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> dad thinks you're a virgin so he tells you to get an escort over the weekend when he and my mom go on vacation
I don't know, I'm really weirded out by it..He said a lot of them are clean but I don't want to get aids. the whole thing made me uncomfterble..advice?
....Dat grammar..
>>17355392
Is he paying for it? You could take the money and pretend to have fucked an escort and instead buy other stuff you want/need with it.
>>17355392
What the fuck kinda Dad...
The gym close to my place is a Jewish community center
If I become the leader with a team full of anti Jew names would that be considered a hate crime or anything??
>>17355390
I'm sure they'd snake a way to fuck you over for it
>>17355390
Just do it for the lolz.
>>17355394
This is what I'm saying is it possible at all?
It makes me so sad to see that so many people are actively thinking about suicide. Obviously everyone feels down and everyone has stuff to deal with, but so many people are at the end of their tether and it's really alarming. Let's band together and support eachother. Life doesn't have to be this hard, even finding one positive thing to focus on can completely change your life.
>>17355379
the truth is most of them arent actually contemplating suicide.
people live in a very extreme world, and unless someone is threatening to kill themselves, no one will take them seriously, or at the very least, these people dont THINK anyone will take them seriously.
you're not valid unless you are the biggest and best at what you are doing, even depression.
most people arent actually suicidal. they are sad.
>>17355386
The first part of your message may be true, but "you're not valid unless you are the biggest and best"? That is exactly the reason people continue to go to extremes. It isn't fair to say that, everyone is valid. People just need to stop ranking others on how sad or angry they are in comparison to someone else. Everyone who feels something is valid and should be acknowledged.
And although some people may just say they feel that way, they should still be treated how anyone else who actually is suicidal would be, because they still require guidance.
>>17355409
>thats exactly the reason people continue to go to extremes
>it isn't fair to say that
thats what im saying. when i say 'you're not valid...' i am referencing the mindset of others, not what i believe the reality is or should be.
Listen to my woes, /adv/. I'm retarded, autistic, and stupid. And I'll never be like those people with clean faces and non-oily skin. I'm fat, I mean I'm not overweight, but my belly is. I've started doing situps and pushups everyday, and yes, they've been improving me. But honestly I just don't know if it's worth it, because of what I am in the first place. Someone with inferior genes, a very cringy past, and overall not a good person. I've always thought about having kids, but I'm having second thoughts, now that I've thought about my inferiority. I'm not going to create somebody, inherit them my shit, and go through what I did. I'm thinking of ending the gene pool. Not reproducing. What do you think about this whole thing?
>>17355375
>>17355375
Do you have the ability to better yourself? To at least partially mend the parts of you that you feel are broken or distorted from what they should be?
>>17355375
if its that big an issue when the time comes, than adopt.
but ewre not that different. i had horible volcanic blistering acne well into adulthood. skin fucked up, five foot six, the most unfortunate hairline in the world, and definitely not fat, but yeah, its all centered on my fucking belly.
you can make yourself more attractive. there is something beautiful about those who work hard on themselves. not just in vain pursuits, but in all.
but adopting just cuz you have mildly bad issues is kinda dumb, yeh?
fix your body, fix your mind, and fix your soul.
Mainly, I want to fix my soul and body. It's not purely about looks. I thought about adopting, of course. But it doesn't feel the same, you know? To have an offspring of your own or to have something you call a child of yours.
Long time listener, first time caller. Here's the story:
I met a cute girl (solid 7.5, but a 10 to me) when I was 15, and we became fast friends. Whenever we met each other, both of our eyes lit up and we had lots of fun.
Over the course of the next two years, I fell madly in love with her. Never told her though because I noticed she only dates Chad and I was short and skinny.
One day she was telling me she had a "creepy" stalker (just like me!) and I barfed all over the floor due to embarrassment over being in exactly the same situation as the creepy dude. I then told her I loved her (vary vary romantic, I know). She of course did not reciprocate.
