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Has anyone here gone to a prostitute/escort to get the virginity thing over with ?
Was it fun ?
I want to know too
Bump
>>16864670
Lost virginity about a month ago, 19.
Nothing special actually. It's cool, but less enjoyable than a pizza imo.
Still having sex now, you'll become better and better, but at the end it is absolutely different from what people portrait
So find someone expert and find out. No shame.
>>16864850
Ah, it becomes addictive (just like pizza. i want pizza now).
Nothing that you can't solve with a bit of masturbation btw.
After the first time, do it if you want to do it, not if you have to.
I downloaded a video of pic related. It came in two locked RAR files. The download site included a password, but when I typed it in, it did not work.
Please advise me on what I might do to watch these movies. I just really really want a fap to this.
RAR password cracker program?.. I dunno.
If it helps, here is the link to the download site: http://javpop.com/2013/05/20/jmrd-0016_michika.html
Have you tried using the single file link to the mp4?
>>16864682
yes, but unfortunately, the download site will not permit access to file sizes that big without a payed account.
>>16864688
Did you copy the password or type it by hand? That makes a difference sometimes.
You can also re-download the file and try it again.
/adv/ i think i have a severe issue with sex. to lose virginity i paid a prostitute, and even after that i never had sex again
five minutes ago i was stroking my dick, then as soon i thought to the real possibility of getting laid paying for some reason i cooled off
as soon the realistic perspective of having sex presents to me, i actively avoid it
why
how do i resolve this
Just pretend girls don't exist, can't be missing out on something that's not real.
How do you know if you are a bad person?
>>16864653
Intent. It's your intentions that count. Everyone can fuck up and that includes hurting people (emotionally). Just ask yourself if your intentions are good.
>>16864680
How do I know?
What intentions are good and which ones are bad?
>>16864686
Well, do you try to hurt people or would you like to have positive interactions with people? Are you bitter or jealous towards people, do you want them to suffer?
Very few people are 'bad' people. Most people who question it are just a bit confused.
>16 family deaths over 4 years
>everyone I was truly close to is gone
>mom, brother, gram, gramps, cousins
>every 2.5 month's there's another fucking funeral
>ex is a psycho abusive manipulator with reckless disregard for the truth
>tells disgusting lies about me and deceased family members who can't refute anything
>can't hack it anymore, even strangers know me through this guy's lies
>he's a big deal in the community and a bartender
>I planned on moving to state with remaining family who I'm still good with
>he starts contacting everyone I know using just enough bits of truth to make his lies about me believable so I won't have incentive to move
>some of my family turned to his side
>they're giving him information to use against me in custody out of spite from me cutting contact
>they were people I let go years ago because I already had to stay guarded around them and knew they we desperate sells outs who feed on relevance and negativity but it still sucks
>now he can say whatever he wants, they lap it up and it's gospel to them
>too fucking dumb or blinded by validation to see that he's playing them like a fiddle
>have two amazing friends but they're busy students and I work over 60 hours a week so we never get together
>have two legal battles going on, custody and restraining order
>just got out of debt and a medical bill I wasn't aware of went into collections
>can no longer function normally in public or social situations
>an invention I was perfecting has just been patented
>met the man of my dreams
>he's married
>too poor to travel
>too afraid to kill myself
>can't even cry
I'm so damn tired of it all. The selling out was the tipping point. Not exactly sure what I'm looking for, just need some /adv/, guys. I used to push myself and was able to remain optimistic in spite of everything but now can barely leave the house except to work. I even ordered my fucking groceries online.
You a f? Accuse him of rape.
>>16864631
Thanks anon, but that would unravel quickly, I'm a terrible liar
>>16864629
Go to the authorities and get a restraining order, seek legal help and ask about perjury and what can you do about it.
If you want to, talk to the members of your family that you care about and explain the situation. If they don't believe you, move on.
Try to make more/new friends, remember to include the psycho ex in your life story so they can't be manipulated by him.
About the invention, though luck sister. Just keep working on things.
>Graduated from high school recently
>Added a teacher I had a crush on on Facebook
>Talked to him every now and then and he always replies, although he is now doing this less frequently than he did at the start
>He changed his profile pic to a pic of him and his wife
Is he hinting at me to fuck off?
Yeah, that would be my guess. Let him go.
He probably didn't change his picture as a hint for you specifically but if he's not initiating conversation with you ever he probably doesn't want to talk with you.
I doubt he wants to be your friend, and if you think you have a chance of getting with him I think you should probably give up and use that love on someone you have a better chance with. (Because he's married and everything)
Why the fuck you still msg him if he's married and obviously doesn't want you?
Just let him live his good life..
How do I deal with the fact that at the age of 19 my acne has faded away, have become much more attractive but missed out on far better experiences I could have made in my teen years if it had gone earlier? Or never existed in the first place.
I'm dwelling on that high school could have been much better..
Don't worry anon, the point of non return is 35. Also PASS DA FUKKN SOURCE
>>16864622
19 is nothing, live faster and better mack up for the time you feel you have lost, also if that's your photo tell me wear you are and I will help you with this.
