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It doesn't happen all the time, but when I'm by myself, away from my friends I sometimes get really really upset/depressed for no reason. Maybe it's because I'm around them so much I'm just not used to being alone, maybe it's something much worse, idk. All I do know is that this isn't good for me and I need to work on solving whatever it is that's causing this.
>>16896492
You're just an extrovert, probably.
What exactly bothers you? Is it negative thoughts or does you mood just get bad inexplicably? Any details at all?
>>16896613
I don't really get any negative thoughts, just my mood drops and I want nothing more than to just be hanging out with them.
The really weird thing is 3 or 4 years ago I was introverted as fuck. I wanted to do nothing but stay in and play vidya and listen to music 24/7. My friends pretty much had to drag me out in order to get me to do anyhting
>>16896622
How old were you then?
Generally, if you're a teenager or coming out of being a teenager, this can be a thing that switches up.
Sounds like you're an extrovert now. The solution is to just hang out with your friends when you want to.
Do women like when men they dont know come up to them and use game to get their number?
I always thought about doing it but I always thought women saw it as something rude to do
should I stop thinking about it and do it?
Opinions on it would vary from person to person.
Personally, I'd find it kinda weird, but that's just cause I'm pretty socially awkward, but I know a few girls who'd be all over it.
I'd say just go for it, worst case scenario, you get nothing, so you're not losing out.
>>16896111
It's called picking up a girl, and if you need to ask this question then you'll probably fuck it up, but it's not like it matters as long as you learn why you fucked it up.
No, we don't.
Hey everyone,
I really need some /adv/ from you guys. So here is the deal:
I've been in a pretty perfect relationship throughout the last six years, with i girl i deeply love: we have common life goals, a common plan, we like the same stuff, we have both graduated from college and have a pretty nice job making and life is going well in all fields.
Except one.
We started in the end of 2009 (I was 18 and she was 19 y old) and in mid-2012 our sex life has started to struggle.
Firstly, she started to resist saying things I felt like excuses:...
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>>16896084
its typical for sexual attraction to fade over time. its not that you have become ugly, shes just used to you. its the reason marriages become sexless. unfortunately men have the urge to fuck, but women dont. men kind of NEED it. their penis decides. women dont. they need to be seduced. sometimes a hot body is all they need. but if they've seen that hot body a thousand times, their libido stops responding to it.
its the reason you get a boner seeing a stranger in a bra, but need to work to get hard...
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I'm going to type you something longer OP, give me 10 min.
I'm also in a sexless relationship.
You need to ask yourself more serious questions.
-Do I want to marry her someday?
-Would we have kids?
She may be all that and a bag of chips, but not being interested in having sex is a big red flag. If you do marry, expect less sex. If you get her pregnant, expect less. And when she has the kid, expect none for long long periods of time. Basically your situation will get worse. I can guarantee that once you get married she won't be willing to go to therapy.
Are you prepared for that?
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How do you tolerate women?
Most of them seem like vapid, short-sighted retards who care about nothing and have no values or convictions. They also have no higher sense of reasoning, as I'm sure the reaction of any woman reading this will be "you're just mad because you don't have sex" despite having no idea who I am.
Is there some kind of secret to not hating pretty much every woman I meet? I wish I was gay so I didn't feel the desire the fuck them.
Most men are just as vapid and apathetic. Both men and and woman that are worth meeting are rare individuals
That's the game. God punished women by giving them painful childbirth. God punished men by making us have to deal with women.
Old joke, but a true joke.
Depends on the women.
Femanon, so I will be biased, obviously, but I know some really nice, chill girls, but on the other end of the spectrum, I know some real cunts.
I understand hating people, since I'm pretty anti-social. The trick to not hating every person you meet is to just go in with an open mind. Don't expect them to be a cunt, expect them to just be a person.
Okay so I just need some time out of your day please. My anxiety is fucking eating me alive and I have nowhere to turn.
Gf was supposed to get her period fen 12-15. It's now March 9 and still no period... She's on. It th control and just this month she started a new type of pill but she was also on anti biotics. Yes I came in her but now we took about 20 pregnancy tests since then and all were negative... There was one that looked like the faintest of faint blue line but she said there was no line and said I was seeing things...
Could she still be pregnant?...
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If you've done multiple tests and they're all negative, then you're most likely fine.