I fell into a deep depression; my attendance was so bad at school my senior year that I had to rely on SAT scores to get into a good college.
Literally for the next year after I tell this girl I love her, we text every night about how I want to kill myself and I can't live without her. She legitly tried to help, but the contact just made things worse. Then for the next two years I became more and more obsessive and she responded less and less until finally she told me not to talk to her again. We stopped talking.
For the next few years, I got into heavy self improvement, gained a bunch of muscle (I also grew a few inches since I was 15). Things were going fairly smoothly as I simply buried myself in engineering coursework.
But I never talked to women except as acquaintances or casual fuckbuddies. Never felt comfortable with a woman.
But now that I have time for reflection, the same extremely obsessive thoughts are crawling back into my mind and eroding my self-esteem. I try to divert my attention but all I can think of is this girl.
For those who are kind enough to respond, I'd like to leave this post open-ended. I simply haven't the slightest idea what to do. Should I give up on women altogether given my obsessive personality?
The only other options I can think of are trying to get together with this girl again now that I'm better looking and financially successful (maybe that's crazy) or seeking therapy
>>17355350
I'd seek therapy man. Sounds like you still have some self esteem issues. I used to have the same, sounds to me like you're not happy with yourself. Could this be the case or am I way out of the ball park?
>>17355358
Thank you for the response.
Yes I believe I may have problems with self-esteem; I constantly try to "assert my dominance" with other guys (it sounds so stupid I know) and I think it just comes off as douchey. And as stated in the post, I can't really form a relationship with a woman.
If you don't mind my asking, what did you do to overcome your self-esteem issues? Did therapy help?
Okay /adv/ it's my fathers birthday this weekend, and he wants to go camping which is fine and all, but some family friends are coming with us. Here's the problem, their daughter is really fucking hot, and I've always wanted to fuck her. But we've known these friends for like 15 years. And I got really close to fucking her a couple months ago when we were both high. inb4 dude weed. But anyways /adv/ what do I do?
tl;dr: I want to fuck a family friend, but it might fuck things up between both families. What do?
>>17355333
dont fuck her
>>17355333
Why would it fuck this up between your families, Romeo?
>>17355342
*things
>story of "asshole" and "chad" and beta me
>asshole and chad hate each other
>be friends with asshole first, but he'll only talk shit about chad all the fucking time
>i go with it for a while because i'm a beta pussy and i was desperate for friends
>also was jealous of chad, so i said some pretty nasty stuff myself
>later realize asshole is a shitty friend
>finally get to know chad and turns out he's pretty cool
>but i also find out much later that chad has anger issues; personally witnessed chad's violence over dumb shit
>suck up to chad because i don't want my ass kicked
>now chad thinks i'm his best friend
>trying to phase out from asshole since i've met chad, but asshole won't quit
>kept up our shit talk because i didn't want asshole to think anything really changed except that i got busier
>scared that asshole will find out i'm friends with chad and show him our fb convo
>chad will murder me if he sees this
>BUT, i can talk my way out of this if asshole doesn't have the evidence
i need a way to get rid of this convo from asshole's facebook account. i'm doing this on friday when asshole gets off from work. my plan is basically go to asshole's place to buy him a pizza and drinks and either
>a.) ask to use his computer to order the pizza and try to get him in another room like asking for a drink
>b.) ask to use his phone for a private call and delete convo from there
>c.) make an excuse to use his computer for last-minute "work", and use a USB hack or download some keylogger onto his computer under a different file name and let it run in the bg while i do bullshit tasks
any other suggestions or possible flaws in my plan??
i'm so desperate, this is what i fucking get for trying to be a normie...
you're unbelievably pathetic
anyway just get asshole drunk or whatever and delete the fb convo
>>17355339
i know i'm pathetic, i'll also probably never make friends again.
asshole won't likely want to drink unless there's a party happening or something. i'll consider it though.
>>17355326
>i'm a beta pussy
Boy do you have that right.
