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Okay so I have always done the right thing. I really believe in strong morals and I am very idealistic. Shitty upbringing etc idk what it is but its just matters to me alot. But, I browse 4chan and I often fap to creep pics lately. Should I feel guilty about it? does this act make me a "unrighteous" "Lustful" person who is taking advantage of women being exploited? I want to cut /b/ out of my life altogether because I am starting to feel very guilty about this shit. I even feel guilty about watching news because its so fucking negative, and all the fucking racism on /b/ to. Please tell me what you think?
>"unrighteous"
Define righteous, and then ask yourself why the ideas embedded in this definition are meaningful. I find hazy terms like this applied to oneself are often destructive and contradictory.
>I really believe in strong morals
Meaning?
>and I am very idealistic
Meaning?
>"Lustful" person who is taking advantage of women being exploited?
There's nothing wrong with acknowledging sexual attraction to a given female. Breaking down the rest, there's absolutely no functional impact of your actions on anything other than yourself. If you're not engaged in a market that is spurring the creation of more content, you're not sharing the content, and you're not producing the content yourself, I fail to see how you looking at it while for the purpose of arousal while stimulating your penis to the point of orgasm, has any effect on anything beyond yourself.
Often arousing content is a proxy for self discovery. Whether or not the nature of the mindset, and what it is to you, is something you want to indulge and integrate more deeply into yourself, is up to you.
>guilty
Remember that there's more to life than what you imagine to be the perception of other people. "What would they think of me..." etc, useless if you're not going to change anything with it.
>I want to cut /b/ out of my life altogether
Good idea.
>I even feel guilty about watching news because its so fucking negative
Makes absolutely no sense. You're likely using the wrong word here.
>and all the fucking racism on /b/ to.
Humans are machines.
>>17359925
>is X against my own beliefs?
Idk m8 they're your beliefs, you should know, unless they are actually not really beliefs and are actually memes on an image board that will probably be different in a few years, not ragging on them but dont base your personality on something you like mainly on an impression or aesthetic level and not on a core philosophical level
>>17359925
>cutting /b/ out of your life
do it faggot
>fapping to creep porn
try to fap to stuff where you know everyone was okay with making it at least
then see if you want to keep using porn. imagination is a thing.
>mfw I have a normal shape, not fat nor skinny, shave my beard and use normal clothes, but 26 years old virgin, neet with 0 social skills
>mfw family and people around me (neighbors and people that know me from years) thinks and comment about me to strangers as if I'm strange/ retard/ asshole because I'm shy...
>just try to be polited and nice with everybody but people stare at me
>I'm a joke
No parties, no friends, no social life (my social life is like go to mall buy something and talk "good morning" and shit lol), never, ever.
>>17359908
Perdeu, playboy.
>>17359908
Try to be more confident about yourself and improve your self-esteem; try to get new friends on social networks, hang out with them, do sports or some hobbie.
Read a motivation shitty book.
>>17359912
De que merda de fórum/ chan você veio, viado?
Dá umas dicas ae. Flws.
>>17359918
Self-esteem? I don't have any. Let me talk you about this: I can't even walk on the streets without look down every time someone looks to me. I'm disgusted. I even avoid social contact desu because I'm a fucking neet, you know.
I like women too but became disappointed after read some shit on these american forums like roosh and it makes me sad as fuck. Those testimonials of guys f*cked by their gfs, wives, I end feeling like it was with me.
Aren't these books scam?
>Used to be best friends in high school
>She decides to do her undergraduate degree abroad
>Now into partying and drinking and I am not into this
>Unlikely she will move back to my area
Is it time to let her go?
We have to learn to let things go ;)
Lol she already let you go, dummy. Don't be a fool.
What's to hold on to? Friend moved away, isn't coming back, and has different interests?
I mean shit, how much more of a sign do you need? I've heard of long distant relationships, but not long distance friendships unless they're long distance from the start and usually only last as long as you're playing the game, or enter that chat room with them.
That's the good thing about the internet, you can cut your losses at any point in the relationship.
I don't have a standard username for whenever I want to register somewhere, how can I come up with one?
Pic unrelated
>>17359866
PussyslayerX20Xx
My real name is Erik. Could I come up with something based on that?
>>17359924
Yes, how about "TotalFaggot420xXx"?
Specifically the tall, Viking sized type (5'7+, athletic or thick, but not fat) white girls. The paler the better.
