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I work at a bar part time with my bf, and I've been really mad that he doesn't want to move out and get a place with me after 4 years of seeing each other / 2 of dating. Our sex life is also getting dull. I am younger than him / in my early 20s- I feel like I'm missing out on a lot.
There's another guy that works there that is hotter and more successful- and also a total manwhore. How could I go about asking this guy for a fuck, maybe more? I feel like he flirts with me in a subtle way because he sees me with my bf, but they aren't friends. Is this too messed up?
>>17361280
Bait
For the retards; B8 M8
I should mention too- this guy is my only bf. I never dated anyone in high school and no one else in college. So the fact that I have SOMEONE is what's kept me around for all these years... But it's too much now.
Should I quit my stupid job.
I don't know. What's your job? Why's it stupid?
It's not up to us, it looks like you've already made up your mind. Just have another job in line
What is this, a magic 8 ball? How should we know.
Fuck, do it, faggot.
Alright so I've been debating whether or not to cut my hair. I can't decide and my friends are no help so I figured /adv/ might be a good place to get an answer
>>17361249
Cut it.
Cut it, that look really doesn't suit you.
Cut it, and if you don't like the new look you can just let it grow again
To my fellow Pokemon Trainers: How screwed am I? I started playing Pokemon Go a few days later than it was released and now I'm always playing catch up.. Almost all of my friends have multiple 800+ CP Pokemon and I'm stuck with this lineup.. Is there any chance I can catch up? Any tips or suggestions would be much appreciated.
>>17361247
I am jelly of that Tangela and Hitmonlee. I am almost 21 and haven't even come across either of those. To level up catch everything you see. Yes, that includes rattata and pidgey. Catch the fuckers until you are tired of them and then catch some more. When you have a ton of dudes that you can evolve pop a lucky egg and evolve all those suckers for mass amounts of xp.
>>17361255
Don't evolve to the final evolution if they have 3 evolutions either. You just want to evolve pidgey into pidgeotto and stop there for example. However the one exception to this would be if you don't have your first pidgeot. In that case get the final evoltion at least one time for the bonus new pokemon xp.
>>17361247
Just realized you have clefairy too. I don't have one of those either.
In the past ten years it seems that people have become more negative and less community-friendly, especially between age 16-30. What causes these types of social trends?
The answer to this very well might be "you were a child then, now you're older", which I will absolutely accept, but I'd also like to explore a little bit more. I'm also willing to accept that my experience is anecdotal and other people might have different experience. Full disclosure, I am 26 as of last week.
When I was growing up and even into my early 20s, most of my peers and adults I knew were fairly laid back. From when I was 16-19, people hung out at poetry readings and coffeeshops, people played music and talked politics and philosophy at cafes and even just on the beach or while taking a walk, there were house shows every weekend, and every the groups that didn't have a place to hang out would congregate on the town green and play guitar. When I was around that age, most of the 22-26 year olds I knew at the time were pretty content with adult life and the general trajectory, even if they were individually having a personal issue.
Around 2005-2011, if you told someone you wanted to work for a nonprofit or be a baker or farmer for a living, they'd likely tell you you'd chosen a difficult path but if that's what you really wanted, go for it. Nowadays the general response when you tell someone you want to work in a library, be a writer, or bake popovers at a cafe, a majority of the people you talk to will tell you "either study STEM and become a productive member of society, or enjoy being homeless". People 5-10 years ago were more into the idea of "I can generally do what I want, I have unique ideas to offer the world, and even if it turns out I can't, I'm going to have some fun trying".
People today seem pretty closed off in terms of respecting other peoples' hopes and dreams. Many of my friends' high school siblings don't give a rat's ass about the community, or music, or anything I can relate to (yes, I'm aware I sound like an old man). When I drive by the seaside shops where we all used to play guitar and smoke pot on the beach it's like a ghost town, there's not even a single person. I've talked to a few siblings about this, and it turns out there are a ton of people in high school who have the "you are born to work and then you die, it doesn't matter if you like your job or your life, or anything" mentality just as bad as some of the 30 year olds I know.
It worries me because when I was in high school, this kind of thinking never crossed my mind even once, same with most if not all of my friends. I was a depressed little shit but mostly about normal stuff like girls and not being able to see a movie or go out with friends, or fighting off the occasional bully. Being 18 again and talking to most of the kids age 16-25 I know, either in real life or on reddit or elsewhere around the internet, would lead me to believe we've entered some kind of crazy dystopia where we've abolished fun, creativity, and following your dreams.
What the hell happened to people? Were people always like this? Am I just old?
>>17361227
Just shut the fuck up. I'm so sick of hearing how much better things were 5, 10, 50 years ago. Whether it's sports, politeness, narcisissm, just shut the fuck up. Being racist was the norm not long ago, "gay" was a ubiquitous term for anything negative. Women were confined to the kitchen. People haven't changed, but they are more educated, have more opportunities because of globalization. All of your reasons for your opinion are anecdotal.
>>17361304
Jesus christ dude nothing I said was racist or anti-gay. Anger problems much?
I don't know what other board to ask this on.