>any flaws in my plan?
Yeah, this:
>ask to use his phone for a private call
>make an excuse to use his computer
It's not gonna work. Has he lent you these things before? If I were him I know I certainly wouldn't lend your fake ass my phone or computer, let alone both in the same night. Doesn't matter if you think he thinks you're legit: he's probably not that dumb and if he seems that way he could be playing the same game as you and not letting on that he knows you're a jerk.
Why not try talking to him about at least a little of this? If you tell him you're worried chad will find out about your shittalk and cause you physical harm, maybe he'll sympathize a little and you could ask him to delete it himself. You don't have to let on too much that you suspect him of fucking you over- you could just suggest you're worried he'll get "hacked" or some other nonsense. If you can be as pathetic with him as you were here just now it might be hard for him not to pity you.
And if chad really is a cool guy and really does think you're his best friend, maybe you can ease him into the idea that there was a time you didn't realize he was cool and you might have said some shit you now regret.
Be gentle and tactful with this, but get your act together and start learning how to communicate honestly with the people you associate with. You can still nip this thing in the bud but if you keep going with deception and cover ups it's gonna get even worse and shit will go down that's worse than chad seeing that convo and bite you in the ass.
I just wanna cry, but tears just won't come out
>>17355325
just tell me the story anon
>>17355336
Thats the funny part, because there is no story at all...
Good night
>>17355340
i feel ya. night man.
ls it possible to start a boxing career if l'm 20 and have an average, not athletic body type? l'm not fat nor skinny, just not athletic.
Also, is it worth it?
>>17355304
Its possible but you realistically have to dedicate your life to it. Diet, training, amatuer fights, sparring, everyday.
>>17355314
this. why not settle for boxing as a life style but not as a career. my boyfriend does that with various martial arts. hes pretty good, wins the majority of his fights, but he does it all for fun
>>17355314
Not true. Look at tyson fury.
Op, if you wanna box, then box. But only if you like the whole package and enjoy the tough times. If you try to push yourself through when you dont genuinly enjoy it, you will eventually hit the wall.
And remember: the first 1-2-3 years youre gonna get alot of beating
You dont neccecarily need an athletic body
How does an out of college, new to the area guy find quality drugs?
I can't ask my coworkers, none of whom probably do anything that I'm looking for.
Craigslist
Ask a black person.
>>17355258
But, cops...
>>17355260
I did! He was even a jacked, tattooed felon! He tried to sell me weak meth disguised as coke. I test my stuff, so I let him know what he was actually selling.
He was an unhappy black man for a few minutes but then refunded my money and thanked me. We're still actually pretty tight.
So I made a cool friend but still... no drugs.
What can I do to get rid of these or make them appear less bushy and huge?
I'm Slavic, so hairiness is a part of me. I've accepted it, but this shit bugs me.
Yeah I know, some girls like bushy eyebrows but I would feel much more comfortable about myself if I got them thinner.
I don't want to get my eyebrows done, because I'm broke, and I'm worried they'll look done. Like you could tell if someone had their eyebrows threaded if you looked at them.
So what can I do?
Trim with small scissors
>>17355293
Bad idea unless you are a professional...you could get do brazillian on your bushy eye brows.
>>17355243
I use one of those electric trimmer things. My one has detachable heads so I can select the length. Takes 5 seconds to trim my bushy brows - which are bushier than yours
I met this girl on Monday, a mutual friend introduced us and we went for coffee and what not. I really liked her and I added her on fb and we've been talking since. The thing is, I'd like to invite her on a date or something like that, but I'm not sure how to do it.
I had thought of something like "hey, I really enjoyed that last time, would you like to hang out X day?" but I'm not sure that'll do it.
Any tips? I'm not very good dealing with women/people in general
I am heading t "insert location for a date" you should come. Don't ask her to come, tell her to come and if she says no, then move on.
"I enjoyed going out for coffee, can I take you out to dinner some time?"
