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How do you make friends as a 25+ adult who's graduated college and so on?
I basically lost all my friends from high school, progressively have less and less in common with everyone I used to be friends with.
I'm just very lonely and tired of spending every single weekend by myself watching movies and playing video games. I can't remember the last time I just walked outside with someone else.
I'm not even that interested in finding a girlfriend (although it's been a while since I had one of those too), just to start having friends and feeling human would be nice.
bump
Go to events relative to your interests, eat and read out of the house and look out for random stuff going on locally?
DESU I am in the same boat even though I live close to so called friends who never bother keeping in touch or inviting me to their stuff.
Just enjoy time out being around people and getting out of the stuffy house. I have no fixing answer as I have tried for years but have found enjoyment going to craft events and browsing regular shops I know the staff of even though no one ever calls on me.
It helps
>>17344473
I live in Toronto so there's definitely a lot of stuff in the city. I used to just get invited out to drink or whatever with my bros but lately that shit never seems to happen.
I feel like I need to cultivate some kind of personality. I'm not a big foodie or whatever but I'd like to maybe take up some kind of sport.
basically part of my problem is i'm a /pol/tard and though I'm not racist people tend to find the obsession with world history and politics offputting.
the older I get the more I can't fucking stand being around anyone. Maybe I just haven't met the right people? it's like I just want to live alone inside my own imagination 24/7. I know this isn't healthy but I seriously hate being around what people call 'normies' because it's always dealing with immature bull shit or just shit I really don't care about.
all I care about is reading and eating good food. should I just stop giving a fuck?
Maybe compromise with eating and reading in public or during events that are relative to your interests?
You don't need to be around anyone. It's a waste of time except for business purposes/sex.
>>17344450
this helps somewhat; but then I over-hearpeople's conversations and I get pissed at how fucking stupid people are or how much immature shit people care about. I'm not saying I'm some genius because I'm definitely not, but when I hear normies (yes I'm using that term because at this point in my life it's appropriate) talk about how upset they are because they are dating a guy and upset they can't just date multiple people at the same time, and woe is them because they're in a monogamous relationship, I get fucking annoyed and think "thank god I'm not in their circle of friends".
it's like people are turning more and more into shit and it didn't use to be this way. people were more interesting from what I remember years ago, but lately it's like all originality has declined into just people crying they can't keep doing the most decadent shit.
Okay homeboyoes here it goes
>be me
>18 junior in high school
>may or may not have been held back thats none of your business
>know this boy since I was 8
>never talked to him much until the 1st semester of junior year
>he picks on me alot like shaking my desk when I'm drawing or taking my phone
>thought he was just annoying
>complain about him to a friend infront of her stepmom
>stepmom goes "Ooo looks like someone has an admirer"
>stupid little light flicked on
>never thought of him like that
>I start thinking of him like that
>he has all my favorite characteristics
>brown eyes, tan, red-brown hair, taller than me, athletic etc.
>cannot stop thinking of him like that
>he continues to pick on me and I pick on him
>flirting buried under the rude remarks
>last day of school
>he rides my bus
>right before he gets off the bus I tell him I like him
>heres the kicker all he says with the most shocked look I've seen on a person is
>"okay"
Pic related its me I'm wondering if it could be becuase I'm not so cute
Kawaii
>>17344408
I don't understand the relevance
lel qt, poor guy was shocked prob, nice story op, besides the usual
>tfw no gf
>bullshit relatioship stories
etc.
that gets posted
hey /adv/,
I am an obese 24 year old virgin from a small wealthy city in Florida. I am running a failing niche business with my parent's retirement funds along with having thousands of dollars in credit card debt (the card is a gold one though). My little brother goes to a highly ranked university while I didn't go to college.
I am obsessed with a girl and we hang out at inappropriate hours doing very appropriate things (not having sex, just talking). This has gotten to the point where it effects how I interact with my friends and other people in my daily life. I don't have a healthy schedule, I don't have a college degree or a future. I am in debt, I am overweight and in denial of it. I spend too much time with a girl I have a very small of ever hoping to have sex but keeps leading me on and makes me spend my money on her.