This is a preference I've had all my life. I grew up in a white neighborhood and have been repeatedly exposed to Western media- which of course features white women as the crux of beauty.
I don't know how to move forward with it. 1) a black man and white woman in the public eye is just asking for a whole lot of political shit from pretty much all directions. I have to watch my back for racists and crazies as it is, I don't want to actively be targeted because I was seen in public with some Aryan qt , 2) I consistently question myself if I'm a sell out or brainwashed or whatever because of what I'm attractive too. I'm not necessarily turned off by black women or women of other races, but I'm just really really a fan of European physical features. If I were to marry a black woman for example, i feel I'd always be more physically attracted to a white girl, even if the black woman and I would be "emotionally compatible".
And white girls like me back. I've dated them, fucked them, got along with a few at a more mature-relationship level, so on paper it'd appear that I'm doing just fine. but i have my self-doubts all the time. Am I guilty of fetishizing white girls? I won't go after EVERY white girl I see, but it's what I go for 90% of the time.
What should I do? I'm thinking of forcing myself to be attracted to women of other races, and some are indeed lookers, but at the end of the day I'll watch interracial porn, or fap to the memory of sex with some ginger girl from my past. Maybe I should just pull out of the dating game and die asexual and alone?
Bruh, I love nigger women but that doesn't mean I don't find white women attractive.
Fuck, I love Asian women, latina women, pretty much all women unless they're that ugly gook asian type.
But, I defo have a nigger preference. From chubby hood girls, to athletic white acting niggers, it's all up my alley.
Darker the berry, the sweeter the juice my man. But, that's just one white guys opinion. But, I'm also married to a white woman.
> Am I guilty of fetishizing white girls?
Don't be, they fetishize you. You're new and exciting and dangerous to them. Watch out for the ones that are looking to make their daddies mad, they're all complete psychos.
Fellow black anon here
>muh thick
You're not fooling me, Ahab
How long do you usually have to wait to hear a response about getting a job? It has been almost a week should I call and ask? Is that considered rude? (BTW it is a job in a hospital)
>>17359847
Let's see, it's Friday now, and I know hiring someone is kind of a big deal for most businesses, and I hate having a big task ahead of me on Friday to bug me all weekend.
Give 'em a ring monday, ask about your application, they probably have an HR desk you could ask to be transfered to.
Before noon, but probably not before 9:30AM
>>17359847
Depends on whether or not it's after an interview and what they said at the interview.
I've made a point of asking "So when do you think you'll make a decision" or "When can I expect to hear from you either way?" and get a general idea. This is after an interview tho.
If you just sent in the application and haven't heard anything about an interview, I'd call and ask to make sure they received it. It shows interest in the position is genuine as well.
Thank you! Also I found the opening on Indeed.com and sent my resume and cover letter through there (I fulfilled all of the job's requirements as well) Haven't been to an interview yet...
Hey /adv/ how do you respond and how do you feel about it when someone you've just started to chat with online totally ignores your question?
>>inb4: it's a bot you idiot
I know there's a chance.
Pic related. Just happened.
shes curious on how you are able to take the next few days off since you mentioned that. lots of jobs dont let you do that unless your in a high-powered position which would spark a persons interest.
tldr; she wants to know why she cant take vacation days in starbucks like you do.
>>17359775
Interesting perspective.. I thought it was common enough for someone to have a mon-fri job. And I just have a regular weekend off.
I'm a bit annoyed that the response doesn't express anything but a blank question.
In three minds about whether I should ignore (bad communication is a pet peeve of mine), give a neutral answer, or remind her that I asked a question.
>>17359807
Can you post some previous conversations? Maybe instead of a literal chat bot she's a r9k robot with autism.
Hey /adv/ my brother stole 2 DVD's that together were worth $140. He bought some DVD's signed up for their online deals or something; then the power went out. So he just stole things.
He's pissing himself about it. What's gonna happen to him /adv?
He will probably be in jail by the time he turns 15
What?
>>17359756
Jesus Christ, learn how to write a coherent sentence.
Goddamn Millenials...
yo i got myself some weed for the first time. bought a grinder, longpapes + filter and shit. watched some tutorials and rolled a joint. lighted it up and it tasted like shit. like a bad cigarette or something, also i felt nothing. what did i do wrong did i get ripped off it smelled preddy good unburnt
>>17359724
Some people don't get high their first few times. It took 3 sessions across 2 days before I actually felt weird.
>>17359724
It shouldn't smell good
Are you even inhaling?
