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Semi-continuation of the thread I had a few days ago. to sum up the previous thread:
>going through a rough patch.
>instead of helping, my friend (lets call him Adam) ends up doing a dick move making things worse, which made me personally feel betrayed and made me explode in rage on him.
>However, He didnt know I was in a rough patch, and I my reaction may have been exaggerated given that fact.
now for the issue at hand, After cooling off, I apologized for my reaction...
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>>17352904
I think you being purposely vague is the worst part.
>>17352933
Vague how?
>>17352904
Are you going to let 2 other people dictate how you feel?
This Adam character is trying to blame YOU for something that HE did. Who gives a shit about what this Ben motherfucker is saying.
You're mad and you have every right to continue to be mad until something changes.
You have two options:
>Drop these assholes and find better friends
>Continue hanging out in this toxic friendship, but remember that this Adam guy doesn't...
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I basically have 0 talents and 0 skills
I suck at everything I do, and yes, I know the regular old "keep trying" phrase but I do keep trying and I will what? Succeed at the 500th try?
I even suck at fucking video games
the fuck you need a talent or skill for? you trying to win a beauty pageant or some shit?
Don't give up. Took me 7 years to learn to paint and I'm still finding out things every time I pick up the brush.
If you like something enough, you'll get there. As long as you're looking for a "talent" you're looking for work to do. Find something you like doing even though you suck. It gets better.
>>17352875
You sound like no fun to be around at all.
Are you the guy who rage quits during Mario Party?
You're good at something, you just need to find it. Or stop putting yourself down for the good traits that you do have, and have convinced yourself "don't count" or something.
I'm getting sick of it. On this Internet I check out forums but rarely see a topic that interests me. So I started trying to create topics. Right away I noticed that no matter what I say people will insult me. Quite often what they say will have nothing to do with the topic. As if they just want to shit on everything. Other times people will just instantly go off topic and derail the topic.
I don't think it's actually that what I present isn't interesting it's as if there is actually just a bunch of people who thrive on ruining stuff.
How...
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try redit.
>>17352870
Guess what the common denominator is? Hint: it's you.
Don't expect others to simply understand things while overlooking the fact that you might not be communicating your ideas very well.
Also, you're getting mad at something on the Internet. The solution is to not go online and turn off the computer.
So right now I'm looking for a job and an apartment. I currently have a job but it's part time and I need a full time one. And I live in an apartment now but my lease ends soon, so I have to look for another.
But here's the problem: when I think of actually looking and applying for jobs/apartments, my mind just goes crazy. It makes me want to kill myself. For some reason it just seems so insurmountable to simply send in applications. It's like my brain just goes super depressed and horrified at the idea. I don't know how to explain it. Has anyone else felt this way?
Whenever I try to tell myself to look for a job, and an apartment, I just get so stressed out and end up doing nothing.
>>17352868
Its call anxiety, procrastinating makes it worse.
take time to figure out what skills you have or what positions you would be most comfortable with and apply for those jobs.
>>17352868
Get over it quick before it's too late. Make a list of what needs to get done and just do it.
1. Get your resume together, have an outfit for interviews on standby. Do some research online on how to make a good resume and cover letter.
2. Apply for jobs online or in person. Google sample job application emails to give you an idea of what to say. Apply to as many as you can. Proofread before you press send and always make sure your resume is attached
3. If you're in the US, check Zillow or Trulia...
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>>17352879
>>17352908
Man I try but whenever I open a job application I just freak out. For some idea, it just seems impossible.
I've done them before, I have a job now, I've had jobs before. But actually just taking the step to fill the stuff in, my brain just looks up and I seem incapable of doing it. I think my anxiety with this is just off the charts. Sometimes it feels like committing suicide would be easier. I know that sounds ridiculous, but that's...
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I'm way too clingy.
I don't know how to stop myself. I chatter nearly constantly when bf is home, he says he doesn't mind, and comments on missing my chatter when I've been away, but still...it's sort of embarrassing. I expect a lot of attention from him, and I tend to talk very personally and seriously. He says the only thing that bothers him is when I am ranting in an upset way, because he feels like there's nothing he can do. He's usually pretty brutally honest, so even if this is all sugarcoated a bit and it's more like "I...
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>>17352867
So are you just bitching, or do you have a question?