I am jealous of certain in my life and restrict around me because of my jealousy.
Basically I want help to figure out some things.
How do I get into better shape?
How do I get over this girl?
How do I have a future?
Overall, how do I get my life together?
Any help is appreciated, thank you.
1. Go to a gym
2. Don't message girl ever again
3. Do something with a future like school or job that is valuable and needed
Problem solved :)
Thinking about getting a fleshlight since girls don't want to sex me. Guys who own one, do you ever feel ashamed of owning one? What are your thoughts on owning one?
For functional questions:
>How do I choose one? How do I know a good one from a bad one?
>How do you maintain it?
I have a Fleshlight "Quickshot". Its meh. kind of better than hand, but really depends on your mood for that day. Gets boring fast.
Why would you be ashamed to own one? Girls have vibrators too. I wouldn't mind finding out my bf has his own sex toys. I would just want to try them out on him
>never used to care about tits
>would take a good ass and flat chest any day
>get a gf
>she's flat chested but I don't mind and all, sex life is fantastic
>fast forward just under 2 years
>absolutely in love with her, but sex is getting worse
>rarely finish
>think about tits a lot
>can't help but notice girls racks when I'm out
>my porn habits (couple of times a week) have gradually shifted to almost exclusively big tit porn
Aside from obviously cutting the porn which I've now done, what can I do? I can't get it out of my head and its ruining our sex/my attraction to her.
I don't want this to let this take a toll on our relationship.
Only reply I got yesterday was to talk to her about it, which I really can't do without destroying her self esteem.
>>17344299
The sex getting worse sparked this off? Fix that first. Ask her why this is - there must be a reason.
>>17344574
I mean sex is getting worse because I feel less attracted to her
>>17344613
You're just bored. If you end up hooking up with a chick with big tits, you'll eventually get bored with that and want someone like your current girlfriend.
Humans always want what they don't have. Try to get past that.
Any help with these?
My gf is a retarded Australian girl and apparently in Down Under men are meant to spend 40k on this shit.
What do I need to be careful about when buying one? I'm paranoid all this shit is a scam and I will be jewed out of my money. Might aswell buy fake/synthetic rings to begin with.
Are synthetics worth it? Will it be noticeable? My gf's life seems to depend on having a good ring.
Also, I'm based in Europr. Is it worth going to 'diamond city' in Antwerp?
>>17344276
Oh just to add, was looking to spend no more than 1k Euros
>>17344276
>apparently in Down Under men are meant to spend 40k on this shit
Wtf? That's a retarded set of priorities. I'm making a note to myself never to date an Aussie, thanks.
>My gf's life seems to depend on having a good ring.
See you in a couple of years when you start a thread bitching about your wife.
Jewelers started the diamond = marriage meme
its useless unless you are using it to cut shit
before it there were wedding gifts such as dolls, wood crafts, statues etc
get some cheap gemstone or cut glass you dont need to be 40k in debt cause of some near useless rock
hello guys ,in 10 hours im supposed to get above 80 on a not easy math test that will decide if i go to college this year or not,ive studied enough but i still have that awful feeling that i might freeze in the test, advice from those who have been through this and made it would be much appreciated.
>>17344260
you studied and that's a good thing, now, go and tell to yourself "I will give my best try and this is enough"
your best try is all you need.
whether you get 80 or not it's not up to you now, it's up to the past time you've been studying so, go get a gud slip and come back to give your best try.
>>17344280
thanks man ,the waiting is the hardest part
>>17344260
Get a good night's rest, OP. Seriously, it makes a difference.
Is anyone here dependent or "addicted" to their ADHD meds? (Adderall and other stims) how bad is it and how did it start?
If you're taking them in the prescribed amounts, this is almost literally impossible.
Amphetamines are highly addictive when ingested in recreational quantities. Pharmaceutical quantities are almost always below 100g.
