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Is Industrial engineering a good career? I don't know what I want to study or do with my life, I don't even have any dreams, all I do is just what my parents tell me and at this point, i'm being really tired of life, it just seems so monotonous to me.
>>17342779
How old are you op?
Are you an Amerifat?
Instead of going to an university to study something you may not like, why not try going the skilled trades way?
>>17342779
The question is : Do you want to do it ? Have you looked over the courses you will have to attend?
At my uni the industrials have hard life as i have heard. Europe point of view here.
>>17342779
I'm finishing my BaSc in industrial engineering right now (thesis is done any time now). I didn't know what I wanted either, I did half a year of mechanical engineering before I started this study because friends did that, my dad done it, and I guess it seemed the most interesting of all. After that I still didn't know so I picked "Industrial engineering & management" (I live in The Netherlands).
The study is ok if you don't know what you want to do I guess, since it's...
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Serious question ya'll. This guy told me that the way I act, everyone probably thinks I'm a slut, that behavior being, "You're very outgoing". I have the right to be mad, yeah?
>>17342766
Not really. People perceive outgoing people as more "easy" to get, he just told you the truth. Being friendly and nice to everyone is often perceived as being flirty to everyone.
Do you fuck around? Does he think you're a slut?
>>17342767
I get that, but talking to people and fucking them is an entirely separate thing. I don't sleep around at all, and clearly he does because he flat out said it.
>>17342766
>I have the right to be mad, yeah?
You don't have to ask for permission.
Anyone take a job just to get rid of survivor's guilt? My dad killed himself three years ago. i still blame myself. i'm living on my savings from the job i had last year. no welfare.
Been unemployed since January and it's finally gotten to the point where leaving the house and getting any shitty job seems like a better option than all this depression.
OK.
>>17342764
27 years old, currently having my first ever normal job. In the last 5 years I acquired two worthless degrees and lived from my moms and my grannys money + some scholarship. Basically I had done everything for half a decade to avoid working.
And of course, now that I work, suddenly everything in my life became even more harder.
>>17342896
That just means you're seriously autistic, this is not the norm,
>Studies Dentistry as undergraduate in non-US country
>Got two Ds for my last semester
>Have said how I don't want to become a dentist in the future
>Parents are very upset and see me as someone heading down the path of a neet
>Now traveling abroad in another country
>Parents send me a message saying how I am commanded to work as dentist
>I say they should let me do what I want as long as I have a stable job
>Mom says dad asks me to work at Starbucks and that there is no such thing as a stable job beyond dentistry for my degree
>Suggested me to drop out of school if I have no interest
>I said what about teaching?
>Neither replied
Why didn't my parents reply? Are they angry?
>>17342683
Well they're right on the quitting thing, why are you keeping studying that of you won't work on that field? Better change now.
University teachers aren't just random people, they have careers on their jobs most of the time, and on top of working there they also teach. Or that's how it works here at least.
Why did you go into Dentistry if you didn't want a career in it?
Depending on what D's are for you (Distinction, or D= 1 grade higher than F). You either did very very well (Dentistry is a hard course), or did horribly. If you did well, I can understand why your parents are disappointed, as you're wasting your talents.
Teaching is such a shitty mediocre job man. You're not going to get payed anything worth your while if you don't have a degree in a field, that you're then teaching in. What a waste of time.
Did your parents pay...
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>>17342713
>my investment
eugh.
Hey /adv/,
I'm current 19 and I've been best friends with a girl since I was 15. I crushed on her hard for 6 months and to my surprise we kissed and got together for a few months and we broke up a few days before my 16th birthday mutually and went back to being just friends. The past three years have been great with her and I was perfectly content to be friend zoned with her. We cuddled and shit but usually nothing more. She got a boyfriend about 6 months ago. I honestly like him for the most part, didn't know him beforehand as we live an hour away, etc. But...
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>>17342551
the guy she says is her bf for 6 months is not your best friend and you owe him nothing. No brocode exist between you and him. What you should worry about is she still being in a relationship with him and acting like a gf to you. That's not on you and not on him. She's with both of you and when she see's him next she will fuck him.
>>17342551
If she cheats on him she'll cheat on you. Also yes, you ARE an asshole. Get over it and have some fucci fucci while you can because it's only going to go downhill from here.
