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I was recently put into a mental hospital for severe depression and suicidal tendencies. My parents and siblings are extremely supportive of me getting better, but they don't know that they're the reason why I was put in there, my mom especially. She abused me constantly, physically and sexually, my dad didn't put a stop to it, and my siblings never comforted me after it happened. I was alone and the doctors say that was probably when my depression first developed.
Like I said, my family has no idea about this. I only told them that it was because of a...
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Stay with them and dwell on the past
>>17348691
>/adv/, i'm drinking this poison that would destroy me
>Should i stop drinking and never look back?
the answer is always yes
>>17348703
I guess I that was the better way to write this, now wasn't it?
Hey guys, a little advice would do perfectly for my current situation
>be me
>mom acting strange
>dad tells me that she is just depressed
>days later they fight
>hear them but get nothing useful
>next day mom comes into my room crying
>ohshitno.jpg
>she talks to me about dad
>shows...
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I don't really know what to say, but I'd feel bad if no one replied to this and you ended up feeling alone.
I guess support your mom now? She's the good side, and accept that your dad is a scumbag (unless your mom completely neglected all attention to him, but that's less likely).
Sorry you're going through this dude
My mom always checks my dads phone and he's deleted everything. Sometimes he has random phone numbers.
They're both fucking fags ahahaha
>>17348675
i know your situation is painful right now, but things will get better man.
>be my friends dad
>always happy and smiling and playful and just awesome
>find out wife is sleeping around
>eats a bullet
that happened a few weeks ago, we were all so shocked to find out about everything at once. just be there for your mom man and make sure she knows she is loved.
my friends...
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Anyone feel like an emotionless robot?
No joy, no fear, no love, no hate.
Just a passive acceptance of things as they are.
Is there a solution to this that isn't pills?
I think they call it passion
>>17348670
I think that's a good thing. Then, You can ignore what most people call "bullshit"
[spoiler]assuming you can't feel frustrated[/spoiler]
Honestly, passivity is I think much better than being an emotional wreck, or even just letting shitty emotions run your life.
what do?!
>first relationship
>lose v-card to hot gf
she recently started not hanging out as much but her sex drive increased so much
>find out she was seeing another dude
he was turning her on but not finishing her off, so she would randomly come to me for sex. then they finally had sex and continue to do so almost every day. she doesnt know i know and keeps texting and calling me, she came over and i pretended i wasn't home.
im kinda hurt because...
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No revenge is going to make you feel better
Just curious, how did you find out?
>>17348684
we took the same summer course together with the dude (didnt know him at first) and then she would skip class and i noticed he was out of class too.. then next class she sat way up next to the professor (i like sitting in the back) near the guy.. so i sat there and we just started sitting there, and when she missed a class, so we he..
overheard some bitch in the hall making fun of me because i didnt suspect anything and calling me a puppy because "he keeps sitting next to her" or whatever.
if...
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I don't even know how to say this.
My SO and I are sexually active but he puts no effort into it. I'll try to be sudden and sexy or build up to it all night with touching, teasing and foreplay.
But regardless, it's fingerbang, he blows a load in my mouth and then bed time.
His excuse is he's too tired.
Am I fucking up or is he really too tired? He does work more hours and has a more physically demanding job so I get that. But I feel like it's just getting off to him. Like it's not even hot anymore.
What do I do...
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How long have you guys been together? How's the communication in the relationship?
>>17348657
6 years. I don't know to be honest. We tell each other everything but idk. Sometimes I feel like he listens because he has to. I'll say, 'remember this'll and he doesn't. Then he tells me I am wrong and never said that.
Trust is there but I feel look like he doesn't care to listen and at times I'm to stubborn to hear different. But I always try to make the effort. If that makes sense
>>17348665
I really don't want to fuck anything up but it's like we are just here.. together. Some nights a fingerbang without a kiss. But we both love each other and don't want to end the relationship
Does anyone else get that feeling when someone is talking to you you're brain shuts off and you can't respond in any natural way?
This constantly happens when my family talk to me or when teachers at school talk to me.
