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Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't. Our answers are not going to help you.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical act/moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely. Preferences differ.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking.
>Brandon
Fuck off
I'm 23 (male) and never dated. I've recently just moved on my own and have an actual job. Thing is, this job isn't what I want in five, six, years or so. There's some other stuff I'm pursuing and as a result, I'm focusing solely on those goals and I haven't ever given dating a though. Is this something you grow out of? I've always kept myself busy by focusing on a task.
I mean sure, I've thought about relationships, but never enough to where it captivates me. It's just like "oh, yeah, how about that?" and I just kinda shrug it off. The only thing is I'm kind of afraid of eventually opening up to the idea, but being much older without any sort of dating experience, like how to even go on a date, etc.
>>16913277
I don't think there'd be any harm in going on dates, even if you don't plan to get a girlfriend. It'd give you something to balance out your life, and it might end up in a relationship. It'd get you out and meeting new people, not just girls, too.
>>16913299
Well that's the thing is I don't even know how I'd get to that point. I don't go anywhere but to work or to the store. In the free time I do get, I've been working on some creative stuff and am looking to start some acting classes soon. I get so absorbed in what I'm doing, I'm going to end up being 65 before I even want to settle down. I know that's an exaggeration, but still. I can't force it either, you know?
Girls.
What do tits feel like
>>16909422
salty coins
>>16909422
Bags of fat
Warm, soft, and better than a pillow.
Junior psychiatrist here, will answer questions.
Prefer to answer questions in regards to mental illness, general medicine, or advice on becoming a doctor, but I'm not super picky
>>16893541
How'd you fail out of STEM and decide on pseudoscience?
>>16893547
Not OP, but psychiatrists are physicians. You are thinking of psychologists.
>What's the difference between a psychiatrist and a psychologist?
>One is licensed to treat the patient.
You know the drill. Ask away.
boys why are you dicks
girls why are you sluts
This is going to sound weird but. So I'm trying to turn my life around and escape loser-world. I'm one of the millions of creepy guys in their mid 20s whos never touched a girl but I'm actively trying to improve everything and have come a long way. Girls are starting to actually pay attention for the first time in my life.
Is it a good idea for an older virgin guy to pursue a single mom about his age?
Everyone's always saying "lower your standards". And they can't afford to ask for much either because... they're a single mom lol.
Are there any single moms on here? Do you have the patience to teach someone and put up with trying weird things and spaghetti.
I realize I'm not going to get a super amazing waifu girl. There are a couple moms in my neighborhood warming up to me who are at a similar age to me so.
>>16907677
>Spaghetti
????
Does anyone else unironically get mad when women claim to be lonely?
I'm being dead serious here. Women will literally NEVER experience loneliness the way a man does. Women receive male attention literally 24/7 THEIR ENTIRE LIFE. And what's more, they get all this just by the fact that they exist. It's fucking ridiculous. Men bending over backward for you for no reason.
No, you stupid cunt, just because your ideal 15/7 Chad hasn't swept you off your feet yet doesn't mean you're lonely. These cunts would kill themselves if they had to spend one day as a man.
inb4 cuck white knights
>>16904508
Stop exaggerating so much. It makes your argument weaker. You're essentially correct, but there are exceptions and the level of attention is much lower than what you claim.
You're on the wrong board. This is /adv/
>>/r9k/
>>16904522
Hell even /soc/ works better than here.
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't. Our answers are not going to help you.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical act/moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely. Preferences differ.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking.
This is really silly but
>cute worker at a subway I go to
>want to get to know her
I'm adverse to trying to flirt with girls when they're at work for obvious reasons. Also its a subway so making an order takes all of 6 seconds, not much room for banter
Is there any way to make this work?
>>16903652
"Hey, I think you're cute. Here's my number, drop me a call if you'd like to go out for a coffee sometime" (hand them a card or if she's at the cashier, just borrow a pen write your number on the back of something).
Short, succinct, non-intrusive and confidently gets your point across. If she's interested she'll call. If she's not, she won't.
I gotta say, just asking the girl I got a crush on out was a pretty good confidence booster, even more so when she actually did come out with me.
When I was pondering whether or not to ask her, I realized that the worst thing that could really happen is just her saying no. That realization made the decision to ask her out so much easier.
other one is dead. you know the drill.
I hate you all
My adult life is failing and I don't really care
I've been feeling better lately, which is really nice.
I'll bake pizza for my family today, to celebrate. And also because pizza tastes good.
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't. Our answers are not going to help you.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical act/moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely. Preferences differ.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
Guys,
Have you ever been really embarrassed by a girl openly flirting with you? Assume she is decently attractive and not a total stranger.
Would you find that kind of personality intimidating, or would you prefer that a woman be the one to initiate contact like that?
>>16900560
I might be a little nervous, but I wish more women initiated contact like that.
Everyone ignores me over text, and it's painful as fuck. In person they're all buddy-buddy, but the moment I go digital I get no response. They log in continuously to hold other conversations, but they ignore anything I say.
