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My boyfriend of 5.5 years broke up with me today. It was all an escalated tear fest.
Basically, my bf had an escalating porn addiction. I honestly did not mind the porn, it never interfered with out sexlife. Everything with him was amazing. But It escalated to talking to real life bitches through dating sites. In which he'd flirt, talk to them on the phone at night, ask for nudes.
I caught him doing this about four years ago and almost ended it. He begged me to stay and I did. Not knowing what it actually was.
I found out again today, confronted him. He dumped me because he said he can't stop. He cried, said he wanted to be with me and knew I was so rich for him. He said he didn't want to continuously hurt me.
I'm hurting real bad right now. Within these past five years I practically dedicated life to him. I'm really introverted, it was hard to keep up friendships while being in a relationship. I'm so lost on what to do for myself, just socially emotionally.
I don't want to date anyone else. I completely adored my boyfriend aside from this. I know I don't deserve it, but when will the pain go away?
>I was so rich for him
Meant to say right
if he cared so much, why couldn't he stop?
>>17345033
Well, the first step is to realize that this separation is benefiting you. That relationship was headed nowhere good, and that now you are stepping out, you are free to commence the healing process. I'm not going to lie. It's gonna be tough. There will be days where you'll be tempted to call him back, and "give it another shot".
You have to be strong. You have to hold on, and remember that life didn't begin with him, and it sure damn doesn't end without him.
Running From Your Problems – You cannot run from something forever, and believe it or not, the longer you run from something the more difficult it becomes to face. Challenges arise for a reason, and as difficult as many of them can be to both face and overcome, doing so gives you the opportunity to become a stronger and more capable version of yourself. There are also fewer things more liberating than the feeling of finally facing something that you had put off or had been afraid of for a long time.
many of us have a natural tendency to compare ourselves or our circumstance to that of another. Think of how many times you may have said, either vocally or under your breath, “must be nice” when looking at a facet of another person’s life. Just as the famous saying goes: the grass will always seem greener on the other side. Whether or not the grass actually is greener has no true bearing on the only grass we should be focused on — the one right below our feet. The moment we stop comparing and instead focus on our own experience is the moment we are most likely to both find peace in things being the way that they are and motivation to change them should we feel the need to.
>>17345029
Ask a question or leave, this isn't your blog
>>17345827
Come on now, it's an advice page, and this is nice to read instead of questions that aren't relatable to everyone.
>favorite TV shows get discontinued due to low viewership
>favorite game series goes in the direction you hate because that option was more popular
>everything you vote for from propositions, senators, even food promotions loses
Is there any reason to continue living when you are the embodiment of unpopular opinion?
because ur a Renegade
>>17344994
Don't worry.
Uncle Donny will fix America very, very soon.
>>17345008
Except he won't... Hilary is going to win my friend. It really sucks but look at the writing on the wall.
inb4 trump supporter, nah but hilary is far worse.
Any advice/tips on how to be a wandering bachelor? I'm in my 20s and bored of my friends and job. I want to out and live a cool life as a solo young male. Yeah I'm gonna go be a weeaboo for a minute and say shit like Space Dandy, the wandering bounty hunter Spike in cowboy bebop, something where I just get to explore the world (minus all the fictional anime shit obviously)
http://youtu.be/TfadJj4d5K4
Vid related
Teach English in Japan
It will be just like being a space pirate
Um... pic related is from Outlaw Star, not Cowboy Bebop.
>>17344995
Yeah I know
is my bf aware that he puts all his weight on me during sex?
he literally puts all his weight on me f were in missionary or I'm laying on my stomach. I've been having severe back pain for weeks and it finally went away when I didn't see him for a week and I'm guess that's why, last time we had sex he put all his weight on me and i was in pain and couldn't really breathe I was being crushed by him. I'm like kinda thin and fragile and he weighs at least 180 lbs
does he know this and he's just being inconsiderate ? should I tell him? one time when my bak was really hurting I said plz dont put weight on me my back hurts, and he didn't but he does Afterr that one time still
and sometimes if we're hugging each other he puts his weight on me so my back leans over backwards and it fuckkng hurts l
>>17344983
>is my bf aware that he puts all his weight on me during sex?
