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I am new to the party culture. Is it possible to party without drinking?
yeah, dingas
>>17349531
Nope.
>>17349531
That's why drugs were invented.
TDLR - How to say No When Someone Asks You To 'Grab a beer Sometime'
I haven't spoke to this bloke for about 8 years, I barely even spoke to him in high school. Its nice he has asked me but to be honest I really don't know the bloke and generally didn't like him before and don't know what he is like now.
It came out of the blue, sure it might be a nice laugh but I just would feel good having a one on one chat with someone I have basically never know. It would all be reminisce and a bit pointless.
So how do I say thanks but...
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>>17349508
"That" pattern, eh? I'd wager he wants you to lend him some money, at least I would know a couple of those types.
Either way, just spin some bullshit about you "being busy" this month. Chances are high, that he won't get back at it.
Say 'thanks but no thanks'. Why do you want to avoid shutting him out of your life, it sounds like you want to do exactly that.
>>17349508
What the Fuck is TDLR
Studying English and my book is kinda weird. So these sentences are wrong? How should they be really?
I'll be very happy if Jake comes home tonight.
Nora won't find a job if she doesn't try harder.
We'll go out this afternoon unless it rains.
>I'll be very happy IF Jake comes home tonight.
Not actually faulty, but somewhat odd way to put it. "Better" would be;
I would be very happy if Jake comes home tonight.
or
I will be very happy when Jake comes home tonight.
Can't really place fault with the other two sentences though.
I'll be very happy when Jake comes home tonight.
OR: I would be very happy if Jake came home tonight.
Nora won't find a job unless she tries harder.
We'll go out this afternoon if it doesn't rain.
>>17349511
Okay, the book is being very vague about, it just says that those sentences are wrong and present tense should be used. These are so hard because I feel like all of them sound kind of right and the rules are so weird.
i'm not sure how to start this..
typical 'best friend tells you they like you thing' i guess, except this friend is online
the problem is- not that i don't like them, but that they were in an online relationship and it went to shit
now, me being his friend, he would tell me everything he felt for her, the relationship and just everything else
just two weeks ago he was talking about how he tries to find her in other people and replace her, how she was the only one for him and that he still loves her
alright so me knowing all of this, and then...
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Uh, well, this is awkward...
Could we talk about it maybe?
>>17349502
please don't scare me like that anon
>>17349502
Aw, but what's the fun if you don't give people a little spook?
Anyone here read Marcus Aurelius's meditations? I read it and plan to re-read it again, but it'd be great if someone with a better grasp can reassure me if I understood the book correctly.
What I understood from the book is:
>live according to nature and with virtue
>be indifferent to things that are not vices or virtues
>love mankind for I am also a member of it
>help where you can for no effort is in vain
>do...
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>>17349495
I haven't read it for a long time, but that's about how I remember it. You should read Epictetus's Discourses and Enchiridion next; I think you'd get more out of it than rereading the Meditations.
1/2
>>17349951
2/2
Link a pdf of it nigger so I can read this shit faggot printed out breh.
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I'm uncircumcised. for the past couple of years I have been masturbating while my head is cover by my foreskin. Im able to retract my foreskin over my head while I'm erect. I've tried masturbating while my foreskin was retracted and i couldn't do it. It's very sensitive. How I am able to have sex like this?
That's the way you're supposed to have sex/masturbate. You've got yourself into a reverse death grip.
>>17349487
Has it always been the case?
I never knew if this was normal or not but i'm like you, OP.
Not only it's too sensitive but it feels worse; i used to use soap in the bath to be able to jack off without the skin and even then it was hard.
>>17349503
buy why pornstars retract the skin?
I met a girl on tinder and we hit it off really well. A day after we met she was being openly sexual with me saying she wants to take a bath with me and wants to see me in her bed wants she gets home and that kind of stuff
The thing is I'm 24 and live alone but she's 18 (she really is 18, I checked) and lives with her parents.
I've invited her many times to my house and she's been once and she literally laid in my bed. I tried to make a move but she didn't seem interested and every time we meet she treats me just like a friend...
We...
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Playing games, and too young. Get the fuck away from that ASAP, it'll only end in bad things for you.
>>17349460
I'm doing that at the moment, just ignoring her
desu, yesterday I lashed out a bit because I felt like she was messing with me, so I might have blown my chance anyway
>>17349456
bump
any femanon has any clue?
Over the last 3 years I quit reaching out to people and frankly lost all my friends
Is that just a normal part of growing up?
It's normal for people with avoidant personality disorder
Don't bump on first page though, darling
No you were just not a good friend.
My GF and I both cheated on each other months ago. It never went into anything physical as it was just flirting and sexting. Once we told each other she said she didn't consider that cheating, I said that I didn't either, but it would be healthier if we did going forward.
Months after I did it again and never told her. I almost did and started talking with her about before and she said that once again couples could've done much worse. I got upset and masked it behind me feeling guilty about doing it in the first place. She assured me that what I did wasn't...
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So you don't want to do it anymore, and you don't want her to find out about what you did.
How about. Don't. Tell. Her.
Spend your worries on how to lift her insecurity, and be a good man for her.
>>17349402
how about both of you find someone else and be done with it
>>17349402
You're both faggots and should just break up. She's not the only insecure. Look at yourself op.
I keep fucking staying up all night, And waking up at random times. Iv'e gone to sleep at normal times, I still sleep for a goddamn century.
How the fuck do I fix this?
Set alarm everyday at the exact same time and get up immediately after it goes off, no matter what time you went to sleep. If you do this for a few weeks/months your inner clock will adapt.
>>17349411
Alright, Thanks. I'll try that.
>>17349411
but the trick is to actually get up
ive tried setting alarms, but i just turn it off. cant get myself to get up if i have nothing to get up for; which i never do
Hey, /adv/. I'm in need of some advice, so please, if you have something to share, I'd appreciate.
My father has been diagnosed with brain cancer last month. No words to describe how shitty it was to hear it from the doctor.
We don't have the best relationship ever. He has some serious alcohol and anger issues, and over the years he grew distanced from everyone, including his family.
So, even though we're in this situation, I can't reach to him. I'd like to talk to him and tell him I love him and all that jazz, but it's been...
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First and foremost, you have my condolences. It's an unbearably shitty thing to go through, not just for him, but for you and any family surrounding you.
But secondly, my best advice is just love him as best you can. I come from an household where my father was abusive and incredibly angry a lot of the time. We've gotten to the point of flinging some of the most hateful words at each other I can imagine. But when he was diagnosed with cancer earlier this year, I realized this was maybe the last chance I had to just let the past go and make the best of the time...
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>>17349375
Thank you. For real. I'll have your words in heart.
I'm sorry that you also had to go through it. Life sucks sometimes.
Good luck for us, brother.
Ah. My grandpa had brain tumor, the only difference was we had a good relationship. I would try and find a way to show that you care about your dad without shoving it into his face or making it seem like you just suddenly started feeling this way. Maybe try to get him laugh if you're the type of person who doesn't care if things get a bit awkward, or get him to talk about things he might be interested in. If he loses a way to communicate, usually the doctor/nurses there will help you out with that. I would like to share more advice, but I don't want to look like...
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