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>long term bf and i take college class together
>sit next to each other at table
>we're not all crazy PDA and shit, we hold hands outside of class, but act normal in class
>we're taking a science class, so professor hands out shit for us to experiment on and pass around to observe
>bf always teases me, like snatches things from my hands or pokes me and other stuff
>dude sitting next to me hasn't entirely realized that we do this because we're in a relationship
>guessing he thinks im an easy slore just doing this to be cutesy with guys in the class
>starts doing the same shit that my boyfriend does to me (ie snatching things from the table and giggling trying to get me to take it from him)
>I just kinda made an uncomfortable face and didn't respond to the guy when he did that
All I can think is "Oh god, this person thinks that Im some sleazy college girl being an idiot with men."
My boyfriend started realizing it, and after the break of the class, he switched places with me, but it still continued with the guy sitting next to us.
What even do? He has not been completely forward like talking to me or whatever, but it seems to be escalating. We don't even see him after class so it's not like he sees us hold hands or kiss or anything. My boyfriend wouldn't say anything to him unless he actually says something to me.
At this point it's just really strange. What do.
Tell the other guy that you're dating and that he needs to stop
Tell the guy to cut it out and tell him that you act that way with your boyfriend because he's your boyfriend. The other guy is male, he needs to be told directly what the deal is, hinting will get you nowhere.
>>16881501
>>16881502
I'm just worried that he's gonna twist it around on me. Like he'll say I was misinterpreting it or do some weird shit to make me look bad.
This has happened before in a slightly different scenario. They douchebag told me that my boyfriend should "act more like my boyfriend." and it got weird.and embarrassing.
I'm a university student in Canada. I speak French besides English. I'm starting to learn Italian as I want to learn a new language and I have an online friend to practise with. However, I do know that Italian isn't very useful here and I will probably never truly use it unless I travel to Italy (I know some Music majors studying Italian but I suck at music). It's not like there are a lot of Italian people in my area. Should I continue learning Italian or not? Is it pointless?
>>16881336
>Should I continue to learn this thing that will allow me to speak to a completely different group of people guys?
I dont know anon, if you have to ask then you probably should just quit.
Trust me, when you're 30 and still single, you'll look a lot better to women if you have Italian as a hobby. So many people like get to that age and their only skills are Netflix and eating out
>>16881342
>>16881342
I just dont get this ''Well but is it useful?'' type of mentality thats so popular amongs all of us.
Its a question thats been sorrounding me for years by other dumb people who will try their hardest to determine the VALUE of things instead of just appreciating them.
Jesus fucking christ dude you can learn a new language and even practice with a friend, you dont even have to be interested, you can just study 1 hour...
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Is online dating a legitimate way to meet girls
I always felt it was kind of unnatural but everyone is online these days. I just turned 18 and I wanna find a nice girl, but I'm kinda scared that there won't be any cute girls, because why wouldn't they have a boyfriend if they were cute?
Help me out guys
Hi, I'm 30. My generation worked hard to make it such that younger generations would never think online dating was a weird way to meet someone. What did we miss?
Re cute girls with boyfriends:
- "Cute" is subjective; you might be into something that others aren't;
- Cute girls with boyfriends sometimes break up with said boyfriends. It's been known to happen.
It's really easy to try Tinder, etc., so just try it. At worst you can give up and post on /r9k/.
>>16881224
I want an actual relationship not a quick fuck, tinder doesn't seen right for me
Puppies and kittens are cute.
Would you date one of those?
Why are there so many sluts that dress the same, and how can I stop being bitter about it? This whole leggings thong is just fucking ridiculous. I would just never be able to date someone who would wear something so revealing, and 90% of the population (at least on campus) wears them.
>>16881111
Fuck you the leggings/thong is amazing. My dick has never been happier. I've literally gotten to stare at vaginas of most women because of it. What a time to be alive.
>>16881111
Instead of being bitter about those people, seek out and appreciate the other people you like and get along with. They do exist.
I don't like that type of dress either, so I'm thankful I have a girlfriend who dresses in a way I find very nice.
