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so nothing new for /adv/ in this topic but I just need to vent and hear opinions.
blew up at my gf last night over something completely stupid but it's been a few weeks of pent up emotion.
the thing I blew up over? she literally said "Do my oil change". there was no please or niceness in the way she asked, sounded like a command. instantly set me off because she's been doing this for a while. feeling disrespected i guess.
She thinks im becoming a loser because I've put on a lot of weight lately and haven't been working. The...
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She sounds like an entitled little princess and a loose canon.
Has she dealt with loss and depression before? Have you taken personal space?
Having a partner blow up because you're constantly demanding is just as bad as the person blowing up in the first place.
Do you question if she is right for you?
>>17347209
she's never dealt with loss. the most she's dealt with is my family members. she met my brother twice and liked him and my mother a handful of time. other than that she's never suffered a loss. I explained to her earlier when i found out about my mothers cancer, that it would be tough as hell as id been through something similar before with my uncle. I know what its like to see someone suffer and want to die. I told her this and i didnt expect her to stay around if she couldnt handle it as much...
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>>17347191
Really sorry to hear about your senpai anon. Do you have any other ways to vent or blow off steam?Got many friends or ways to get away from your missus?
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How important is someone's facebook page for you?
These goes to both sexes.
Would it affect whether you'd give someoen a chance or not?
Asking cause I just lurk and chat there, never share.
>>17346970
>How important is someone's facebook page for you? Would it affect whether you'd give someone a chance or not?
It is not really important, I usually don't even check people's facebook.
If I go to your facebook and you write stupid stuff, you share things all the time, you post selfies every 5 minutes I'm going to be turned off.
I prefer someone who rarely shares stuff over someone too present.
>>17346979
What about pics?
I'll be honest, I don't like it when the girls only has a few, especially when they are face only.
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>>17332888
I claim this thread in the name of Pegasus, the Herald of Andraste
Da ich dich so lange nicht reden hörte, so möchte ich dir eine Gelegenheit geben.
Emily,
I just want to understand why it is that you said that you loved me when you had absolutely no intent to treat me like you do. I get it, I really do. I mean, I will never be as attractive as those other guys, never as smooth talking and just as cool as them in general. But there is obviously some part of you that likes me anyway, because you told me you did. That was two months ago, and you seem to have chosen them over me. I understand and respect your decision, but why did you have to drag me down with you? Whether you actually love me or not, you know me. You...
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Hey /adv/
I'm about to get pussy for the first time, and the best I can describe the situation is as friends with benefits. How do I keep myself from falling for this chick who just wants sex?
I'm not particularly attracted to her face, but even still I can see myself getting wrapped up because of new feelings/hormones or whatever the fuck happens during sex for the first time. Still going to fuck her no matter what though.
Pic not related
>>17351194
Just fuck her and worry about "feelings" only if you develop them.
You're about to learn real quick how easy it is to not get pussy whipped to someone you're not attracted to. Don't worry about teh feels, heh.
By being realistic.
Unfortunately that is extremely hard for the average person who has not been through at least 1 long term relationship and it ends up proving difficult for many people who been through several.
Enjoy the pussy, don't think too deeply, allow enough emotional involvement to have fun. When it comes to being with someone who significantly more experienced, only let your guard down if they're are the ones who indicate that they want to be something more than just fuck buddies.
>>17351221
she's way more experienced and two years older than me. She'll be graduating and moving on to law school after this year so there /shouldn't/ be anything coming from her if she's logical about it. Really concerned about myself. Thanks
How to get my life together, /adv/? Any resources you've used or can recommend, tips, tricks, etc. besides the obvious (get a job). I'm a mid twenties male without a degree or specialized skills, live with parents as a waiter and a ldr relationship.
1. Get your own place.
2. Get rid of the long distance bullshit.
3. Go back to school or start learning a trade.
4. Fuck bitches, get money.
>>17351063
>get specialized skills
>get a better job
>save money
>get a degree
>move out
>get a job related to your field of study
>find a SO who actually could be part of your better and improved life
>>17351077
1. So just having my own place will teach me how to live? I think I understand, you have to be thrown into a situation and your system gets shocked to learn quickly how to adapt or die.
2. Would it make sense to move to her?
3. Where can I learn a trade? Are there specific schools for it?
4. Indeed.
Hi adv
My boyfriend just got hired and they sent him for "training" in another state for two weeks. From what he's told me they provide unlimited free booze and play games all day - basically a team building thing. They also encourage you go back to he office after "class" to play games and drink more. They also have a place to sleep if you do go there.
I'm incredibly anxious to what that will mean as far as fidelity goes.
Does anyone here have any stories or experience with work trips like this? I don't want to be a Debbie...
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Are you sure he isnt just going out of town with friends and telling you it's work related? I've never heard of any company doing this as "training".
Where does he work, I need to get in on this.
He sent me photos and an itinerary. I'm pretty sure it's a work thing. He said the company admitted they were like a cult and laughed at it.
I am having second thoughts about marrying a woman. I feel this way after she revealed the following:
>before i was with her, she was dating her ex
>she told me that while she was dating her ex, she had sex with him in a taxi on the way back from a club. Sat on his lap while wearing a dress, without underwear
Im not a prude by any means, but I feel turned off by that behavior. I've had sex with her outdoors many times, but never with another guy a few feet away, possibly watching.
Am I wrong...
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>>17350979
If something this is enough to make you second guess it, then clearly your relationship isn't solid enough to last marriage.
If you are having second thoughts, don't do it. Marriage is a fucking contract you want to be 100% on. If she's the clubbing, oversexual latina type, she will probably ditch your ass the second a new papi chulo comes around. 86 that bitch.
