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Would it be that bad to eat shrooms on accutane?
>>17357305
im not sure of any cross reactions. dont the shrooms effect your kidneys / liver?
>>17357305
ayyy
im on the same boat here senpai on my third month
and no
im pretty sure you'll be good
i mean of course depending on the mushroom you intake, but i dont think most psychoactive nor organic ingredients interfere with the treatment
i think the only risk generally comes from shit that takes a toll on ur liver (eg. alcohol) but even then, doing it once wouldn't hurt
>>17357326
I took it but only for two months. thankfully i didnt need any more than that.
Quick question
I'm talking to a girl but there doesn't seem to be anything to talk about.
Our messages so far are
>hey whats up
not a lot wbu??
>im great hows summer
good thanks you??
she just isn't giving me any information that I can base a conversation off.
I need a question that's going to get her to open up and fucking talk.
H E L P
>>17357301
you arent either.
she asked the same question and instead of volunteering anything you said 'not a lot'.
you are both just giving non responses and expecting the other to open up for you.
my general conversation, wherein lets say that green text is the person im messaging
whats up?
>not much, you?
just got off work, gotta go to the gym, then a relaxing night of editing ahead of me. What you got going on today?
see how that works?...
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>>17357301
But you're also not giving her any information to reply to.
>>17357316
>just got off work, gotta go to the gym, then a relaxing night of editing ahead of me. What you got going on today?
I sent her this sentence just to see what I'm missing out on
her response is
>Been to the gym now just relaxing :)
I mean what the fuck am I supposed to do with that. Why do women give you their fucking numbers if they're just going to dismiss you the second you try to wedge yourself through...
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What are some effect ways of self improvement?
After high school ended ive been a NEET that smokes dope alot and smoke half a pack of cigarettes a day accomplishing very little.
I can I get that drive to get shit done like finding a job or cleaning my room or not smoking dope or smoking less cigarettes a day
My life it literally heading in the wrong direction and everything time I try to change I eventually just revert back to my old ways
words of advice?
sorry for stupid english
Russian fag that was drinking at dinner with my mom here
>>17357284
i mean as a person that also wants to get their shit on track
i think the only real option is pretty simple
u stop thinking about it, planning it etc and just
go and do it
answer is
you dont REALLY want to step out of ur comfort zone and change
you just know that you should change and you feel bad about being the way you are
but LOGICALLY
if your life is heading into the ditch and you know this and WANT change, you will change
but you don't REALLY want to
because staying in ur...
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>>17357284
'get an accountabilibuddy.
someone who is also on the road of self improvement that helps hold you accountable.
get together and make lists. long term, mid term, short term goals. create monthly lists on how to advance those. meet twice a month to simply cross things off the list and reward yourselves for good work.
How do you stop feeling insecure about something you can't change, but have always been raised to feel bad about?
I'm transgender, female-to-male. My family has always loved and supported me, but my dad was not only deeply against anything stereotypically manly (esp. sports and the military), but somewhat of an emotionally absent drunk. When I came out to him, he just politely disagreed and we never talked about it again. My mom and sister keep making negative remarks about virtually anything related to men, masculinity or aspects of manhood. I worry they're going to turn against me once I start hormones and d might actually LOOK male some day. They have nothing against trans or gay people, and they absolutely support me in it, they just don't really grasp that all this #masculinitysofragile shit hurts me, too.
I don't think it's a matter directly related to whatever makes people trans (inb4 trannies are crazy by default), I'd eat a hat full of shit if I'd be completely sane and comfortable with my identity had I been born male and raised like this.
How does one gain confidence in an insecurity that is not universally aknowledged or given support?
According to the patterns I've been taught, I should be picking up some sad mop with no self-esteem for a wife, who'll do all the work for me in hopes of gaining any worth and value for herself. This is unacceptable and shitty.
A sane, reasonable solution would be to go to a psychiatrist, but I am yet to convince a psychiatrist that I am actually male, and can't afford to give him anything sparkly as a distraction.
I don't really believe my family considers any of their remarks actively harmful, they just don't realise it's easy to put two and two together and understand the joint message going "we understand and accept your choice to become a stupid evil destructive inherently narcissistic ape".
I believe it's their doing that I'm afraid of going into explicitly masculine or exclusively male spaces, out of fear that they'll smell something's off and tear me to fucking shreds and eat the remaining pieces that they can't fuck.
Stop posting. Take it to /lgbt/, we can see through the bullshit here.
I'm in a relationship with a girl whom I love. A few weeks into our relationship her mother died tragically. My gf fell apart. I let her move in with me to help her out. She lost her job cause they were assholes and didn't want to give her time to collect herself and miss a few days.
It's been 4 months now and it's just getting worse. I feel like an asshole cause I'm starting to get selfish thoughts about it. I own my own business and work usually round 80 hours a week, it's in its early stages so I really have to grind.
I want to come home, unwind, play with my dog, play some vidya, or go out with her. But now all she ever wants to do is cry in bed and hold me. I expected that much when this first started, but now it's just becoming almost like a chore. I have a crazy long day at work, come home and very rarely get to enjoy my little bit of off time.