>>16881124
Yeah, but it's distracting as hell and I wouldn't want a gf that shows her thomg to everyone.
I'm 24 years old and finally started dating my first girl (pathetic, I know). She is from my university, and she is incredibly attractive (literally used to participate in beauty pageants), and this is the first girl I'm really doing something serious with. Here are my concerns;
1. The biggest thing is that I have not told her she is basically going to be my first, well, everything for obvious reasons. I am pretty sure she would see it as a red flag if she knew the truth, but it just hasn't been brought up yet. What do I do about this?
2. I have...
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>>16880993
>1. The biggest thing is that I have not told her she is basically going to be my first, well, everything for obvious reasons. I am pretty sure she would see it as a red flag if she knew the truth, but it just hasn't been brought up yet. What do I do about this?
if she is really into you she will give no fucks about it, might even found it cute.
>2. I have never really gotten affirmation for my attractiveness level so I always assumed I was...
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>>16880993
1. Do not ever tell girls that you're inexperienced, a virgin, etc. If a guy that's wanted by many women is dating a girl, women view that as a complement. If a guy is wanted by no women and is dating a girl, women view that as gross/insulting.
>huge issue
No it's not. Don't ever tell her she's your first girlfriend, first sex, first whatever.
My wife is pregnant and I don't want the child because it is a female. How do I convince her to abort?
Nice b8 m8
>>16880767
tell her that you're actually half black and there's a good chance the baby will come out looking like a nigger
srs
>>16880780
But she is very progressive.
I was at a party and my friend gave me a lapdance. During the lapdance i came and she freaked out... Now things are awkward between us. The last time we hung out we barely talked or make eye contact, and i was hard the whole time. What do i do?
what do you mean freaked out.
whooops
That bitch asked for it if she's unconfortable with it it's her problem
So my girlfriend left me 3 months ago, together for 7 years, which sucks, and i still want her, but thats besides the point.
We speak fairly often, mostly texting, usually me leading but she is eager to talk to me. Here's the thing, she asks me if I've been with other girls, and she acts all strange if i talk about other women. She seems jealous, i think, i can't be sure.
But she left me, she doesn't want to be with me, why is she asking if ive been with other women, why is she jealous?
It probably has less to do with you, and more to do with her ego.
>>16880135
I dunno, i want to ask her the same thing, i don't because id rather not actually know, but i do want to know because im jealous.
>>16880149
Well if it's going to affect you negatively don't ask. I say focus on moving forward with your life after such a big commitment. Stop initiating texts with her and if she has fondness for you it will build with some distance, but don't expect anything since she did leave you.
Okay so first thing is that i tend to be sadistic and non-empathic. So i pretty much talked to my friend who i think could be semi-depressed? trough Facebook. She pretty much said that she wishes not to exist. We talked about some paranormal shit and then i mentioned a way of non-existing that would require death(pretty much just for keks). Then i said even if she did that she would still exist in like 1%. She said it's too much of % and then i said something like "IDK then, you should consider killing yourself, that could be like 100% of not-existing." She then...
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Anyone? I seriously have no idea if i went too far or not.
you did
>>16879760
You went too far by far. She was depressed and wanted someone to listen, and you seem to have said, "just kill yourself, LOL!!"
Can someone explain to me what's "so bad for you" when it comes to losing weight quickly? I'm on a pretty intensive diet right now, and I've lost 15 lbs in just over 3 weeks, which my coworkers and some other friends are saying "is terrible for me." Last year I did the same diet, and I lost 25 lbs in 6 weeks.
I feel absolutely fine, my energy is solid, and I have no problems that I'm aware of, plus I'm finally down from being borderline obese to having a healthy, normal BMI, which seems to me to be a lot more important than...
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what do you mean by intensive diet?
>>16879744
Crash dieting has been proven to be ineffective.
Also can cause hair loss.
1. Not all of that weight is fat. Most people ignore that muscles need calories as well, and as a result you can lose quite a bit of muscle from these kind of diets.