>>17352959
Does anyone have any advice for becoming less clingy/needy when there is no external enforcement not to be?
>>17352969
yeah, don't.
He says he doesn't mind, why are you set on changing yourself?
Anyone else paranoid that no one actually likes you?
How do you get over yourself?
I try to be independent and get real sad every week or two. it's fine.
>>17352865
Isn't that just part of being human?
>>17352865
I just secretly resent anyone who's not immediately close to me and do what I want.
Everyone's got a good amount of superficiality to them, I don't blame them if they perceive me under a bad light, as I can be just as superficial. We're all idiots.
Moving on..
Person A really enjoys movie
Person B thinks movie is bad
>movie is bad by default because Person B thinks so
>Person B mocks/judges Person A for liking movie
>No person can like that movie possibly because it is "bad"
>Social situations become awkward because Person B mocks discussion of said movie, unknowing of who else likes it.
Ghostbusters?
>>17352845
Well person B is kind of a dick.
And person A probably has bad taste in movies.
Is this a hypothetical situation or do you really like Independence Day that much
>>17352847
haha, it's hypothetical, i'm personally not involved but theres been heated debates between a really good friend of mine and a lesser friend who is in the same friend group and Person B is the lesser friend and i was just wondering what his traits are
I have a hard time communicating and spit game to women when text messaging or chatting via facebook. I am ok in person but I am just plain boring when I text.
For example, met a cutie firefighter girl (I am one too) and she initiated conversation. We had a good time and she eventually added me on facebook. I tried to initiate a conversation with "Hey the girl with pretty eyes, how are you doing". She wrote "Hey there! I am doing great how about you". I just replied "I'm good too"...That's all. I don't know how to continue....
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>>17352841
>I'm good too.
Did you just leave it at that, you didn't think to ask her out?
>>17352841
Play to your strengths better, man. If you suck at texting, keep it in its place. Text conversations should typically be used solely for A. Building rapport and 2. Setting up dates (you can ask out via text but I personally find in person works better).
Literally just ask her out for beers or something. If it doesn't work then whatever move on, won't be the end of the world.
>>17352849
No I sent her some pictures of my bakery ( I work part-time there) and wrote "Are you hungry?" And she replied "Wow it looks great! I am actually eating dinner right now haha ;) " That's it.
>>17352855
The trouble is that she lives 300km away. We met at a competition between firefighters. I usually avoid these kind of women because they are cum dumpsters and attention seeking whores but she seems better than the others.
Has anyone ever left home and never talked to their parents again? Details please this is my wet dream
>>17352816
NEVER, no, but I did all but disappear for about ten years. I came to regret it. But then, I had no real reason to disappear; it just meant Doing Things, and it was a time in my life when I didn't Do Things.
But even though I had no good reason, the fact remains that good reasons can and do happen sometimes. You may well have good reasons, but I don't have the information to know that. So tell us about your parents. Are they abusive? Are they neglectful? What makes you want to banish them from your life?
>>17352816
I didn't completely cut them out of my life, but I have removed myself enough from their influence that I can control when I talk to them.
What kind of advice are you looking for? Moving out advice, or how to get ungrounded because you're underage
I've been moved out for over a year now and I've gotten to the point I only call my parents at most once every other month because I'm still on their health insurance or stuff gets mailed there and need info sometimes.
I'm hoping eventually to get off their health insurance and never need to talk to them but eh.
What's the best brand/food to eat while trying to get fit
>>17352810
I really like eggs and bacon.
You can really eat anything in moderation. Just keep an eye on your calories and it really doesn't matter at all what you eat.
>>17352810
eggs (nature's vitamin/protein pill), vegetables.
you aren't getting enough fibre, enough micros, enough protein, it's almost sure.
Here OP, this video will help you.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qux9-HOm6eg
Usually really critical of bad/stupid tattoos, made the appointment for my first and only tattoo 2 years in advance and flew 2000 miles to the artist.
Suddenly want a bad, stupid tattoo. Pic related. Considering getting someone who can make it look more like a natural birthmark but still clearly a star.
I'm turning into shit-tattoo garbage after fighting it so long. Weeby, bad design AND "lol but it's okay if it's ugly so long as it means something and I liek it"
Euthanize me. Or tell me how to get over this craving I've...