>>17344266
Yeah but that's not what I'm asking.
Does anyone NOT take the prescribed amount? And have a problem?
And yeah I don't think they're above one gram, man lol
I took 3 days worth of someone's amphetamine prescription 4 years ago and think about it atleast once a week. Haven't pursued it, but if I found a bottle of pills on the sidewalk I would cry from happiness.
Hey /adv/,
I'm 19 and I live in the UK, my parents are both on Benefits for disability and therefore do not have to pay any rent, only domestic bills.
Recently they have been pressing on the matter of me paying rent and bills, the latter of which I am eager to begin paying, however, I am reluctant to pay rent. I am aware that legally they have no obligation to keep me in the house, but is there any way I can get around paying rent? Are welfare recipients legally ALLOWED to receive rent payments? I doubt my father would declare the extra income, which I am sure is illegal... I would google, but all that pops up is forums of benefit recipients asking how their rent will be affected.
Thanks
>>17344244
as far as i know, they can't. If they have a source of income (your rent) they need to declare it and it goes down for their bennies. If they don't declare it they're just pressuring you for free gibsmedat.
You know that if you refuse to pay, they're likely to just kick you out, right?
>>17344254
So they could ask me for rent, but that would mean their benefit would be reduced? So I'd essentially be throwing money away kek
>>17344256
> I am aware that legally they have no obligation to keep me in the house, but is there any way I can get around paying rent?
I do know, I'm asking if there is a way to get around that.
Femanons would you flirt with customers at your job?
Normalfags feel free to comment aswell.
There's this kind of plain 6/10 cashier girl working at a local food place. It's right down the street, good food, decent prices, so I've been visiting about once a week recently. She's not always there when I go so I only see her like once a month or less. When she's there she always greets me by name "hey anon! :)" with a wave and a smile even when she's doing something else or helping another customer. Today she tried to make small talk "so how's it going? :)", and I said some bullshit about how the weather's been hot lately.
It seems unusual for her to remember me by name and always act so friendly towards me. I'm not sure what to think. Normally I consider this kind of thing off limits because I don't want to be the weird guy flirting with store employees so I've pretty much stone walled her but she's just so nice. It hurts my heart. How would I go about determining whether she's interested in me or just doing her job? I don't want to throw away a possible relationship just because I'm being intentionally dense. I've always dated women whom I already knew or that I met thru mutual friends though so this kind of dealing with a stranger is new to me. Obviously we can't get to know each other while I'm standing in line and she's busy at work. Would it be weird for me to ask her out then? Or like... how do I bridge the gap between don't even know her name -> asking her out?
>>17344224
ask her number
>>17344224
Don't ask for her number right away. Be super expressive around her so she has a hint that you are into her, from that, observe how she reacts to your super friendly or big smile towards her. THEN if she acts accordingly ask her number.
>>17344224
>When she's there she always greets me by name "hey anon! :)" with a wave and a smile even when she's doing something else or helping another customer. Today she tried to make small talk "so how's it going? :)", and I said some bullshit about how the weather's been hot lately.
There's a girl in my class that's exactly like this.
She's the only one in the program who isn't engaged or already married. She's just a massive flirt and turns down everyone who asks her out.
Throughout my whole life I was a straight male. Just perfectly normal. I've had a few girlfriends, some of them were virgins, so I have just enough experience. Right now I am 25 years old. If that matters: I have average body, above average looks, above average dick size, and I'm 5'8.
What happened lately is that I got completely disappointed in sex and relationships. I don't want that anymore by no means. I'll give you my reasons.
Sex feels like shit with condom, without it leads to diseases and pregnancy, both of which I do not want. And even without condom I still prefer fap any day any time, because I can do it instantly whenever I want, I control the pace and everything, and in the end all I need is fast release of tension, which I achieve within 1-2 min. Bothering with a woman to do that seems ridiculous to me. And yea, feel of fapping for me is better than even sex without condom, because girl usually goes dry after a while and it just starts feeling not that good.
