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Hey /adv/enturers. I need a little advice.
I never was one to rock the boat much, but lately that's changed quite a bit.
I've always been passive about most aspects of my life.
HOWEVER, that's changed a lot lately.
I've held down a job for three years, and returned to school about a year ago.
I've got a fair bit on my plate, but certainly no more than a lot of people.
I've become (over the last six months or so) less and less passive. I get mad a lot easier than I used to.
I get pissed over people's bullshit a lot...
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>>17347856
Leave one or the other, you obviously are doing too much and getting more stressed out.
>>17347856
Welcome to growing older. You realize more and more how fucked this world is and it slowly makes you more and more bitter. It's an insidious process and most everyone succumbs to it. Welcome to adulthood.
>>17347899
I don't really have that much though anon, that's the problem.
I work apx 24 hrs a week and I'm in an accelerated summer algebra class.
Is it bad for you (mental) health to have a waifu?
>>17347844
Depends. A simple anime-crush is one thing. Treating it as though it were the real thing is quite another. Using it to enable/excuse continued extreme social isolation is worst of all.
>>17347844
No. Having a waifu is a symptom of poor mental health.
I am asking because I am the most motivated to do things because of (actually "for") my waifu. Things like working out, being organized, cleaning, etc. On the other hand there is the problem that I know I'll never get to experience my love as a true relationship. I talk to her and fantasize we go on dates, and stuff, but at the end of the day I feel lonely and know that even though my love is true I'm lying to myself.
I have a timberland polyester jacket, and for some reason the cuffs have gotten a funny smell. Not sure how to describe it...really sharp, kind of musky, doesn't smell nice.
It STILL smells that way even after being washed in the washing machine. And ONLY the cuffs. The rest of the jacket is fine.
I tried washing the cuffs with hand soap, but that didn't seem to have any lasting effect. Water also makes it smell worse.
Does anyone have any idea what has happened to the jacket to make it smell and how to get rid of the smell?
>>17347835
Try taking it to the cleaners and letting them know what's up. I had a jacket like this before and it was the filling on the inside that made it smell terrible.
It was fine until it got wet, then it was never the same. As soon as any scent that covered the smell was gone, it smelled similar to what you're describing.
>>17347841
hmm, but how can i smell the filling through the layer of polyester?
what did the cleaners do to get rid of the smell? just threw into their washing machine for a dry clean?
>>17347888
i poured boiling hot water onto it with some baking soda, hope that fixes it.
Im a 17 year old 100% straight male, but i cant stop wearing womans clothes when im alone. I've told a girl friend of mine and she seemed okay with it.
Now i wonder if its rude to ask her if she had any clothes i could borrow/have. If so, would she be spooked if i asked her to go and buy some clothes for me (i pay for all of them of course)?
>>17347803
lol
OP is literally a faggot
If you have to tell us you're completely straight, you're probably a fag.
>>17347803
Even if you are 100% straight, you're going to have a hard time convincing her otherwise. Don't tell people this shit if you aren't married, you just gave that bitch ammo to hold over your head for a very long time.
>can i borrow her clothes and get her to go buy some
Yeah, if you're comfortable having your girlfriend think you're questioning your sexuality, do all of those things. Give her more ammo.
I weigh 269 right now. How do I lose weight and stay at to 138? I became a vegetarian and now I eat only fruits, vegetables, and beans. I'm not sure if it will work. Also how many weeks until I am 138 on a vegan diet?
>>17347796
Vegan or vegetarian diet doesn't mean healthy diet.
You lose weight when you eat less calories than you burn.
If you eat healthy, you lose about 1 pound a week so you'd need about 2,5 years to lose all that weight.
>>17347796
lol fatass
Try insanity program , my nephew and my best friend both dried it , fit they are
Its hard but its worth it
Losing my virginity soon.
Will most likely be drunker than shit. Is there any way not to bust within 30 seconds after starting? Also, if I have precum on my dick before putting the condom on, should I clean it up a bit first? Trying not to look like an idiot for my first time. Any help is appreciated.
Yes clean it a bit, dont wash it up ofc but clean it sighly with ur underwear (i do that at least). Dont be drunk, dont fuck it up, and just enjoy it, thats all you really need to know/do.
>>17347787
Don't drink, smoke weed and have lots of foreplay.
Try to relax if you can. You'll be the same man after you fuck as you are now regardless of whether you blow the girl's mind or are too drunk to get it up. Losing your virginity is just a meme.
This is probably a stupid question but... when should
Do you do it after each partner? Or only after you are having regular sex with a new one and want to go bareback?
