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> dad thinks you're a virgin so he tells you to get an escort over the weekend when he and my mom go on vacation
I don't know, I'm really weirded out by it..He said a lot of them are clean but I don't want to get aids. the whole thing made me uncomfterble..advice?
....Dat grammar..
>>17355392
Is he paying for it? You could take the money and pretend to have fucked an escort and instead buy other stuff you want/need with it.
>>17355392
What the fuck kinda Dad...
The gym close to my place is a Jewish community center
If I become the leader with a team full of anti Jew names would that be considered a hate crime or anything??
>>17355390
I'm sure they'd snake a way to fuck you over for it
>>17355390
Just do it for the lolz.
>>17355394
This is what I'm saying is it possible at all?
It makes me so sad to see that so many people are actively thinking about suicide. Obviously everyone feels down and everyone has stuff to deal with, but so many people are at the end of their tether and it's really alarming. Let's band together and support eachother. Life doesn't have to be this hard, even finding one positive thing to focus on can completely change your life.
>>17355379
the truth is most of them arent actually contemplating suicide.
people live in a very extreme world, and unless someone is threatening to kill themselves, no one will take them seriously, or at the very least, these people dont THINK anyone will take them seriously.
you're not valid unless you are the biggest and best at what you are doing, even depression.
most people arent actually suicidal. they are sad.
>>17355386
The first part of your message may be true, but "you're not valid unless you are the biggest and best"? That is exactly the reason people continue to go to extremes. It isn't fair to say that, everyone is valid. People just need to stop ranking others on how sad or angry they are in comparison to someone else. Everyone who feels something is valid and should be acknowledged.
And although some people may just say they feel that way, they should still be treated how anyone else who actually...
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>>17355409
>thats exactly the reason people continue to go to extremes
>it isn't fair to say that
thats what im saying. when i say 'you're not valid...' i am referencing the mindset of others, not what i believe the reality is or should be.
Listen to my woes, /adv/. I'm retarded, autistic, and stupid. And I'll never be like those people with clean faces and non-oily skin. I'm fat, I mean I'm not overweight, but my belly is. I've started doing situps and pushups everyday, and yes, they've been improving me. But honestly I just don't know if it's worth it, because of what I am in the first place. Someone with inferior genes, a very cringy past, and overall not a good person. I've always thought about having kids, but I'm having second thoughts, now that I've...
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>>17355375
>>17355375
Do you have the ability to better yourself? To at least partially mend the parts of you that you feel are broken or distorted from what they should be?
>>17355375
if its that big an issue when the time comes, than adopt.
but ewre not that different. i had horible volcanic blistering acne well into adulthood. skin fucked up, five foot six, the most unfortunate hairline in the world, and definitely not fat, but yeah, its all centered on my fucking belly.
you can make yourself more attractive. there is something beautiful about those who work hard on themselves. not just in vain pursuits, but in all.
but adopting just cuz you have mildly bad issues is...
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Mainly, I want to fix my soul and body. It's not purely about looks. I thought about adopting, of course. But it doesn't feel the same, you know? To have an offspring of your own or to have something you call a child of yours.
Long time listener, first time caller. Here's the story:
I met a cute girl (solid 7.5, but a 10 to me) when I was 15, and we became fast friends. Whenever we met each other, both of our eyes lit up and we had lots of fun.
Over the course of the next two years, I fell madly in love with her. Never told her though because I noticed she only dates Chad and I was short and skinny.
One day she was telling me she had a "creepy" stalker (just like me!) and I barfed all over the floor due to embarrassment over being in exactly the same situation as the creepy dude. I then told her I loved her (vary vary romantic, I know). She of course did not reciprocate.
I fell into a deep depression; my attendance was so bad at school my senior year that I had to rely on SAT scores to get into a good college.
Literally for the next year after I tell this girl I love her, we text every night about how I want to kill myself and I can't live without her. She legitly tried to help, but the contact just made things worse. Then for the next two years I became more and more obsessive and she responded less and less until finally she told me not to talk to her again. We stopped talking.
For the next few years, I got into heavy self improvement, gained a bunch of muscle (I also grew a few inches since I was 15). Things were going fairly smoothly as I simply buried myself in engineering coursework.
But I never talked to women except as acquaintances or casual fuckbuddies. Never felt comfortable with a woman.
But now that I have time for reflection, the same extremely obsessive thoughts are crawling back into my mind and eroding my self-esteem. I try to divert my attention but all I can think of is this girl.
For those who are kind enough to respond, I'd like to leave this post open-ended. I simply haven't the slightest idea what to do. Should I give up on women altogether given my obsessive personality?
The only other options I can think of are trying to get together with this girl again now that I'm better looking and financially successful (maybe that's crazy) or seeking therapy
>>17355350
I'd seek therapy man. Sounds like you still have some self esteem issues. I used to have the same, sounds to me like you're not happy with yourself. Could this be the case or am I way out of the ball park?
>>17355358
Thank you for the response.
Yes I believe I may have problems with self-esteem; I constantly try to "assert my dominance" with other guys (it sounds so stupid I know) and I think it just comes off as douchey. And as stated in the post, I can't really form a relationship with a woman.
If you don't mind my asking, what did you do to overcome your self-esteem issues? Did therapy help?
Okay /adv/ it's my fathers birthday this weekend, and he wants to go camping which is fine and all, but some family friends are coming with us. Here's the problem, their daughter is really fucking hot, and I've always wanted to fuck her. But we've known these friends for like 15 years. And I got really close to fucking her a couple months ago when we were both high. inb4 dude weed. But anyways /adv/ what do I do?
tl;dr: I want to fuck a family friend, but it might fuck things up between both families. What do?
>>17355333
dont fuck her
>>17355333
Why would it fuck this up between your families, Romeo?
>>17355342
*things
