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I have the opportunity to re-film a web series i did a few years back that got deleted.
one thing i want to change is the main characters powers. In the original script he was an 'elemental' and could control fire, water, earth, and air.
i wish to change this because a second project im working on (starring the same actor) is about a guy who has fire powers. in this project, the fire powers are important and kind of the backbone of the entire story.
so in that first project, i would like to find a new super power for the main character to have. any ideas? im going through lists but none are coming out as particularly actiony. i do the whole thing with visual effects, so anything that can be achieved with glowy flash type things would be helpful. avoiding elements.
the other characters are telekinetic, and the others a shadow/ darkness type weilder.
>>16878044
Perhaps electricity, like in the video game InFamous?
Or maybe sound, it would be cool for someone to shoot a sound shockwave at someone and temporarily deafen them or cause brain damage or shake the ground or something.
>>16878072
im avoiding elemental stuff in general. in the second show the main characters control fire, ice, and electricity. but im starting to realize there arent as many super powers out there as i thought, especially for the kind of show im trying to make which is pretty reliant on flashy effects as opposed to creative ways to use the powers.
sound waves arent a bad idea. visually wouldnt be too interesting but i could add a little make believe and glow to it. going through lists of like '100 powers' and realizing most supwer powers are REALLY oddly specific.
>>16878078
Hmm, I think you could create some really great visual mindfucks with a glass superpower, if that sounds good.
I dropped out of high school last April. I've been a NEET ever since then and I don't know what to do besides kill myself. I'm afraid of going outside and being around people in general so I can't go outside. I'm over 350 pounds now so even if I could go outside I wouldn't be able to work anywhere. I don't want to be a burden to my parents anymore so can someone please help me end my useless life?
Do it yourself fatass
Hey. I've been depressed for about 7 years now. I'm 18 too, finishing high school. I've been hospitalized for trying to kill myself. I know you're probably tired of hearing that it's a temporary solution, blah blah blah. I know there are probably all kinds of things that led up to you feeling this way. But I really, really hope you don't kill yourself. Just take it day by day. If you want to lose weight, it really does make you feel better. I've been losing weight and it's helped with my self esteem, to an extent. I started at about 300, now I'm down to 200. I didn't even exercise, I just found other shit to do like play vidya and guitar. Find something you enjoy doing and maybe you'll feel like staying a little longer. Jobs aren't hard to come by, you're only 18 and as much as it sucks now, you'll get better if you try a little everyday. Find a hobby, it helps.
Start a journal. Write down the things that make you feel angry or worthless. It helps to vent, I think. I mean, yeah, death is great and all but it's probably not as fun when you aren't content with what you've accomplished. I think we're probably alike in more ways than just wanting to kill ourselves. Let's fucking get our shit together and find what makes us want to live, because it's out there. I'm goddamn sure of it. Then when we die we'll look back at life like, "damn, look at all of what I did," instead of, "This is terrible, I can't do it anymore."
Although I never cheated, my gf has trust issues because I slept with a girl I met on a dating app. For instance I can't even play in a ps4 party online without her getting mad.
Despite living 2 cities away I visit my girlfriend's house every Friday. Today my mom wanted me to clean our cabinets and so I did, I even let my gf know I was doing it with pictures. Afterward I go to her house and she is at the door I ask if I can come in and she says "Why don't you go clean cabinets" I say no because I want to see her then she keeps asking me questions like why was I cleaning cabinets which was making me annoyed. Eventually she shuts the door on me. I am so mad I run to my car and drive off.
We have been dating over a year and I don't believe this is how a relationship should be. But what do you think? Did I make the right decision or should I try to reconcile?
>>16876683
I actually visit my girlfriend everyday but Friday is the only day I visit in the morning because neither of us have school.
>>16876683
She sounds fucking insane. You're better without her.
Do not tell your next girlfriend who you slept with.
Op she sounds sick, mentally sick.
Break up as soon as you can.
My ex keeps telling people I have a shrimp dick and is posting about me on social media
what can I do?
>>16876541
Let her, it looks pathetic and immature. Don't even block her or unfriend her. Just ignore it.
>>16876541
someone on a forum once claimed i had a tiny penis because i used a proxy.
so i posted a picture of my penis.