>>17342551
I did the same thing. Its a really shitty thing to do and I never told the guy. I broke things off and she told him later and they eventually worked it out and they stayed together, but I dropped out of both their lives.
Don't really have any advice, its a pretty big fuck up. I was just lucky that it sort of worked out in the end for me.
Hello /adv/, I come here wondering if anyone knows how to find someone with only a first name, a general age, and a general location.
>backstory:
I dated a girl years back, really cared for her, but broke up with her over my own stupidity.
Fast forward about a year, and she got with another guy, got engaged, but it turns out her man was beating her every night.
She would call me when he hit her while crying, etc...
Well, eventually she supposedly committed suicide.
I would like to find out if she actually did it, and if so,...
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>>17342474
How do you not know the full name and age of someone you were supposedly close to?
>>17342478
Long distance relationship, also I've never been good with names.
I also don't know how to access 6 year old yahoo chat logs.
>>17342478
I know that I sound pathetic, but this is something extremely important to me.
Please help me, I have a crippling fast food addiction, I eat twice every day and am not active at all. I need help with this addiction. Pic related to how I feel about this and other things in my life
I am seeing a psych, taking meds as well.
How are we supposed to help you ?
Put in some effort yourself man. At least by googling your issue or by asking a specialist.
Its up to you wether you actually want to change Your habits.
>>17342369
don't you get embarrassed ordering food? I don't buy fast food because I feel pathetic asking someone else to make my food.
Maybe just think about what a pathetic piece of shit you are when you order it.
>>17342369
Jeez bro, you're useless. Why pay money to someone to tell you what you already know. You're a lazy sack of shit who knows you can be better but don't give a fuck about yourself enough to change.
You're literally a waste of space, you either fix your self or enjoy being a virgin fat loser who contributes nothing to your existence.
I have depression and anxiety, I recently found out. It's also been a month since my gf broke up with me. Since then, it's been all downhill, one excruciating night after the other. I've also talked to a few other girls, and I have options as a single man. I'm also going off to college in a month.
I have a few choices:
1. Attempt to rekindle the relationship with my ex, either for some fun this summer or to go long distance
2. Attempt things with other girls
3. Just stay single
Either way I'm going to try my hardest to just...
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Focus on college.
>>17342363
Stay single for a while.
Get over your ex gf.
Focus on college like this anon suggested >>17342797
Get fit if you aren't, use your college gym facilities and work out, lift, etc. It will help you build confidence, strength of mind and body and will relieve your stress.
Also this is the most important thing, try eating healthy and get plenty of rest.
Drink plenty of water or sports drinks if you sweat a lot.
Hang in there Op
You dont need a gf to be happy. I agree with focusing on college
So i got to a Black school and im easily intimated by hella black people. Or its prob cause i feel like they all look better than me. How do i act in these environments? Its my first time going to one how do i dress? how do i act? how do i feel less fuckin intimidated by being at the party? Im not used to these things and im a sperg wtf do i do.
Be yourself OP.
>>17342353
take this to /pol/ they know how to handle it and give good adv about this
lol but op is a sperg and ill be having anxiety attacks everywhere
What is love /adv/?
I'm not trolling; I really don't understand the emotion. I always hear people talking about how they love their girlfriend or boyfriend or family, but I've never felt anything they describe love as being.
I have felt physically attracted to women, but that was only because I wanted to grab their tits and ride them. I never wanted to get to know them or make them my companions, and I sure as shit never wanted to "grow old with them." I was attracted to them purely because they were nice to fuck, and I would always throw...
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Why do you want to understand love?
>>17342268
Baby don't hurt me.
Okay now you can call me a summerfsg. I couldn't resist.
>>17342280
Because it genuinely confuses me. I hear people talking about it, and today my girlfriend asked me about it. It seems like everyone has some affliction called "love" where they're concerned about the people they "love," and I don't understand how they feel what they describe themselves as feeling, or even what it is specifically they feel at all. I don't understand or have any experience with it.
Is it like a kind of caring, like when a friend borrows something from you and...