Sometimes stuff is just late, but if she doesn't get her period soon, maybe go to a doctor or something.
Use a condom in the future, save yourself this kind of stress.
>>16896050
Yeah I am gonna start using one... The other thing was we had a doctor pee test that was negative about a week and a half ago. I just get horrible anxiety and need a definite answer
Antibiotics can interfere with the effectiveness of the pill. She could be pregnant but it's probably still too early to tell.
What makes a person attractive? I am a woman.
big dickz n big titz
>>16895904
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I’m going to kill myself very soon. I’m going to try to do the old helium trick and if I can’t get access to a tank of it I’m just going to blow my brains out with one of my father’s pistols.
What should I do in the days before I end it? Should I write a suicide note? Will it comfort people I leave behind in any way? Should I make a will (I'm 20 years old)? Where should I do it? Should I go out in the woods or stay a night at a motel? Should I spend the last few days with my folks or just act like nothing’s going on?
Should I even go through with...
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Yeah, tell us why you are going to kill yourself please.
I know I'm just a stranger OP, but I was literally just released from the hospital Monday after I tried to kill myself.
You are loved, wanted, and appreciated. I know this is white knight faggotry or whatever, but try to at least call a suicide hotline.
>>16895616
Can I have your stuff after you're dead?
How do I find a girl into pegging?
i can hook you up with my ex
>>16895268
Why is she your ex?
>>16895256
Same, I need one.
>or a guy who fits my picky profile, which won't happen
im what some might call a geek or nerd or whatever.
thing is i cant stand other geeks or nerds. i dont like being around them- the thought of being surrounded by them at a con repulses me (i went to one ONCE and never again).
i fucking hate the way the shit i used to love has been comoditized and has been packaged and marketed as a "culture" or "lifestyle" or as some kind of fucking identity.
fake or real geeks or whatever- i just cant stand to be around them. what is wrong with me? i know these people arent bad people- yet im filled...
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Yeah I've been watching anime since the 80s but can't stand the spergs you see at cons or on /a/ nowadays.
Do you have any very close friends? I have two best friends now at age 30 and we're completely different types of people but we each love /vr/ and good anime. There are normal people out there who like the esoteric things you like. Or maybe even try to introduce your interests to a good friend you already have.
>>16895169
>what is wrong with me?
Nothing, the geek fandom is just prolonged childhood/adolescence, and at the back of your mind you know that this stuff is just embarrassingly juvenile.
It's OK to indulge in it from time to time but geeks have formed a entire identity around it.
>>16895192
yea im around 30 too and ive been playing video games and watching anime and horror movies since i was a kid.
i used to have close friends with similar interests who were more or less people who werent obnoxious retards, but since have moved away and started their own families. im pretty much friendless with the exception of a few online friends but i dont like to count them because i only know them as text and fucking picture.
Why do normies pretend to be happy 24/7? Or seems like they're always laughing and smiling, always super excited about something, always putting on a veneer of positivity. But why? It's obviously fake, because no one could possibly have the energy to act like that for more than a few minutes and only when something really spectacular happens. I just really don't believe that everyone is actually feeling all the emotions they pretend to feel. So my questions are:
>What's the point of this act?
>Am...
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>I'm not happy with life.
>Therefore, NO one is happy with life.
This is your logic and it is undeniably wrong.
>>16895132
There's a difference between being content with life and pretending to always be feeling some powerful emotion, idiot.
Back to /r9k/, faggot.
Hey /adv/,
My gf is pretty insecure and thinks she can't come up with ideas. She gets paralysed by choices and quite often just stalls until someone else makes the choice for her. She has no confidence to give or even to form opinions on basically anything subjective (films, books, music, etc.). She has preferences, but can't articulate them. She obviously wants to attempt creative hobbies, but doesn't have the confidence to do it. She's usually too embarrassed to talk about her interest in that stuff, probably because she thinks it's an unrealistic...
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>>16894857
I would tell you to encourage her, but in reality most woman are quite stupid and cannot come up with good ideas. The rare few shine through, but in most cases women lack creativity and tend to lean toward cowardice. Many men do so as well, but many woman are quite lacking in what could make a person great.
>>16894875
I've already decided to encourage her. I've come here for help figuring out how I should go about it.