>>16876541
Obviously under-age.
But if you must fight fire with fire...
Explain she is only saying these in fear you were telling people about how raunchy her vagina smelled ;).
I'm scared my mom is pressing charges on me for criminal damage and disorderly conduct. I got arrested, but let go until my court date. The total damage done is around $250 which I can pay easily, but reading into it this is being considered domestic violence and I might be facing jail time.
I wouls honestly rather suicide before jail. Old people are biased against young people so i'll probably have my life destroyed, at that point what is the point living?
She called my brother to tell him not to worry, and idk what that means.
First you gotta tell us what you did in the first place
And the only scary jail is maximum security. The others are either school-like or vacation homes.
>>16876417
It's just some scratches on some floors I did when I was thinking about everything my parents did to me growing up and to that day.
>>16876417
Also, im concerned what will happen financially. I'll prolly lose my job and fail my college classes for not being able to attend.
What now /adv/?
I took /b/'s advice and just separated from my long time girlfriend (10+ years) because we grew apart (she put on a lot of weight, became a tumblerina, etc.). She's the only girlfriend I've ever had, and I honestly have no idea how to recover and meet someone new.
I'm white/male 30 years old, have a full time career (law enforcement), live in the SoCal area, rent a house (with roommate), own my car, workout.
I don't have a social circle outside of work and all those people are married anyway so they don't really do the party thing. I'm not from SoCal so I don't have any longtime friends or anything out here, the only person I knew was my girlfriend and all of our mutual friends were really more her friends. I'm not anti-social, I've just never really needed more than her and work to be happy (I mostly play vidya outside of work, take care of the house or workout.)
I'm trying to move forward with my life and maybe meet somebody new, but I don't use Facebook, which apparently means I can't make a Tinder account or anything and I'm not sure how sketchy those apps are anyway. It just seems like none of my regular activities involved me meeting people in a setting that would be appropriate to cultivate a relationship.
So basically how can I go about meeting someone new?
Have you tried meetup?
It works for people in areas without as much to do like mine when you want to meet new people.
Also less sketchy and time-wastey than stuff like tinder.
>>16875977
hi OP, fellow socal anon here as well. have you considered just playing it single? you just got out of your first and only relationship that lasted an entire 1/3 of your life. maybe you should see what your life is like when you aren't building it around a woman?
especially in los angeles being single has a LOT of benefits. there is so much to do in life and explore on your own that you dont really NEED someone with you 24/7
chill. take a year off. maybe two. just focus on things that are enjoyable that dont involve arguing with a woman. if you meet nice women in the process thats great. but focus on you for a bit.
>>16875987
by meet up i think he means meetup.com which i also recommend just for more fun things to do. theres a wide amount of interests you can meet people and just chill and enjoy. great way to make casual friends, sometimes they develop bigger bonds.
>>16875987
No I haven't taken a look at that one, do it require a social media account (or cost money) or anything to make? I'm not really interested in paying to meet people... but I will definitely check it out. I know that there is a lot to do in SoCal, I just cant think of anywhere that I appropriate as a place to meet a girl (outside of just going to bars every weekend).
>>16875993
Yea, I'm taking one year of being 'single' before I try to jump into another relationship. However, I sort of get this creeping feeling that if I don't make efforts to start my life (getting married/having kids) its going to pass me by and I'll be 40 before I know it (that's how my 20's felt anyway).
So I guess in this year I'm just looking to start doing activities that enable me to meet people I would be interested in dating. Right now my interests are primarily homebody stuff that really limits my ability to meet others. Also, its hard to strike up a conversation with someone at the gym or while hiking without looking like a creeper.
>focus on things that are enjoyable that dont involve arguing with a woman.
That's been the best part about this separation. Daily arguments were killing me (sometimes multiple daily arguments that lasted several hours). I feel refreshed already and I feel like my home is once again a place I can go to recover, not get additional stress.
When you're in a group, what's the best way to get someone alone so you can talk privately?
Chloroform
>>16875913
depends entirely on the context.
>>16875913
if there was a easy way of doing this I wouldnt be alone in my room again tonight
How do I move out? I live in a rural area where the cost of living is literally higher than major cities like la. There's no jobs here and the pay is low as FUCK.. Rent here is insanely fucking high it's like 700 dollars just to get a room in a 3br apartment and full time work is literally non existent. You literally need a car here just to leave your house and the winters are like -20 every day for 6 months.
