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How can fat people possibly be happy?
Three of my best friends are overweight, two borderline obese. I'm overweight as well, but not to the extent they are. Strangely enough, those three people are among the happiest I know, whereas I feel absolutely miserable every time I do so much as glance at a mirror. I've tried dieting on three multiple occasions, but after three months at a time I never drop more than ten pounds and decide that starving myself isn't worth it. I did lose a lot of weight over one summer a few years back (inb4 just do it again, I've tried and the magic just seemed to run out), but I noticed that no matter how many pounds I dropped I was never satisfied with the visual results.
What gives? What's keeping me from being happy like all the other fat people around?
>>16885305
Don't diet, change your life. Stop drinking calories and eat less. Lift weights and do cardio. Eat more vegetables. All the time. There is no diet, just change.
They aren't happy with their weight either. Fat people all lie to themselves on a daily basis to cope.
Maybe you're not fat enough. There may be a fat threshold.
Im 380 and in my 30s.
Happiness has little to nothing to do with weight. Self esteem is personal, and you can have high or low depending on your personal body image.
do things that you enjoy, spend time with people you care about, and then you'll actually be happy. Don't let your insecurity decide your happiness.
I have 180 painkillers downstairs should I take them all?
What kind? If they're oxies you should take like 5 and mail the rest to me. Won't kill ya, but you'll feel pretty good.
>>16884910
Cocodamol man
>>16884929
So what's bothering you man?
If i actually get help for my depression and go to psychotherapy will it actually help me or am i just paying someone to vent to? What would i really gain?
Probably not. Actual depression is an endless sinkhole that continues you swallow you ever deeper.
If the insanity of it all doesn't kill you, you inevitably learn to mimic basic human interaction and find your place in this world, but still as hollow as before.
I think, in my own experience, the worst feeling is the moment when you realize there's nothing more to tell, or discuss with your therapist. You've said all there is to say, left with the realization that you cannot talk your way out of it. It's who you are now.
It will help if you find someone you can really talk openly to and built a bond of trust with.
>>16884816
Well there's depression caused by your situation and depression caused by chemical imbalance. A therapist can help with both but the imbalance kind really needs medication.
So I've been watching TV s streamer and I think I'm in love with her but there's one problem...I dont speak swedish..also would trying to hit on her be a bad idea overall? I'm really nervous.
>>16884544
1. Shes looks about 10 years old
2. You don't love her, you haven't even met her.
3. If you don't speak her language you not going to be with her long.
>>16884549
She's 12 actually, so nice try. I'm 18 so we are pretty close in age
>>16884564
Ok...
So instead of trolling and offending the general population, your an idiot and you are now offending me personally.
Anon, I was raped when I was 12 by and 18 year old. 12 year olds can't consent, if you want to have sex with anyone under 16 than you are pedophile and should fuckin die.
Advice please!
I'm 20 and girlfriend is 19, she has slept with around 20+ guys.
Is it normal for me to feel easily replaceable? I feel inadequate as a partner due to my being a virgin until now.
Thank you!
>>16884304
She might be a little fucked in the head, OP. It's perfectly rational to feel replaceable. Get to the root of the issue though. She's using sex to cover for something else.
Kek way to pick a good one
>>16884304
You fell for a whore dude. Drop that bitch cuz she just uses her snatch for snacks
>Be attractive female
>Smart enough to get into good colleges
>Not quite smart enough for a full ride, only partial scholarships
>Fuck student loans
>Choice One: Whore myself out part time to pay for college or full time as a career
>Choices Two: Whore myself out legally at a strip club for less money or illegally as an escort for more money
I'm totally fine with being a whore, but it kind of sucks that my options boil down to that or crippling debt.
Get a job
>>16884094
>Get a job
Oh cool, so a part time job that pays $7.50 an hour is going to cover my five figure annual debt? I had no idea!
Get a sugar daddy. More money, less work, and part of your job is spoiling yourself.
I want to make this as concise as possible. I was in my first relationship. She's young. She was really into me at the start and I wasn't. Tables turned. She lost interest and later we broke up because of something menial I did. I made the mistake of fighting like a dog to convince her to stay. As soon as I stopped caring she ran back. The same problem happened and she essentially kept me on the side like a toy.
I broke up with her. She lost interest because I was a bitch during the whole relationship, caring and investing too much. I know she really likes me and who I am but she's not going to love a bitch. I've cut contact with her since and plan to do so for a month. I want to know if I can spark her interest and love again. I know if that's possible her behaviour will fall in place so we can continue like a normal couple. I just want to if this is fixable and what I should do after the month of no contact and advice for the future.
