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I'm a Christian guy who is conservative in almost every way: no sex, drugs, booze, nothing. Want a girl who shares those values too, obviously. Yet, whenever I meet or see a super-liberal pink haired cutie, they are always so alluring and they excite me (and they somehow get attracted to me). Why does this keep happening?
>pic very much related
Madonna/Whore Complex
Dyed hair, piercings, and tattoos on women signal their willingness to fuck. That's why you're excited. It's normal. Don't waste your time with them.
>>17345533
Because you secretly don't want to not drink or have sex, like a normal person does?
Pretty much like the pic. I wanna go full tarzan.
How will this effect my life? I assume it'll effect my odds at a job, but otherwise should I expect anything else?
Sorry OP but I'm gonna borrow your thread to ask a simple question: To get a mustache like that I have to simply start shaving with a non-electric razor right? I always use an electric one because I hated facial hair and because it's faster but now I suddenly want to look like I'm from the 70s.
Thanks.
>>17345244
Minoxidil bro, that's what I'm gonna do.
>>17345233
Well, seeing as though you're on 4chan, I must ask.
How important is personal grooming to you? Do you shower daily? Shampoo? Conditioner? Deodorant?
I'm asking this because, this can go one of two ways.
One, you look "decent" enough.
or two, you look like a dirty fucking ape. That has long hair, and long beard because he's too lazy to go to a barber.
Theres a Black lives matter chapter in the school my friend goes to... she has been getting harassed by them for weeks now and doesn't know how to get them to stop... what can I do to help? what can she do to get them to stop harassing her... all she did was refuse to join and refused to take a commission from them.
>>17344826
Black Lives Matter is a domestic terror group. You should put a gun in their faces and tell them to stay the fuck away from you and your friend or you're calling the cops.
I'm dead serious, not fucking around. BLM is the black KKK, and I say this as a black man who loves America and wants this racial bullshit to stop.
She should film all interactions.
>>17344826
>Black lives matter
Most hypocritical movement in the history of Americuck.
>>17344856
Like this anon says. Film and sue them for harassment
You know the drill.
Get it off your chest.
I think I may end up falling for a girl I met on /soc/.
I hope I don't though....
>>17344395
Good fucking luck
I'm so god damn lonely.
On some level, I wish that I didn't delete the contact info of the girl that I had spent time with this spring, but at the same time, the fact that she started ignoring me out of the blue, and utterly stopped responding to messages, hurt me so damn much. Seeing her contact info, just kept reminding me of her.
I liked her, and she told me that I was her friend. I still don't understand why she eventually acted the way she did, and I probably never will understand.
Loneliness is something I have endured all my life. It just used...
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Hello /adv/, quick and simple question:
I've recently got called into an interview for Burger King, to start my first part-time job. I want to dress appropriately, so I have black dress pants, a black blazer, and a nice blouse to wear. Is this overdressing or is it fine? I really don't feel like going out today and buying khakis and a button-up shirt. I don't want to look like an idiot for overdressing.
>>17343354
It's burger king nigga
>>17343359
EXACTLY. THIS IS WHY I DON'T WANT TO OVERDRESS
It doesn't matter what you wear you'll get the job. If you wanna dress up fancy as fuck do it
Gonna try and make this shit quick, looking for advice on what to do about my GFs low libido.
So we been together like 4 years, first year was great sex wise (super kinky yo!) although we'd both just came out of fairly long term relationship. Moved in together but ended up with me starting work late, finishing early hours of the morning and her working standard 9-5 so we basically slept in the same bed and saw each other awake for maybe an hour before I had to go to work. Understably drifted apart and ended up getting non physical with coworkers respectedly (I.e. Sexting...
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You said you talked to her, you should try that again, sometimes girls need to talk through things more than once. Good relationships need to have that physical component as well.
If you guys have the money, you might also consider going to see a therapist who specializes in human sexuality; might be able to help you through some of these issues. It seems like she is still holding onto some resentment
Yeah I've looked in to couples therapy and things, not something I think she'd like but I'm sure I could convince her unfortunately it's just too damn expensive. And we have talked a number of time and basically boils down to need to make sex fun again and talk about it more to like make it less of a taboo but it doesn't seem to make any difference. I mean it's hard to make sex fun when she will only do it in the dark but I guess that's probably a body confidence issue that also needs to be addressed.
Fast acting anti depressants will make her want 2 fuck.
I've been told that, for a Puerto Rican, I'm "too white." I responded that I grew up in New England, among very white people, to which the person responded that I "should have sought out other Puerto Ricans or been closer to [my] family."
So I want to know, am I a failure as a human being for not being more authentically ethnic? Is there a line between authentic and stereotype? If I'd lived in the barrio and listened to a lot of reggaeton could I then be a proud ethnic person or would I have failed for not expanding beyond the stereotype?
Fuck your separatism and identity you cunt. Ethnic shit is brainwashing and ruins the fucking planet.
^ what that guy said
>>17347429
does it matter? do you really care if everyone thinks you aren't ethnic enough? who the fuck says this shit anyways?
at the end of the day all that matters is what you want. and if you want to be who you are now, then tell people 'fuck off' and go live your life
my SO and i don't live together but we chat every day or he'll leave voicemails when we're busy. When we fight or argue he doesn't respond or talk to me for days after and i don't know if it's a good way for him to cool off or not acceptable behavior for someone in a relationship. Thoughts?
>>17347401
If you don't care, it's acceptable behavior. If it bothers you, it isn't. Just a question of what you're willing to put up with. Talk it through.