Is there anything wrong with me for behaving like this? Should I just talk over them and redirect the conversation to where I want it to go?
Please respond to my neurosis. I just wanna know why I feel this way. It kinda feels like guilt
>>17348647
This is actually kind of normal among people believe it or not. You just need to learn how to act like you're interested and how to respond blind.
This is normal. Just nod your head and try to listen for key things that they're talking about.
I do this all the time with my mother and girlfriend. I end up just switching off because they talk in a very unnecessarily convoluted way
I stupidly snorted this today, a small amount. Basically I did it around 4 o'clock, at 8 I started to feel a small opiate buzz come on. Now it's midnight and I feel a pretty strong buzz, feel sick to stomach, and I'm having nasal drip that tastes like suboxone
Is it possible to catch a buzz 8 hours after doing it? I literally felt nothing until now
>>17348643
>trying to get high off suboxone
When are you going to realize you have a problem?
You snorted wellbutrine and narcan. You're probably somatizing a high from the trace body high of a fake opioid and and antidepressant.
First, is it your prescription? How many mgs did you snort?
>>17348643
8 hours is an extremely unlikely timeframe for intranasal dosing of anything. Are you sure it was suboxone?
The only drug I can think of that would do that would be a drug called Phenazepam, which would kick in at around that timeframe and cause you to feel drowsy, uninhibited, a bit sick, and possibly even belligerent.
If that is the case, you will need to cancel work for a couple of days. You absolutely cannot be around people on this drug or you will ruin your life.
I've been playing Pokemon for a couple days in my city and I keep seeing this super cute girl with lazy hair and it's dyed silver and she's white as snow and she's my fucking type ahhhhhh what the fuck do I do
Pic related
Show her your 10 CP Rattata
Ask her if she plays or something, make an excuse to talk to her and try to keep it going. If she's not interested that sucks but don't follow her around or anything
>Hey, I've seen you around here a few times. You're playing Pokemon Go, right?
Just say that. You've been given an icebreaker that dudes would have killed for in ages past. From there just let a conversation happen. It may feel hard or nerve-wracking but that's what you have to do, man.
Just chat for a while and eventually ask if she'd like to walk around with you while you play.
If you hit it off, ask for her number when you decide to split ways.
Boss move: "I'm about to drop a module...
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I don't know how to get out of this stereotypical "yeah that guy has dumb ideas/is dumb in general" every time I make new friends they seem to come to this conclusion. How do I escape it?
Don't talk as much
>>17348627
Then you are dumb, assuming you aren't basing this around 2 ex-friends who your trying to put the blame on for calling you dumb.
Don't talk as much, capitalize off of being dumb (You can get away with shit normal/smart people cant, don't be autistic about it though, grabbing a girls tits and then saying "i'm dumb" its a good way to get slapped/put in prison)
Maybe talk about shit that seems smart/your versed in, don't be a neet, find something your good at and get...
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Maybe you ARE dumb
Why does the working world suck soo much! How do I earn money without working a "normal" job?
>>17348613
Welfare. If your living alone its a good amount of money.
Should have went to college, you get better jobs/easier jobs based on your qualifications, a degree being a big qualification
>>17348613
>>17348619
Kill yourselves.
>>17348619
But the wellfare system blows
How do you live life with a personality roughly approximating the INTP type? Its hard to be comfortable with yourself once you question how much time you might be wasting spacing out and only ever dipping your toe into any given pursuit. That you'll only ever be the pretense of intelligent or interesting, but fundamentally uneducated and impotent, socially and intellectually.
Note: I dont care what your opinion on Myer's Briggs is (using it for convenience sake) so please restrain yourself from shitting up the thread with that sort of bickering on whether it is legitimate or whatever.
>>17348593
You don't. Find a strong support for that noose.
I wish I knew. I always wanted to be a musician, but I can't actually sit down and focus on a tutorial or read a book explaining the methods of composition/musical theory. I have a basic knowledge but every time I try to I end up just getting lost in fucking around with my instrument and trying to make it work on my own. I know it'd sound a lot better if I actually studied and digested the material but I can't keep myself focused on it. Then I give up after like a half hour because the music sounds like shit compared to what I want and I go back to doing something...