What does love feel like? I'm not entirely sure that I'll ever be able to be in love within my lifetime, but I want to at least know what I'm missing.
>inb4 go find out
That's not gonna happen
You are capable of finding out, but you won't.
It's the greatest feeling in the world. The feeling when it suddenly ends is the complete opposite. But if you ask me it's totally worth it.
And sex with someone you love is just incredible. But the feeling of love is impossible to describe. It's like describing colours to a blind person.
>>17361226
It feels as if every problem in life has no effect on you the only thing that matters is the person you are in love with. Its a drug man feels great, the come down (breaking up) worst feeling ever. I recommend you try some MDMA and go to a rave if you just want to feel love for a night with little come down effects.
The title is pretty much it. What is the best flavor condom in you opinion?
man ass
Dick flavoured
sweaty toes
>make a fake facebook account on facebook
>literally just to argue with people on Facebook without having them jump to my profile
>start commenting on local news stories
>start calling people out on their shit/homophobia/racism
>my account gets pretty popular
>my account ,gets mentioned on the radio
>mentioned in newspaper, and on local news pages
>people tagging me in anything of interest
I wish I could fucking monetize this, because I have thousands of followers doing something just for a laugh
link me up fgt
You're just working for the propaganda machine, for free.
>>17361198
>thousands
Try hundreds of thousands bro. There's a million sluts with thousands of followers and they don't get shit except a boost to their ego. You want to make money? You'll need more than a thousand.
I hate everyone around me. The only people in this world I don't despise at a deep leve is my mother and father and they live 2000 miles away from me. Why shouldn't I lock myself in my room, play WoW and listen to Opeth forever?
Kys
I don't see why not
It's because you have a shitty attitude that nobody wants to be around you, that's why you hate everyone. Same logic as if you're bored then you're boring. Start with the man in the mirror, take a look at yourself and make a change.
I took the time to edit this down by like 80% so read it fgts
>Been seriously hitting it off with a woman who recently moved in next door all the way from rural missouri
>my god she is too hot for words. Skinny and tall, with a gorgeous face. It's like any good genetics in the lower midwest were saved up just for her.
>BUT she is a hardcore christian republican, frequently launches into random rants about BlackLivesMatter being terrorists, deporting mexicans, and bombing the middle east
>I am of middle-eastern descent and she seems blissfully unaware, probably just thinks I'm a dark-featured white person
I don't know what to expect if/when she finds out. Can any southern-anons give an opinion? Sometimes I wonder if she actually knows and is just the type to write off exceptions (in her mind) as "one of the good ones". We've already fooled around a bit.
>>17361166
>fgts
Dropped
>>17361166
I think you should tell her.
She'll find out sooner or later and will hate herself for touching you. How much damage and heat you'll have to take is up to you.
I honestly feel so bad for her.
>>17361166
Go to church and marry her. She sounds like wife/mother of your children material.
What is the best way to make money outside of a job? I have been searching for a job for the past few months and haven't been lucky enough to land one so I'm just wondering does anyone know of anything I could do to make some while I'm still trying?
>>17361161
Sell shit on craigslist
>>17361161
>flipping
>selling drugs
>>17361161
depends on your resources and skills man. if anyone could start a business without any resources or skills and make money... well no one would get a real job.
apply for food stamps . 180 bucks of fodo goes a long way. try renting out any spare room you might have. consider splitting rent in your room if ur really desperate.
sell shit, buy shit then sell it (risky) dont forget to buy cheap food (you can get 40 pounds of chicken for 30 bucks at smart and final) let old guys suck ur dick on craigslist for 150 a pop, become an uber or lyft driver, look for other 'gigs' type apps like the dog walking one.
I feel as if for the longest time I've been dealing with depression, and everyone says I look sad. It really started when my ex left me two years ago for some other guy. College has turned into my life, and I feel as if I'm wasting my early 20's not really thriving and just cheating my way through Computer Science only to tell myself it'll pay off. This summer I went to a trance music festival in order to put some breath into life. It was horrible, (I should of known because fucking trance) I took acid and had a terrible experience all these dumb rave people kept laughing at me because I looked so sad and insecure, and I basically ruined a friendship because my friend and I realized during the trip we had nothing in common except weed. I don't suffer any mental disorders, but the talking in my head is more than ever. Yesterday I was at the beach with my roommates and their friends, we came across this 17 year old couple. I was drunk and just decided to be a total asshole and just call them out.
The girl was a total bitch which was why I instigated, she didn't have much to say back and just kept pushing me, so I flipped her in the sand in left. At first I was playful raging, but my roommates friend recorded the whole thing and I sounded like a complete sore loser as she smiled the whole time. Deep down I guess I hate women who are better than me. I was with my family on vacation, we were watching some judge judy divorce court bullshit, as the judge was introduced I mockingly said "wow she's really going places", my younger sister said she makes more money than you which offended me, so I said along the lines of "yeah, well I'll be making more from CS than your little music therapy major gig". She didn't react, which made me even more mad, so when she made fun of the defendant I just repeated what she said and she ran out in tears angry. I talked to her about it and she said it was all because I made fun of someone, except while yelling incredibly loud to the point my dad told her stfu. My suicidal thoughts just keep progressing, I'm trying to quit smoking weed and drinking, but nothing's working again. I need a positive mindset and thicker skin.
tldr My life feels empty, I'm too mentally unstable to trip acid and got bulled by 17 year olds.
