to do next. My alarm never went off. Does that mean anything? Where do I go from here?
>>16882562
a)What's your issue(s)?
b)This place sucks for advice and at most all you'll get is fortune-cookie shit.
Seek psychiatric care.
Killing yourself is a waste of your fucking time when you can be doing something with your life.
Everyone is committing suicide. Every day.
They just don't have the bravery or unmitigated gall to realize life is ticking away. They are afraid and hide from it until they reach a point in their lives they realize every day they go to sleep they might not wake up and become afraid of going to bed.
Some people commit suicide with a gun for a lover and a shot for the pain at hand.
Some people commit suicide working a job for 40 years for idiots not making any real money.
Now there's being willing to end it because you have unresolvable problems. And maybe that's true. After-all, there can only be so many paraplegic midget pep talkers in the world.
And then there are the resolvable problems you think are not resolvable.
The key here is to figure out which ones you are doing wrong, think through an approach, and commit suicide by trying to do it right.
E.G. I used to be terrified of going to the grocery store to buy food as I had bad Xenophobia. Then one day I realized, nobody else felt that way, and started to laugh. Took about 5 years for the terror of going to the store to rescind to a dislike and eventually, today, I look forward to buying tasty treats and making people laugh.
Look at this as an opportunity to get really, really good at risk taking and setting up approaches right.
So I was walking in rain with wet socks for about 4 hours, NY right foot looks like this now but left foot is fine I'm so freaked out.
My guess is it isn't fungus(I hope) and the sock was cotten so it had those cotton balls.
Plz will my fucking skin heal back to normal?
My guess is th
Better pic
>>16882478
Relax. It's the same wrinkly skin thing that happens if you sit in the bath too long, combined with ridges from waling on crumpled socks.
>>16882478
>gray-brown flesh
>all bubbly and shit
>part of the upper skin sitting like a worn sheet over more gray shit
Uhhhhh... I'd start by taking a foot file to that heel and getting all that nasty shit off your foot pronto. Then if it looks wholesome, good, but if not, see a fucking doctor, shit looks gross. Like maybe it's just a bunch of dead skin, but jesus, my feet have never looked like that from any sock.
Are there any advantages to learning a new language?
>>16882433
Yes.
Yes, it always looks good on a resume, it's kinda special when you talk to a native person on a trip or something...and you feel extremly cool when you realize you can understand this language
Don't respond. Brandon makes the same thread everyday
Hi /adv/,
My father has been diagnosed with end stage cancer and we have to get rid of our three cats because the smell is affecting him. My mom had packed all three of them into one small kennel and was planning to go leave them outside a shelter in the middle of the night while it is cold, windy, and raining hard. When I asked why not wait till morning and do it properly she argued it would take too much time/effort, despite the shelter being 10 minutes down the road. Luckily I stopped her and will be taking them in the morning to surrender them properly.
What I wanted to ask is if I am the asshole for getting upset with her for this? We are all in a shitty situation, but abandoning animals is already a bad enough thing to do, and life is about doing the right thing even when things are shitty. Why the hell would you not spend the measly 30 minutes it takes to do it properly at least so they have proper documentation/health records and a much higher chance of getting adopted. Not to mention not spending a night out in the rain/cold. On a side note my mom is the one who originally got them. I understand that they have to go and I'm not bitter about that at all, but I'm really pissed off at how my parents handle shit like this. Am I in the wrong here?
you do realize those animals are almost certainly going to be euthanized, right?
>we have to get rid of our three cats because the smell is affecting him.
What? Get a job and take care of the cats dude.
>>16882187
You should kill your mother.
Her inability to feel empathy toward animals means she will likely kill a person in her life. Maybe she already has.
If you could stop someone like Jeffrey Dahmer or BTK, wouldn't you?
I personally wouldn't because I think they were awesome, but you would, right?
Is this normal? (Yes another lonely fag thread)
I'm 24. male.
I haven't had many dates or female encounters. I don't know why this has happened. I assume I'm too awkward or some shit.
Either way I spent my life since grade 9 high school (14 years old) planning to finish college and such to get rich and be successful. And I have and I am making a lot of money now at a really really good job. But now I'm starting to regret going through those experiences with girls.
I feel pretty lonely at times, I just want a smart pretty girl that won't leave me, but I am stuck seeing friends I've made having kids and getting married. Someone told me that all girls are sluts because they all just whore out at 15. It's super annoying.
Please console me.
>>16882136
It will be okay
pc>console
>>16882136
>I just want a smart pretty girl that won't leave me
get a dog
Please I don't know if what I got is what I paid for. They said it's a gram of loud. It smells pungent but looks like shit imo. The lighter is a mini one so. Yes please tell me what I got
This cost me $15 btw
>>16882000
where are you from this seems normal but I'm located in GF ,ND
looks right to me, might be outdoor bud looking at the stem. if the nug has purple on it its even better
Post your dating profiles and help others who post theirs.
http://www.okcupid.com/profile/Hondastatic
>>16881800
Femanon here. I think your description is very nice. It's a good mix between humorous, down to earth, having interests and being a good person. The thing i PERSONALLY don't like is the smoking. But that's just my preference. Good on you on being honest. Also, check the spelling of kaleidoscope.
The other issue are the pics. You look so different in them. I have NO idea how you look now. And they aren't really flattering. I'm sure you could take better ones! The snowmobile one is ok. It's nice to have some pics of you being active up. Take the others down and retake current ones.
