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So my country decided to stop Paypal completely.Do i kill myself now ?
I mean you could...or you could just use a VPN or move to a less idiotic country
>>17359527
would VPN be stable though ? I dont want my money from PTC sites go to waste.And i cant move for at least 2 years..
>>17359519
>turkroaches
>in charge of not fucking things up
>ever
Edrogay was getting worried about too much western progress and wants to drag you shithole back to the 11th century where it belongs.
My home screen look too basic for me , how can I change it a bit
Step 1: install Nova
Step 2: remove the Google search bar
>>17359518
1. Done
2. Done
>>17359526
I dont really like the icons and the Music Player widget
What do I get my niece for her 12th birthday?
I'm a 25 year old man, I've no clue what girls that age are into.
Dick.
Yours, to be specific
>>17359506
just go to the bank and get a brand new crisp $50 bill and stick in it an envelope that says happy birthday
people overthink shit
>>17359506
shes probably pop music fan. ask family whats shes into and get her a CD. alternative i have no clue either. maybe a corny necklacd or something.
Part 1. My cousin who is one of my closest cousins in my life recently told me to stay away from her. The sad news is her husband died from lymphoma on Thanksgiving and now she has to take care of four kids well one is a young adult and the other is almost eighteen the other two are under ten years old. When we would see each other we weren't the closest we always needed a medium in between us like the TV or another talkative person because one on one we could never communicate much. Fast forward when she had her first child she had to move in with my family so I was there...
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Part 2. She also gave me this backhanded thanks for not taking her daughter to see The VVitch which again she never texted to remind me because I don't keep track of movies release dates which I don't plan to see. She tells me to stay away from her and her family. So it's been over four months since I last talked to her and I don't know what to say to her when I saw her last month I didn't even say a word to her because that hurt she really thinks that I never cared even though I gave so much to her and her family even lent my car to her oldest daughter...
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I am sorry for your losses.
Why exactly did you need a medium between you to communicate? I suspect that this is what your cousin has mistaken for a lack of caring. Can you tell us more?
>>17359560
I was always shy around her, we never had much to talk about.
Same anon as this: >>17355965
Hey I have a relationship question
>added coworker on Facebook and we got to know each other
>I had a long term LDR boyfriend at the time, but he was absent and it really wasn't a relationship
>coworker falls for me, I break up with my LDR boyfriend to be with a real boy for the first time since high school
>it was great while it lasted
>happiest I've been in years
>he even helped me lose my virginity. It was a fun experience and I even begged for more
>felt like he was too good for me, I wasn't good enough
>unstable; not over ex, things clouding my judgement from the recent break up
>break up with coworker instead of dealing with it and keeping my mouth shut
>now he is pretending I don't exist, all the while saying he cares about me and that he wants to be friends
What gives? He isn't making any time for me or effort? I already know it's time to move on, but holy shit I miss him. Being hugged, cuddled, kissed, and touched for the first time in like 7 years was awesome (no I didn't get out much).
Why is he behaving like this? Is there any hope left? I don't want to cut him out of my life because I want friends, but
Really making me feel like pic related sometimes. Ignoring drives girls nuts it's true
>>17359502
>break up with coworker instead of dealing with it and keeping my mouth shut
>He isn't making any time for me or effort?
Why should he? You broke up with him, sounds like he's trying to move on.
>>17359521
Then why did he say he wants to be friends, and he still wants to talk to me? I get your point but I'm getting mixed signals
>>17359502
Slut
Help me understand something /adv/isors.
I got a few coworkers who are submissive men. They actually enjoy being treated like shit by women, lied to, and humiliated. I never got it what broke on these people. I get submissive women because they usually get spoiled and taken care of in exchange. These men however don't get anything out of it other than being treated like literal shit, which I don't find arousing at all and throwing yourself under the bus for female attention is just crazy.
What makes submissive men tick?
Are all of them self hating and crazy?
>>17359501
In the bedroom it allows you to lose control and not be responsible.
Outside of the bedroom, fucked if I know. You should realise that people transfer money to women they don't know, the women usually call themselves a findom or findomme or whatever, for financial domination. It boggles my mind.
>>17359501
its deeply rooted op. from childhood most likely. not everyone is like that but some people are.
or you know, they developed the fetish.
>>17359501
>I took what little I see of my coworkers at work and foolishly extrapolated that into thinking I know who they are as people. When my extrapolation seemed at odds with what a reasonable person is like, the thought that I might be largely wrong about who they are *never even entered into my mind,* and instead I came here to make a post about them and put them down, because *I* sure am not a submissive man. No way!
You're a real winner, OP.
Ok so this is a long story but I'm kind of socially awkward and have never had a girlfriend. I just tuned 19 and I met this girl at work. We talked a bit and then she kind of asked me to the movies which I said yes. We texted for a few days and then on Tuesday we went to the movies. I think I was a bit awkward and it did not help that I was nervous as fuck. But overall I guess it went ok?. After I had dropped her off she texted me asking if I was nervous, to which I responded that I was and also apologized for being a bit awkward. She said it was fine and that she was also...
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(Cont.) Apparently one of our coworkers that I think (and hope) is just a friend of hers picked her up and they drove to Walmart and bought some candy, I guess that cheered her up. So now I don't know what to do. Having never had a girlfriend I don't know how to deal with this and also worry about her and our coworker being more than friends. I guess I am going to apologize to her for not being there for her and maybe ask her to dinner but I don't know if it is worth it. I feel really shitty for not being there for her and having another guy cheer her...