I don't fucking know, ask him.
>>17344983
>does he know this and he's just being inconsiderate ? should I tell him? one time when my bak was really hurting I said plz dont put weight on me my back hurts, and he didn't but he does Afterr that one time still
How do you fucking dress yourself?
Yes, you fucking moron, let him know. And when he does it again, let him know again so he doesn't think it was a one-time discomfort.
What the fuck is wrong with you that you sit around in back pain for weeks and don't say anything?
>>17344984
lol okay
literally my back hurt so bad I had to go to an urgent care center and I was crying non stop for two days, I couldn't move ..
I just realized when we were having sex last night it was probably becaus of him
Need advice on cumming faster.
Whenever I'm having sex I take too long to cum. Will edging before we have sex make me cum faster? Anyone have experience with this?
Stop fapping to porn. Problem solved.
First off, do you lose your erection in the process?
Have the same problem op. Stop fapping is one of the answers, the other option is use your imagination when it's time. Got any kinks?
My friend and her bf are in an open relationship. He's really attractive, super nice, and according to her is great in bed. How do I get with him without things getting weird?
Like how do I bring it up without weirdness? How do I preserve the friendship with the both of them after? I'm not looking to steal him from her. They're great together, and I value them both a lot as friends. I just want some affection is all, and it's been a long time since I've had any.
>>17344960
Look for someone else.
>>17344960
This is funny on so many levels . Good kek , thank you.
>>17344972
I don't have space in my life right now for a boyfriend, and looking for a hookup just results in someone treating me like meat. This guy I know is kind, empathetic, and wouldn't hurt me. Bonus points for already knowing he's a good lay.
I run 10 miles a day, not because I want to do, but because I don't know what else to do. I feel like I need to just run from something. I need to escape and running does it for me. The problem is that it is pretty lonely. I don't know what this does for me. I'm so lost and need help.
>>17344942
Run marathons, 5ks, 10ks, wherever people are. I'm a long distance runner as well, and it can feel a little lonely sometimes. You need to surround yourself with people who love it just as much as you.
Read "The Loneliness Of The Long Distance Runner" by Alan Sillitoe.
>>17344942
shit maybe i should start doing this. i fucking hate life and am pretty self destructive, maybe running till i puke every day will do some good
why does everyone on tumblr enjoy drama? i noticed this when i was 13-14 and joined tumblr (now 20) and between the images and humor there were occassional ANGRY posts from girls my age that seemed like the seeds of feminism now that I think back to it. And today, my tumblr is like 70% BlackLivesMatter anti-white radical feminism etc etc... And so I started sending controversial anonymous messages to them and they ALL attack me no matter what i say, but they seem to really enjoy ATTACKING more than actually being peaceful. Example: every blog that I sent anons to seemed to have few followers, but all my messages got dozens of notes, so it's as if the people on tumblr really enjoy bullying anons and arguing. if you disgree with them only SLIGHTLY they'll "shut you down" and send death threats.
>not using tumblr solely for porn
>>17344941
its just like pol op. cant reason with them online because theyre so sure of themselves. just ignore it and go on with your day. also, there whole community reinforces their opinions so you cant win with them.
>why do teenagers enjoy drama
Gee I dunno.
Back in my day, we had to make a bunch of fake email addresses and max them out on Neopets accounts to bully emo kids on the boards as long as possible before getting banned. No one ever remembered anyone and nothing ever lasted long enough to ruin someone's life. You kids these days don't know how good you've got it.
>And so I started sending controversial anonymous messages to them
And you can't empathise with the impulse to start shit, knowing it won't change anything, just for the sake of seeing what happens, gaining cheap catharsis, and getting a rise out of someone?