>>16894877
You're banging your head against a rock
Just tell her that her sandwiches are pretty phenomenal and that you're really impressed with the creative way she sliced the sandwich diagonally.
The idea that males and females are dramatically different from each other for reasons other than arbitrary social ones (bros lift, women wear flowing clothing) is an idea propegated by social ignorance and the fact that some of you are on decade long dry spells or in abusive relationships. It's true that many men and women will act like different species, but I have to stress that in an environment without the ridiculous pressures to meet a stereotype, they are both human.
This was a PSA, I guess. You're welcome, nerds. Please make use of this information when...
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Men and women are different, period. Women give birth to kids, and have been the caretaker of children for thousands of years (because of a need to keep them close for breastfeeding). Men are stronger and have traditionally, for thousands of years been the physical protectors. If you deny the impact this has had on the differentiation between the sexes you are ignorant.
TL;DR: There has never once in history existed an: "environment without the ridiculous pressures to meet a stereotype".
(You)
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>>16894773
Would you be less scared of a female lion than you would a male lion?
Is drinking useful for anything besides being a sloppy treatment for misery, and a drug to make sloppy sex easier? This is good and all, but a sizable amount of people I know act like it's a general situation enhancer. Is this because they are miserable and/or alcoholic? When I look at tobacco and vaping nicotine, I see how silly the average person can get with a habit or vice, and almost distrust thier assessment of what is worth ingesting.
Drinking is really a drug like any other. Of course it can have its uses, and it's ups / downs.
>a drug to make sloppy sex easier?
That's what it's generally used for, yes.
>a sizable amount of people I know act like it's a general situation enhancer.
That's a problem with society. Alcohol is the most normalized drug, and it kind of disgusts / worries me at how accepting people are of those kind of points of view on alcohol. I'm not the only one with this opinion, i'm sure.
>>16894584
So that's my perspective too, and it seems like one that holds up to scrutiny a little bit, I mean a PsyD told me the same thing.
However she was the Philly NPR type. Do you think alcohol does more for certain people than it does us? There are instances where it seems to be enhancing people's every day leisure, probably more than a placebo. Is this because they need to stop thinking in order to have fun? Maybe I'm the same way, but too emotionally labile to enjoy being drunk.
>Do you think alcohol does more for certain people than it does us?
Well, to be honest, i've never been drunk. I've only tasted alcohol at several ocassions. So i'm probably the wrong person to ask. However, different people certainly react differently to alcohol.
>Is this because they need to stop thinking in order to have fun?
Yes. It's a way to distract yourself. To take your mind off of other things.
Everyone says you need to go outside to meet girls.
Ok sure, but go outside and do what? Hitting on girls on the street sounds like a bad fucking idea, and girls working retail even worse.
So what the hell
>>16894430
honestly try tinder. youre a guy esp, most girls arent exactly the fuckboy type.
Going outside means you meet people. Some of those people will be female. That's how you meet girls
>>16894430
Going outside generally means stepping outside of your comfort zone and meeting new people, for example for someone it could mean going in to anime convention, work/interest/hobby related gathering (board game, book, fighting games, card games, figurines, D&D, Cosplay etc) in your area, events, festivals and literally anywhere you find comfortable meeting people preferably with similar interests to your own. Do not stress too much on meeting girls at first just think of it as networking and getting new friends and acquaintances. With new friends you'll eventually meet new people including girls.
Based on your picture I think you're at least somewhat interested in anime, manga and Japanese culture. That shit is a gold mine when it comes to girls and here where I live girls outnumber boys in conventions like 2-1.
So contrary to popular belief it's not really a hobby you should be too ashamed of.
Also there's nothing wrong with online dating and it has helped a ton of shy people to meet each other including me and my girlfriend. It's also great place to practicing talking to girls which might make it easier to realize that it's really no different from talking to men aside from different sets of interests.
when to go for the kiss?
Trust your instincts. It's as simple as that. Get close to her and if she doesn't show signs of being uncomfortable then go for it.
>>16894314
Bump
The universe rewards the brave. Think less, act more, and follow your instincts. Odin would want you not to be afraid of failure. Failure is just part of the learning process. No woman and or man is worth idling about. Your life is incredibly short and you owe it to yourself to make the most of it.
Just be brave, trust yourself and the universe. Trust that if the kiss doesn't work it is all for the best.