I just don't get it. One girl even hits me up every once in a while, but completely drops conversation as soon as I reply.
What do I do? What is the magic trick to become more likeable over text? Guy here, by the way.
I'm getting to that age where most women are divorced with kids. I absolutely refuse to raise another man's kids. Its nothing against the kids themselves and I know complicated situations happen but I just can't
>>16903269
Yeah, you're a prissy little faggot and these women have had a life and have strength and know love like you'll never know.
>>16903276
Pregnant at 16 huh?
>>16903269
Well maybe you should do something about it before you get to that age?
>be the last of among buds and coworkers to finally land an asian gf
>now being told she doesn't count because "flips aren't real asians"
someone explain this bullshit
also which race among asians is considered the most attractive?
My housemate is half Filipino (his dad is a fat white dude and his mum is a mail order) and he claims Filipino isn't asian. Convenient for us because we can shit talk azns without him getting offended.
Kill yourself.
Failing that, look up orientalism and use it as your fetishist guide.
>>16902918
White woman detected
Tomorrow, I have to lie to my boss about a mistake I've been making since I began working there (January). I will never make it again, but if he finds out I've been fucking up this whole time he could fire me. Advice? Tips?
>>16902500
How bad is the mistake?
Best to come clean about it if it's not that serious
>>16902500
Don't lie about it.
Admit your mistake, be honest, don't make excuses, and tell him that you won't do it again.
There's a chance he already knows that you've been making this mistake. If this is the case, he's looking for you to tell the truth.
You're risking getting fired no matter what. But if you lie, then you will continue to take that risk everyday, as he might find out you lied.
If you tell the truth, the risk vanishes.
>>16902503
It's enough to fire me.
I finally came out to my girlfriend of 5+years as polyamorus. She sensed that was the case and gave me the OK to test the waters as it were. Problem is, I have no experience outside of monogamous dating, I'm back in junior college because my place of employment closed down, and my car recently broke down so I'm a busfag for the foreseeable future (USfag.)
I'm broke, carless, ambition less, and starting my late 20's. How do I get into poly dating so I can stop feeling dead inside and hopefully find the motivation to focus more on getting my worthless degree?
>>16902212
You aren't polyamorus, you're just an idiot
Yeah, you're not polyamorous, you're bored. You don't wanna break up with your girlfriend, but you wanna fuck other women.
>>16902239
Fair assessment, I wish I could definitively tell you if that were true or not.
Anything of worth I've done with my life was primarily motivated by meeting women. (I have issues.) When my gf gave me the green light it was like opening up a gilded cage to find an empty wasteland.
The affirmation that comes from intimate conversation an validation that another human could be interested in me are the only things keeping me going. I can't distract myself with booze fames and 4chan forever. What do Anon?
What is charisma?
Is it possible to learn charisma or you must be born with it?
How does one become a charismatic person?
I'm asking because i know this man who is incredibly charismatic and i'm gonna be sincere, i envy him. He's average looking, he doesn't have a great voice, he's not rich, he's not fit and he's even short, but still when he talks everyone in the room listens to him, people like to have conversations with him and women particularly enjoy being around him, even women far above his league seem to be easily captivated by him.
Go to prison. A year in there will break your shell.
>>16901915
whoa.
Bump
Am also interested in an answer
My best friend and I have been really close friends since we were kids. He's a guy and I'm a girl. He recently got a girlfriend and she hated my guts pretty much immediately. Every time I was around she had an attitude and giving me mean looks. We had a private talk and she wanted me to go away and I'm taking attention away from her and she feels uncomfortable with me being so close to him. She said it's unfair that he still divides a lot of his time to me when she should be getting all his attention.
I didn't want any trouble honestly so I kind of respected her wishes and kept my distance from him. I didn't want to interfere in their relationship or rock the boat. I still talked to him online and we played games and stuff but I didn't see him much in person. My best friend noticed because we see each other all the time so it's really weird when we just don't. At first I just kind of passed it off as being busy but eventually he got concerned. He asked me if he did something and of course I said no and he said I should tell him whats up then since we're best friends. I thought about it and I decided to tell him his girlfriend wanted me to keep my distance because she was uncomfortable with me.
He was very mad and he talked to her. They had an argument about it and he eventually dumped her. She was absolutely livid with me. She called me a slut and a bitch and she said I ruined her relationship.
I feel pretty bad. Did I do the wrong thing?
Nope. Your hands are clean. Let her words float by like so much hot air.
You didn't do anything wrong, you saved him some trouble by being honest.
Don't let mind games with other people complicate your friendships, just be straight up if you go way back.
>>16901872
No. If she literally can't understand that you have zero romantic intention towards him that's on her. And I'm sure your friend feels the same way.
When did you realize it was time to end a friendship?
>>16901775
when they stole from me and lied in my face about it.
>>16901775
When someone thinks Asuka isn't better than Rei
>>16901775
When i got into a fist fight with one of his other friends and he snitched on me by the police ...
3 people were against me in court but i managed to get off with norhing ad their stories didnt match.
