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BEWARE DEGENERATE BEHAVIOR!!
*Why the Patriarchy System is needed*
Dating this girl (we're both white) for about a 8 months. she's great , gorgeous, smart, everything. I ask her flat out... HAVE YOU EVER DATED/ had sex with OTHER RACES, BLACK GUYS? She says no.
I'm suspicious as is my nature. set up fake facebook pretending to be this black guy. start talking with her she admits to blowing one of her black "guy friends" in college when she was drunk to the catfish account. I message this black friend with catfish account "yo dog you got...
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>>16910053
5/10
Fucking niggers took another one.
Who cares. Once you go black no one wants you back.
Coalburners should be gassed.
Move on OP, dont waste your time with this so called white girl. Shes probably trash anyways, as are all white girls that hook up with niggers.
>>16910053
Take this bait where it might work. Somewhere like /pol/ maybe.
Despite knowing the response I'll get for admitting I'm female, it's kind of important to my question.
Anyway, I have a generally low sex drive and take forever to come (not helped by Zoloft). On top of that, I can't relax enough to have penetrative sex. I can get fingers and dildos up there no problem when I'm alone, but it's different in a sexual situation with another person.
I was fine with how I was to some extent. I decided I wasn't going to deal with my trauma/anxiety/whatever, avoided relationships, and tried to accept...
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>>16910051
Have you tried just giving him head?
Is penetration painful or are you just scared?
Sexual dysfunction therapy sounds like a good bet, having so much anxiety that you clam up (get it?) and can't have PIV is pretty extreme.
TL;DR;
I see women as objects.
However, I still try to satisfy their needs.
But when I ask them what they do really want, they feel shattered and leave me and call me egoistic.
Yet I asked what they do want! Is this such a hard question?
### FULL STORY ###
Dear Femanons,
Let me explain my issue.
I am unable to see you women as something different than a cum bucket.
I have been taught this is wrong, you are people like everybody else, and you deserve respect... so I deliver accordingly.
I Would never harm anyone and feel shit when somebody is uncomfortable around me.
However, I cannot bring myself to see you as human beings whose personality I might want to discover. I am not interested in you, but just in what you can give me.
You are like objects, I see you as sex toys and nothing more.
I think you are aware of this and perceive my distance, so you don't want to deal with me and avoid me because I don't have what you define as a "genuine interest" in your person.
I still maintain my interest is genuine -- but just physically genuine; not emotionally genuine.
In a sense, this all makes sense. It's a straightforward action-reaction: you perceive me like that, so you avoid me. Full stop.
What I don't understand is when I am blamed for treating women like men. Why is this thing a critique? As a man, I don't have women rushing to me to care for my emotional needs; occasionally, people give me material help, but this is as far as it goes. Hence, since I'm supposed to find within myself the energy to go on, I have hard times putting up with somebody (usually a woman) who is always craving for my approval, my (fake or genuine) interest, etc. I assume everyone has to do this kind of job and become self-sufficient; I am not here to provide people (and especially strangers!) with emotional freebies -- especially when it is not reciprocal.
But isn't this what women say they want? To be treated like men. So here I am, I treat you like buddies and nothing more... but you do not forgive this way of acting.
So I am in a bit of a predicament: I follow your directions and treat you like I treat men. However, when I do so, I am blamed for not being empathic enough, etc.
Thus, my question:
>What do women want?
>What do you want, femanons?
And, in particular, why do you treat me like a robot devoid of empathy when I make you face this question.
"What do you want?" It sounds excellent. Maybe it is even over-empowering. Not easy to answer, of course, but that's precisely the point: do I make...
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>>16909974
>>16909973
TL;DR
Replace what women want with what do people want. Relationships aren't some sort of game where if you put in X you get out Y.
I'm an f in a 3f 1m relationship. We have a really hard time meeting new people because most times when we introduce our group, they either view him as a player and us as losers, or him as an abuser and us as victims. How can we better deal with introducing ourselves to not have this happen?
How old are you?
>>16909929
You really should just try to stick to meeting only other poly couples, in that case. You're too old for people just to pass it off as phase, and you're not going to have much in common with standard couples, anyway.
Are you involved romantically with the other women, or are you just in it for the guy?