How the fuck do you bring this up with a new partner? Do you ask for test results?
And where the fuck do you get tested in the first place? Do they do it at a pharmacy, or do you need to got to a doctor?
>>17347762
Are you having a stroke?
>>17347762
For some reason the question got cut
when should you get tested for STD
>>17347762
Whenever you took risks and before going bareback with anyone
Unprotected blowjob is risks
Google will tell you were to get tested
>can't get pokemon go because I have too much bbw porn saved
> have android
What do?
Stay inside and fap to fatties instead of getting robbed by thugs camping Pokémon Go gyms
You don't need that much porn and you don't need pokemon go.
>>17347752
I'm used to potential robberies. I live in the shitty part of Brooklyn.
Having my ducts cleaned soon. Was wondering if some of you could share your experiences.
Is it a long job? Do they come into every room, or do the work from the furnace room?
Did you think it was worth it?
>>17347738
If you are in Canada or US be aware that duct cleaning is one of the most common scams out there. If you said okay to a cold call, cancel it.
If you think you need it, learn more about it then call a reputable hvac service.
>>17348302
Wasn't aware of the scam. My hvac repair guy just recommended it to me, and so I made an appointment with a local duct cleaning place.
>>17348354
Well,why do you think you need it? Have you done some pricing? What value are you expecting? You don't seem to know much about it. How much was the quote?
Is it better to have a decent iron and a rubbish ironing board, or an awesome ironing board and an unremarkable iron?
Pic not related.
the fuck is an awesome ironing board
The square law
A rubbish ironing board won't burn down your clothes and it doesn't do anything for the time you spend ironing.
>Met a girl at the bar last weekend
>Have been texting
>Met her again this weekend
>Once the bar closed she wanted me to take her home
>Dont have a place in the city (drove up to NYC from Brooklyn)
>insisted on her place, but had to be quiet
>made out alot, then I ate her out but couldnt get hard because i was so drunk.
>Hear...
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It must be really difficult to send her a text, avoid all bullshit and straight up ask her of anything is wrong.
You might as well do it. It'll save you a lot of hustle. If she doesn't like you, you'll know for a fact and save yourself a lot of time.
Address her directly. No hints, no bullshit, just straight up ask her if she's ignoring you on purpose and what you've done wrong.
>>17347728
This. It's possible she's busy but after a full day it is pretty unlikely.
>>17347697
the footsteps you heard was her bf
hi, thanks for reading
here's a little bit of background before i give the current circumstance and conflicted mindset.
at age 2 my father killed himself and left a large sum of money to my mother, and her brothers.
they spent millions, basically the entire fortune- on hard drugs. there's barely anything left- money- or family.
the two uncles who had access to money died to drug related deaths. the uncle who didn’t have access to the money, and didn’t do drugs is around, has been very helpful during all this- but is kind of an asshole who can’t see outside his philosophy
My brother is two years older than me and always went outward for attention and was always an asshole to me and mother. he has come a long way but still has a lot of trouble understanding and respecting boundaries.
i grew up trying to be the peacekeeper of the house and caretaker of my mom- always trying to keep the house stable and keep tabs on her. i was always trying to comfort her from my older brother acting out and what not- just really shitty family dynamics. she was sweet, but broken, and not at all a good parent, i have no doubt that she loved us very much, but taught us nothing. when she was around she would smother, protect, and speak for us.
in her head if she didn't hit us, she was a good parent. (she’s been in a lot of therapy and has come a long way since then but still is pretty toxic.)
since then my mom got sober (still pops Vicodin, and gets refills from multiple doctors around town, but for her- this is sobriety.)
i moved far away at age 19 and it was wonderful. For four years i would visit every now and then- and i had the luxury of talking to them from a distance.
This april, i get a phone call, she says she has months to live so I sell all my shit (sold my car for less than it's worth because of the urgency, now i'm sharing a car with my mom), quit my job, and gave up my lease. flew back home quickly after getting rid of everything i didn't need.
(more txt coming)
it's stage 4 small cell lung cancer- and as of now i've been living here for about three months. I help with shopping, cooking, cleaning, transport, etc….
the more i talk to doctors, and go with her to treatments, the more it seems like she’s got longer than we initially believed. So i came here planning on sticking around far less shorter than things are looking.
My aunt, uncle, and brother are acting like she’s going to die next week, my mom is in denial and thinks she’s going to beat this thing (stage 4 lung cancer has an extremely low five year survival rate. Also i am not eager to be the guy who tells his mom she’s surely going to die.)
During the first couple weeks after chemo, she needs a lot of help, and i honestly have no problem doing so- but it’s those couple weeks in between where i feel trapped in my home town, with my life frozen.