I need to get the fuck away from my parents. The depression of my house is killing me and my family has abused me my whole life. The entire house is full of toxic mold and asbestos and shit and I literally can't even get out of bed and I feel sick to my stomach 24/7 and I have literally 0 energy. All I want is to go to a major city but that's obviously impossible. What the fuck do I do?
>it's like 700 dollars just to get a room in a 3br apartment
I'm sorry but I think you're actually too retarded to be an independent adult.
>>16875883
>Rent here is insanely fucking high it's like 700 dollars just to get a room in a 3br apartment
Implying that is a lot. My studio apartment costs $2500 a month, and it has 3 rooms. I have a pretty average paying job as well, before you call me a millionaire.
700 is not insanely high for a room. The only reason I pay 800 a month for my room is because I make 60k a year and could walk to work if I wanted. If you make shit then yeah it can be a lot.
Look for jobs in other cities first. Apartment shopping comes second. If you can't find a job do a 2-year specialized certificate program at a jc or join the military.
Alright so I think I have autism, could /adv/ please help me by asking questions to ascertain if I may be on the spectrum?
Thanks
Would it really make your life better if a doctor told you "you have a mild form of autism?" Would that comfort you?
It really is a wide spectrum, and when it truly needs a diagnosis, there's no question about it. "Autism" can range from someone who CANNOT communicate with words and flies into a violent fit if he's touched, to someone who is basically 100% functional but somewhat socially awkward.
If you're more in the latter category, if you've been alive for years and you still have to question whether or not you even have it, you're probably better off going undiagnosed. They can't really treat your or help you. All they can do is give you an excuse. And I've seen people use this excuse to AVOID improving their lives and going out of their comfort zone. They actually just settle into their bad habits and get worse, because they suddenly feel validated in doing so.
>>16875703
I do want to improve, but mainly because I am studying at the moment also interested in it because my parents mistreated me and I could possibly have something else.
Examples
>Girlfriend is mad at me and I can't tell so she flies off the handle and yells at me alot
>I like sitting in my room alone not talking to others for months and people keep telling me off for doing it
Other day on the train it was crowded and I couldn't tell if this guy was getting off so I tapped him a bunch of times to make him turn around but he didn't. So on the way home I couldn't help but hit myself, I get weird looks and people ask if I am OK I would like to tell them I have autism so I don't feel as outcasted.
Also I posted on 4chan years ago because I had trouble communicating and they were very worried I had autism, I have the thread on 4plebs if you want to see?
It stresses me out
Stuff like that
>>16875667
What are your opinions on:
> trains
> baseball
> jujitsu
> sonic the hedgehog (or Naruto)
> magic: the gathering
> deviating from routine
How shameful would it be to lose ones virginity to an escort? Im 30 and have only had one 2 month relationship that involved everything but sex in my 20s.
Pretty average looking and most people think I am normal and not a virgin which is why I shy away or act uninterested around women (they are expecting more from a guy my age).
I think I have angered some women in the past because I would rather just act aloof and ignore their signals than admit my situation to them if we started dating.
Escorts are quasi legal here and there are lots of review sites that cater exclusively to my city.
>>16875565
Fucking an escort will not make you feel an better about yourself. It will not magically change your personality.
Buckle down and change yourself. Stop pushing women away, treat them like people or friends and shit gets a lot easier.
>>16875565
Sex is overated, and you don't need it to become a better person. If you have self esteem issues it is rooted in some other personal problem
>>16875565
It's not shameful, OP.
How do you manage to do anything other than sleep when you're depressed?
I'm on my period and lying in my own blood and a cut on my thigh is infected. I haven't brushed my teeth or gone outside in weeks.
The NHS has put me on a waiting list, the local mind charity don't offer therapy, I'm on my own here.
>>16875361
fuck I wish I lived near you, I'd come over and make you take basic care of yourself until I wasn't feeling pissed anymore
>>16875361
You need to get up before you get sick.
The short walk to the offie for a few cans of Mocne 14% becomes much shorter when you're depressed.
Could you date/marry a girl with the same name as your mom?