>>16864622
dude, don't be delusional; I'm 23 and 18-19 y old grills want the dick, my life is just starting and so is yours :- )
I'm assuming there are some people here who work in Technical Helpdesk/1st Line Support/Helpdesk Advisor roles... I've got an interview coming up for a position like that tomorrow but my degree (ICT) was about 5 years ago and I really can't remember anything.
Could anyone offer advice as to the best questions/responses/things you would recommend memorising in preparation? I've literally been a NEET this entire time and I'm hoping this could turn things around... :(
>>16864617
They'll train you. The interview is just to check you're not a moron. These jobs have high labour turnover so they take what they can get.
>>16864617
Helpdesk is pretty much entry level and I think you're over qualified in terms of technical skills. They just wanted to see if you're not an insane person.
* quick tip since you're a NEET : make sure you're holding something in your hands during the interview (e.g. roll of paper, pencil case etc), studies shows that it'll make a candidate less nervous.
Was going to jump of bridge cos life is chit.
Got persuaded by the police to com back over the barrier.
Get arrested for wanting to jump of bridg ( britches of the peace ) they say.
Go to prison for 2weeks cos no bailout addresses.
Guilty cos so deprest just a sept circumstances.
10 days in prisons is in solitary confinement cos suicidal tendency, no tv no heating no human contact nothing but a blanket and pillow.
Get realist on Bail.
First yo live with mother and grandmother,( I am 27).
First to see a social worker for a year every week if I mis appointment I get sanctioned.
He tells me I can face up to 1 year in prison if I do not comply wit the judge terms.
Judge terms are seeing the counsellor for 3years or doing free labour from 100 to 300 hours and having to parse a alcohol and drug assessments witch is ridiculous since I have never had want problems with them.
All from trying to commit sucide WTF is wrong with the UK!
That's the world you chose to stay in when you passed over that barrier instead of jumping. This world violently lashes out at suicide because it scares the fuck out of them that maybe there's some logic in it. It's quite pathetic honestly.
Also are you mentally challenged? You type like a retard.
>>16864625
Autocorect its nightmare.
People are scared of suicidal's you think ?
>>16864628
I'm not the other anon but I agree that people are secretly afraid of suicidal people too because deep down they think "well at least s/he had the guts to do it and I don't". And because people don't want others to get the "easy" way out, they want others to stay and suffer like them. That's why people hurry up to say suicide is selfish and cowardly.
After 5 years in university I realized I hate what I'm studying. I'm studying I.T. I entered this career because I used to make crappy indie games when I was younger so I thought computer related stuff was alright, and because a lot of adults kept saying how it's the most requested job area and it's the thing of the future etc.
I wasn't really convinced when I started, my other personal choices were graphic design or maybe psychology but my parents talked me out of them because apparently you have to be really lucky to get a job in that stuff in my country.
I haven't had a job in anything I.T. related yet and I'm kind of afraid to get one and confirm that indeed I hate this. I feel extremely unconfortable attending my classes, there's not one subject that I enjoy and the people I met aren't really great either, but maybe a job would feel different since I'd get paid for it and stuff.
Is this something normal that happens to anyone about 5 years through their studies? Should I still continue and try to get a degree? (I would get a minor degree thing in about 2 years if I go on and the Engineer one many years later). Considering everyone says I.T. is a good career and all.
Or is it really important to actually study what you like no matter what?
>Is this feeling normal.
Yes. For a couple of reasons. A) You've been doing it for 5 years now, you're feeling burnt out. B) At 5 years, I imagine you're almost done with school, so it's quite possible you're just feeling anxiety because you're about to commit to your career and enter the real world.
Both are completely normal feelings. The best you can do is just take a step back to put things into perspective. Is this something you enjoy? I know you mentioned having a passion for graphic design and psychology, but honestly, those are just one step above art degrees. There really isn't any stability/money in those fields unless you're REALLY lucky. That's something to consider. When you're having moments like thiis you need to look forward 5-10 years and envision where you will be.
>>16864613
Thanks
I think you should finish and try working in IT. There is a big difference between learning the skill and doing the job.
Ok, I know it sounds weird but I'm serious about this.
When I sleep, and I have an exotic dream, I always get a tingling, pleasurable sensation in my groin, specifically around the scrotum and the perineum. It feels like someone is caressing and stroking the area, and it tickles, and it's a strong enough feeling to make me wake up, which sucks when I'm having a really nice dream.
All I want to know is if this is a normal thing, and why it even happens. Anyone have any clue?
>>16864599
>exotic dream
Erotic*. You know, a fuck dream..
You have schizophrenia.
>>16864604
This. See a doctor right away
I've been playing my own psychiatrist/therapist (with the exception of maybe 7 months seeing good ones) for about 6 years. I'm 21 now. Safe to say I was not a very good one at first. I used all the negative coping skills like OCD, drinking, and being exploitative of people. The problem is likely the lack of a consistent home (moved 21 times), and these shrug-it-off Medicaid professionals with 100 patients.
