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How do people always wake up so fast?
I need like a good 7 minutes before I can even get up from bed, and I'm still not awake enough to drive a car for at least half an hour.
>>17351357
Just say to yourself in the morning "I need to stop being a pussy" and do it.
>>17351357
You're either not getting enough sleep, or you aren't getting quality sleep. Could even be a combination of the two.
>>17351360
I just get so fucking dizzy getting up too fast, literally fainted to it once.
>>17351363
I do 3-shift work. How do yoiöu get quality sleep when you can't have a proper sleep schedule?
Can I wear jeans to a business casual interview?
Button down shirt
Jeans
Business shoes?
>>17351331
Why though? A button up and slacks are custom for any interview that isn't fast food, or something higher that requires a full suit, and it's not like it's expensive.
>>17351331
You can if you want, but I would suggest slacks and a Polo shirt tucked in, of course, instead though with some nice dress shoes.
>>17351338
This. Jeans are not interview clothing. Jeans aren't "business casual" clothing. I know it sucks, I hate putting on anything other than a t-shirt and jeans on average too, but if you want the job, you gotta dress the part.
Could somebody rec me some books or just tough love advice
For the last couple months.
>Been addicted to porn
>spending my paychecks on fucking hookers
>doing dangerous amounts of cocaine and molly
I used to be able to get out of these rots and turn to the church but now I don't even have much faith god exists.
female at my workplace has been bugging me to hangout with her. but I feel like she doesn't deserve to hang around a creep like me.
I'm self aware what I'm doing is wrong but just can't seem to turn my life around.since I expect everything to disappoint me
What is it like op? How do you feel through the highs and lows?
>>17351374
Highs are amazing but the lows have been making suicidal and I come on here trying to find inspiration to stop
Maybe I'm just guilt tripping myself
>>17351395
Youre asking for advice but you havent given us a goal or a target so we dont know where we need to get you to. What do you want from life man?
Long story short: I want to break up with my girlfriend of four years. I really care about her and I'm very thankful for all the years we had, but I'm simply not attracted to her anymore and we have been fighting alot lately. We dont have sex anymore, mostly my fault, because she is really vanilla and dont want to try anything new, period. The huge problem is that we own an appartement together and share many many friends and have a good relationship to eachother parents and as I mentioned I do care alot about her and want everything good for her in the future..
TLDR: Should i break up with my GF or not?
Is vanilla sex the only issue you have with her?
>>17351288
> I'm simply not attracted to her
>she is really vanilla and dont want to try anything new
>I want to break up with my girlfriend
You tell us. You already answered your own question.
>>17351295
To be honest everything starts to bother me. Dont find her as pretty as before, she always complain about random shit and makes a big deal out of every insignificant little thing.
Where should I work at UPS or a sushi restaurant as a waiter ? I am a college student
UPS.
>>17351265
Why ? Any experience with the company ?
>>17351267
Youre dogshit as a sorter but they pay for your college and you will get muscular assumibg you eat good enough
>at work (server)
>flirt with some of the other servers because it makes work a little more bearable
>everyone has been stuck on thinking that another server and I have been hooking up
>nothing has happened, we just flirt at work and I'm not looking to cheat on my girlfriend
>tried to tone it down and just be friendly with each other, everyone still talks about it
>try to be completely professional, everyone still mentions it
>afraid this will get back to my girlfriend, who definitely won't understand casual flirting
What can I do, besides just finding a new job?
>>17351255
Speak up and shut it down.
"Look, I/we were just goofing off. I have a gf and I don't need some bullshit rumor getting back to her. Knock it off."
>>17351290
Tried it, it just ends with "It's alright man, I won't tell anyone/didn't see/know anything *wink*". I guess if I tried there really is no other solution than to find a new job.
>>17351298
That's when you grab their shoulder and look them dead in the eye and tell them
"No, you will stop spreading this bullshit around. Do you understand me?"
How to deal with trust issues?
Basically, it's really hard for me to trust in someone. To "I love/like you" from "I'll do x, don't worry"
Everyone seems to lie all the time to me. Help?