I have borderline personality disorder so I lack a lot of empathy and I almost just want to tell her to suck it up now. We kind of got into a fight the other day cause I made plans for us for when I got off, wanted to do something romantic. She refused to leave the bed and just cried. I don't know what to do.
All she does is cry and do nothing. Before this happened she was the most amazing woman I've ever met. She let me do whatever I wanted and if I was playing video games or something she'd get all sexual and pleasure me as I played. Just always was doing something for me.
Now she just does nothing. I understand that it sucks to lose your parent, but it happens to everyone. It's inevitable. We all eventually will lose our parents unless we die first.
What should I do? I love her so much but I can't help her. She's only getting worse and I fear that amazing girl I knew before is just gone. It stresses me out so much cause I constantly worry about her hurting herself or something.
What should I do /adv/?
>>17357273
>mother dies
>thinks she'll be fine 4 months later
it depends on the person but idk man thats normal for her to go ape shit over
its widely accepted for her to get depressed and be emotionally disrupt, but the problem lies in the fact that sometimes people take it too far, grief is acceptable, but this is taking it a bit too far.
Now you need to conclude if she has
A) lost her mind
B) taking this shit too far and going full self-pity oo boo hoo :-((( (this is fine for a certain period of time, but not when it gets to a point where u neglect your partner because of it and get basically selfish)
>>17357273
YOu should become a better person. She isn't doing anything wrong at all. Good grief. It took me over a year to stop acting depressed when my mom died whe I was a child. Then for years I'd still cry at the mention Of a mother. It's normal. You need to seriously learn to be a nicer person.
Now what I say might be long shot, so feel free to dump it all in the trash but my guess is...
she had some serious fucked relationship with her mother. She might had narcistic mother, what indicates that beside her long mourning? This:
>Before this happened she was the most amazing woman I've ever met. She let me do whatever I wanted and if I was playing video games or something she'd get all sexual and pleasure me as I played. Just always was doing something for me.
She was doing everything to make you feel happy with...
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I'm poor as fuck and my bathtub is starting to look disgusting, what do I clean it with? There's yellow watery residue on the sides and there's a bunch of gross looking brown shit under the faucet. What the hell do I clean it with bleach?
I'd be inclined to see if white vinegar works before trying bleach.
Resist the urge to use steel wool. It will indeed get rid of the stuff, but it'll scratch the hell out of the tub, and that's not just an aesthetic problem. Mold and mildew and crap thrive in those small scratches, and so the problem will actually come back faster and worse than before.
>>17357266
Baking soda. You need a soft abrasive to scrub that shit off with
>>17357266
Baking soda or salt and a scrub brush.
/adv/, i'm a 19 y/o girl and a virgin. i've tried twice in the past to have sex but both times the guy had difficulty fitting inside and it was extremely painful for me and so we had to stop trying. the second time i thought i would be able to push through the pain but i started to cry because it hurt so bad. i don't know what to do. maybe i wasn't turned on enough (i have a low sex drive which is another problem in itself), or maybe it's because i'm too tight (i have very narrow hips). either way it's frustrating and embarrassing and my boyfriend is unhappy without being able to have sex (his sex drive is much higher than mine). is there something wrong with me? or is there something i can do to make this easier? even when my boyfriend fingers me i feel uncomfortable because it is slightly painful. also i have never used tampons, never tried to insert anything in there while masturbating, so maybe that's a factor...
if anyone could offer advice or share similar experiences it'd be greatly appreciated. thx.
>>17357252
Try anal
lube it.
>>17357252
What is your height and weight?
Its important to relax. And by relax i dont mean you think about being relaxed, no you stop being tense, you stop thinking about it not fitting and you actually loosen up. Make the foreplay very long, use lube, use the right position (doggy maybe?) and again, get relaxed, when everything down there is tight it will not work, especially for your first time
Is it ok for me to donate blood right after a workout or right before a workout or am I gonna kill myself? I can make it my cardio day?
i dunno i think they give you a cookie or something so you don't have low blood sugar but i would ask them.
It isn't advised. It probably won't kill you but you won't feel very energetic
>>17357217
Blood carries oxygen to the muscles. You donate blood, your ability to move oxygen to the muscles will be diminished.
For high intensity, short bursts (anaerobic exercise), your muscles will still have their strength, but the ability to perform the regular amount of reps will probably be lessened.
As far as cardio goes, that's an aerobic exercise, so your ability to run distances will be shot, and you might pass out if you push yourself too hard.
I'm not a doctor, I just took a bio class....
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Here's a list of things I find wrong with her:
1. Shitty responses most of the time. I try to spark more interesting replies but it doesn't work
2. You can't get anywhere with her
3. You can't get anything from her
4. Randomly stops replying despite saying "talk to me more :^("
5. Never replies later
6.Tosses the convo over to me in every situation
7. Shortest replies in the universe
8. Is vehement with her beliefs against you despite what you tell her
She can be quite a nice chat sometimes and I can get past...