I'm just curious, I used to be in a 2f, 1m relationship myself.
my 2 friends (they're a couple) and i went to have dinner together, and split 2 dishes on top of our own order. (so in total, we had 5 dishes)
when getting ready to pay, i asked the cashier if there's a way she could split the cost of the 2 shared dishes between 3 people (with our own dishes attached to our own bill) or otherwise, let me pay for 1 of the shared dishes and my own dish. (assuming the other dish would be paid for by the boyfriend for his girlfriend)
her english wasn't very good, so she seemed a little confused (and "scared"...
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>>16909908
Nope that was totaly ok
Unless you were staring at the cashiers boobies like a madman.
>>16909917
i'm female, with a boyfriend of my own so that wouldn't be a problem...
plus she was asian, so it's not like there was anything to look at in the first place (and before you guys rip on me, i'm asian too)
>>16909908
Server here. Your request wasn't especially odd or unreasonable, but if I had a customer that made it and I didn't know how to meet that request with the particular register system I was dealing with at the time (and I almost certainly wouldn't, because this sort of thing doesn't come up often), I would panic and immediately look scared. It wouldn't be because the customer did anything wrong, but I'd instantly be worried about having to inconvenience them or my other customers at the...
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So my husband cheated on me. We've been married for like 11 years now and our marriage doesn't really have many problems, we never argue or anything but our sex life has been lacking. He confessed recently, I didn't suspect anything. My husband works very late, he always has but some days he had been coming later than normal but considering his job I didn't even consider it. He told me he's been going to prostitutes in his spare time.
I'm not even upset, I'm just like oh, so you do want to divorce? He says if I want to he won't...
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>>16909827
Seems alright. The only issue is it might happen again.
I... wow, damn. I'm impressed. You're taking this in the most mature possible way ever. You love him and trust him so much you took this as a warning rather than "OMG YOU CHEATED!!!1". Yes, cheating is awful and I won't advocate for it, but the way you're taking this will be for the better.
Congratulations.
>>16909827
OP if you were a man everyone would be calling you a cuck. Divorce him unless you dont mind sharing him I guess men really are the important ones in the relationship
Brehs...
I've been with this girl for a year and a half. She's religious and so far has made me wait to have sex with her. She now wants to wait until marriage.
Part of me loves her a lot but part of me kind of really wants sex and I'm pulling my hair out here. I feel like she wants to make sure i can't leave her once we're married and she has sex with me but divorce rate is 50%. i tell her this and she just says "divorce is not an option for me".
I'm not religious but fuck what am i supposed to do here guys. does...
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Dated a "perfect" girl for 2 years in college. Very catholic, no sexy time. Biggest waste of time in my college career. Dump her, you won't be marrying her either way. Finding out if you're sexually compatible with a woman only after you've already married is also dumb and dangerous.
>>16909535
Get rid of her. Why would you even waste your time with this hole?
>>16909535
Its also proven that the less amount of partners she has the more likely she is to stay faithful.
If you are the type of person to divorce someone over sex than leave her because its a huge deal to you.
Its no so with me.
im not that ugly, im not that loser, but I feel I can't make a connection with people of the opposite sex and I think this shit isn't worth it all
I want to end it all the easiest and painless way possible.
Advice, please
End it all as in killing yourself or ending it all as in solving a common problem faced by billions of people around the world?
>>16909478
Wait so lets analyse your post.
>I feel I can't make a connection with people of the opposite sex
Which you identify as a problem but then...
>I think this shit isn't worth it all
Implying that literally think its not worth it (for what reason?) or dont care at all.
Then if you have identified it like that or, in the other case, dont really care about the opposite sex then why
>I...
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>>16909478
Quit being a sad piece of shit, take a couple of shots of the cheapest liquor you got, walk up to some lonely looking hot POA at a bar or party and be a douche.
Fuck that ho, leave her and bang a rail of white lightning off the toilet seat of the nearest buffalo wild wings bathroom stall.
Tear off your shirt and affirm to the stars that you are ALIVE
FUCK anyone who tells you that you can't be happy, including yourself
Also, props for posting best girl
I need a weekend gig or hobby that could help pay the bills or at the very least costs next to nothing.
Something to keep me busy I'm not used to 40 hour work weeks. I keep drinking myself stupid and then doing nothing on the computer.
Any ideas? Outside or inside just not related to a computer.
If you want to make money, become a dishwasher at restaurant.
They almost entirely hire drug addicts and felons.
A normal person would get fired in no seconds at all.
But it's a shit job.
I guess read more books? They're cheap if you join a library.
Maybe woodworking or something?