As long as you don't lie, honesty is much more valuable than kindness. The kindest thing you can possibly do is be honest.
>>17351258
Being honest is pain though, there is so much to win by lying and so much to lose by being truthful.
My experience tells me nobody likes honest people; they love white lies and sugar coating, they ask things for self-assurance not for an opinion, they hate when you disagree with them.
I feel to bad to lie about deep things and it's awful in a lot of conversations, specially with strangers or people you like.
Not OP, btw.
>>17351258
I do try being honest, I try to not lie (even though is impossible) but I'm really satisfied with me
The others (apparently) lies is the problem
I think it's officially time to kil myself. I'm 24 and have no job and the only thing I want to do is produce music which will never happen. I live in the middle of nowhere.
I have 2 friends which are heavily mental diseased and sit at home all day. I have no girlfriend and I can barely even find a girl to talk to and even if I do I'm their last choice. My family is incredibly poor and we have just about 0 opportunity. We live in a 300 year old house that's falling apart and it's so embarrassing I can't have girls or friends over. I'm too stupid and lazy and fuck up all my jobs and can't do school. Everywhere I go people automatically dislike me, even if I try to make friends people just ignore me and don't want to hang out unless I have drugs or something then they will half the time.
My parents drive me crazy because they're always in my shit when I'm trying to get privacy. I look like a massive retard somehow everywhere I go. My parents drink every time they are not at work and I'm addicted to drugs which I can't even get because of no friends or connections. Even if I throw myself out into social situations it never turns into anything. Even if I do talk to a girl for awhile I end up sounding autistic as fuck. I refuse to get an apartment and shit here because all I want to do is leave in hopes my life will be at least slightly better. My parents are always miserable as fuck and it drags my mood down even more.
I tried tinder and literally never got a match except a few years ago I talked to one girl for a day. I don't talk to any girls at all unless it's over Facebook. I was stupid and drunk and committed a crime now no one will talk to me because of it and I'm pretty sure I'm going to get arrested and my ex friends are going to rat on me and I'll probably get a felony. I hate every single person I've hung out with for s long time because they alll treat me like shit
>>17351205
Also it was never like this I used to go to fireworks or the fair and cute girls I know would come up and give me hugs and talk to me. Everywhere I went I was kinda meeting new people they still didn't like me thT much but I had more friends and was meeting people and doing stuff
Everything just got fucked up idk how and it won't go back it's been 2 years of this
How long have you been doing drugs?
Before you try and kill yourself, try just leaving.
Go somewhere. It doesn't matter. Just go, and keep going if you feel like. Don't feel like you have to come back, just find a way to get somewhere else. They say that wherever you go, there you are, but who knows, you might just find something worth living for on your journey.
Confessing my love of 3 years to my best friend tomorrow. How should I go about it ? What if she's talking to an other guy ? Am I selfish for this.
Don't
>>17351198
>selfish?
No. Retarded for chasing away an ally? Yep.
>>17351198
Don't confess your love to her. That's just weird, just remind her of how long you have been friends and say that lately you've been thinking it might be a good thing to try "something more than just good friends", and ask her if she wants to go on a date.
I'm not a girl, but I imagine hearing my best friend say he's been jerking off to me for the past three years and fantasizing about a life together might be terrifying. The whole "confess my eternal love to my best friend" thing is just weird. Just ask her out, if she says she doesn't think she wants that, be cool and remind her you're still her friend.
Going from friend to lover takes time, and should be mutual. Invite her to try it with you, don't say you've already gone and done it.
>masturbate
>ejaculate
>pic related
>feel motivation to work hard and fix it
>5 minutes goes by
>lost motivation, energy level goes to shit, back to old loser self and loser mindset
What can I do to stay in the post-ejaculatory mindset?
>>17351187
For me it's the opposite, I am demotivated as soon as I cum. Crippling depression and anxiety sets in.
Stop masturbating so much.
Go outside see the sunshine and see how beautiful the world is. Honestly getting out of the house is the quickest way for me to be motivated because I see where I live and say to myself "I have to get out of here."