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Don't go for it. Not worth it OP
>>17357169
Devalue her. Make her feel like shit. Bitch might come around that she needs to use her pussy to come up to your level. Always see her as a side option
>go on OKCupid
>see cute asian girl from my local gym on there
>her profile says she likes white guys, single, laid back and likes girls too
>i've checked her out before and have seen her looking in my direction in my peripheral vision
Should I hit on her? Should I use the info on her profile to do so?
Pic not her.
Yes you definitely should. Don't like her on OKCupid though, talk to her in person. You are much more likely to get in her pants if you approach her directly
Tell her you love her long time
>>17357175
This so much. Use okc to probe info, but real life to talk. While bitches wouldnt hesitate to skip you online will give you the time of day online for having the nuts to approach her. Plus, its on the spot instead of giving her time to think. Irl is just better
So alright I'm pretty fucked up on pills rn but try and follow this, yeah?
I'm gonna open by admitting something I haven't to most people. I'm into girls, and guys. Hell I'd fuck a tranny if I had the chance. I've almost kissed as many guys as I have girls (4 girls 3 guys)
I'm still a virgin though. No penetration at any point.
Anyway, why I'm here, okay? Why I'm here is I don't know what to do with myself. I'm probably gonna be on disability soon seeing as I've been in psychosis for a few weeks...
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get off the drugs and get help. dont start looking for love before you at least start getting treatment.
nobody wants to fuck a degenerate.
after you get mentally stable work on getting your life in order.
>after your well put together getting dick and pussy is super easy
>>17357159
I'm kinda getting help. I mean I'm on medication for the insanity and I'm kinda in treatment for everything else.
I'm going to quit the drugs soon. I already quit heroin a few weeks ago, and that was a 7 year addiction.
as far as getting my life in order
I'm bipolar 1 with serious psychosis on the side. I've been described as schizoaffective before but I don't think that was a serious diagnonsense. Anyway, I'm literally crippled by my mind a lot of...
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>>17357180
its not going to be easy, just hold off on relationships until youre stable because its just going to exacerbate your mental state and cause unnecessary and even ruin potential hook ups.
first
>join support groups
then
>go back to school or get a job
you gotta get used to being part of mainstream society and functioning well in room with other people and responding well to social interaction,
youll have to be patient
What's this red thing on my arm? It's been there for years, it doesn't hurt, but it's starting to creep people out.
Herpes
It's a lovely lady lump.
How about going to a dermatologist?
It could be serious.
>at random college party
>lots of people there
>start chatting with random girl
>we dance
>we make out
>go to her apartment
>start having sex
>coming closer and closer to climax
>suddenly she freaks the fuck out like she's possessed
>starts biting and scratching...
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Oh shit
Well she as she became sober and she felt overcamed with sex, she regreted decision to hook up and one night stand. She saw you as a agressor and did explosive retarded thing.
Now the thing is, if she feel like she has been raped (I know that's retarded) and she might pursue legal actions. Since you go to same college and I guess it would be easy to find you, you should buy her something a little present and go to her.
Now, it's not (NOT) relationship advice. It's advice of how best to avoid being called rapist (it might not happen, I don't...
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>>17357163
Well, chances are she is just normal girl, that was little overwhelmed by alcohol and sex with stranger. That can happen. You will see it in person. Might be, you will want to her to be your girlfriend. Even if it's short term, make sure, you have some evidence, whole relationship was consensual.
If she is batshit crazy kind, you need as many people on your side as you can. Dates with her, might make her think that you are in relationship and "defuse" her "rapey" accusations but you...
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How can I learn to love myself, /adv/? I don't think I necessarily hate myself, but often I will talk and think in self-derision. Many times I break promises I made with myself, and think it's only natural, since I'm a bad person.
I don't have any motivation to do things that align with my values, but conclude that this makes sense -- after all, I'm a lazy piece of shit. I can't trust myself when making an important decision, because I have no confidence in myself -- thus, I succumb to the fear of being responsible for my actions.
If...
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>>17357102
lets start here. you say it sounds delusional but go ahead and list things about yourself that you do like, as well as a few accomplishments you are happy about.
>>17357102
you gotta remember that numero uno is the only fucker that matters in this world. start carrying around a knife and stab any dickhead who tells you otherwise
>>17357116
Uhh.. I'm good at FPS video games. I'm not particularly stupid. I think of cool ideas sometimes. I.. like my own opinion on a lot of things?
As for accomplishments... I finished high school. I "hacked" a website before. I did something I feared recently even though I was 99% sure I would back down.
That's about all I can think of for now.
>>17357119
What do you mean? Are you saying I should focus on becoming number...
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My gf has been talking to another guy online for the past few weeks but has yet to mention she has a bf. Should I be worried or am i being a bitch.
Red flags for sure. How does she interact with you?
>>17357055
Things are great between us.
I honestly thought she just wanted to make a new friend but the not mentioning me thing is starting to unsettle me.
>>17357072
I understand, id feel the same. What website or app is this? Is this guy local or out of the region?