>>17347411
It does bother me but i can never talk about it because he never replies.
>>17347401
time-out is OK. but there are rules for a correct one. basically, you have to let the partner know specifically that you are taking a time-out to cool down and will come back to discuss the issue within X minutes/hours. the recommended maximum is 24 hours.
try counselling, guys. look into non-violent behaviors/communication. you have a lot to learn, both of you
How can one cope with repeating failure?
I don't want to give up but I just can't bring myself to try again.
Pharmaceutical Drugs
>>17347430
let's not go there yet
You have to do shit differently. Really take a look at yourself, your decisions, what brought you to failure. Be hinest with yourself. Whatever you find that contributed to the failure, omit it and replace it with something different. It's not easy, but you have to change your habits if your are habitually failing.
Best Buy phoned me today, regarding a job application I filed a week ago. I answered, no sound was coming through and after about 13 seconds, then hung up. I called back immediately, but there wasn't any option to speak to administration or HR. Will they call back or am I fucked?
>>17347326
They want tech savvy people, not dipshits who can't work a telephone right.
>>17347331
Answer the question or fuck off.
>>17347340
hurr, look at me, i'm a jobless retard who can't answer the phone.
shoulda let that shit go to voicemail. hindsight 20/20 nigga.
I have an irrational fear of being randomly murdered. I know truly random killings are extremely rare, but I worry that I'll be out hiking or on a run and get gunned down. I kinda want to buy a gun but I'm worried that I'm not stable enough to be a responsible gun owner.
Any /adv/ice? This constant fear and anxiety is starting to take its toll.
Not a constructive advice:
It was a considerable effort but now I am not afraid of death anymore, try going that way, maybe choose some religion if you really need to or make your own, it is totally worth it knowing you could die any moment and be motivated by this thought
>>17347346
I'm buddhist, I know all about that shit.
>>17347346
I already know that, I was a buddhist for a while. It's an irrational fear m8.
So I'm in a pretty bad way, somehow I've managed to fuck up every single friendship/relationship/social interaction I'm a part of. Just last week I was on a date with this girl from my class, I could tell that she was into me and I really liked her. But by the end of the day I said the wrong things too many times and basically ruined my chance with her.
This is a reoccurring problem with me, I've been on tons of dates but I always manage to be so fucking awkward that the women are repulsed by me.
Even my old friends from high school don't want...
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Describe some moments where it got awkward.
What you need is a radical personality transplant.
Or get a more likable lookalike to change places with you whenever social interaction is needed.
Your problem is too vast and vague for us to give truly helpful advice. We'd have to live your life for you to truly help you.
You are responsible for changing your life for the better. You are all alone in this. We've all been through the same; nobody can help you on this but yourself.
>>17347303
I just feel like I don't fit in anywhere. I think it might be because of how fired up people are getting with this election. I live in a very liberal college town in california, and I'm pretty conservative in my views. So when a conversation inevitably turns political, because it seems like that's the only thing that people want to talk about today, I'm labeled as the enemy. Does this make sense?
I'm curious if anyone on here has ever been with someone who's deaf/HH and what kind of problems they ran into and how they solved them. Like specifically if one partner is hearing.
>>17347236
Make they know farting makes a noise.
>>17347242
Op here. You made me laugh so I'll give you that. But she lost her hearing out of one ear and is HH on the other so she can still speak really well and hear kinda.
invest in a hearing aid.
As the title states, I have been unable to handle being under stress, whether it's something small or large.
I believe what I was doing throughout June did not help at all. Basically, I was staying up late (cerca 2 - 3 AM) every day last month so I can get a spot in a contest where the prize is worth $500+ and I had a 1/3 chance of winning it once the others got their slots. I did this in the first place because I needed the money for the University I'll be attending this Autumn. Unfortunately, I did not plan ahead as I only realized recently that this binge has taken a major toll on my mental health and sleep schedule, thus making me even more irritable than usual. What are some ways that I can temper myself so I can handle stress better?
Also, I've been holding back something big, and it has been persistent in my mind for a long time. I have been unable to see a therapist, and I need to talk to someone who may understand what I have been through. Is there any online therapy group or something similar to it, preferably without having to pay for it, since I'm broke at the moment. Thanks in advance.
>>17347220
Lack of sleep:
>sleep more
>meditate
General
>eat decent food
>get outside and do a mild form of exercice
>avoid alcohol at all costs
>avoid caffeine
>take some valerian root or other herbal calming thing
Something big on your mind:
>journal about...
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>>17347220
Have you tried marijuana?
>>17347249
OP Here. Thank you, and I am going to try my best with what you have suggested, except I've had a bit of trouble with exercising. What happened was that a couple of weeks ago, I took a walk in the afternoon, and my arms ended up getting sun burned from the intense heat outside. As much as I would love to talk a walk at least, I don't have any sun block, nor am I sure that it would work if I'm just going to walk for about half an hour.
>>17347272
I...
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So I normally hook up with this girl whenever I return home from university. Prior to tonight, she and I had only made out. We hooked up today and wanted to have sex, but I had fucking whiskey dick. How awkward is that considered and what can I do to help ensure we hook up again basically
It happens. Get together again for some drinks and don't get so fucking sloshed. Don't make a big deal out of it either. The less you act like it matters, the less she will give a fuck either. Brush that shit off amd play it off as an unfortunate but normal thing (because it is).
>>17347180
most girls are pretty understanding. hopefully this girl is as well
>>17347202
This.