I want to move close to London this year so I can play on the music scene, try to get an art show, meet people and have a more interesting life.
I qualify for LHA and top it up each month with an extra £200.
I was thinking Putney or Crystal Palace.
Can I have advice on getting into London. Do's and dont's, coping with crime, is it worth the extra hassle? Good / Bad areas, Is it a good idea for a poor fag Artist/Musician wannabe? Thanks Xx
Commuters waking in a few hours
>>17351168
We have enough of you fucking "artists".
>>17351563
I meant plasterer
I am trying to understand people who date women with kids. I personally would never EVER date a woman who has kids already unless MAYBE her spouse like died or something. But if she has kids and her spouse is still living, then hell no.
Am I in the wrong? I personally just hate the thought of a woman who is like age 20-29 having kids already. It just seems full retard. I kind of believe that people shouldn't have kids until they are age 29 or 30.
Don't even get me started on teenage pregnancy. Teenage pregnancy is FULL retard.
SO help me understand.. why the fuck do people through their life away so early? Am I just like some kind of jaded asshole or something? I haven't even had a girlfriend. What the fuck is wrong with me?
Just stop poking your nose in other people's business, man. Sometimes people fall in love and they're willing to make sacrifices. Sometimes pregnancies happen when you don't want them, and people just try to do the right thing. Some people genuinely want children because parenthood can be fulfilling and joyful. You're not jaded, you're just narrow-minded and judgmental and, I would guess, lonely.
Nothing wrong with you. Most dudes cringe at the thought of dating a bitch with kids. Myself included. From what I have seen, it's typically beta males that do this shit. Or complete tard tards. Fuck raising someone else's little bastards.
Honestly, I young women with kids on accident are the worst. Like.. all this fucking birth control on the planet and you STILL let some dude cum inside you and knock you up? HOW!?
The pill, condoms, iud's.. EVERYTHING! How the FUCK do you even get knocked up on accident anymore.
Anyone ever have ED and fix it? I think i got it from getting stoned and jerking off for like hours at a time and not letting myself finish. Now when I start jerking it my dick either goes down as soon as I stop touching it or feels like I have to cum after about a minute. I really need help, has anyone here ever beat ED?
Are you a fatass? Do you have a heart condition? ED is a circulatory problem, not a dick problem.
Or maybe your dick is just trying to tell you it wants more than your fucking hand.
Hmm, thanks for the reply. No, I'm not fat and no heart conditions that I know of.
Hey /adv/. Lately been having issues with a guy I've been dating for a while. Everything's great, but he gets really down about me becoming successful someday.
He thinks he's not smart enough and that he won't be as successful as I am, if successful at all. I tell him it's all hardwork and that he's smart enough to get to where he wants as long as he works. But it doesn't help and he tells me I'm lying to make him feel better.
WHAT DO I DO????
>>17351126
Try to manipulate him into doing something impressive and then show it to him. It might boost his esteem and I think that's what he needs.
>>17351126
He most likely feels like you will be so successful you might feel you dont need him.
Punch him for being a loser and tell him to do something before it's too late
I just came from /r9k/ saying that I find it hard being in a social situation; I have never even kissed a girl. I was told to come here. So I guessing you guys could give me some help? Please?
Here's the original post >>29908488
>>17351098
That link thing didn't work (I'm new here). This is the link: >>>/r9k/29908488
Dude just get off the computer and try to live life. Do what other people are doing until you find your own rhythm. There's nothing inherently wrong with being a virgin, yeah it's weird, but it's a result of years of repression that you couldn't control. I'm 21 and I haven't had sex yet. I was always sociable but just stayed away from girls. Now, I try to make girls a part of my life whether they're friends, friends of friends, friends girlfriends, or straight up love interests. I talked to like three girls today at the mall. Take a fucking Xanax if this seems like walking through fire to you and go talk to some bitches bro.
Niggaz can laugh all they want but I'm getting laid soon. It'll just happen
>>17351098
Ahh, the real chart. I'm at the end of that chart.