Are you honestly so oblivious as to think you're in any position to look down on people who 'enjoy drama'?
>23
>normie?
>plans for college (canadian for americunts)
>work in road construction industry
>lots of people semi decent to work with but some i feel bad for, just socio status and overall demeanor
>20 year old I work with says he isn't smart enough to go back to school and become alpha with scientific career
>gets me down but remind myself I initiate my own happiness
>working out lately
>getting mired from women
>actually was certain a food attendant called me a cute customer so was impressed
>if not im hella egotistic
>find myself sort of able to fit into social circles even though some may be awkward
>quit doing drugs
>saved about $40,000
>actually have a net worth of over $50,000
>classmates from my old city may be more well off but my life experiences blow them out of the water
>attracted to an older girl at work
>feel like she knows, feels bad for me and pity socializes with me
>broad taste of music
>read so many books
>overall decently content in life
>can picture when im going in life
>normally sidetracked throughout day
>life sort of falling into place
>dont let down parents
>have >both< of their best genes
Nice blog post faggot keep me informed
>>17344932
Did you have a question?
Is that the At&t bitch? Whats her name
I'll be traveling to New York City in december, and I need some advice aout good hotels below $100, must visit places, good food, zones to be avoided, good rock bars. Any information is well recieved, thanks!
>>17344912
TripAdvisor
>>17344912
stay with me in long island city for free :D
>>17344923
OP here.
Thanks but I'll be traveling with some friends :p
So I've a had a lot of sex with my girlfriend for the two last nights and I came in her, no condom. But she's been on the pill since her last period, over a week ago. She's taken it every day and been consistent with its timing. My friends have now gotten me worried she'll fall pregnant, are the chances high off this happening?
Combination Pills
You may start the combination pill at any time. If you start within five days after the start of your period, you are protected against pregnancy right away. You will not need to use a backup method of birth control. That means that if your period starts on a Wednesday morning, you can start the pill up to Monday morning to be protected right away. If you start at any other time during your menstrual cycle, you will be protected from pregnancy after seven days. Use another method of birth control — like a condom, female condom, diaphragm, or sponge — if you have vaginal intercourse during the first week of use.
Progestin-Only Pills
You may start the progestin-only pill at any time. Use another method of birth control if you have vaginal intercourse during the first 48 hours of progestin-pill use — protection will begin after two days.
Taking the progestin-only pill at the same time each day is essential. If you take it more than three hours past the regular time, you need to use a backup method of birth control for 48 hours after taking the late pill.
You're fine OP
It takes two to three weeks for the pill to become effective. Usually best to wait until after her first period after starting them so there's no chance of an egg being released. Might wanna take a test
>>17344937
I don't know where you copied and pasted this from but it's wrong lol
poorfag here and I have not downloaded music since 2012-ish. Where do I go to find music? Free and full albums. I'm mostly trying to find Hip-hop and Witchhouse
pic unrelated
There's a sticky on /mu/ telling you how to to this
>>17344901
YouTube.
>>17344901
torrents my man. look around on youtube for music then downloas the albums. if you're looking for new hiphop ill give you a taste of different styles you can explore
kendrick lamar
schoolboy q
earl sweatshirt
atmosphere
mf doom
asap rocky
young thug/future
felly
the roots
listen to those, figure out what style you like then look out for artists with similar styles.
there is also a huge amount of jazz on youtube.
for torrents id suggest the pirate bay or ruttracker.
Is there a point in living if you're a sub 8/10 man?
Depends on the importance you put on getting women.
>>17344896
yes.
>>17344899
This
Moving to the East Coast soon, and I like boats. What are some neato boat-related jobs?
>>17344887
>Fishing
>Oceanographic Surveying
>Lobster Hunting
>Whale Watch Tour Guide
>Boat Repair
Move to Cape Cod if you want a boat related job.
>>17344887
What state were you thinking?
>>17345232
Likely Boston. Gonna try to do the music thing over there, but since that probably won't pan out quickly/at all, boats.
