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So I've recently started going out with a friend, and she revealed fairly nonchalantly that she suffers from a variety of minor physical ailments, as well as clinical depression. She's currently undergoing some medication changes with her doctor, and regularly sees a psych every week.
She's a fun-loving and genuinely friendly person to be around, but she brings up her depression a lot in a joking way and is generally pretty self-deprecating in her humour. There are times when she'll make a joke, and I'm not sure how to react because I'm worried...
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I'm depressed and I can tell you that it's not very fun for my boyfriend or me. We seen to be in a similar situation, except that the roles are switched. The best you can do here is to continue to be supportive and tell her that If she's feeling down or needs someone to talk to that you'll be there for her. You can't really do more than that, unfortunately, but it might help her alot.
>>17355858
Treat her the same and just be available should she find herself at a particularly low point during the day
She's receiving treatment and seems to have insight into her depression, so let that run its course
>I feel somewhat responsible for her happiness
This is probably a bigger issue for you right now. Stop thinking about it this way
>>17355866
>Stop thinking about it this way
You're right, it's not healthy. I suppose it's more of a reaction to seeing her vulnerable or hurt. Like an instinctual need to make her happy.
How can you tell the differences of someone disliking you / disliking talking to you, not being very talkative, or legitimately feeling untalkative?
Not really being able to tell triggers my paranoia.
Austism / asperbergers
You need a therapist, kinda like a body language etc coach
It's all about context, but sometimes you can just try asking them. There are people out there that think it's too rude to outright say they just don't like you or just don't want to talk, but will jump at the chance to admit it if asked directly because they actually really want you to know the truth.
>>17355771
I'm sorry, I should have mentioned it's more through textual communication (chats, etc.)
/Int/ was useless.
My friend, t, went to teach English is Dalian, China, A city close to North Korea. He sent our group chat that he's coming home immediately. A friend he was talking to said that he was either being threatened by locals or by authorities, which he seems to suspect the latter. He's mentioned a few times hanging out with hoodlum types to me though, so it's tough which is true.
what further suspects me of it being locals was that he was talking to a different girl who already had a boyfriend but would have made her guy and the new...
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>>17355760
Sir, I recommend you purchase a tin foil hat and to stop being so fucking weird.
I'm sorry but what?
>>17355760
If he's "coming home immediately" why not wait and ask him?
Is it weird to jack off to Facebook photos of your teachers?
YES ANON VERY WEIRD. Be a normal guy and jack off to porn wtf
Yes, but there's not really any harm in it. It's just a better alternative to jacking off thinking about them.
>>17355693
If thst were me teacher, I might be tempted too.
tell me, doctor my close one has swollen feet, low iron as he didn't eat meat for 1 year or very seldom.
Doctors don't come here and if someone here says they are a doctor they may be lying. Go see a real doctor.
doctors do come here.
>>17355585
I am a doctor and you have aids
did 4chan fuck me up or did i always have these fucked up thoughts of apathy and despair?
Depends where you lurk, some threads definitely will fuck you up in ways life wouldn't have.
You were already fucked up, staying here and wallowing in it isn't helping and is slowly making it worse
It's more you than anything else.
You are the one seeking out those threads, arent you?
I know what you mean, but it's up to the individual person how someone is affected by the "negativity" around this place.
Is it a productive use of time to argue with others online about politics?
Why or why not?
Arguing with other people can help you hone your own ideas, open you up to new perspectives and lead you in logical directions you never considered before. It's called the dialectic.
It's worthwhile doing it because it changes you.
>>17355513
There's no way possible that talking about politics or religion could lead to something good.
Sometimes. If there's a healthy back and forth it encourages new ideas and helps you argue existing ones better. On 4chan specifically? That's rather rare in my experience, and I tend to just ignore it.
>>17355525
Only true if people treat criticism of their ideas as attacks on their character.
What's the best one/ones you've ever read? Like the one that actually had a huge influence and helped to change your life for the better? Bonus points for emotional trauma stuff (I'm in serious need)
That thread about the dude who's wife dies after giving birth and his daughter has the same big blue eyes she had. I had the screen shot but lost is. Gets me every time.
>>17355528
That's hella sad broe, not gonna lie
>>17355533
The pics make it so bad, the wife's git these big blue bug eyes then you see the daughters pic next to it heart breaking I'll go ask /b/ if anyones got it
I'm honestly at the end of my rope here, so I guess I may as well try asking here.
A few years ago, I decided to get my shit together and stop being a NEET leeching off my parents. Unfortunately, I had no idea what to do, but I figured getting my GED would be a good start, so I took the test and passed it without too much trouble. It just so happened that the place I took my GED test at was a nearby vocational school, and desperate to get my shit together, I entered. It wasn't exactly what I wanted to do, but I decided it was better than sitting on my ass all...
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>>17355494
You are not completely fucked up because you are still living and you have where to go to sleep; Keep looking to a job, don't lose your way.
Maybe you want to do some extra cash, try getting some in the net.
I agree with the other guy. "Your impending sense of doom is nothing but emotional residue - there is nothing wrong. Even when something is wrong. nothing is wrong. You deal with problems as they arise, no big deal."
Keep going OP, look for a job while working. If you can't do that just keep going you'll see a purpose or opportunity soon.
>>17355537
>>17355558
I suppose. I dunno, I feel like I've been trying so hard to pull myself out of the stagnation I've been living under for so long, but I have nothing to really show for it.
I don't have any delusions about my situation, though.. I know this is all just the result of all the poor decisions I've made. But I just feel so hopeless all the time.
So I saw some compromising texts on my boyfriends phone and asked him to help me understand as I didn't want to jump to conclusions. He was able to douse any doubts I had but now he's mad that I would even think of him cheating on me and yeah he has a point there's no way he could even if he wanted (he's basically with me 24/7) and now I feel like shit. What can I do to regain his confidence in me? We haven't spoken in 10 minutes since then.. to be fair once I did catch him sending an almost nude (he would've continued had I not stepped in so he...
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>sends nudes to other people
He doesn't really love you.
>>17355464
Have you ever made a mistake, anon? We already had that fight and I thought we were over it until he was acting strange today but it was literally my imagination
How could you possibly feel better just because he sent an underwear bulge shot?
Why would he act so defensively after you've clearly caught him other times attempting to send nudes to others? He's guilty.
