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>Studies Dentistry as undergraduate in non-US country
>Got two Ds for my last semester
>Have said how I don't want to become a dentist in the future
>Parents are very upset and see me as someone heading down the path of a neet
>Now traveling abroad in another country
>Parents send me a message saying how I am commanded to work as dentist
>I say they should let me do what I want as long as I have a stable job
>Mom says dad asks me to work at Starbucks and that there is no such thing as a stable job beyond dentistry for my degree
>Suggested me to drop out of school if I have no interest
>I said what about teaching?
>Neither replied
Why didn't my parents reply? Are they angry?
>inb4 you are screwed
>>17345802
Didn't you post this yesterday nigga?
Yes, they are angry. They're watching you waste your future. Why the fuck would you go through university just to become a teacher? You could probably earn more as a manager at a fucking food chain.
I don't really see what you can do with a degree in dentistry other than being a dentist.
I assume colleges want you to have at least a few years of practice before they'll allow you to teach, so that's not an option.
>>17345828
I am not from the states and a teaching job is not so terrible there.
>>17345831
I mean high school teacher
I saw a gif of a woman giving a man a handjob in class, I was jealous as a man. Do women feel the same sexual passion that men do from giving the opposite sex a handjob?
>yes that pic is me
you look like you like giving handjobs in class
>>17345794
>no link to gif
is this nigga serious?
>>17345805
Blueboard faggot.
And some do obviously, OP. Some probably more so and some very little.
Hiya /adv/, need some help with a romance situation
Little background, I'm 22 and never had a gf, didn't care enough, I'd give myself a solid 7.5/10 if I tried. I play games and watch anime, only socialize every other weekend which I'm happy with.
I head to my moms every other weekend and lately there's been this 15 year old girl that I knew since she was a kid. Objectively she's a solid 8 but I wasn't interested for several reasons (some of which are obvious). My mom, sister, and the girls mom keep trying to push me to her but I don't bite, again for several reasons.
Lately I've been thinking about asking her out for real. Should I go for it? Age doesn't matter to me, and despite our interests clashing we get somewhat along (at least when I'm drunk enough to be clingy to her).
if this is b8 you should kill yourself, if in the unlikely situation this isn't bait you should also kill youself.
>>17345792
Not bait, I legit don't know what to do. Risk being labeled a pedo or just keep telling everyone I'm not interested?
>>17345785
Hello FBI
been with my gf for 6 months now. she has a low libido, and only likes missionary and doggy.
my biggest fetish is anal and she recoils anytime i get even anywhere near her ass. how the fuck do i get a prude girl to open up to ass play?
talk to her about it faggot
It turns her off and grosses her out. Trying to force it is going to make her more turned off in general and make her want to avoid having sex with you for fear of you trying to do that. Instead of thinking she's a prude because she doesn't like what you're doing and instead of pushing for it, find out what she does like positions, scenarios, fetishes, dirty talk. And take that and go from there. Almost no one will be willing to try every single thing you want to try, that's life. Try to find sexual fulfillment outside of anal, and if you can't reevaluate the relationship.
>>17345763
When she's wet and your fingering her , rub her lips and go downwards to her asshole and gently rub it and see how it goes.
So there's this girl I've been getting to know, I chased and tried, and she was hard to do stuff with. So I let it go and stopped chasing.
Then shit changed, I stopped messaging, but she begins texting me almost every weekend, all on her own. Ok so she DOES want my attention or company?
I'll catch up with her, we hang out as usual, flirt, have a good time, then on to the next fucking weekend.
However, a couple nights ago, we're at a party and she starts getting really flirty with me, touching me, sticking her hands into my shirt, touching me all over. It was cute and flirty, also drunk and silly, but it was a good time. She started opening up about how attracted she was to me, and so on. We both had fun and I welcomed it, I even told her we were going to end up fucking if she kept it up and she didn't oppose it or get uncomfortable.