Honestly, I'm in the same boat.
I'm drunk now. Already drank like 1/3 of vodka.
Wish I had something else to fill my time
>>16909272
Well the thing is I used to work 15 hours a day counting driving around with 2 jobs making minimum wage.
Suddenly I work 40 hours nearing 60k and I don't know what to do with myself.
My mother always told me the good part about working all the time is you don't have any time to spend the money and now I know the feeling. All my ideas involve spending money.
>>16909290
I'm right with you buddy.
Got the same 9-5 shit.
I come home around 4, cook for a few hours, and then I have like 4 hours of nothing.
I watch an episode of something, play a video game for an hour, and that's still 2 hours left.
I just keep drinking to pass the time.
Maybe we need friends?
o i like to FAP from time to time but often i get górny before sleep when laying in bed.
The thing that prevents me from fapping in fact that i would get covered in cum and had to clean up afterwrds.
Are there ang methods to alleviate this problem?
I usually have a towel near my bed and jizz onto that.
I just get up, cum in the shower, and then get back to bed.
>>16909246
The whole point is to avoid leaving bed, jest cum and go to sleep.
>Don't want to do (feminine thing)?
>Wow you must not be confident in your masculinity :^)
How can I refute this? It seems like a fallacy to me.
>>16909086
Any specific example of a feminine thing that you don't want to do?
>>16909086
It is. Its just a logical leap to a possible explanation. Its harder to refute because its possible so you have to attack the logic used to come to that conclusion.
>>16909086
Ask them to explain themselves. Once they start talking, and seeing the baseless assertions the argument is founded on, they'll realize how retarded they are
I have a sibling that is really weird and starting to do strange shit around me with recording devices. Recently they leave a lot of pens and other devices around that I recently found out was actually spy devices that records video and audio.
He started to show us recordings he did of other people without their knowledge of being recorded( arguing, shit talking, ect) So now things are turning for the worse.
He started to ask questions that are more personal than usual. Times I bathe, times I use the toilet, be in the house, shit like that. Even started talking...
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>>16909048
Tell you parents to get the faggots to stop.
Take a pen you are suspicious of a see if its a spy pen and show police if need be.
Start breaking them. When he complains, invite him to call the police, and then you will tell them exactly why.
>>16909599
Makes sense. But most of them are hidden. I feel fucking paranoid in the bathroom to the point I bathe/shower in the dark.
He loves showing off the content he records of other people so no doubt he's doing the same to us. I fear that he rigged the whole house.
I recently hit it off with a guy who, unfortunately has a girlfriend. It seems like I can do one of two things, either wait for them to break up, or just move on completely. Apparently they've broken up 4 times in the past year, so that's probably a red flag.
Any thoughts/advice? Thanks
Wait.
>>16908893
Move on but keep him as a friend. If he's single, go for it. Never put your life on hold for someone.
Gotta be honest with you, people in those sort of on/off relationships usually have a lot of baggage. That's why they can't maintain a healthy relationship. I've seen it happen a lot where they will end up cheating on someone else they date with the on/off person or break up suddenly to get back with them. Obviously I don't know this person that you are interested in but I think you should use your best judgement if you ever want to pursue him right after a breakup.
In general I would say move on and maybe keep yourself open to the possibility if you...
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I really like a girl who happens to have a boyfriend. Is it possible to somehow make her have feelings for me while she's dating someone else? She's the exact type of person I'm into and I don't want to look for someone else, I'd rather stay single otherwise for now.
Bump because I'm in the same situation
>>16908899
Good luck!
"If she can be taken away by you, she can be taken away from you by somebody else."
Back off OP and move on.
Ladies, how do you keep your orbiters in check?
I'm having a hard time remaining their friend while avoiding their romantic advances and it makes things incredibly awkward.
I assume it's similar to how men keep the women they're juggling in check, which is basically being nice and friendly while at the same time making clear that the relationship isn't exclusive through their actions.
So, I think the "orbiter" solution is genuine friendship + fucking someone else in an obvious way and being clear about what you want.
If they want to walk away (side piece or orbiter) then you gotta let them
>>16908721
>i don't know how to be honest
>i don't have the lady parts to just tell the orbiters it ain't gonna happen
>but i still want their attention
>wat do
>>16908754
That's the problem, faggot. I am honest and they still cling to me. They know from the start that they're going to be friendzoned but the infatuation blooms anyways.