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I don't have much time tonight to go into detail. To sum things up I like this girl and I think she would be more happy with me than her current boyfriend. Should I be really straight forward and aggressive with her about it. Or take things slow and try to build a friendship first before going all out?
>>17342267
If a girl can be stolen she can also be stolen from you. Unless you plan to pump and dump, never EVER steal a girl.
>>17342290
I believe we have way more in common. I really think I could help her with her disorders. I don't mean to sound self centered but I'm the best thing for her.
>>17342303
Oh boy.
My gf came home from a bachelorette party drunker than she has ever been. She drank a whole six pack of beer and a rum and coke. She has been sitting on the toilet for half an hour now, and over the course of it has had two bouts of vomiting. She is sitting upright, drinking water from a glass and holding onto the pot, but when I ask her questions she only nods, grunts or looks around confused. Her hands are still warm, her lips have color and she seems to breathing normally. She is afraid she will keep vomiting more.
Is there a chance the symptoms could get worse? What...
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>>17342254
Respiratory suppression, ie, if her breathing slows or becomes shallow. Choking on her own vomit is also possible.
That she's vomiting is probably a good sign, it means her gut is rejecting whatever might still be getting absorbed. Whether or not that has much impact on how much ethanol is entering her upper intestine, or how readily it crosses the intestinal wall, I don't really know.
She'll probably be fine, but you're right to keep an eye on her. I've woke up face down in...
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When in doubt take her to the doctor, there is no way for us to really determine when she has crossed the line into alcohol poisoning.
The fact that she is sitting up and drinking water out of a glass is good sign. Keep having her drink water and monitor her. If at any time she can't sip any water, passes out, has irregular breathing, can't acknowledge you at all it's probably time to call 911.
>>17342265
Her breathing is pretty shallow and quick, but I have to wonder if that's just because of the vomiting. She just had her third bout. Still nodding and grunting but won't even let me switch her a new pot to empty out the old one.
I recently started dating a Filipino girl. We met online, she's smart, funny, and I think she's amazing. A lot of friends and family have commented on the fact that it's obvious that I'd go for an Asian girl because I like anime. I haven't dated in a while but have never dated an Asian girl before, I don't have a preference for Asian girls or anything of the sort, I just really like this girl that happens to be Asian. And yet everybody thinks that I have yellow fever or that it's because I'm a weeaboo. I know I should just ignore them,...
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People are stupid and obnoxious.
This is the cost of not keeping your interests to yourself or people who have a degree of sense.
>>17342217
Do you think I should talk to the girl about this, hoping she'll understand, or tell my friends and family to not say anything to her about me liking weeb shit?
>>17342226
You know your friends and family much better than I do. I'm the kind of person who's easy to tease and embarrass as well, even if it doesn't show.
In your head you want to control the flow of information to avoid being misframed, or made out as something you're not. Whether that's a legitimate concern or just something you're overinflating in mind, you're a better judge of.
Will gradually becoming lean/fit help any normal (average) guy get a girlfriend or fwb ?
Let's say you'll use some of the money you've earned for a gym membership (tomorrow) so you can start lifting weights, exercising and more.
What advice would you give a guy who wants to get lean solely to attract young women ?
Lifting and getting lean isn't going to help you if you've got the personality of a doorknob and act autistic/retarded around females.
I had the same amount of success with women from when I was 250 pounds and 200 pounds (post gym). Getting women is mostly about portraying confidence and your ability to interact with them.
>>17342135
But that doesn't mean going to the gym is a bad idea. Becoming more fit could give you the self-confidence you need to attract girls.
>>17342175
Said no one ever.
My girlfriend has been pressuring me to allow her to peg me.
I'm a straight guy and she's a straight girl. Has anyone else had similar experiences?
I have to admit I'm a little uncomfortable when I think about it, but she sees it as me being "close-minded."
What should I do?
>>17342091
If you don't want to do it, don't do it. If she can't deal with that, she's clearly not a person you should be with.
>she sees it as me being "close-minded."
She sounds like a cunt. Is a woman close minded because she's not interested in doing anal? The answer is fucking no.
We all have fetishes. It's also fine to communicate them. But when your partner says no, it's not something they are willing to do, they need to respect that.
>>17342098
Should say if you want to peg me, i want to do anal with you, only fair, then you both experience it.