Long story short, we didn't hook up that night cuz her dumbass friend got drunk and needed to be escorted home.
But the following day she texts me, says sorry for her "drunken behavior" and I told her not to apologize, I liked it. Problem is this: She is still cagey and hard to do shit with, even AFTER we both put our cards on the table. It's like nothing happened and we're back to only seeing each other on the weekends, late at night, without making any plans beforehand.
If I try to invite her, like: "Hey, I'm doing ___ later and I want you to come with me." She doesn't take the opportunity and won't reply till later
.
I have this weird theory that she might be way too into me, to the point that she's afraid of letting herself enjoy my company. I know it sounds fucked, and I'm no catch, but she was really clear about how she felt with me that night, verbally I mean, aside from the physical groping she did to me.
What do? I really dig her, but I'm not interested in fucking chasing like a dog anymore.
>>17345760
It definitely seems like she's into you, How old is this girl? this reminds me of the way that some high school girls I knew acted. My guess is that she is probably really inexperienced, nervous, shy etc. Or maybe she doesn't know what she wants. Women can be beta and socially inept just like many of our bros right here.
have you tried talking to her friends? She's acting like a high school chick, maybe approach this as though she were, they might be able to shine some light on the situation and give you some idea about why she's doing what she's doing.
You might also call or text her and be incredibly blunt, tell her that you're into her but you're not into playing games. tell her that if she is interested then you'll be at place x at y time, if she would like to join you awesome and if not then you're moving on. make it sound nice of course, but you're right not to want to keep chasing this girl with no end in sight.
>>17345870
She is 24, I'm 27. So she's no child, but you're right, it does feel like high school games sorta. I totally agree on her being socially sorta inept and I have a feeling she lacks some experience.
I would talk to her friends, but they're all dudes... Sort of a bad sign, but fuck it, I'll roll with it. As a matter of fact, getting her alone and away from her friends is kinda difficult. She has this one in particular who (I've been told, she may or may not have a thing for). All the times I've been around them though, she treats him like a total friend. I have a feeling he tried with her and failed, so now he's stuck in orbiter mode. I hate being around him, he's a nice guy, but i always have to fake like I care about his friendship, haha... When I really don't, he's just always fucking there.
I'm sorta tempted to try your route of being blunt and forward, because I really am too old and uninterested in playing chasing games. I'm not trying to put a ring on her damn finger, but I've been around the block long enough to know when too much effort is too much.
Sounds like she's playing you like a fiddle, move on to the next one. If she's this indecisive now how indecisive is she going to be in a fucking relationship
Hello /adv/
I'm a little more than 27 and in all these years before some weeks ago all my romantic history was that just dateing a girl once some years ago but nothing came out of it. All my focus was on studying and working.
A few weeks ago a very good female friend of mine broke with her boyfriend (a long relationship 2.5+ years) and was very sensitive. She then proposed to move with me. I accepted just thinking of her as a friend in need (call me Captain Oblivious here).
To give you some context I know her for a couple of years and we can talk for hours like old ladies. She is cute, smart and has a heart of gold.
As I'm not used to living together with other people we decided to have a transition step in which she came to have dinner to my house some days in the week while she stayed temporaly with some friends.
On Monday night we cook together, it was innocently fun like other occassions when we have done that same thing.
On Wednesday it was her birthday and she choosed to have dinner with me so I bought a little cake and tried to cheer her up. After dinner we talked and laughed till 3am. On many occasions we have been talking for hours long but this time it was different, there was a closeness that wasn't there before. Anyway when she was about to go to sleep on the sofa she was doubtful, I asked why and she told me she had "dark thoughts" after insisting a bit she said she was thinking to tell me to sleep in the sofa with her. Thinking it was a joke I laughed and went to my own bed.
The following day she left and I was confused. I have feelings for this girl before but didn't understand what was going on.