2. Loose skin will accumulate in your body. Not only will the skin not have enough time to adjust to the fat, the muscles being lost through these diets like I said in #1 will make it even worse. Sometimes plastic surgery will be the only option.
I told you what makes them bad. Personally, I'd ask you to just stick to 2 lbs lost per week at most, but it's your decision.
Should I drop college and get a job?
Because of several reasons (some of them medical) it has took me longer to graduate than most people - I'm 24 and still in college, I started when I was 20 because I went neet for a couple of years.
I don't think there is much prospect for my majors, and both often involve work I'm not very much into.
I also want to get a job because I don't want to keep leeching my parents. They're okay with it because I'm "studying," but considering how much time I have spent in college without getting...
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I'm in the same place and want to do the exact same thing, so monitoring this thread.
>>16879710
What's your major anon?
>>16879676
I dont know if this is your case, but it sure was mine and it helped.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jhb5lfqSIw8
I stopped shampooing and conditioning over a month ago in hopes it would fix my dandruff. I just started getting it in November for the first time. So today I wanted to see how much I have, and still its a lot. Here are 3 pictures. 1 is me brushing my hair onto this dark colored table. So 1 side is with the dandruff and 1 side is without it. What do you guys think? What do I do?
>>16879582
Without
>>16879582
Altogether
1. Go to drug store.
2. Buy anti-dandruff shampoo.
3. ?
4. Profit!
>girl asks me to a concert
>she pays for it all, despite all my protests and going just short of pushing her out of the way of the ticket sales booth
>she suggests another outing
>although this one wasnt treated as a date
what do /adv/? what position am I in?
>>16878812
she hates your guts, a girl would only pay for the date and ask you out again if she didnt like you
cut it off now
>>16878813
th-thanks
what i meant was is this purely a friend thing or is she into me?
>>16878814
literally no way to tell from only this it matters more how she treated you and how she acted
How does this love/apology letter sound? (very long post)
I am not good with words at all, I want your opinion on this. It's gonna be a love letter sent to her. She broke up with me and I want to get back together. The main reason being that "our hobbies differ" but truth is that I was an
asshole who did not listen to her and her interests. If I knew, I would've done things that she enjoyed. She's 24 years old
You give me 1000000 times more compliments than all the other people on the planet combined. I felt like the biggest piece of shit in the world, then I met you, and you made me feel like the best person in the world, you make me feel so
incredibly happy. You like my body, voice, the way I act, even my drawings and take interest in the manga story that nobody cares about, as well as my past. You always listen to me with interest. I miss you so much and it makes me so
happy that you miss me. Finally... someone who cares about me. I always felt so comfortable talking to you, being with you, cuddling you, you were the complete opposite compared to anyone else.
--part 1
>>16878622
stop posting the rest of the letter, never send this to anybody
You are so incredibly sweet by dealing with all my horrible bullshit, like my room, when I ate meat (I cut down with it about 90%), when I spoke bad to you or your mother (I really want to appologize to her), when I didn't try holding a
proper conversation with you (I didn't even realize, that wasn't my intention). I was a lazy fuck who couldn't be bothered to take you out on proper dates by planning things properly, and you sat quietly and enjoyed it all the way. I
made you drive such long ways so many times, I just feel so bad for being...
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>>16878624
why not? I'm here for advice, I am oblivious
I'm 38. I've never had a date in the past as I had depression and was very reclusive. I'm now better, but from what I understand, dating is already too late for me. I see 30-year-old femanons posting on /adv/ and people already tell them it is too late, they're a loser, all the good ones are taken, they are stuck with creeps or forever alone. The fact that I've never dated is perceived as a red flag by men. All is hopeless.
>>16878181
>dont tell men you havent dated before
>date a creep
whats the big deal?
>Best way to kill self
Wait.
>I see 30-year-old femanons posting on /adv/ and people already tell them it is too late
You realise that 4chan is about 90% misogynistic male teenagers, right? What the fuck do we know about the dating experiences of women in their thirties? Find some of your peers to speak to.