I feel like shit /adv/. Finally caught the time to sum up everything in my life right now and it sucks.
I feel empty. I'm working when all my friends are having fun, going places and seeing the world. I work 8 hours a day and it kills me. I'm 18 btw.
Also, not much is going on either, I can't go out with no one because I work the day after and all friends are either gone away, they get out after 10-11 PM or they stopped talking to me.
Tried dating couple of girls, but nothing works, they cut contact, all of them.
I feel miserable, this was supposed to be the summer vacation, the last one since next year I'll be busy signing up for university. Now was the time to work-out, get a gf and get better. But it goes worse. I feel like shit, I lost all hopes for everything and I'm out of motivation.
I don't have any suicidal thoughts or stuff, but I still don't know what to hope for. I just do my everyday shit until it will stop sometime, when all the free-time is gone and school will start.
>But anon, you'll have money...
What good are the money if I dont get to do what I want and all friends made their plans and I'm not in any one of them.
Pic unrelated, probably the only thing that makes me continue with my shit
On top of that, I'm chubby, ugly and wear glasses. Planned to get rid of most of the weight and glasses, but I lost all power, motivation and energy.
My confidence is somewhere 6 feet underground
Shameful bump. How do I go through this?
Shit happens. But keep working, don't think like you'll be at your job for the rest of your life. You'll still have free time and new friends when school starts. Don't judge your circumstances and the possibility of your future by where you are now.
So, this happened last night.
Anyone got any advice on what might be going on here? I need to get it out of the police tow yard soon and I dont know where to take it without knowing what to expect.
It happened last night and I can't tell you much besides from the pictures here.
Second pic
>>17359695
Well it appears to be sone sort of... car.
How about begin at the begining, OP? Tell us what happened and how it came to be where it is.
>>17359699
Sorry, I'm still shook up from the accident.
Honestly, it was my fuck up. I turned left when I shouldn't have and I got hit by a car going straight. This ensued.
I'm an extra dumbass for not realizing comprehension on my insurance is not the same as collision, So I have to figure this out on my own.
Any other details you guys need?
how do i not act awkward and act confident?
i havent had sex with my gf for the last few months because of it because she says shes not sexually attracted to me because of that. she says if i smoke a little weed or drink a little it helps but if i do too much of either she says its worse.
Maybe because you've been fucking her missionary since forever and she got bored. Tell people to Fuck off once in a while, tell her to Fuck off. Think of what you want and refuse anything less. Stop saying I'm sorry. Stop putting up with the shit-kicking heels in your life. Be spontaneous. Listen to more aggressive music. Adapt a mantra.
Pick up the book "No More Mr Nice Guy"
>>17359673
your gf sounds like a dick. dump her ass and then move on, sounds like she wouldn't be the kind of support you need to bolster your confidence if she's telling you she's not sexually attracted to you.
>>17359687
thanks it worked!!! i think ill buy that book when i get the money
Why does shitposting feel better than jacking off
Power and simultaneous connectedness.
>>17359627
No idea, OP. Ask a carpenter.
>>17359627
Because if you post le edgy shitpost you probably get attention which you are severely lacking as a legit basement-dweller who jacks off every day
I've felt like I'm physically in the wrong body, like I'm piloting a vessel that's completely alien to who I really am for the longest time, and I almost constantly can't stop wanting to practically tear myself to shreds because of this. Does anyone have any idea what this could be or how I can cope with it better? I don't recognize myself in pictures and people all see me as someone I don't think I am at all
picture unrelated
>>17359592
So you see yourself as a women but you're really a man? Or vice versa?
>>17359592
Sounds like depersonalization. Go see a therapist/psych
>>17359592
>I've felt like I'm physically in the wrong body, like I'm piloting a vessel that's completely alien to who I really am for the longest time, and I almost constantly can't stop wanting to practically tear myself to shreds because of this. Does anyone have any idea what this could be or how I can cope with it better?
Can you elaborate? What is it that makes your body so alien to who you are?
The end goal is to make peace with your body, one way or another. Either that, or to understand why doing so would somehoe be an act of self-betrayal. Either way, we need more information.
How do you move out if you don't want to live where you are? I have a shitty reputation here, known everyone my whole life, and there's just nothing out here. Getting an apartment close to home seems hard enough but how do I get one across the country?
>>17359534
find a place you want to move to
find apartments, pay for apartment, move
>>17359534
>I have a shitty reputation here
Why? If you don't fix that before you move, all this will happen again.
>>17359576
No it won't
