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Ill keep this short
>militaryfag
>girl I've known for 4 years wants to get married for all them military benefits
>was pretty honest about it, said that she believes it's about opportunity for the both of us
>my salary will nearly double, she'll get a place to live (getting thrown out in 3 months)
>we've never dated before, just friends
>I'm 23, she's 22
>we'd probably just live like roommates
What do you all think?
>>16914065
its an iffy situation just cuz, while you do gain from the marriage part itself, you do lose if she ever decides to just be a fucking cunt and divorce you. even if you are just friends she can divorce and take half your salary later.
on the toher hand, being married means (as you said) doubling your salary. married men tend to get better consideration for everything, you get an actual house (or housing allowance) isntead of being forced to live in barracks, etc. id do it for the double pay alone, but idk. if shes in a situation where she is able to be 'thrown out' and need sthis to happen, then what happens when you decide to 'throw her out' for whatever reason and she needs to grab on to something to float? will she grab on to a divorce settlement with alimony?
ahah... oh man. that's an awful idea. all of that is a shit deal and you evidently have no idea. nope. fuck nope.
>>16914065
You realize she just has to stick around for a little bit then she gets to take all your shit and possibly you pay her for absolutely nothing for years and years right?
What do you get? Double salary? It's gone when she's gone, fool.
I'll greentext because I feel it'll be read quicker
>19 male me
>At Wolfmother concert
>Going alone because I've never gone to a concert alone before, figured it'd be interesting
>Go to merch stand, pick up shirt before they sell out. Got there late anyways, halfway through opening act
>Girl comes up and stands next to me. I don't say anything.
>She starts chatting me up about the shirts. Opens with "What kind of shirt would you get if you were a girl?"
>Awkward conversation starter, but she's really cute
>Introducing ourselves
>Find out she's 25. She finds out I'm 19
>"Hey, I know you're 19, but can I buy you a beer?"
>Decline for bullshit reason to cover the fact I don't wanna get kicked out because I have X's on my hands and venue staff walking around
>Still chatting. I'm asking about her, she's talking a lot. We're having an interesting conversation
>She's brushing up against me casually
>She says "Hey so I guess a few of my friends showed up, so I'm gonna go say hi to them."
>No more than 15 minutes pass, concert going great, she comes back
>"Hey, I came here alone, so I figured I'd be here alone with you"
>Thinking that there's no way she's not flirting with me at this point. I'm skeptical as fuck, but she's lighting road flares and shaking them in my face
>Tell her that it's great. I'm interested but by my mannerisms it easily comes across that I'm not
>She drifts away without me noticing, and I see her a few times on the floor below me
>I figured I'd wait until the concert ends to ask for her number. But I don't see her
>Figured "fuck it", and looked her up on FB.
Plan is to message her something like
"Hey, was gonna ask for your number after the Wolfmother concert but you drifted off somewhere in the middle of the show. You were pretty interesting. Figured whenever I end up back in Lawrence for a show, it'd be good to have a concert buddy."
I'm gonna send it no matter what tomorrow. But I'm curious, what do you think the outcome will be?
>>16913928
Just do it. Worst case she says no and you move on.
So you're not interested, right? Sure why not, but be clear that you're just looking to be friends.
>>16914063
I'm pretty indifferent. I don't know enough about her yet to feel if I have feelings for her or not. If it develops into anything more, cool. If not, then I have a cool concert buddy. Nothing else.
I've gone out on a date with this guy twice now, he only messages me when he is asking to hang out otherwise i do not hear from him, after our last date which was almost a week ago he has not asked to see me again, yet he did kiss me bye.. I'm confused he acts so interested in person but i am not feeling this right now.. help from the perspective of a guy is he trying not to look desperate or is he just not into me.. I'm confused
I know for me personally i don't really like non-personal interaction. I don't really text anyone except for two friends that live really far away. If I do contact someone, it's to ask them to hangout. It took my girlfriend a while to get used to that and we kind of met in the middle. I now semi frequently text her but if we're together she gets all of my time but she knows that if I'm by myself it just mean I want to be by myself.
I dunno if that's what this guy is like but i hope that helps some.
You should've blown him
>>16913921
You do what most females do and read too much into the frequency of our texting patterns.
Just text him and say: "hey I don't mean to be weird, but I haven't heard from you in a while, are you doing okay?"