I'm interested in a girl who has the same name as my mom and I'm trying to figure out how big of a deal it could end up being.
I usually call my mom mom or a shortened version of her name, but I still think I associate the long version with my mom.
I don't know... It seems like such a silly reason to not date someone or give someone a chance. If anything develops between us I'll probably need to start calling her by her middle name or a nickname.
It would definitely be weird. I remember pursuing some chick when I had the same first name as her shitty ex. I could tell it made her uncomfortable.
I'm not sure why that would be weird. Are names the only thing you define people by?
You're weird OP.
Okay so I'm 19, and in community college. I've only had one girlfriend ever, we did sexual stuff (oral and stuff like that) but never sex, so I'm still a virgin. Anyways I really need to learn how to talk to girls better. I'm not a fuckboy, and I hate hitting on girls, it just comes across so desperate, but at the same time I'm literally the worst at approaching girls. I usually stay away because I'm afraid that they'll think I'm a creep (I'm pretty overweight, around 230lb) and its pretty hard for me to be social. I've honestly gotten better at talking to people since High School, and can carry on normal conversation, but I honestly have no idea how the hell I should talk to girl to get her interested. Right now I have a few situations that might give me a chance to talk to some girls. I'm meeting up with a group of people from my Comm class for my group project and there's a girl I find pretty attractive (I think at the very least she's pretty comfortable around me), I'm joining a music club and there's really cute girl that kept smiling at me and I think she might find me attractive (I'm likely wrong though), and I might tag along with a buddy of mine (as the dedicated driver) to a party (he's pretty good with talking to girls and I could probably wing man). Anyways I want to know what's the best way to approach starting a conversation with a girl, I'm honestly not looking to hook up or anything, but it would be nice to have more female friends, or maybe a good relationship in the future (that being said if a girl wanted to hook up I wouldn't object). Idk any advice?
>>16874402
Don't feel the need to impress, just be relaxed and talk to a girl how you would with a guy. Sure initially you find these girls attractive, but you should just start off getting to know them as you would with guys.
But yeah, as a girl I find that when I talk to guys, we tend to have a broader range of conversation topics and it's really cool. With girls it usually circulates around social things and what they got up to with friends etc etc. Just be chill and talk to them like you would a friend. Some girls can be intimidating though if they just seem a bit pretentious or conceited, so just use your smarts and avoid those who give off those vibes haha. I avoid those girls desu just because I'd probably get bored of talking about social lives all the time hahaha
Good luck though!
>>16874402
Work out and lose weight. Do an hour of cardio a day and stop eating processed food.
Thanks! I really agree on the broader conversation thing, that's one of the big reason I'd really like to be better at talking to girls. I mean it sucks being single and all at times, but I really would just enjoy having a girl to talk to as friend. I've found in the past that it's a lot easier to talk about more personal stuff with a girl more so than a guy.
what are some ways to appear legitimately retarded online?
>>16871345
>inb4 jokes
>>16871345
Making this post for one
b urself
I literally don't understand marriage like how do you look at someone and think "hey yeah you irritate me so little that I'm willing to spend money on a ring, pretend our relationship probably won't dissolve in the next ten years, and maybe entertain the thought of seeing you every day until one of us drops dead" like what the fuck I've never dated a girl I could stand spending three days in a row with let alone this bullshit.
>>16902683
Kek, then don't get married. It's as simple as that.
if you don't want to get married, don't. No one's making you. There is no point to this thread.
Then you aren't ready for marriage. The point is that you need to have a relazionship where you can't think of anything more beautiful than growing old with them and sharing most of your days with them. Having the desire to create a mini version of you and the person you love might also play into it. Many people get married because of the wrong reasons. Status, just because, security, to have a wedding, to piss off parents, to have kids, because of social stigma, and so on. Thisnis bullshit and will end badly, making everybody miserable. Getting married solely because you WANT. to promise your partner in every possible way that he/she is so important that you are willing to work things outninsteadnof splitting up when you hit a rough patch. Basically, it's just saying this: i love you. I might not always love all the things you do or say but i will never stop loving you. If we argue i won't forget that and we will find a solution together. Marriage is by no means necessary, but at some point you want to shout that message out to the whole world. A wedding, a ring and having a family are WAYS to show how much you love each other.