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>>17352807
Just do what you want. If you want a stupid fucking tattoo, then get it. If you're a bodybuilder and you're huge then any kind of tattoo is going to look fine as long as it's not really ridiculously stupid (OP is not ridiculously stupid).
It's all well and good if you're ripped like a Jojo character...but can you POSE like one?!
I'm face to toe in tattoos. I have well over 30. Some are fantastic, some are mediocre and only one I've had lasered, then covered up.
The truth is; it's just drawings and art. You'll like it no matter what if it's something you're attached to done by someone who cares for your idea (or is an excellent artist).
People from all walks of life get tattoos for all sorts of reasons. I can understand harsh criticism on myself from the public because I'm pretty shocking looking; but everyone has them nowadays and all sorts have had...
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Hello,
I'm planning to start university this year and I would like to get some input on picking the right course for me. Only thing I know for sure is that I'll be going into the STEM field because that's what interests me the most and I'm very good at. So far my favorite choice is Physics because I feel like it's a broad field allowing me to go a lot of different directions later on, it's very theoretical so it'll hopefully shape my thought process and problem solving skills but with some practical applications unlike studying mathematics...
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>>17352804
Major in Physics, teach yourself Python and C++ in the meantime. If you want to continue your education through a PhD, which is the only real way to get a job doing Physics, learning how to program beyond trival shit will help you greatly. If you find your interest isn't enough to sustain you another 6+ years, your coding experience will help springboard you into a development job. A Physics major will prove you're smart. The rest is creating a good portfolio.
>>17352946
sounds like a good plan thanks.
What would you like to do for the rest of your life? Is work THE meaning of life or a means to a life style? You don't want to invest 6+ years into a degree only to be stuck in a job and debt for more years. If you dream of discovering new theories then an advanced physics degree may be worth it. Chemistry and engineering are quick big bucks right out the door
Things are getting pretty crazy in America... should I buy a gun?
>>17352797
Unless you intend on trying to cause/partcipating in a revolution you should only buy it for self defense or as a hobby, in which case you should head on over to /k/ to get into guns.
It is a very fun hobby.
>>17352797
Depends on where you live man.
If you live in the city I would say yes almost definitely, at least for home defense. If you're out in the suburbs nothing is going to happen to you.
>>17352808
I live in Cleveland Ohio, the Republican National Convention is going to be here next week and its supposed to get crunk af...
Black Panthers are supposed to be bringing guns to their protest and all I have is a baseball bat at home.
I have a friend I work with who is the opposite sex. We worked together for 3+ years and tried to have a relationship but it didn't work out because I came to the realization I just wasn't into her and there were some other turn-offs that were just too much for me.
The thing is, I wanted us to stay friends and she seemed fine with that. Here's where the problem comes in. She keeps wanting to have sex and I end up saying sure. I told this to my other friend at work and she told me that I am leading her on by going along with it even though I have been upfront...
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don't sleep with someone just because you can;
A real friend would have reserve, dignity and security in himself to say no.
It's her fault for having sex with you after you've said this; but she's obviously only trying to convince you (and herself) there's something there.
Stop being a dickbag
>>17352794
I see no issues with casual sex.
Don't listen to your fuck buddy's friend, do what you want for you.
You told the girl you didn't want a relationship, and she said "okay but let's still fuck". You're doing nothing wrong.
>>17352799
>>17352800
This is 100% the problem because I see both of these sides of the argument being valid.
At the end of work today, I reflected on the entire situation and am leaning more towards the idea that I was in fact being an awful person but how exactly would I go about stopping? She messages me constantly and even when I tried to go cold turkey on the whole thing, she still asks about it. It's only amplified by the fact that we work together so...
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Boyfriend's acting indifferent all of a sudden. He says hes not tired of me, and he hasnt lost interest. Nor has he stopped loving me. But he doesn't seem to care too much about whether or not I'm here anymore. And he doesn't really react to my kisses or sweet gestures. He doesn't bother being sweet anymore.
what the fuck.
He sounds bored of you. Start being more assertive and be a lady with a backbone. Give him a run for his money, or he's going to find excitement somewhere else.
>>17352781
perhaps he is worried about something totally unrelated to you and preoccupied
Was it really sudden?
How long has it been going on?
What is/was your living situation?
Has something about you changed?
Either of you have career changes etc?
How long have you been together?
