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Okay so I work for a parks and rec department in a city close to where I live and I asked out this woman for drinks who works in another part of the department. We almost never see each other, but she was at my facility a dew days ago and we were chatting and flirting a little and I asked her out for drinks and she said yes and we exchanged numbers.
Now I'm not autistic and I know how to talk to women and it was pretty clear to me she was interested. I know how to pick up signals and I can tell if someone is into it or not, she was giving me good signs. So we've...
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>>17344886
Abort, if shes willing to cheat on her boyfriend she is willing to cheat on you.
>>17345192
Fuck that.
He hits it, and then he quits it.
She is going to cheat with someone, and it should be our boy, OP.
>>17345192
Not a cuck and gonna fall in love with this chick. >>17345201
This. I'll make you proud anon
My dad recently saw me lighting a lighter in my back forest, and accused me of smoking weed, which i denied, but he will search the area soon and find my makeshift bong, but no weed. What is an excuse for the bong being there? I am 21 btw
>>17344883
move the bong? there is no excuse, it's obviously for weed.
Could you maybe move the bong somewhere else?
You're 21. There's nothing wrong with smoking weed. Own that shit m8
I Really love to eat. Unfortunately my favorite food is loaded with lots of calories and fat. I get tired of passing them up all the time because it is unhealthy for you and it makes you fat. But wouldn't it be nice to just eat anything you want and when you want? Why would you eat food that you really don't like at all? Therefore, I decided to accept that I'm fat and unhealthy. I can now drink so many sugar drinks as I want. I can now go to the Mc Donalds and order my breakfast without to worry that I become overweight.
Before this, I was worried about my...
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The bait is strong with this one
>>17344872
oh fug OP get fat fukk the haterss!!! :DDD
>>17344872
>If I like to eat a bucket of ice, I eat just eat it
>and if it necessary, I even pour some chocolate sauce on it
how do you deal with being a short, ugly balding man with almost no money, no car, a shitty job, a family who's abandoned him and kicked him out of the house 5 years ago and friends who never call or reply?
I'm 24 and I find it really hard to stop thinking about suicide and self-harm every day. Biking through the city seeing people driving cars, seeing people with their friends, seeing couples holding hands, it all just reminds me of how much of a failure I am and how much I hate my life.
I've really tried to be a decent person. I guess I just wasn't...
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Well i think its your day. Theres gonna be a day when you laugh about it and start going on sprees then after each spree you will feel better.
>>17344865
I don't really want to kill people.
I love the human race.
I just hate myself for being a failure as a human.
>>17344834
Do u have a job?
So here's the thing. There's a girl I really like. I barely get to see her in real life because she lives far away. We're kind of friends. A week ago I asked her to go on a date, face to face. She said she was busy studying. I know you are gonna say that's a fake excuse but the fact that it was indeed her week of exams made me wonder. And she was indeed falling behind with college.
Anyway she's definitely done with her exams by now. I want to try to ask her out again but literally my only way of contacting her for now is by Facebook. What should I do?
>>17344831
Tell her you're going to x event on x day and were wondering if she was free to come along. If she says no, and doesn't suggest anything else, forget about her.
>>17344831
imagine if she asked you out first while you had exams coming up
if you really liked her then you would ask to reschedule for after your exams instead of straight up saying no
she didn't do this
she didn't reschedule
she's not interested
>>17344854
I knew someone would point this out. Are you sure that's the norm? Because I don't think most girls would be so forward even if they liked someone. Maybe it's a different culture thing.
I am in a really really bad, abusive situation. I have a job interview as a manager in training at a department store on Tuesday. The job requires a bachelor's degree, which I have. I also have a child.
In other words: I NEED THIS JOB.
I need a good paying job, and fast. And I see this as my ticket out. If I get hired-- I am OUT in two weeks and can start a new life for me and my kid.
Is there ANY way I can mention my bad situation to the person interviewing me (the store manager does the first interview and the district manager does the second interview)...
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I also do not have any managing experience but hence the training program so I do not think it is too much of a negative
>>17344824
Describe it as being very motivated.
>>17344824
It really depends on the manager. You have to gauge yourself whether they care about people or only about the buisness.
Either way I'd say you can mention your kid as a motivating factor. It'd give me an incentive since I'm aware you won't be flaky
Hey adv
I'm in a really shitty spot right now.
I've been with my gf now for 2 years and things have been great. She's someone I could potentially see myself spending the rest of my life with. Only thing is I'm not ready to be in this position in my life right now. I'm still youngish (24) and every now and then I really want out of the relationship and to be single and chasing tail again. But other times I'm perfectly happy in the relationship and have no interest in straying. These feelings bounce back and forth pretty frequently...
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2/2
It just really fucking sucks. We've lived together for close to a year now, we're eachothers best friend, and like I said I could really see this going very long term. But Im just not ready for this just yet. Too many opportunities come up where I regret that I'm not single and I feel like I'm gonna fuck up and act on my urges one of these times.
Anyone have any experience with this or have any input? This is the best and longest relationship I've been in and it kills me to end it but I feel like it's the responsible thing to do.
>>17344769
>Need advice on ending relationship
Tell her exactly what you told us.
Tell her the truth. Thats it.
2/2*** ignore last post
She was devastated by it and really doesn't want it to be over. A big part of me agrees with her and wants to just pretend the conversation didn't happen and go back to how we were. And things would probably be good for a while but I know I'll start feeling trapped again and we'll be right back here again before long.
It just really fucking sucks. We've lived together for close to a year now, we're eachothers best friend, and like I said I could really see this going very long term. But Im just not ready for...
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How is a man supposed to react upon learning his sister has gotten into porn?