The truth is- I really don’t know if she’ll go in 2 months, or 3 years… Right now there’s a part of me I’m not proud of that wishes we can just for a lack of kinder words, “rip this band aid off.” I don't know how fucking long this is going to be.
I hate how selfish I feel, but It’s scary the thought of being here for two years, but that fear is counter attacked with the fear of I don’t fucking know if it will be in two weeks, cancer sucks, there’s no predictable way to plan things.
I don’t know if me getting my own place to live at during the weeks she’s not recovering from chemo makes sense financially (I have $30,000 in savings, and I can’t work too much if I’m helping her out) - and if moving out even help me feel better, there’s this inner critic in my head that says no matter what this is all gonna suck.
I just kinda feel frozen right now and am torn between self-care- and being around for her uncertain amount of days.
so right now i'm falling back into old behavior patterns of wanting to protect my mom from my brother, and paranoid she's doing drugs, etc...
(more txt coming)
I am extremely uncomfortable emotionally and physically around my family but i do love them. my mom projects all this weird toxic shit in conversation but i do love her, and i know she loves me. (I’m not saying I’m better than them, but this is how i feel around them.)
This is really hard.
Should I get my own place? I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings by moving out, but I also don’t want to look at my family as prison guards.
When I mentioned the idea of moving out, and stopping by to take care of her as needed, my uncle guilted me into staying there and “reassured” she’s going to die soon. I should be there for my mother. I got pissed off that he talked to me like a child, telling me what is right or wrong for something so complicated, but then I sunk into a depression and figured I guess she would die soon. This is just all kinds of fucked up.
T;ldr cancer and guilt, wut do i do?
also any general advice for this situation is so valued.
thanks for reading, i hope this was coherent.
it's really conflicting and confusing.
i do love my mother very much but is it selfish to not want to "waste" an uncertain amount of time?
okay so i was in love with this girl, she started going out with a friend of mine and i tried to steal her, she flat out told me "I know what your trying to do and i dont appreciate it"
that was about 2 years ago, i have since inherited almost a million dollars, lost 60 lbs, have 6 pack abs and a good job, i also had a hideous brown birth mark on my face removed
can i get her /adv/ i just want to facebook her saying, hey, im changed, i have money, a good body, and a normal face, what do you say?
can i get her adv??
>>17347681
get other broads, post on fb and make sure she knows. Say nothing directly to her. If she is interested she'll come round
>>17347681
sleaze/10.
If your friends can't trust you, why should she.
If she's got brains, she won't.
If she don't, oh well, Darwinism.
>>17347681
>hey, anon, remember how I was a piece of shit two years ago? well, now I'm a piece of shit with ab muscles and a better job. interested?
good plan.
I have 3 career options and can't decide:
Law
Teaching
Military
I'm really stressed about this.
I don't know which to pick.
I'm not wild about law and it's expensive. There is a terrible legal market. I'd have little free time.
Teaching seems OK. I get lots of time off and a pretty chill work environment. I'd have more time to work on my passion (music/writing). Downside is feeling like I settled, but I could offset that by working on my passion in spare time.
Military is intriguing because it...
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>>17347664
Terrible legal market? That's crazy talk.
You can literally go into any industry with a law degree. It's not like other degrees confined to one sector, as there is a need for legal services in all sectors. Law is a very broad field.
With your law degree, you can go on to teach a class here or there as an adjunct (if you make enough money doing something else obviously)
and wouldn't you know, the military needs lawyers too.
>>17347664
>>17347664
>character
Military wont give you character. No career will do that. How old are you? I´m assuming +18... well if you are above 18 and seek the army in order to obtain or build character, I have bad news for you: you are too late. You were suppose to be building character while growing up.
>camaraderie
Please stop watching war movies
>clear...
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>>17347679
Thanks for the reply.
>Terrible legal market? That's crazy talk.
I don't mean to be rude but are you familiar with the legal market today? After 07 shit went down the tubes.
There are whole forums dedicated to people who say they can't find jobs. News sites say this too.
I hear that it's basically practice law or you're screwed. And there are few jobs to practice law since there are so damn many graduates.
>Texting potential gf, went on 2 dates
>We're talking about dating history for some reason
>I'm honest, she's honest
>I've had 3 partners, she's had none
>The day after, she's super fucking distant and will basically ignore me
What do? Should I just leave it? Also what could she be feeling/thinking that would cause her to do this?
Maybe she lied?
Just ask her man. Don't make simple things any more complicated than they need to be.
>>17347684
That's what I was thinking but like what would keep her from being honest?