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>>17348593
MBTI is a very poor way to determine a person's personality. If you truly believe that something is wrong with your way of living, then it's time to do some introspection and soul-searching until you are able to decide what it is that you want from life.
You think the vast majority of people are educated and interesting? They're not. The shit that most people talk about isn't really anything substantial, and they generally just talk to talk.
Everybody thinks that they're smart....
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Have a friend who went to a seminar for Amway. He was brought in because of a girl he knew from middle school [this guy wanted to smash]. Now he's telling my friends and i about this; the success stores -how dude is about to get his mom retired. That stuff.
When he said all that [in my mind i was just like caugh*pyramid caugh* its fucking prymaid skim.
Yes i told my thoughts out loud but, he just laught it off. Saying he trust the girl and that he'll read the papers before he sighns.
Can anyone tell me if im right?
An article about it from a good source- idk
>>17348586
Amway is the classic pyramid scheme. Even the dumbest of the dumb don't fall for that shit under the basis of name recognition; they've moved on to Vector Marketing and CUTCO (also pyramid schemes).
Your friend is a fucking retard, or he's a sociopath who is really good at taking advantage of people. Either way his "business opportunity" is a total scam. Cut ties. Seriously just never talk to him again until he stops peddling this shit.
If you have any talent at sales then you can work for a regular company and make bank.
>>17348586
>Can anyone tell me if im right?
Ask /biz/. I've seen Amway threads there.
Hey guys. This ones a doozy.
Girlfriend just laid out her plans for my birthday gift: a $500 dollar weekend trip to Manhattan. its also completely planned out. she has the money to do so. but the thing is this is so outside our range for gift prices. we've been dating roughly a year now. one concern is that if i accept and we wind up breaking up she will have wasted 500 dollars. so do I go and feel horrible because I'm not worth it, or do i feel horrible by telling her she has to cancel?
>>17348579
>one concern is that if i accept and we wind up breaking up she will have wasted 500 dollars
It's not a waste. If you break up before the trip, she can go without you. If you break up after, it's just a mutual enjoyable experience that you can both look back on. You're overthinking this.
Enjoy your trip
>>17348579
Why are you so concerned about breaking up already? That this is an issue in your mind really says something about your relationship. And how far away is your birthday?
I'm trying to find myself a woman. I'm not interested in any of the girls within my friend group, so I'm trying to branch out to other friend groups. Here's the plan:
1) Go to party with a friend, one who has friends that I haven't met yet
2) befriend people at the party, get numbers
3) If an interesting woman hasn't been found, go back to step 1
Thoughts?
Also, last weekend I got through steps 1 and 2 with some success: got 2 new numbers, and I plan to invite those people to parties while hoping that the people invite me to their own.
Sounds like a good plan. Good luck.
>>17348576
Good plan, without over thinking it.
You could always try tinder, if i wanted to be a pessimist i'd tell you its better to fuck than date.
>>17348671
I'm really discouraged from trying tinder because there's a lot of disconnect when communicating through messages as opposed to talking in person. I've had poor experiences in the past, where I talked really easily in text, but I couldn't converse well at all in person. I'd much rather just try to talk to people in situations where I need to approach in person, where I force myself to grow in that regard. Women become even more scarce, which is rough, but oh well.
>Be 21 at the time, meet girl online.
>Tell parents we met at a school club and she moved.
>Years pass I'm now 26 she's 25. We are still very much talking
>Skype, text, calls, visits etc.
>We both agree it's kinda pathetic that we met on an anime website... So we go with the old "oh we met in class before they moved" story...
We are now looking to get married soon... How do we handle...
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The fact that you're focusing so heavily on your meeting story, as opposed to any other potential issues here, tells me you have a fucking screw loose.
matey r u seriously about to marry a girl youve been in an LDR with for almost 5 years? have you guys met in person? your parents would be right to think ur insane.
>>17348568
We've met in person many times. About 4 times per year actually.
>>17348565
Eh, most likely...