>>17344760
Disgusted
>>17344760
If you come down hard on her and freak out she'll just cut you out of her life.
Make sure you are at least around so that when she DOES grow up and realize what a stupid mistake she's made you're around to catch her when she falls.
Don't support her decision but don't drive her away. She's your sister and if you love her you'll do the right thing.
Get her out of it by showing your 100% supportive of it.
Be all like, "wow, you're such a good actress, amazing scene yesterday", "have a good day at work *wink*, shit like that.
Imply you watch her videos, to sow your supportive of her decisions.
Also, actually watch them, sounds hot as fuck.
Is 23 too late to have a normal college experience? I mean I'm starting my degree at the age most people are finishing it
Won't others see me as some sort of fuck up or a weird aunty or something
>>17344758
Why does it matter how others see you?
>>17344763
Because I have to live with these people
>>17344765
Just do whatever the fuck you wanna do. Its your life, if you wanna get the degree then do it. It's never too late.
If you feel like a fuck up, then others will see you as a fuckup.
So iv been dating this girl for about a month now (shes 19 im 20) Its been good but recently theres been this other guy who is her "bestfriend". Shits just been getting bad and i don't know what to do. She treats him like hes the boyfriend and im the friend, and its been driving me insane. Tonight im going to talk to her in person and tell her how I feel. Im kind of just out of it and don't really know what im on here for but yeah, heres the story. I told her recently I want to be more public and not just lay in bed and fuck (although thats great, i feel...
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Have some some self respect op. Forget the talk, tell her you don't like playing games and it's over. She knows exactly what she's doing and it's just a ploy for attention from the both of you.
>>17344743
Don't fuck the guy up. No point getting on trouble because of that. Just talk to her, tell her how you feel. If she won't treat you like a bf, then its better to call it quits.
How many times have you approached her about it?
How do I stop being a needy piece of shit guy who invests too much in his girl? It's such a turn off and I want to stop it purely for self betterment. This doesn't feel good.
Self respect.
>>17344771
It's not that simple. I respect myself a lot, but when it comes to situations where I decide to look past it, I can't just force myself to stop. It won't help the internal problem. I need to be able to do it naturally, not forcefully.
>>17344742
Dude...think about this...
IF you don't start respecting yourself now you will eventually lose this girl.
Learn NOW the things that you like, learn how to have fun with yourself (im not talking about jerking off in 4chan) and with your friends.
Trust me...if you keep being needy you'll lose her.
How can I stop being so shy? It fucking ruins my life and I've been told I'm actually pretty good looking but my negative thoughts consume me. I've been faking it till I make it but that seems to not even work cause I always somehow spill my spaghetti.
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>>17344736
Try to do some confidencebooster activities like sports and flee social contact even if they feel.akward at first
>>17344825
Don't flee*
How do you control your desire to exercise? I jog every time I'm stressed. It's come to the point that I'll do it a few times everyday which is making me lose some serious weight. This isn't good because I was already skinny to be begin with. But, when I run/jog it feels so good, as if all my troubles don't matter. How do you overcome an addiction like this?
>>17344732
this is retarded, you are only improving yourself, just eat more food to make up for it if you are self conciuos about being mr bones
>>17344732
That's good for your health so it's not an actual addiction. Don't stop doing something that will benefit you just because you don't want to look skinny.
Just eat more you dummy
>>17344732
You ninny just eat to balance it out. Running is amazing, there's no reason to stop it.
This isn't the usual type of Tinder thread. I'm looking for advice on how to get the app working.
I have never been able to log into Tinder. I receive one of three error messages every time:
>There was a problem logging into Tinder. Please try again.
>Login Failed. Network connection unavailable. Please check that you have a data connection and try again.
>Login Failed. Tinder is having trouble logging in with Facebook. Here are some possible reasons: etc.
When...
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>>17344718
Go to your app permissions for Facebook or whatever and remove Tinder. Then uninstall Tinder, reinstall and try again.
>>17344720
I have tried that but it does not fix the problem. Thanks anyway.
Sometimes it just shows a white box that has a grey spinning circle. It says loading but it never stops.
Hello. I am 25 year old dude. I got myself a older gf ~3 years ago. The problem is that she also has 2 kids from previous rship (she is older, over 30).
Everything is great, sex is nice, we do stuff together etc.
The problem is that I have started to dislike the kids and I have few single friends that go out and meet other girls all the time. This has made me wanna go out and feel the thrill of the hunt also now.
The relationship is starting to feel boring now and I keep thinking of fuking other girls.
Should I end it with the gf and go out and fuck randoms?...
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>>17344710
You don't like the kids. That's a huge problem. You say everything is great but you're also getting bored? Does she really feel like the one? If not, you need to end it now. She's not looking to fuck around. Ask yourself if you truly want to fuck around or if you're just feeling urges. If it's just urges and you really do just want to settle down, then evaluate if this kind of relationship is really what you want. If you truly just want to fuck around, end it with her. But remember,...
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>>17344734
>>17344734
How do I know if those are or are not my true feelings?
Should I just tell her to take a break and fuck around during that time ? I also don't want to cheat.
The kids are sometimes cool. Its just that when I come home after work, I just wanna be alone or just with her. After this tiring day I just wanna rest and the kids requesting attention is not helping with that.
Feeling so lost with my feels right now
>>17344748
>Should I just tell her to take a break and fuck around during that time ?
Absolutely not, for so many reasons I shouldn't have to mention.
>How do I know if those are or are not my true feelings?
You have to really ask yourself that. Again, soul search. Really look into yourself and your feelings. Find out how you truly feel about her, the relationship, what you really want, what you think you want, what you need, what you think you need....
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