>EVERYONE IS YOUR ENEMY
>EVERYONE IS A TRAITOR
>BE CAREFUL
These are my 2 cents for you faggots, read this again and again. Memorize it. Live by it. Print it and paste it on your wall. I designed it by myself just to post it here.
Why? Because i want you all to learn from my experience. Dont trust anyone, dont say something bad, dont do something wrong, there will be always SOMEONE HEARING and they will tell your allies about it... and so they will destroy you and harm you again, and again.
What i want you to learn? Be careful.
Can you avoid this? No.
Can you trust people? No.
Forget about the goverment and the media. The ones that can damage you are the minions... like you! The normal people. Those are the ones to fear.
>>16913726
A few weeks ago I would've said you're crazy but my best friend started straight up saying he was talking shit about me and said "dude, really" when I simply asked "what'd you say" then he said it again a week later and now I find it really hard to muster the willpower to start a conversation with him.
>>16913830
this week i was the one talking shit about my workgroup and some IDIOTS told them about it and NOW I AM THE EVIL GUY... now i understand what this guy says... be careful
I've never talked bad about my friends and I've made it clear that I don't want them to talk about me or talk about the things that I say.
If you communicate well with your people and find people of quality, then they won't betray you
Well, my life has officially gone down shit creek.
>19
>Live in small town in the middle of nowhere
>Living at home with Christian Parents
>My father is a minister
>Dropped out of highschool, getting a GED, which I'm almost done with
>Can't drive yet
>No money, but about to get a job
This isn't the problem, but it's why I'm in this mess
I watch porn, I jack off like every other guy, however, my parents know (Don't ask why), and they've threatened to throw the baby out with the bath water and shut down the internet in our house if I don't stop watching porn, only because they practically think it's a heresy to even get an erection, they think that it's wrong to pay for internet if a small portion of it is spent on X-Videos, HentaiHaven, and Shadbase, and they're willing to make everyone suffer if I can't stop. They've decided to make me accountable every day, asking me if I've watched anything X rated, and I'm seriously at the end of my rope, and out of options as to how I should approach and handle this.
What should I do /adv/? Should I:
>Lie to my parents and continue to beat the monkey until I move out, at the expense of feeling bad for lying
>Try to stop watching porn, and let the sexual stress build up
>Or try something else completely different
Also there is literally nothing do in the hell that I live in, so finding a new outlet is damn near impossible until I leave.
Why dont you like, just cut down on the pron. How the fuck do they even know
>watch porn
>"anon have you watched porn today"
>"no"
>????
>profit
>>16913436
They don't even want me to watch it, ever again.
I struggle with severe depression, and my dad just kind of cornered me and kept insisting I confess.
>finally get a gf after a long
time
>she's my my type exactly and I'm really into the way she looks
>more attracted to her than I am any other gf
>get really close to her closer than anyone I think I have ever have
>we haven't seen each other much but still stalk 24/7 about everything
>starting to think about marriage and kids
>actually smile thinking about it and go to bed smiling for the first time in years
>she comes out and tells me she got raped by 2 guys
>it traumatized me and makes me sick and I cry non stop and can't eat
>think about it 24/7
>all of a sudden I have trouble seeing my future with her and thinking about getting married scares the fuck out of me
>it pretty much broke us up and we're still trying to work everything out because she knows how much it fucked with me
>feel like I lost the love of my life for no reason at all and that I have nothing
>I haven't felt the same since she told me and I still love her but taking anything serious scares the living fuck out of me
I actually felt love for once and now my life has been taken away along with hers
try not to let your insecurities ruin your relationship with someone you actually love. If you two got married and she got assaulted by two males would you divorce her just because something happened out of her control? You may need to go to therapy to get a better understanding of how someone else getting raped traumatizes you.
This is why girls should stfu about shit like that.
I made that mistake of telling my boyfriend about some shit that happened with my ex and he was never the same with me after.
Lesson learned.
>>16913419
You have to tell them but you also need to protect your self and stop shit from happening in the first place
ITT talk of your college experience and recommend tips for a senior like me (or others) on which one to attend. I am thinking a service academy but I am not sure. Give me /adv/.
>inb4 colleges are a sham
They kinda are, yet they are a necessity for someone wanting to get a good job nowadays, so no one wants to hear it.