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It's all good bro. Just remember to breathe, relax. Don't forget to use a condom.
First off dude, stop apologizing for things you perceive as doing wrong. STOP APOLOGIZING. You did nothing wrong and apologizing for every little tiny thing is the biggest turnoff ever.
Anons please help me. I can't wrap my head around this.
So basically, a month and a half ago I met a friend which I greeted and echanged basic courtesy, while he was with a group of girls.
I meet him again the same evening saying that a girl of the group said that I was hot (I'm not) and such. I basically didn't give any weight to those words, since I'm a depressed faggot, former fattie without any shred of self acceptance.
The time goes on, I met the girl at the library some times, always with friends, so I didn't have the balls...
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Reset your thinking. Nothing had really happened, some people have said some things is all.
You can build attraction with a majority of people from nothing. Just approach her in any way you can see yourself managing to escalate from just being acquaintances. Forget about he said she saids, and just plant a seed.
>>17359752
What do you advice me to do ? I was thinking about asking our common friend if she's still interested.
>>17359488
Know when to stop.
Seriously, this is a lost cause if I ever heard one, you're just going to get hurt.
Be me. Grow up in abusive house. Leave at 18 with nothing for the military. Build a family and a life. Leave military. Struggle with unemployment and homelessness for 7 years. Family falls apart. Never see them anymore. Move states away trying to find work.
Rebuild life again. Have my own place and stuff again. Lose job. Lose all my stuff. Fly back home to try college.
College is shit. Pointless debt. Meet a wonderful girl. Move away. Date for 3 years. Build a life together. Have a house, money, stuff. Lose job. Lose replacement job. Lose girlfriend.
Time to give up?
>>17359487
Yea
>>17359487
stop thinking that you need to do what others have done. what do you truly want out of life? ask yourself want you want to do and do it.
>>17359487
It might be. Tell me how you feel about it
My problem is simple.
Any time someone says a word or phrase that sounds like a piece of a song lyric that I know, I sing the verse from that song. It's starting to frustrate people around me and I'm afraid my wife will leave me over it.
I've tried to stop but it's entirely natural like breathing.
It's a lot easier through text because my head is less likely to make the connection.
An example is my wife and I got into a fight where she closed with "you're out of touch" and of course I responded with "I'm...
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Smells like autumn, smells like leaves. You don't know that you'll rust and not belong so much, and then get, left alone.
Suck it up. Take a run, take a walk, and don'tcha know that old folk's home smells so much, like my own.
YA KNOW I LIKE MY GIRLS A LITTLE BIT OLDER
maybe this is a bizarre form of tourettes?
Do you believe in monogamous relationships?
Is anybody on /adv/ in a relationship, where you have sex only with your partner and do you think it works?
No judging towards any relationship-status choice needed itt.
I don't know what it means to "believe" in monogamous relationships, but I probably prefer them.
>Thinking a relationship is all about sex.
Yes and yes.
What advise are you looking for exactly?
My girlfriend left me 7 months ago after a long and serious relationship. It's my birthday soon and she has sent me a gift, we live very far apart which is probably why she told me, i don't know what it is yet.
Why would she do that, she left me, it's 7 months, when my sister left her long term boyfriend that was it, she didn't send him gifts or even text him, whereas my ex keeps texting me every couple of days too.
I do not understand because I am 95% sure she never wants to get back with me.
>>17359441
send the gift back unopened. Whatever she does is done for herself and not for you.
>>17359443
this. give it back.
>>17359443
I've gotta know whats in it I'm too curious. Sending it back 6000 miles is also quite difficult or at last an expensive hassle.
Basically I am in a group with two girls. But neither of them say hi to me in hallways and just stare at me. One girl stares at me constantly. They are very kind though in lab and helpful.
Should I say hi first? should i be interacting with them? maybe they think i am creepy and only nice to me in lab? what do?
First, nice picture, but probably too nsfw.
Second, you have to be 18 to post on this site.
>>17359428
Sorry about that I didn't know about the rules. I am way over 18 man, I am just socially inept.
Saying hi to them won't hurt, try to make small talk. They might just be socially inept too. I ended up making friends because of professors that force workshops, and I suck at social interaction.
is this a reality?
reply with an opinion.
cop here, the police is a cross section of society at large. Its comprised of many different people with different personalities who joined for different reasons. Are there assholes who joined so they could boss people around, undeniably, but they're one group among many.
Anyway what advice were you looking for?
>>17359422
Are you American? Don't you guys do psychological screening for problematic behaviour?
This is something i can't wrap my head around, my girlfriend seems to laugh at other peoples posts/messages/snaps more so then mine, but here's the strange part, it could be the exact same joke. With me she will just like the comment or sometimes not reply at all, where as even with her close friends she will type out "HAHAHAHAHAHA!!! so us!" or respond to a snap with "youre so funny! HAHAHA" or something along those lines.
I understand to an extent she is extremely comfortable with me and doesnt feel the need to play things up but i feel like shes is really comfortable with her friends too so i dont get it. I get hardly any reaction and it makes me a little jealous but more so makes me question how much she takes me for granted.
Can someone explain this to me?
you really thought this deserved a thread?
>>17359311
I tried google but nothing shows a similar situation, i'm just really curious if others understand why this happens, is it a good thing/bad thing?
>>17359306
Maybe it's the way you tell them.
More likely, it's a compliment to you. She knows her friends are insecure enough to need a lot of reaction to their attempts at humor, and knows (or thinks - your post suggests she's wrong) you are secure enough not to need an exaggerated reaction.