>>16884078
Oh boy, a relationship where both sides have no respect for each other. Look, you've both been playing each other, there's zero expectations of honesty. You want to get back together? Fine, flirt relate, do whatever to get back there. But very soon one of you will fuck the other over again. You can accept this, and keep the cycle going, or you can grow past it and find something less toxic. That's my advice.
>>16884106
I feel like this is just because of how young she is. I've tried the honesty and respect thing but she's dumb and immature. She wants the stupid game. But does this mean were not right for each other? Isn't this something we can grow past at some point as long as we keep it held down until then? This is a phase most girls go through so don't I just have to play along until she grows out if it and becomes serious? I'm quite aware that there will be lots of suffering until then. It's a shitty relationship dynamic but were essentially going to be only a couple by name and it'll basically be and "open" relationship.
>>16884131
A relationship therapist would advice against this. You have a conflict of interest. One you want a relationship where you publicly identify as a couple, but also consider it "open". These are two different things and don't work at the same time. You or her will end up feeling cheated regardless, and this will only fuel arguments.
Maybe you both are looking for different things, and she is not willing to provide what you want, and likely never will. Sorry dude.
I need advice. My situation is shit.
I don't know what to do anymore at this point.
>live in apartment with girlfriend, three other "friends"(couple and guy), and recently made friend named Z
>apartment is well above affordable range (couple girl's pick)
>two dogs in apartment. Couple claims them.
>dogs arent trained for shit
>everything has been pissed on at least once
>dogs are never taken out and shit everywhere
>couple gets pissed when nobody takes dogs out
>they dont either
>couple girl is literal black hole of a cunt
>everyone, including couple guy, is tired of her shit
>constantly spreads rumors and shit
>gets pissed when she isnt center of attention
>couple guy has inflated ego because of couple girl
>all around okay guy before they were dating
>couple guy is brainwashed shithead now following couple girl's bidding
>guy is literal couch potato
>guy and couple girl siblings
>guy does nothing but sit on couch and plays COD while complaining about how shit COD is
>guy has college degree
>only one out of all of us to actually have degree
>continuously bitches about bills
>continuously bitches about not having gf
>continuously bitches about job
>continuously bitches about being hungry
>bitches about everything while sitting on couch for entirety of time at house
>Z is addicted to weed
>like actually
>Z salivates when he talks about weed
>pretty ok guy besides that
>Z isnt perfect, but he tries
heres where shit gets worse.
>Z is tired of not being able to help with bills
>Z asks for help from house to find job
>Couple girl promises to get him in at restaurant she works at
>gf works at same restaurant
>gf gets wind from manager that couple girl told the manager to never hire him
>couple and guy are planning on kicking Z out
>undoubtedly couple girl's idea
>couple guy brainwashed into thinking Z is devil by couple girl
>guy doesnt like Z all that much (theres backstory to it) but on the "Kick Z" bandwagon because Z called guy out on his shit once.
>>16884003
Move out
Cont.
>Previously in december, Z had job in far-as-fuck area
>get up every morning at 6 to drive Z to work while I was out of work
>Help him earn enough to get phone
>Z spends first few checks paying back debts he owed to people from years ago, including reimbursing me for gas
>Couple doesnt like him
>Once, Z walked into couple's room to locate grinder for weed
>Granted, was bad, but he just was looking for the grinder
>couple girl claims that she feels unsafe because Z could "take advantage of her while she slept"
>At the time, both Z and his girlfriend were living here
>After incident, Couple guy labels Z an addict because he smokes resin
>not even 3 months before this, couple guy was smoking resin
>Couple dehumanize Z whenever they talk to him
>Z trusts no one but me and gf
>Couple (mostly couple girl) often talks shit about everyone
>At time, was in process of buying car from couple guy
>couple avoids everyone and stays in their room
>couple specifically calls gf to talk to her about me
>this is a common occurrence
>Couple guy once threatened to take car back because "I sassed him"
>at time, I worked two jobs and was the only person in the house with all bills paid off
>couple guy quit work for three months to sit on his ass
>couple guy regularly gets money from his mom, a full year after moving out, talking about how horrible she is
>a while ago, paid my way through bartending school
>never pursue due to fear of rejection etc.
>guy complains that hes the only mature person in the house
>guy makes snide remark about how i have a license but dont do shit with it
>i simply look at him
>he stays quiet the rest of the night
>>16884033
Again,
Move out
I just took 10g of paracetamol. What do ? Am i going to die ?
Probably not.
Why did you take 10g of paracetamol?
>>16883939
Medfag here. I have a couple questions. First, to confirm, you took 10g of paracetamol? As in 10000mg? Second, how long ago did you do this? I need an exact time, 4 hours, 24 hours?