I tried college after I got out of the military. It was miserable. So I dropped out and luckily got a job making $54,000/yr
>>16913338
Make your college experience worthwhile. Don't just go and get good grades. Actually try to get something meaningful out of your classes, even the mandatory ones. The quality of your education isn't up to your professors: it's up to you. The sooner you realize that, the sooner you'll be ahead of the game.
i'm going to have sex for the first time tomorrow. can you give me any advice? what condoms do i need to get? is it weird to buy them in store? how do we both finish at the same time?
My first time I wasn't confident at all in my cock prowess or cum control. So I studied cunnilingus and fingering technique in depth, I could have written a fucking thesis on it after all of my research. The reason for this is that I made sure that she was satisfied as fuck before even moving onto cock stuff which gave me a massive safety net if I fucked up.
Good thing I did because I came pretty quickly and way before she did during the penetration action, but I got back down there and made sure to finish the job with my face. It worked out, as a result she enjoyed herself despite my poor penis technique and control and with time I improved my cum control through practical experience and learned to sex right.
>>16913296
Try to keep calm, don't think about being bad at it.
Just take your time and talk with your partner to be sure you're doing it right.
Also keep it simple, if you don't know how to make a cunni for example , just don't for now(unless you really want to)
Also don't be ashamed and don't worry we all had a first time.
If your a girl whose dad left when she was very little, and who has been raped, is there even any point to your existence? Because you'll never be marriage material right?
What would you do if you were a girl in this position?
>>16913286
I'd marry someone with this going on as long as we dated long enough for me to know they were sane. If you have some crazy issues because of it, well, work on them.
>>16913286
Is your existence all about getting married?
I've always believed in love. Anyone else?
Yeah. I'm ashamed to admit a part of me still does , but i've mostly given it up in exchange for being able to believe in myself.
Love is an illusion, if that is what we are here for.
I did a long time ago but don't now, at least how most people think of love. Got hurt too many times by people close to me saying I don't care about you with their actions. I hope I'm wrong.
What are my chances of getting a gf?
Pic related, it's me.
You're chubby/fat. Expect to find a girl who is also chubby/fat. But you'll do fine.
>>16913233
Go to school.
Get a really good job making lots of money.
That's your only real option if you want one that isn't hideous.
>>16913233
Lose weight. Change your glasses. Learn to button up your polos
Can I go to the movies alone?
Is this weird?
Will people notice I am alone?
I recently got out of a relationship where everything I did was with him and now I don't know how to go out alone.
yes, its fine. go. dont worry about what other people think
Go in the morning.
>>16913028
I'm thinking about it. I think its empowering. I think ill feel good
Ask a Pick Up Advisor anything
Never been to a bar.
How do I have a one night stand.
>>16912965
How do I pick up girls if I go to the bar alone?
Seems like I'd need a wingman otherwise I'll come off as creepy.
>>16912975
>>16912971
All you need is confidence
I'm a girl. I like men and have a soft spot for them. It's hard to explain. I will always care about young boys compared to young girls. Men are way better than girls. All my friends are boys. I just have a fondness for masculinity
Can someone explain?
sounds like you love dick
Congratulations, you're a straight girl. Keep it up!
P.S. I'm a guy
,Narcissism
In the past few months I've started hanging out with these guys that I really don't like that much. But childish, boring, irritating friends are better than no friends at all which is what I had for literally years.
And I was thinking about the most common thing I see on here which is telling both sexes to just lower their expectations. And really they're right. If the girls on here just hit up short fat NEETs and the guys just hit up fat drug taking moms by tomorrow there would be no single people on /adv/.
So why don't people do this? What do you think, is it worth it? I live in a really trashy side of town and if I just kept aiming lower and lower I wouldn't be alone anymore.
I've never lowered my standards, not because I feel like I'm better than anyone else but because I'd rather have the right people in my life over just people so I'm not lonely.
Maybe that's just me, I'm not shitting over you lowering your standards are anything, just saying what I think
>>16912874
>So why don't people do this?
Because then instead of being full of "why am I single?" threads, /adv/ would be full of "why does my relationship suck and why am I miserable?" threads.
>>16912895
Would you be miserable though? You'd be with someone who loved you, even if they were ugly and had annoying habits. Kinda like family lol