At the first hour of the day of my birthday (Saturday of the same week) she messaged me. After a very long exchange (till 3am again) I got to undestand that she wanted to come to my house but it was too late although it ended with a hopeful tone (now call me the town fool).
On a party on the same day (held on her brother's house where she was staying now) after all the guests left except me she told me her feelings for me which she have been having for a long time even before the breakup. To say the least I was like a fish out of the water in this situation. Long story short we ended up making out (I have no idea what I'm doing). We would have gone further if I have had some idea of this kind of things and if the goddamn cats weren't making so much noise (risking to wake up the hosts).
The next day she told me she was a mess, in a good part because she wasn't over the breakup yet and didn't want to have anything physical o emotional with anyone but at the same time wanted to keep in touch with me.
The following week I invited her to have dinner again given how nice it was the last time but she refused, said it was to much. A couple of days later I realized that she thought that the dinner was an excuse for going to bed with her.
On sunday of that week I had some kind of overworking collapse. Not in the best of moods and with my head made a mess I called her, and told her that we shouldn't talk for some indefinite amount of time. She had to study for her exams on the following two weeks so at first I thought what I did was right also in that sense. I felt terribly bad, cried a lot, got drunk and went to sleep.
Again very very late I realized my mistake (aparently captain Oblivious is also an asshole) so a couple of days later (on Friday) I called her to clear things up. She failed an exam because of me. She wasn't mad but sad. We talked about many things and thought that everything was fine.
I knew that the following week (last week) she was also having some exams so I waited till Thursday to send her a message to see how she was doing. After 3hs of chatting she commented that she was happy that I didn't hate her anymore (Good Lord, How can I not fuck it up for once?). I told her that I never hated her and the conversation moved on.
[Aspie award goes here]
I really like this girl and want to make her happy. As far as I know her previous boyfriend was kind of a manchild who couldn't boil an egg of whom she took care and the one before a sociopath.
I'm planning to invite her to have tea, a walk around a park or something and just talk like we used to and see what happens. This time I will be extra cerefull not to screw it up like I did so many times before.
What do you think about this /adv/? What would you do in my place?
Other details: I guess I'm lucky on every other respect as long as it doesn't have anything to do with relationships. I'm smart in a nerdy way, fit and kind of good looking. Also I have good job. I just don't seem to have any grasp of people and even less of relationships as you can see.
Man you gotta shorten this shit up man, but since you wrote so much, you deserve some attention haha.
anyway, sounds like you two definitely have a connection, but you need to make sure you keep your intentions clear. I think you're dangerously close to friendzoning yourself, even if you have kissed. I'm not saying try and sleep with her ASAP, that's probably a bad idea, but make your intentions known.
It sounds like you care about her and you should make it clear. That being said, when you do this, you are going to be risking putting her off... But that's a risk you have to take my friend. You wanna be with her. So unless she's willing to stop pussyfooting and take you seriously, you need to have the balls to walk away from a failed prospect.
Don't be a woman's lap dog and chase her forever if she's not going to reciprocate.
so how do i stop it or tone it down to once a week?
its called self control
have sex and realize how much better it is
other than that no reason to stop yourself unless you can't anymore, IE have a roommate
make yourself busy with other things.
Guys l, im todays into the lessening of my deep depression. Im here to ask, how doni stay on this roll?
Pretty much ive been making eye contact with girls, not feeling the need to keep my head down, and im being fun, energetic, and spontaneous.
This hsppened for 2 reasons:
I met a man from aftica and his wise words: dont be afraid to be different and take risks.
2 the movie sing. I realized nothing really matters so i should follow my dreams. I just have to work with what i have.
I think im going to talk to a girl tomorrow. I for once feel like the king of the world.
I was fun! also any nyc peeps wanna chill.bi wanna stay in a roll.
>>17345732
>>17345736
Wut
cool story breh keep it up nyc represent
If one of the problems with the world is hunger, why don't we convert non eatable shit into eatable shit?
>>17345731
>convert non eatable shit into eatable shit
Do you happen to be mentally ill Anon? Maybe autistic?