>>17350986
Not the clubbing type now, but used to be in her younger days. Not the "street" latina either - i guess im worried if she's changed now or if she hasnt.
Is it possible to become charismatic and if so how ?
>>17350963
charisma is more or less defined as somethign that comes naturally. otherwise its not charisma its simply manipulation.
it is psosible to become more charismatic, but there isnt a simpel step by step guide. we dont know you or whats lacking so how could we say?
you have to remember that charisma is considered a strong force. people who list charisma on their profiles and shit are pretty egotistical. they are saying that they have
>compelling attractiveness or charm that...
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>>17350963
Yes it is possible but it takes a lot of practice. You should search it on youtube there is a lot to learn. I would recommend channel actualized.org he has a lot of content on this topic.
>>17350963
"Charisma," by definition, is just an inherent part of someone's personality. But you can learn to be more sociable, or more authoritative, or whatever you're trying to accomplish.
It also depends on who you surround yourself with. Don't try to force yourself to fit in somewhere you don't belong. When I'm with friends and family, or when I'm doing my job which I enjoy and I'm good at, I feel confident, and being social and funny and pleasant with people comes...
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I got video of my sister chasing me through my house with a large blade just today.
Im 18 she's 25 we both live at my moms house. Mom is incompetent.
Should I call the police. My sister is a minimal wage mindset lowlife selfish piece of shit. But if the police do arrest her that will be on her record and then all she can is shit jobs.
Maybe I dont have to press charges but I can still get her out of this house if I call the police.
>>17350917
Need adv
Do it. Press charges. They could charge her with attempted murder or assault with a deadly weapon. Whatev though.
>>17350917
Move out and never look back.
I act really nice because I fucking hate people.
What is wrong with me
>>17350895
Why do you hate people? Do you hate current culture?
>>17350895
same here. dont know about you but i personally do it because im aware its easier. if i act shitty to people it will cause drama. if i am nice to people, they dont bother me.
Nothing. Stop faking it though. Accept yourself and be yourself.
How come every relationship I have feels superficial?
Your emotions are your own. If it feels superficial to you, it's because it is.
Maybe you're a fake-ass person, maybe you suck at emotions, maybe you suffer from depersonalization/derealization. Maybe all three. How the fuck would I know, I don't even know you.
>>17350890
How the fuck would I know, I don't even know you.
No One Really Does......
Wouldn't we be more happy hanging out and partying with non-white babes?
They seem to have more respect and admiration for white men. Moreso than white girls themselves
>>17350889
t. Black woman
>>17350889
Why is this a question? White men have been dominating, conquering and impregnating non-white women for literally centuries with much success. Carry on.
>>17350889
White guy here. Work in manual labour, so I tend to work with alot of immigrants, including women.
Can confirm they are much nicer and friendlier than white women. Plus, they tend to work the harder jobs, like men, so they get hazard pay and stuff so they never complain about some mythical wage gap.
Literally our women are just the worst. They hate men, spread propaganda and lies about us, falsify statistics to demonise us.
They claim to fight for equality (But don't want to be drafted,...
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Just told my housemate that I think she's great. She picked up what I really meant (that I'm pretty much head over heels for her). It just so happens that I'm going on a six week journey starting next week so her response to my admission was 'wait until you get back.'
Sounds like good news to me, right? She basically told me to enjoy my holiday and see what happens following that. We're due to watch a movie this Saturday anyway so I'm going to make a move then anyway but curious as to hear your opinions on her response.
Should...
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>>17350878
Any not negative sign is a positive sign, especially given females
I have high hopes
>>17350878
>It just so happens that I'm going on a six week journey starting next week so her response to my admission was 'wait until you get back.'
>Should be noted that I'm moving out next week, hence my decision to lay it down.
So she told you to wait until you get back, but you're never coming back?
That's... that's fuckin brilliant, is what that is. Keeping that one in mind for future reference.
>>17350960
Believe it or not people can still meet after you've moved out of a place. We've already planned to have a movie night each Sunday night.
It's central London so it's not as if it's that far.
>move across the world to Ontario at 16
>struggle to make friends because of 'alternative school'
>19 now, haven't had a friend for 3 years, had a couple girlfriends but it never lasted
>about to go to uni in August, not completely socially retarded but don't know how to interact anymore
What are some things I should know about making friends and social interaction? Also general tips for university
Talk to everybody on your dorm floor
Then talk to everybody on the floors above and below you
Talk to literally anybody who sits near you in class
Talk
To
Everyone
Everybody comes into Uni knowing nobody. At most they might know one or two friends that happened to go to the same place. Literally all you have to do to make friends is talk to anybody about anything.
>>17350868
Listen to what this anon said
Additionally find a way to get involved on campus. I was a pretty shy guy in high school, but I got involved in my school's mock trial team, not only did it teach me confidence, poise, and public speaking ability; but I met a ton of people. It also made me pursue a career in law
>>17350868
Thanks for the advice. So I just go out of my way to talk to everyone? Isn't that a little weird?
>Fastest way to learn to swim?
Swim more.
>go to pool
>jump into deep end
>learn to swim or die, ridding the gene pool of your inferior genes
>>17350818
common frustration, feeling like you're not moving. It's cause you're not, sometimes. Better motion and strokes fixes it, only way to get better is practice. I swam every day for an hour for a month, and even though at first I felt like garbage, by the end you feel amazing.
practice, don't worry about getting tired, your body will improve itself over time. You can even measure your times if you want for confidence boosting