I think I have depression or borderline or some such bullshit. I think I'm becoming a better therapist to myself, and that I might be coming back to some ethical and moral code like I had before the whole mental health disaster started. That makes me feel a little better, and like I could make a friend if I stopped isolating.
The problem I want advice with is that I'm still sitting here ten years later doing an enhanced version of the same shit. I'm supposed to start working and finding my own place soon, which is progress, but I feel like I'll fail. Everything feels like a dream all of the time. Gross sex would probably make me sick, and drinking makes me feel disoriented. I feel too fucked up.
So, the diagnosis to work with is
>depression or borderline or some such bullshit
Go a little deeper, that's not much really. Or more like, that's very wide spectrum that could be anything and present itself in many ways.
And you problem was that you'd been doing the same shit as ever, as in playing a therapist. And that you feel like you'll fail in working and finding your place.
But, there really isn't enough info to go on, and not clear enough questions. How isolated exactly have you been? Have you been studying? Everything feeling like a dream as in like watching a movie that isn't happening to you? Or just unreal? You're kind of all over the place there, we can't see inside your mind anon
>>16864684
>derealization/depersonalization
>emptiness
>very quickly shifting, normal spectrum moods
>moments of not being able to think well
>moments of not being able to balance
>panic attacks
>ocd behaviors and lists of terrible fears
>self harm suicide urges, never act on
>social withdrawal, dementophobia, agoraphobia
>Your problem is the same, because you're doing the same thing.
Yeah. I'm supposed to be exercising and meditating, but it's like really damned hard to get myself. Maybe those are things that people in severe anxiety don't want to do? I know it would help me if I did.
>You feel like you'll fail at working and finding your place.
Yes. I think I can get some help with that, and that work might actually feel good. My state and county has a good vocational program. They trained this one guy I met to drive rigs, for free.
>How isolated exactly have you been?
Kind of like no friends, fake dad fake brother (friends, complicated), feeling to "bad" to meet up with anyone, just like working out
>Everything feels like a dream as in watching a movie that isn't happening to you?
Yeah I feel like I'm in the theater sometimes. When my temporary outpatient therapist asks me how I feel, I sometimes say that I'm just eating popcorn.
Some real shit happened to me a few years ago, and I acted really out of line. I don't want to elaborate on that. My therapist says I'm out of the woods in that respect, but that my mental health has become like a festering untreated wound. It kind of pisses me off, because I have been getting "treatment" for years. Maybe the treatment wasn't good, and neither was my self-treatment.
If you really have BPD, you're probably not ever going to be able to manage without meds of any kind. It's usually too severe a disorder for that.
Where to find really chill people who can talk about everything, anything?
I've only got these friends online. Since I dropout school I dont really know where to find them and how start a conversation.
When you go out and do something you are passionate about, there is a *much, much* higher chance of finding people you will get along with and enjoy.
>>16864581
the prob is that i'm not really passionate about something in particulary. I enjoy to listen people talking about everything but when it comes to me I dont really know. I'll never come out with a specific subject and I find it hard to start anything without this.
>>16864605
>the problem is that I'm not really passionate about [anything]
I know.
>I enjoy the [company of other people, but I don't like doing anything].
>I'll never come out with a specific subject, and I find it hard to start anything without this.
You mean you find it hard to talk in a conversation without a point of interest?
I'm not picking on you, just being real. Having friends before I was healthy was not helpful anyway. We bullshitted, did drugs, fucked and then we stopped talking. Passionless, pretending to care about shit...
Find a thing you care about. Live for reasons.
>all of the career paths I'm interested in either are oversaturated or aren't livable
>don't know what I should take in uni
>dicked around in high school, so dont know what I'm capable of
How do I get around this? I wanted to either work in petroleum engineering or accounting.
Since when is accounting oversaturated?
>>16864591
I don't know.
I'm 19 in my third year of uni. Here's what I would've done to figure out what I actually wanted:
First, look at viable courses. Look at your family connections, see anyone you might want to get closer with. Ask them about the industry. Then:
>Read textbooks on the subject. Torrent them free. Reflect on yourself after finishing a chapter and see if you like it or not
>Watch online lectures. Torrent them or whatever. They're everywhere and I use them to put myself a month ahead of everyone else.
>Pick up different kinds of information on a subject. Like if you're interested in Japanese, listen to podcasts, read manga, watch anime, watch Jap gameshows, etc. so you always get fresh perspectives.
>Ask for a syllabus in a subject you're interested in and try to finish the introductory work of it
After four months of that, you'll be in a pretty good place to know what you wanna pick up. But you've gotta be consistent and capable of managing yourself. That's going to be hard seeing that you dicked around in high school.
I finished high school at 16. I'm gonna finish college at 20. I do wish I spent more time figuring it out, but this is fine too.
Is this a trap? I can't tell but I was wondering if any of you can by their facial characteristics.
>>16864564
Girl
>>16864564
Need to see the knees.
>>16864564
Thats a real one