I've got a better idea how about we seize all the money that is collecting dust in Swiss bank accounts and tax havens all around the world and put that towards solving world hunger and education... Just a thought.
>>17345739
The issue isnt production of sufficient food, but its distribution. Seizing private assets does nothing in that regard. This is all discounting the numerous ethical problems your suggestion entails.
How do I get a job as a shutin with paralyzing social anxiety? The people I live with don't deserve to have a burden. they are good people. Please help me, I am not that smart.
>>17345691
>guys how do i ge ta job when im pretty much completely normal but use exaggerated terms to make it sound like im legitimately handicapped
by applying
>>17345699
>lets just try to psycho analysis a person who is atleast putting in effort by asking help, let alone make assumptions based on one statement.
>I must be clever typing apply because clearly that isn't the most obvious thing.
>>17345729
>GIVE ME ADVICE THAT I WONT TAKE
no.
>STOP GENEARLIZING ME WITH ASSUMOTIONS!!1!
maybe give us real information instead of three sentences to go off of :D
How do I learn to love myself?
Know that everybody feels pretty much like you do, more or less.
>>17345625
become someone worthy of your love. Realize there is not a single concept of what is deserving of love, and simply change waht you know you can.
its not about who you are or what you might become. its about where you're trying to go. people are judged by their ability to grow more than anything.
do stuff you're proud of. start learning a skill & improve at it or take up a new hobby or do more shit at work... just accomplish things and give yourself credit for those accomplishments. take it from there
Where do single adults go on weekends to meet other single adults dating wise? I'm 22 btw
>>17345556
There is no place OP.
Bars
Clubs
College
Parties
>>17345556
speed dating.
now if you mean some place that has a pretense for soemthing else but everyones hoping to meet someone... then literally anything.
there are no busiensses (other than literal speed dating) that people flock to in order to meet other single young adults.
people go to bars because its fun to be drunk. people go to clubs cuz they like to dance. people go to board game meetups cuz they like board games. arcades cuz they like video games.
people take a hobby, an idea, or anythign fun, and externalize it. book lovers go to book clubs. anime lovers go to marathons, conventions, parties, little tokyo meet ups etc.
but there is no magical place outside of speed dating where only single peopel go with the sole intention of meeting other single people.
cuz why would they need a pretense?
I'm from california looking to move somewhere better. I like Tennessee and Texas but that humidity is pretty brutal. Are there any areas where jobs are good and aren't so humid or am I pretty much gowing to have to sucks it up and just deal with the humidity?
Also are there any suggestions for states?
Also hehe I never realized this rock formation in az was thumbs upping
I was under the impression Californians are only allowed to move to either Austin or Boulder due to zoning laws.
>>17345658
We're also allowed to move to Nashville Raleigh, and Amarillo apparently
Is there a suicidal general on here? I mean, it's a large community and fully anonymous. Be a nice place for one.
Tends not to be sustainable...
>>17345525
this is super humorous, but also raises a valid point.
people say 'suicidal' as if its a state of being. not realizing that the whole point is to not be in any state anymore. suicidal means wanting to kill yourself. and in any serious context, it requires immediate treatment.
if you have somehow survive years of being 'suicidal' than you arent suicidal. you are just so depressed taht you cant understand there are other valid ways to express your feelings.
but no one thinks they'll be taken seriously unless they say the y want to kil lthemselves this day.
>>17345727
And even then, that's a waning attention-grabber, despite so many fish taking the lure.
Seriously, about 3-5 times a day does a suicidals thread come up.
A general would be neat to look at, except let's be honest, it will be raided by another board. Believe me, I've seen it happen several times.
Home alone and bored as hell. What can I do.
Die.
>>17345484
OP play online if you like playing online,
go to sleep early
listen to music online
draw
go on omegle?
make a schedule for you whole week month year
>>17345530
nothing but horny dumbshits on omegle