As for diseases, of course there are serious ones, but they could be more or less avoided. But there are also lesser ones like mycosis, which I was always catching in one form or another back in a day. Nothing serious, it cures itself, but still annoying. As long as I stop sex for a while, it disappears. Same goes for kissing and small diseases that affects mouth.
1/2
Anyways right now I'm not even interested in sex psychologically. I do still get aroused from seeing tits and pussy, or hugging nice girl, but that's just instincts. I only use it to fap on porn, as I need to release a tension once in a while (which is like once a day usually). Yea btw my testosterone levels are normal, but I don't care anyway, even if it were low, I don't want to hunt pussy again, and I don't care what people think about me.
As for relationships, again, I don't really like having friends and hanging out, I'm a loner, and it takes tremendous efforts for me to maintain relationships. I can't feel love, so I have to fake it every time. And why do that? For sex? I realized I don't even need that, so I dropped my last gf, who was in love with me. She's still texting me occasionally, and it's been almost a year. And I don't want kids and family, that is like for sure.
So what I need. The last problem I have is that I still fap on straight porn. I feel like that's a mistake for my set of mind, as I'm following a road towards asexuality. I want to learn to either stop fapping, which I think is very stupid idea, because I've tried it in the past and I only get hornier and get prostate pains. Or I want to learn to fap on something not related to humans and their relationships. Like some objects or something. Is that even possible? And how can I achieve that? I am sure right now I can't get boner for anything other than nice looking woman, or morning wood.
2/2
I think I've made a small mistake, I'm 5'9. But as I've already mentioned, I don't think it matters for the topic.
>>17344211
I have it very similar. I spent around three years in a good relationship, we ended it another three years back peacefully - it was just not working between us in the end. No drama, no cheating.
Since then, I don't have any wish to proceed any romantic interest and I straightly decline any relationship. From my point of view it is utter waste of time and mostly not worthy of time/material/intellectual investment. Sex is nice, damn it can be really great - but there are just better and more fulfilling things for me.
I am now entering fourth year without any regrets, issues or moodchangers.
I usually keep changing between "inactive" months when I do some fapping from time to time and between "active" months, when I visit few times escorts. Why am I mentioning it - I never sleep with them, I'm just going for a massage and slow teasing handjobs. I lost all drive for a regular sex and I even find it somewhat boring if not disgusting and cheap.
I have no RL friends atm (moving state in about 8 months so not looking for a RL social circle yet) and currently 4chan is my only social outlet, but I'm starting to feel this place is unhealthy when treated as a social platform and not a entertainment source...
what are some healthier online social outlets I can partake in?
That's not a thing
>>17344167
"mix socially with others."
fairly certain it is, and I'm looking for the best place to do it.
>>17344162
healthy + online is not a thing
social interactions are more than words on a screen or tailored videos etc
the closest thing to a normal interaction is like omegle or a tinychat chatroom where you use video and audio\
but you get a lot of dicks
I found out my girlfriend of five years was sexting another man. I left the house earlier following an argument and returned to discover that she'd swallowed three boxes of painkillers. She's currently in the hospital having received blood tests and an IV. She has to stay overnight and won't be home till late tomorrow. I should feel sympathetic but I don't. I only feel contempt for both her and the guy she was talking to.
>>17344158
that was a pretty impulsive and selfish way for your gf to respond. i dont blame you for being unsympathetic
>>17344158
It's perfectly understandable that you feel that way, you should probably end this and find someone better.
Take her a "Get Well Soon" card inspired by this gif
Is a Sublime concert a good place to meet chicks, especially if it's like in a seated amphitheater?
I'm into some of their songs but I don't go to music events much, I just really wanna hook up with a cutie who smokes
Don't they have bars where you live?
>>17344154
Be social , try n try n try. You will get rejected but eventually you'll find a girl that likes you. That's it. Sublime.... So carry some weed to smoke them out...
>>17344183
Well I'm 20 first of all, and not that I wanna diss bars but generally they're pretty lame, I prefer races or at least clubs
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