>>17355240
As a girl, I don't understand this approach. What if I happen to be busy that day, for example? Also the "you should come" part doesn't make it sound like a date at all, that's the sort of thing I'd expect to hear from a friend asking me if I want to come along to something they're going to. It's not datey at all
Any poorfags on here? why are you poor. Why not work hard and get wealthy? Are you just lazy or what?
I was born into poverty. Most of the time I never had food in the house. Now I am working and I am successful, I learned that in order to get nice things and be successful I need to work my ass off.
>>17355236
I am poor, my parents are upper middle class. Dad was too hard on me, mom was too soft. They split up and naturally I went with mom. She enables me and now it's been 3 years since I worked at my first and only shitty retail position.
At 26 and NEET, I doubt I'm meant for much in this world.
>>17355269
how about you work harder
is it worth it to move on politely, especially if i suspect i'm just being used?
my ex just got engaged to her ex before me, whom she was with for a number of years before me, and i'm pretty she was cheating on me with him while we together.
we are still friends for whatever reason, probably because i'm a fucking idiot, and i want to move on, because more and more i get the feeling the friendship isn't genuine and she is just using me, above and beyond the fact that a lot of the times we are together, she has a really shitty attitude and treats me like shit, while i still continue to bend over backwards to try and help her (again, fucking idiot). despite what she is doing to my mental, physical, and economic state.
should i be polite and try end the friendship on good terms and move on?
Just drop her. Don't even say anything. Stop hanging out with her. If she calls ignore it.
>>17355220
ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ
What is there to end? You'e a doormat. You know it. You don't do anything about it.
Now you ask me, "Should I do something about it?"
What use is there in saying yes if you won't fucking do it? You're being very selfish right now. Don't ask questions you know the answers to already but are just too (insert whatever reason here) to do anything about.
>>17355266
yes, it's not as much asking what i should do, but more getting someone to slap me and tell me to do it.
i know what needs to be done, i just need to gather up testicular fortitude and do it.
I've been seeing this girl now for a few months now and we've official been in a relationship for the past 5 or so weeks. So far she's given me head but almost everytime she does we stop before I end up cumming because of one reason or another, she's become more comfortable with it now but she won't let me cum in her mouth and I can't imagine her finishing me off with her hands. We're both virgins so I'm okay with not rushing into sex but I just feel like it's never going to happen with her. She's literally never allowed me to touch her vagina, she always stops me when I get too close. She says that she's never ever masturbated so idk how she's ever going to be comfortable with me if she's not even used to touching herself. I don't really know what to do. Sex wasn't really much of a factor before I got with her but I'm a sexual being and don't think I can be in a relationship without being satisfied sexually. I'm still regularly watching porn which I feel quite guilty about because it leads to me fantasising about other girls since my girlfriend isn't giving me anything. Talking to her about it is quite difficult too because although I can talk forever and say exactly how I feel, getting her to say even one word is a mission. It's the most frustrating thing ever. In starting to wonder if she's interested in sex at all. Other than this I really like her. She can sometimes be a bit closed off which is quite frustrating but I work through it because I know what she's actually like. Does it sound like this relationship will be able to last?
>>17355174
Are you both 14 or something.
OP, you will never know if you don't ask her about her opinion about sex life in your relation, communication is the key to success in a relationship (also good sex); the thing here is if you are uncomfortable with the fact that you don't have sex, then you will not be happy.
Talk with her about your sexual urges.
>>17355174
Take her out for a romantic evening, then come home, chill out for a bit, set up some candles, and tell her you'd like to take her places she's never been before. Ask her if she trusts you, and slowly start kissing her, all the way down her neck, really get her going before trying slowly and carefully to touch her.
Sometimes you just gotta set a mood. Asking her if she's interested is one thing, cause she can easily keep herself guarded and say no, but if you show her that you're there for her and that her body wants it, you're sweet. Actions speak louder than words me friend, show her that you want her, and that she wants you.