>>16881832
What's the best way to open up a conversation with a girl? The ones I message usually have the same interest as me (nerdy stuff, outdoorsy stuff, music) but I feel like I come off as a dope.
>>16881844
I usually look at their profile and find out what they do for fun, then I'll message them something like
>I found you on my matches. That means we're supposed to watch netflix and cuddle, right..
or
>How does this work? We're dating now, right?
Usually works if they think I'm attractive. Just met a cute asian girl on okc who's up for casual sex. Used the first line on her.
What is sex? Why do humans need love? What is love? How does a man deal with heartbreak? What does it mean when a man fantasizes about a girl whom he knows nothing about?
Why do I post here amongst these young adults looking for the same thing i'm looking for? This adv board was invented to ease the tentions of hormones. The body wants what the body wants, and I can't get that. I can't get what the body wants.
People say, whether it be internet, friends, and family, to move on. That doesn't help me one bit. All that makes me think about is how needy I am and how dumb I am that I can't just move on. You can't tell a depressed person to stop being depressed, it doesn't work that way. HOW do I move on?
I'm in highschool. Must be hormones, eh? Well I'm fucking 18 and I thought those hormones go away at 16 or something. But I guess i'm just unusual since i'm just a person with adhd who's been feeling lonely. I ditched my friends for this girl. My friends are fucking toxic. I want to change into someone greater. I wanted to change into someone greater.
I spent 3 months 'improving' myself. But all I really did was just fucking worry about what is going to happen the next day at school. I thought i'd be a fucking good person by the time I asked her out. But no, all I did was talk with her for a little bit, and just asked her out. Note, this is the girl i've convinced myself that life is all about her, and that she's the one. But nope, she said she has a boyfriend.
And here I am. Ashamed at myself for fucking it up. We could've been truly a great couple I keep convincing myself, and now I see that she thinks i'm a fucking creep. Every night, I dwell on what could've been.
People say that there will be another 'one', but I just don't believe that.
I.. Just... Don't.
I'm going into college, all of my grades have dropped and I don't care.
If it helps, I took that lame personality test 4 times (sparsely, not in a row) and every time it stated INFP.
Please help me
>>16881355
Trusting myers-briggs personality tests are complete bullshit, lol. I always end with one of three different personalities depending on my mood, because they really are not definitive and all of the character traits fall into a spectrum, especially introversion. The tests were created by two women with no credible background in psychology, and you shouldn't judge your own personality based on what some personality test tells you. They're just meant to be fun to read.
>What does it mean when a man fantasizes about a girl he knows nothing about?
Delusion. Wanting something isn't enough to get it; you must be willing to take action. I recommend seeking advice from those who you believe can help you. Find people who can see the good in you.
>My friends are fucking toxic
Then ditch them. Friendships aren't meant to be one-sided; they should be mutually beneficial. If your friends aren't actively trying to help you out, then it might be because they aren't actually your friends or they can feel the wall that you have put between you and them. But in return you must return the favor and make an effort to talk to them as well.
>the /adv/ board was meant to ease the tensions of hormones
I guess, but that just depends on your perspective. I'm the same exact age as you, and I'm a virgin that isn't really looking for sex, even though I like talking to girls and find them attractive.
Don't be afraid to communicate your feelings, no matter how embarrassing that they may seem to you. As an introvert, it helps to let out your feelings by vocalizing them to other people who understand how you feel so that you do not overthink them or delve too deep into them.
Don't be too needy. If you think that you need a relationship to be happy, then you are not ready to be in one. It will hurt both of you in the end.
You are not needy. You are not dumb. You cannot listen to the opinions of people that do not understand you, especially if they are not constructive.
>>16881355
You sound like a friend I used to have.
He was an insufferable little cunt.
Fuck you.
>>16881417
fuk u
You sound ok OP. these are things lots of people go through. time changes, for the better, for the worse. maturity is just getting used to it. everyone figures out things for themselves. maybe don't search for advice as much as human connection in general.
I can fuck multiple people and still feel like both people are important to me. But if someone I fuck fucks someone else I get really depressed. I imagine this is pretty common. How do we get over ourselves?
>>16881344
Point a gun to your head and pull the trigger
>>16881351
advice from someone who isn't a virgin or deluded sjw please
>>16881361
I'm neither, you're a degenerate
Finally lost my V-card
Condom broke as I was about to finish
Pulled out like a champ
I'm still worried tho. Is it possible I'm a father?
It was my second nut of the day
I'd had 2 sodas earlier
I don't cum much
The condom had spermicide
I was choking my dick at the base the whole time
We did it missionary
All I'd eaten that day was a bowl of off-brand reeves puffs, a churro, and a fistful of almonds.
Anyone want to help me out? How likely is it that I'm a father?
Sorry bro. Shouldn't have eaten those almonds.
>>16881016
I didn't activate them tho, am I safe?
>>16880990
>>16880990
if it happend within the last 24 ours, get her a hormone pill which induces instant ovolation. you should be fine then.
What do normal people do during spring break? My current plans are just to play Bloodborne which I'm fine with.
tl;dr Things to do on spring break in the middle of nowhere
I guess you could try being social. .. or not it seems like you dont mind being a basement dwelling neckbeard.
Personally i would be going off somewhere with my friends and experiencing life... but then again i have friends ....
>>16880912
You also rape the English language with your improper use of ellipsis
Meaningless, low-energy post
normies go to coastal cities to get drunk and smoke weed because their lives are meaningless. if you're having fun playing vidya then have fun. it's your time, anon
pic related is cool Bloodborne art