Treat others the way you would like to be treated. I know this sounds like generic fucking advice, but actually think about it. How would YOU like to be treated? Think about it for a while.
>>17361403
And that's what I try, before that drunken incident I wouldn't fuck with people because I hate giving them a hard time, but I just gave up. Everywhere I go, I see happy successful people who are dicks. I'm sick of being a nice soft loser.
im sure all of you know this feel
>being in kind of a happy relationship
>having low confidence
>the fact that things seem to work well mean nothing if this feel creeps up on you
>my girl likes to go to parties mainly for dancing
>somewhere in my 20s i just lost it. cant do it. feels somehow unnatural for me to dance. only occasion i do is when i go to gigs where theres someone playing i really enjoy listening to.
>im a little scared to go with her to partys cause low self esteem
>so when it happens i often try to get somewhere at the party where im not in direct contact with her
>often i leave without saying
>tonight open air party
>she went there earlier tahn me
>arrive
>see dancing bluk of people
>cant even go near
>end up riding bike through the nighg playing pokemon go
>arrive home
>fells are strong
>wonder if she will come by after party or go to her hom
>wonder her home
>wonder come home with some dude
>cant stop this feeling
i know i should just control this thought and regulate myself. should control it by intellectual reflecting, knowing that she wont do this. but cant think in rational way. only higly emotional driven by fear. what can i do?
also general feels of fear and jealousy thread
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>>17361130
This shit creeped up on me after i got sick, really bad.
If she isn't with me it feels like she wants to be with someone else and that's why she isn't here.
Before I was sick she was the clingy one, now it feels like she isn't so it makes it worse.
Keep thinking she found someone else to talk to while I was sick.
>>17361130
Hey, asshole, make a sacrifice for her and be there for her. Going out of your comfort zone as a gesture to her happiness is the type of compromise you do make in a relationship. She'll want you to be there, and you'll have peace of mind.
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>>17361172
Your feelings are very normal but you have to learn to deal with them, or else your relationship will be ruined in the long run
Alright guys tell me your opinion about my current situation.
>have kid young
>now 40
>son is 18
>live in a rual area with a small house and a huge gated yard
>have 2 dogs and 2 cats
>dogs are both mini poodles and cats are small (don't know anything about cat breeds)
>never tried to train are dogs before
>son now wants a third dog and wants to start training it from day one
>wants it to be his dog and to be 100% responsible for it
>say it will help him become more mature
>wants a standard goldendoodle
>look online for prices
>their expensive as fuck
Should i get him this dog?
I'm not sure if we can handle another dog.
any advice?
>>17361105
Could you tell us more about your son? Why isn't he leaving for college?
Also, how much disposable income would you say you have?
Jobs also build responsibility and character. They can also, incidentally, subsidize a dog.
If you decide on getting a dog, could you convince your child to get another large, fluffy, motherless animal from the shelter? It will be much cheaper and will save a dog's life.
>>17361105
i wanted a dog since i was 18. now im 27. numoures time i was thinking of getting one. girlfriends always had dogs. so temporally i had contact with dogs and trained them. now im pretty happy i never did get one myself since although i love dogs i think i wouldnt want to have this kind of responsibility for up to 12-14 years. cant tell you how happy i am not geeting one.
but thats just me. cant talk for your son, so this might be no help at all
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Am I a degenerate?
About a month ago, I noticed one of those cock tribute threads on /b/, at first I was weirded out but I kept checking those threads anyway and I don't even know why.
as days go by, someone posts a really pretty asian lady so I decide to try my first cock tribute because why not, little did I know things would get worse.
At first I just took pictures of my penis on girls photos, then I started recording myself masturbating and cumming over pictures, and now I'm even registered on xhamster,cumonprintedpics and reddit just so I can post my shit.
When I cum and rewatch my recordings that's where the guilt hits me, I think about what I became, a degenerate that cums over strangers' girlfriends/wives and publishes his own videos on the internet.
Is this the kind of son that my parents wanted? Should I just delete everything I made and hopefully forget about it? it's kinda weird, when I'm horny and I masturbate I don't really give a shit about this, but once I'm done I feel disgusted with myself.
I seriously don't know what to do.
if you feel guilty about it, I'd say go ahead and remove it. it is not worth feeling or fussing over about, truly. because you won't get much out of it, but worry. and I don't think you're a degenerate, personally, maybe I am being a little soft on this reply, but I've done worse.
Keep them up and send the archive to your entire family. You might as well let them know what you've been doing for the past month, after all.
>>17361085
If it's only the idea of being a degenerate that prevents you from achieving pleasure, just forget it and keep on doing what you've been doing because "being a degenerate" doesn’t mean shit. Don't fall for spooky /pol/ buzzwords.
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