Prank call this number +1 (254) 739-9563
I'm going to be taking it soon and I'm wondering what the chances are of it coming back. Acne coming back is my worst fear. I wouldn't describe my acne as severe, but definitely mild to moderate. It's cystic and leaves behind scars, hopefully it'll be gone for good once I'm done taking accutane. Has anyone here taken accutane? Got any advice? I'm kind of scared to take it since I've heard horror stories about people who have experienced life-term side effects that have fucked them over.
it sometimes comes back, then you just do another round.
many times accutane only works as long as you're taking it, and if you stop it comes back with a vengeance, along with the long term side effects. it's why my derm never gave it to me and I'm thankful for it
>>16883725
I've heard quite the opposite. I hear that it clears 60% of the people who take it for good, and that it comes back in a much less severe form after you take it.
>>16883721
Have you been on it? I don't think I'd do two rounds.
I'm 18 years old and have been a Jehovah's Witness my hole life. My family and friends are all witnesses. I am a virgin and have never committed a sin. 3 months ago I started getting to know a guy in the religion. I have extremely bad depression for a previous experience where I got attacked. And stuffer from thoughts of self harm. On the anniversary of the attack and 12 weeks after I had come off my medicine and have a mental break down and I was thinking of killing my self. I told my boyfriend that and he told me to come to his apartment. I got on the train at midnight I wasn't thinking I was blacked out. I got to his apartment and we cuddle and kissed a little ended up with him falling asleep on his bed. Fully clothed. The next day he felt of guilty he called the older men of the Kingdom Hall ( church ) to tell them what happened.
4 weeks after that happened today I got told I will be having a judicial commity where I have to sit In front of three men and tell them exactly what happened.
They haven't offered me any advice or help I'm 18 i told them I was going to commit suicied and they didn't even ask if I was okay for 4 weeks after.
What am I doing? Is this stupid? Did I do something so wrong?
Are you legally responsible to report to them? If no, then tell them to fuck off. He without sin casts the first stone and unless they are God I doubt they are. Find, a job in another city, get counseling See if the guy will come with you but get out of there either way.
>>16883489
No I'm not. Thanks for your advice. I feel like running a million miles away.
What do they do tell you to repeat however many prayers over and over?
Can I get a step by step guide to dates?
Say I invite a girl I'm talking to out to eat somewhere or hangout. What steps should I take to make it a date that at least ends in a kiss?
Also, how do I immediately let a girl know my intentions without coming on too strong?
I have this problem of talking to girls casually, being friends and then we kinda just stop talking as some other guy swoops in. I never know how to escalate things.
I don't have time for all of it.
Pointers.
Don't ask for a date, tell her you're doing something fun, and that she should come.
No such thing as coming on too strong, just be honest.
"You're a cutie, let's hang out more, I'm going to the art gallery on the weekend, you should come."
He is swooping in cos you aren't making a move.
Man up, make the move, get rejected, try again.
If you're going into a date thinking you have to kiss her or whatever you'll end up acting needy. Just have fun, act natural and adapt to her signals.
bumping for interest
ive been told things just kinda come naturally. conversation and body language will be pretty solid indicators even in the shyest of women simply because of subconsciousness.
Why is it harder for my boyfriend to cum when we're doing missionary? Or when I'm on top?
He cums so much faster if it's doggy or I'm laying on my stomach. I have asked him, but he just says he doesn't know.
>>16882908
Because he gets to see your ugly face and it interrupts his pornstar fantasies.
Probably true to a point. Not cos she's ugly just because he's trying to concentrate.
>>16882958
>>16882962
But he doesn't even look at my face. He looks forward or puts his face in my shoulder or closes his eyes.
I'm not that ugly.
Also could it be because he gets to see my ass? He always jokes about cumming quick when he sees it.
I take an SNRI for generalised anxiety disorder, which helps me get outside more than I did 4 years back. However, my speech has gotten worse. I've noticed these last couple of years my speech has become more slurred, and I stutter more than I used to. I've also noticed that I'm finding it difficult to express when I talk.
What the fuck is happening to me? It feels like I'm suffering from brain damage.
>>16882634
Speak to a doctor. It could be a myriad of issues. Check your med's side effects, you should have listed the actual generic name of your meds in the OP.
>>16882643
Venlafaxine to be precise. My standard of written English has slumped considerably.
>>16882643
Also, to mention my eyesight is poorer than say, 2 years ago.
I'm referring to cases where very few people living in your area speaks the language that you want to learn (eg. a Korean learning Spanish, an Australian learning French, etc).
you get to experience more media in the original package, totally worth it imo
>>16881893
I don't think Spanish music is popular in Korea and I don't think French movies are that popular in Australia.
>>16881915
if u are learning a new language just for fun u should milk it for all its worth eh
